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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Okay, I'm 16 & a female. I'm also bisexual & my boyfriend can't accept the fact that I'm bi. He says he wishes I liked ONLY guys & stuff like that. Then he says that he hates gays, lesbians, bisexuals & it hurts. But then my bigsissy ( well that's what I call her ) can't stand the fact that I'm bisexual either. Like when I told her, she said you spent the night over my house & we slept in the same bed together, you could've touched me. Like I mean really? I'm not attracted to every female/male I see, so that doesn't mean I'll touch them. It just hurts, plus when I hang with both of them, they high 5 each other for disliking me being bisexual. "/ what should I do?

Unfortunately, not everyone understands different orientations but there own. They are being very immature, and un supportive of you. It's not like you being bi that you have to be with a girl and boy at the same time, so try to make your boyfriend understand that. And as for your sister, you need to let her know just how you feel about her being rude about it. In all honesty, if I was in your situation i'd kick the boyfriend to the curb, but its your decision and your life. Good Luck, hope I helped.

-Brina

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why are these categories so impossible... haha

so, as a 16/f, i wear a lot of shorts.. of course, around the top of my inner legs and my bikini line i shave it. due to family and whatnot, i don't exactly want to put bikini zone into the cart at the store. and since i dont' have my license yet, i can't go get anything.
so i was wondering if there's any home remedies or tricks to NOT getting such painful irritation and bumps down there when i shave?

thanks:)

Try using a sensitive no dryness shaving cream. I use that on my legs because my legs get very dry and itchy after shaving them. If that doesn't help, then put a moisturizing lotion were you've shaved after you shave. Good Luck!

-Brina

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i'm a pretty healthy weight for my age, 126 for a 16/f; though, i really hate certain parts of my body. around my hips and the tops of my legs i have some buldge i'm really uncomfortable about.
although i was raised doing low key activities, as i got into highschool i've been trying to get involved in physical activities like sports and whatnot. i don't belong to a sport regulary so it's hard for me to work out.
i wouldn't be resorting to this if i could go to a gym and whatnot.
lately i've been subjecting myself to anorexic habits out of hate for my body and jealousy to my more attractive peers.
my problem is that thanks to medication for ADHD, i can handle not eating during the day, but when it wears off in the evening and during weekends when i don't take it i can tend to binge. which is really like a sucky thing to happen if i'm going through the stress of dieting. i wanna know how to control this and balance it out.
also, i do run a ocuple times a week and do workouts on my stairs.
skdfj;askljf anyway, any tips to healthy dieting that will give me quick results? hopefully i can get some good answers based off fasting and not regular eating.
thaaanks.

It's good that you've realized that your leaning towards anorexic behavior. During the weekends when you say you eat the most food, try doing something else other then eating. Work on homework, go for a walk, or go to a friends house. If you do get hungry though, try eating healthy food like celery, carrot sticks, apples, etc. Or, a serving size of peanuts. You can eat a lot of peanuts, and if you eat one at a time, it will make you full faster. Keep working out, but also remember you need calories to burn to work out, or else your body will not be healthy if you exercise and didn't eat anything. Also, make sure that when you do eat, only eat the correct serving, I believe meat should only be 3 oz. Good Luck!

-Brina

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

I apologize greatly for this taking so long for me to respond. I've been very busy with school. I think you should definitely discuss what you saw. Just tell him a friend happened to stumble upon it and decided to show you. If he lies about the site, then you need to tell him that if he's going to lie you're not going to deal with that. He seems to be very immature to make something like this. Hope i helped!

-Brina

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i just started juinor high and i've known this guy jake since we were babies bit because we went to diffrent schools are bond became weaker. Now that I'm back in school with him i now have a huge crush on and dont know how to aproach him. i'm only 13 but want to know what to do in the meantime.

Get a bunch of friends together and hang out at your house, including Jake. This will give you two to hang out, without it seeming like too much at this point. Then, after a few times doing this, ask him if he wants to just hang out you and him. If he doesn't then he's not worth it, if he does, then that's one step closer! But remember, you're still young, and have plenty of time to date guys in the future. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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we didn't technically have sex but he had a little bit of himself inside of me. can i get pregnant?

