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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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ok well for new years i was out of town and so was my b/f so we couldnt even talk on the phone, i was in a RV park in palm dessert and i was at the rec. center in the resort and this guy(lets call him Bill) came in and asked if he could play pool with me and i siad yeah, this was a day befor new years eve. im a BIG flirt and i dont relize when im flirting, and the next day i went to the rec center to meet up with Bill and later that night we were tired out from playin B-Ball so we were sittin together on the couch well when the new year came he kissed me and i kissed him back, and i shouldnt of i know now im really guilty becuz im not the kind of girl who cheats on her b/f,and ill never see Bill agian but i still feel guilty what im asking is should i feel really guilty for this? should i tell my b/f? or try to forget the whole thing?HELP!

Well, you should tell your boyfriend deffinitly, but it might ruin ur relationship. You should feel guilty but not like omg guilty, everyone makes mistakes in life.
~Brina~

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ok...for the last day of school, before break, i wore white pants...because they were white, i work a thong...im not a slut, so i dont let it hang out, and i usually wear a belt with my pants, but these were nice pants that i didnt need a belt for...well during lunch, i was walking up to my friend and my guy friend wanted to hug me from behind, but ended up steping on my pants adn everyone saw i was wearing a thong. he didnt pants me, but some people saw the string...i know its not bad to wear thongs, but that was a pretty embarassing situation, and i didnt want everyone knowing. tommorow i go back to school, and i dont want everyone laughing at me...what do i do?

Make it into a joke, and be like can you believe that happened, i was so surprised...lol.Or if they say something be like at least im not like some other people who flash there underwear on purpose. I dont think people will laugh at you.
~Brina~

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22f
I was in an intense relationship with a pretty disturbed guy for 3 months. He frequently encouraged me to kill myself and was pretty abusive. I don't want to see him again but I still have his jumper and want to return it as I don't like it around and don't want to throw it out(it would give him a reason to contact me again, I've tried to sever all contact) --the only mutual friend we have is his ex and I never told her I was seeing him.
I would send it to him but he's moving house...any suggestions?

Send it to his old house and if he calls to ask were it is say that u sent it to him and didnt know that he moved.
~Brina~

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I like my boyfriend, and i like to be around him. but im not sure if i really like/love him. Im 15/f. He says he likes me too, but we dont really have that much in common. I had my heart broken in the past and well i really dont want it to happen again so i was wondering if maybe thats why im not really into this guy. I want to be because he is awesome and one of the nicest guys i have ever met, but sometimes i think about things to much and then i start thinking he really isnt that interested in me. What would you do in this situation?

I think your right about haveing mixed feelings because of your first love. You should stay with him just to see what happens. Good luck
~Brina~

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EVERYONE i know always says that your first love will always stay in your heart no matter what, etc.. Do you guys think this is true? Even after a year or longer after breaking up and gotten with new ppl and not talking at all, you think that those feelings for your first love are still there?

Well i dont think that they wilil be like OMGOMG I HAVE FEELIGNS STILL FOR HIM lol. But it may be like you think about the good times you had with your first love and all the things that you disagreed with etc. I dont think people think about there first love like 30 years later lol unless there married lol.
~Brina~

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this is kinda long but i seriously need help...my bf of 4 months now who i really love and things are going GREAT...well his ex is trying to talk to me now. she IMed me this morning and said hey you dont know me but i know derek, how are things going with him? and then we just started talking....she said he broke her heart and she loved him and he was her first kiss and all this shit. and she said he told her he loved her too. and shes like yea we hung out all summer..does he ever mention me? becuse it was a crazy summer! and shes asking me to talk to derek ( my boyfriend, her ex) and asking him to just be friends with her. because they dont talk at all now. shes really nice..but i KNOW she still has feelings for him...shes saying how she just wants to be his friend now and if i could please talk to him for her but im afraid if i do...shell try to take him away from me...what do i do about this? im getting really jealous and i told her i would talk to him abuot her and stuff..im trying not to be that jealous overprrotective girlfriend...HELP

♥ JaDe

Well, its usually common for a gf/bf to be jelous when there ex likes them. Though, hopefully you can trust your boy friend enough to know that if his ex does try to take him back he wont want to go back with her! She might actually not like him and actually really might want to be friends with him. Its up to you to talk to him or not. Good Luck
~Brina~

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I don't have any guts when it comes to dumping a guy. Well.. OK I must admit this is my first time and we never went out on a date. I just don't want to be in a relationship right now. So, do you think it is ok to write a note to the guy I want to dump and say I don't want to be in a relationship? Or, does anyone know another way where I don't have to talk to him face-to-face. Or, do I have to talk to him like that! PLease help!

It would be best to do it face to face. Though, if you dont want to then call him on the phone because in a note you can say stuff that u didnt meen to say. So deffinilty call him if u dont feel comfortable talking to him face to face.
~Brina~

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I'm totally in love with this one girl.
but I'm not sure she loves me back.
how do I find out if she does?

Well, depends on how old you are. If ur like 13 she might not love you cuz thats a young age but its possible. Ask a friend of hers to find out, or you can just ask her out or something. If you have ne more questions IM me BreenzyWeenzy7. Good Luck!!!
~Brina~

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This guy is like in love with me and he always sends me all these poems and qoutes on how much but im wit a guy t hat i already love and he rele gets sick of this other guy telling em how much he loves me..how can i get this guy to leave me alone i mean ii wanan still be friends with im but..i dont want him to love me anymore..

