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he hurt my gf (cont)
Okay, i asked a previous question about this, but if you havent seen it, this is basically what happened. there was a party, my girlfriend went with her friends, i was working so i didnt. at the party some guy was hitting on her, then grabbed her ass, she pushed him off, he pushed her over onto the pavement, shes got a big bruise and scraped up her arm and hands. yeah well so i wanted to beat the shit out of him, but my gf told me to leave it alone, and forget about it. yeah. i didnt. i found him a few days later, and tried to kick his ass. hes a big fellow, but i walked away better which was what i wanted. my girlfriend found out and is PISSED at me. she doesnt get it though. i couldnt leave it alone. she wouldnt even let me talk her into pressing charges(which is what i was planning) she refused so i pretty much had to do what i did. but she doesnt get it. i tried to explain to her that when someone messes with your girlfriend, they cant just get away with it. she doesnt understand, but i did apologize. shes still pissed though and i do feel bad because i guess i made her feel guilty which is crazy, because if anyone should feel guilty, its me. i mean if i had been at the party, this would never have happened. i dont know what to do now. she feels bad, and shes mad as hell at me. any help?
16/m 15/f
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she'll get over it soon...u did what u had to do which was to protect her now he wont mess with her nomore!
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fuck yeah, brother! excellent choice. I think she doesn't understand that you were defending her honor, a lot of chicks don't understand the concept. gotta sit her down and explain your actions. something along the lines of "I won't let anybody hurt you and get away with it" would work. there's really nothing more to it, I'd be running over the same dog.
on another note, this dude is big, and he's probably sore at you about the asswhooping you just gave him. consider using chairs, brass knuckles, repeater beaters, really anything that will end a fight in one or two hits. he'll be initiating any future confrontations and will be prepared. check out the high grade plastic knuckledusters on www.brassknuckles.com
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way to be a man, dude.
-Gunner.
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I completely understand why you did what you did, trust me. I would do the same exact thing if I was in your situation (though roles would be reversed because I'm a girl with a boyfriend). However, while I think you had every right to fight him, I don't think you should've. I understand that it would be unfair to let him put his hands on her negatively & get away with it. Trust me, I really do understand.
But, if your girlfriend doesn't want you to fight someone & wants you to let it go, you need to respect her decision. She is your girlfriend, and this anger that she feels toward you could've completely been avoided. I think you really need to sit her down and explain how you felt, and why you did what you did - but you also need to let her know that you will respect her decisions from now on. Make sure she knows that you won't let this happen again.
I'm sure this whole thing will blow over soon. :)
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Hey.
Well, maybe your girlfriend feels bad because she doesn't think beating up a guy solves anything. I get that you think he deserved what he got, but for future reference you should probably let your girlfriend do as she pleases and try to respect her choices. Some girls would be okay with their boyfriend beating up another guy, but some aren't. Tell her that you are really sorry for not listening to her and that you should have. Tell her that it won't ever happen again. I'm sure that she will eventually get over the situation. Good luck.
Take care <3.
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Neither of you should feel guilty, you did the right thing. The end.
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