If he was inside of you and ejaculated inside of you, there is a high percent chance you could be pregnant. If you used a condom, the chance is lower. If you're not sure if you are or aren't definitely go take a pregnancy test as soon as possible. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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Alright. My boyfriend (Him eighteen, me seventeen, we've been dating for ten months) and I were at this party thing. Well actually you just drive up your car in this huge field, bring some alchohol and spend the night there. Kinda like camping. Haha it works out well. Anyway, pretty late into the night, people had already gone back to their cars to go to sleep but a few of us were still around a bonfire. My bf got into this really really heated arguement with this other guy, both of them pretty drunk. They've never liked eachother, some stupid football drama, and they were both getitng heated and probably were gonna fight but I was pretty wasted so my bf wasn't gonna leave me. We went back to the car and oh my god, it was the best he's ever been. It was like he took all his rage and put it into the sex and it was flipping awesome. Haha I don't know how to tell him that I liked how dominant and rough he was... Like what am I supposed to say?? I love doing you when you're pissed off?? Haha how can I put this to him the right way??

Just be straight up with him, tell him how turned on you got from him being so aggressive with you. He will most likely not get upset about it, considering he's doing things right! Hope I helped!

-Brina


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Anyone know any successful tricks to pouty/plump/bigger lips, other than lips plumpers(which dont work) and something that I can actually use/do, because not many teens are allow to get injections!

Ok, I saw this on a show once. Put on a regular nude colored lip gloss, and then in the middle of your bottom lip, put a darker color, but nothing too dark. Make sure not to put the darker color all over your bottom lip, just a bit in the middle. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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I need some help with my face. I have acne, not a lot like most people. Just a little here and there, nothing too noticable. But it still bothers me. I would like to know if there are any home procedures that could be done to clear up my skin fast. Like I said, its not that bad, but its annoying. Im also broke, so I cant afford any skin creams, so dont suggest that. Thank you!

Two things that I do when I have a bit of acne is I put toothpaste onto the main spots. It drys them out and gets rid of them. Also, try using a scrubbie with soap on it for your face. You can get one for a dollar at walmart,it's sort of like a loofah except much smaller and thinner. Just gently massage the problem spots. It may take a couple of days but these both help a lot. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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I got my nose pierced a few months ago, then removed it once I got a job. If I go to get my nose re-pierced and already have the starter piercing, will the piercer let me use it and not charge me full price?

They will most likely charge you full price. I got a piercing re pierced and I told them it was already pierced and they made me pay the whole amount. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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My new puppy does not like being left alone. She won't sleep unless I hold her. She prefers if I feed her with my hand, she follows me everywhere. I love her and she is adorable so I tend to give in, but it's like a hour after consistent barking. I just don't know what to do. I have another dog who I think even thinks she is kind of annoying.

New puppies do need a lot of attention. Make sure you take the puppy into the outside world liek to the park, different neighborhoods, obedience classes etc. It it seems afraid then let it go around by itself.Puppies don't stop whining for a few months. Just like a baby, sometime you need to just let the puppy cry for a while before it eventually stops. Don't give into the puppy, or else it will continue to always want to be with you. Hope I helped!Good Luck!

-Brina

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I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months and last time we talked I cahnged it to a break because I still love him. I can't stop thinking about him and he won't answer or return my phone calls. He does work a lot...its a VERY crazy schedule. I made him a little slideshow of pictures of us...not sure if I'm going to send it to him. I was thinking of sending it to him.
What can I do? I want to talk to him and I miss him like crazy. HELP PLEASE!! :(

Just give him some time to cool off from the situation. He's probably hurt right now, but once he has some time to think about things, he will speak to you again soon. If he doesn't he's not worth your time. Don't send him the slideshow right now, it might seem a little creepy since you havent been speaking to each other. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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So I've been feeling kind of down for about 4 years. Recently it has gotten worse...I just broke up with my boyfriend because I've been so stressed about everything. I snap at a lot of people it could be anyone...I have so much anger and I've been crying a lot. I've pushed away all my friends and have no determination or drive. I don't know what to possibly do.
Any advice?