Love,

WAnt HiM To mOVe On

Tell him that you would make a much better friend to him instead more. Dont be afraid to tell him that u dontnlike when he sends u the poems and stuff.
~Brina~

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OK, I said yes to this guy when he asked me out. Now, I don't want to go out with him.. so I'm going to, well not exactly dump him cuz we didn't go out by tell him I don't want to go out with him. I still want to be really really good friends with him. How do I say that I don't want to go out with him?

Just say you'd rather be friends with him. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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i am beginning to do crazy with all of this rain i have gotten in my area.

i need ideas on things to do at home by myself. i have gone through every board game, read every book, and am out of ideas. any websites i can go to? any other ideas? because with every drop of rain the runs off of my window, a piece of my sanity goes with it!

Addictinggames.com- really really fun game site.
Madhive.com
Go to google and type in slime soccer
Ebaumsworld.com- Funny jokes, videos, and games
Have Fun!
~Brina~

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whats the difference between CRUNCHEz and SITUPz?

Crunches are only when u pick you shoulders up and situps u bend all the way up.
~Brina~

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im a 14/f...i weigh bout 105...yea i knoe its not so much...im trying to gain some weight too...and well this school year i started cheerleading...my arms had gotten a bit big...but i want them bigger!..nd my calvs are still small...i want them bigger!!..and most of all..i want abs!...i want my belly to look like beyoncez in tha new music video soldier...if anyone knows any exercises i kan do at home...to get my self looking good by this spring/summer please give me sum advice!

6 Second abs, you can put ur legs up on your bed as if you were sitting but upside down and do crunches and situps. Situps are really bad for ur back so do crunches instead.
~Brina~

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My period is really weird- it comes every 2 to 3 months, lasts for ages (around 10 days), is excruciatingly painful and has a VERY heavy flow. Is there something wrong with me? Please help,
Zoinatrobe.

No there is nothing wrong with you at all.
~Brina~

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i've had this cough for about a month long. at the beginning it was from a severe cold or something. but i've been around my sister a lot who smokes and i have asthma. could it be from second hand smoke getting into me? any ideas? i rate *HiGH*

It could be from second hand smoke. You shouldnt be around your sister when she smokes at all if you have asthma or anyone who does smoke.
~Brina~

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a boy told me something i wont disclose but it was almost a threat. i told my mom who told the principal and he got expelled. that was in october and i still feel bad and guilty. people say i did the right thing but i feel bad!
plus he has my adress and he scares me. i m probably overreacting but o well. i feel guilty and scared.

Do not feel bad, if he threatend you that is deffinitly not good! If he scares you thats not a good thing and you should tell your parents that he does.
~Brina~

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i like this guy. and we are going out. but see he's the kinda guy who doesnt hold hands, kiss etc. like he wants to but i dont know if hes nervous or just is scared to. anyways ive made some moves but i dotn want to make all the moves. what do i do to make him do all that stuff. so hes not soo slow? ive even talked to him. and he keeps telling me he is going to do something. but he doesnt. im waiting and waiting. what do i do? and i dont want to dump the guy if you think i should.

Totally dont dump him. He might not be ready to make a move cuz its to early in the relationship or he wants to get a better connection to you. Its totally ok if you make all the moves.
~Brina~

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I just got spacers about 4 hours ago. I felt just a pinch when I got them on but now they hurt so much I cannot bite down. On Jan. 12 I will be getting braces. I am wondering are they going to hurt more then the spacers, and how can I relieve the pain. Thanks in advance.

Hey, i have had braces for about like 2 years. Well, what i did was i took 2 ibeprofen or you can take advil before and after you get them on. Like an hour before u get them take 2 and then like right after u leave the doctor's office take 2. Yes, sorry to tell you they do hurt more then spacers but not more then a week. Dont chew gum, i mean you probably can like later during your braces but it will hurt your teeth even more when you first get them on. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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I'm a 15/f and I have this huge crush on a 17/m. He goes to school with me. He's a Jr. I'm a Fr. And I get mixed signals from him.We're both in marching band, so we have common interests, and i've bonded with him a lot more since camp this summer. We have this way of joking around that makes me think he likes me, but I'm not sure. I could say that if he liked me, I would be happy spending the rest of my life with him. He knows I like him, so do I risk asking him or not?

Find out his exact feelings about you by haveing a friend of yours talk to him. If he does have feelings for you then go for it. Like you said that your not brave enough tell him that!, then he'll think that your brave by asking him out. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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ok, i like this guy. we'll call him joe. and i have a friend who likes joe. lets call her belinda. sure. and we both like him a lot. and belinda is like one of my best friends...and i like joe A LOT. and belinda has been gettin' pressure to ask him out. and she's now sayin' she might....if its ok with me. and i want her to be happy....but i don't want him to say yes. i don't know! what do you think would be best to do? or say? PLEASE HELP! this is like a serious SOS, ASAP thing. please! thx in advance.

You should deffinitly tell your friend the feelings you have for this guy. If shes a great friend she will not ask him out after you talk to her, and neither of you would go out with him to make things fair. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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