My advice is to TALK to someone. Your friends and family are there for you, whenever you need someone to lean on. By talking about your feelings, you will feel better.I feel the same way you do a lot, but if I tell someone whats going on, and get advice from them, I tend to feel better. Just remember to breathe when your feeling down or upset or angry. Maybe start a new hobbie to get some more drive for things. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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My boyfriend and i have been together for 10 months, and 3 weeks. hes always counting, im always counting, hes 16, turning 17, im 15 turning 16. were very much mature. we love eachoher alot, and everyone knows that, im upset.. my boyfriend went on vacation with his friends for 3 days, and came back and somwhat changed, not entirely, but he kept talking about wanting his space. so i spazzed and cried, and just seemed like he didnt care, i talked to some friends and they told me to give him his space, so i did, and now that hes back home, and im barely calling him or anything he keeps calling me and wanting to talk to me, but im turning the tables and telling him i want my space, he says i understand and stuff, but he keeps calling me, and when i shut my fone , he calls my sisters fone and sends me SMS voice mails, like, i dont know if i should be worried that he asked for his space, and when i gave it to him and want mine he keeps begging me to call him back ,and hes like :( ok i understand but then we shut and he calls again. i just dont understand what hte hell "space' means.. i beleive that if you really love someone all your time is with them.. can someone just please explain to me what is going on?

Most likely what he meant by giving him "space" was that he wanted to just chill with his friends. Sometimes people in relationships like to get away from there significant other to just not have to have the responsibility to have to call you, and talk to you while he was away. Don't punish him because of how he was acting,learn from it and continue your relationship. Every person needs some space to not have to worry about another person. Hope I helped! Good luck!

-Brina

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Is it wrong for a 17 year old girl to have strong feelings for a 34 year old guy? I am 17 and have a friend who is 34. I love everything about him. He's polite, sweet, considerate, and has the most amazing personality I have ever seen.

Before anyone assumes that he is some weirdo, here are the facts. He has NO IDEA I love him. He never has hinted at anything more than being friends and has never pressured me into anything.

Whenever I'm around him I feel truly happy and beautiful. I have never felt this way for anyone in my entire life. (I know this sounds like a case of teenage crush, but it's beyond lust, I love him for more than physical reasons. Just talking to him mesmerizes me.)

My problem is, I feel guilty and ashamed for the way I feel. I wish I could pull a switch and make my heart not like him, but it's too hard. My question is, is it wrong for me to love him, or should I feel ashamed about it?

You can't help who you like. Continue being friends with him, and after you're 18 see what happens. Maybe have a chat with him WHEN YOU TURN 18, about what he looks for in a woman, etc. That may hint to him that you're interested. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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17 female
i am never good enough for myself. it doesnt matter what i do, ill always hate my body.

ive struggled with bulimia because i have always hated my body. my entire life has consisted of me never being happy no matter what weight i am. recently i lost about 15 pounds by exercise but i still hate my body. i look in the mirror and just see the things i hate, like my belly. i feel like the same person as before. like i said before, i struggle with bulimia, but i work hard at it. what i want to know is do you think im anorexic? i must say though im not skinny. and i feel like only skinny people can be anorexic and bulimic, so thats one of the main reasons ive never told anybody about it. i feel like if i told someone then they would think like "wow, you would think that she would be skinnier if she were bulimic."

idk, i know most women hate their bodies so maybe its sorta normal. like i said, ive never told anyone about this or any of my weight issues. everyone knows me as the funny, laid back, no drama chick. i also have a really hard time opening up to people about stuff because i hate feeling vunerable.

i just want to look in the mirror and be happy with myself no matter what i look like. can anyone help?

Tons of woman all over the world feel the same way you do. Don't think about other girls, and how they are anorexic, or bulimic. You need to take care of yourself, and yourself only.Think of it this way, if you continue being bulimic, or anorexic, you will actually end up looking terrible, your face will be all saggy, and you will be just skin and bones! There are ways to get healthy without these extreme actions. When you look in the mirror next time, point out something you do like about yourself, such as your eyes, or your lips, or even your hair color. Everyone has at least one thing they like about themselves. Also, let your personality shine through past the way you think you look like. After you wake up every morning, say one thing that makes you special, such as your sense of humor, or how well you treat your friends. This will eventually make you feel better as a whole. Good luck, hope I helped! If you'd like more advice please let me know, but I highly suggest seeking therapy for what you're going through right now. I can help, but only to an extent. Remember, beauty comes from within.

-Brina

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15 female
I dont really get dating. I get hit occasionally, and I never act on it because i think going out is basically friends with benifits. I never had a real boyfriend. I just don't get why do people want them other than the obvious.I do see people that I would surely like. but what do I say " hi I'm blah blah in you were looking really cute so I just wanted to say hi". That just sounds like a pick up line. If anyone can just explain to me what it is, it will surely help. Thanks

I used to feel the same way when I was your age, and still do sometimes. Some people like to have someone special in there life, to have fun, to be able to eventually find someone they will marry in the future. Going out with someone can be friends with benefits sometimes, but that is when you only hang out to do physical things. When you're truly with someone that you like and they like you,you two have something special together, a deeper bond than just friends with benefits. And also a tip, you don't have to have a boyfriend until you are ready, don't let your friends pressure you into getting one. Being an independent girl is a perfectly fine thing. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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Hello everyone!

I'm starting to buy a whole bunch of costume jewelry (specifically HOOP earrings) from places like Forever21. I was wondering, do any of you have jewelry boxes that hold all your earrings? Does anyone know where I can get cute jewelry boxes? I find the regular ones so plain and boring. How do you store all your earrings? Thanks in advance!

I have a earring stand. It's this thing that you hook all of your earrings to. Mine also holds necklaces, its like a big metal flower with rhinestones on it. But, it's kind of a pain in the ass to have to hook up earrings all the time to it. That's why I have a jewelry box with different little compartments. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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17/f. So, I've known this guy since November. We were just acquaintances at first, but then we started talking more and had a really great connection, became friends, I didn't think anything more of it. Around April/May it started getting flirty, and then it was getting increasingly flirty.

I realised I liked him, and by the beginning of July we had established we liked each other as more than friends. We've got together (not as far as sex) twice since, but it's always been really loving. I can tell he's not just after sex, because he doesn't rush me or push me into anything, and both times, we spent a lot of the time just talking and laughing. I can tell he's interested in my life and my past and my family and my interests etc. I've been involved with players before and he is definitely not one.

Anyway, we don't really see each other except at parties. We text frequently but so far we've only met up at parties. Bearing in mind we have only brought our relationship our of the friend zone in the past month.

I'd like to hang out with him more, because I'd like to move the relationship forward, I really like this guy. I never have connections with people the way I do with him. I've hinted at it, and so has he, but we've never straight out said anything.

I don't know what to do, because I don't want to scare him away. What should I do to bring it forward?

You guys need some one on one time. If he's into you, then you won't scare him away. He's probably thinking the same thing you are right now but doesn't know what to do.Find a movie time for this weekend, and ask him if he wants to go, if he can't, then suggest a rented movie at your house. Hope I helped!
-Brina

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im 14/f and im going into 9th grade. i am embarrassed to go "number 2" in the bathroom. i know everyone does it and i shouldn't be embarrassed, but i can't help it. sometimes there are girls who just stand in the bathroom and talk so it's embarrassing. i asked my mom and she didn't really know what to say. what do i do? i guess you could say i'm regular haha so i have to go every morning :/ and people notice so ugh it's just embarrasing and annoying. sometimes i hold it all day and i know that's probably bad and then i feel bad about it. please be nice thank you for the answers :)

Don't be embarrassed to to number 2 in the bathroom. If you're worried about the other people in the bathroom, just go in there, and do what you need to do and wait for them to leave, that is, unless they take ages to leave. I also agree with the other advicenator about trying to go at home before you go to school. But, if it's not time at home, right when you get to class just tell your teacher that you have to run to the bathroom really quick, it shouldn't be a problem since class doesn't start right that minute. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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