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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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I want to do something in NYC for my best friends bday(just me and her). i want to go somewehere and then a resturant. I was thiinking a chris brown concert but he's not on tour as far as I know. Any ideas?

Hmm, maybe a broadway show? Or, you could take her to Sephora. Its a make up store...actually THEEE BEST MAKE UP STORE EVER. You could buy her some lip gloss, or eye shadow, whatever floats her boat. Hope I helped!
-Brina

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Heya,
first of all, im going to use letters other wise your gonna get confused.
Well, Me and K used to be really good mates with J and B,
but then J and B randomly started hating on K. So then i though it was really unfair on K because J and B were being real bitches to K.
So now ive stepped in. Now J and B are being really mean to me! not trying to sound vain here, but i normally wouldnt give if someone said stuff to me, and ive been in fights and all, but normally people would just stop this thng but J and B just wont quite with it. Its really annoying me, and im not going to ignore, and im not going to someone about it.

Because that will all make it worse.

What else could me and K do for them to stop.
because, K is not that tough, and she gets really upset about all this!

THANK YOU!

I know you don't wnat to ignore them, but, ignoring them might be the best thing you can do. THeir being very immature. You could always say to them to grow up and stop acting like such idiots. They are jelous that your a good friend to K, and thats why they are acting how they are. If it escalates to them hardcore harrassing you, just let a teacher or someone know that their really not being nice. Good Luck.
-Brina

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Do you think that people need social interaction to get by? Or could someone get by being alone? As in no friends, and pulling away from family members.
I ask because lately I've been having a way easier time being alone because people I get close to only end up hurting me. But then again, I'm pretty lonely. I can't really win either way. =\
I just wondered what your opinions are.

I'd have to say its good to have social interaction. Sometimes its easier to talk to a friend or family member if I'm having a problem with something. Or, if something exciting happens, I like to tell people about it to spread the joy. But, sometimes its nice to just, be by yourself, not having to worry about other things and people. Pets are great to have too if your lonely but don't really want to socialize with people.
-Brina

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so i have this friend, we'll call her sally. well sally and i have been friends since 6th grade, we are now in 11th grade. in 8th grade we got into a huge fight that lasted like 6 months. we haven't really gotten into any huge fights since then, but lately she has been treating me like shit. she acts like im not even a friend to her. although i do nothing wrong to her. EVER. im never rude to her. im ALWAYS there for her. shes never there for me when i need someone the most. she gets mad at her "best friend" well call her suzie, well they've been friends for a while but suzie always ditches her and is rude. and she gets mad, complains to me about it. she has no idea how she acts to me but everytime i try to talk to her about it she gets mad at me and turns it all around on me. she is not mad at me, wont talk to me. yet we were fine this morning. i have NO idea what to do. please help me

Thats really not right of her to treat you like that. If a friend is treating someone like that, there obviously not a friend. Try telling her how you feel one more time, if it doesnt work, then I say take some time from her until she realizes that she made the mistake. If she doesnt realize it, then you should tell her that when shes ready to be a friend then you'll be here. But, your not waiting around for her to change.
Good Luck.
-Brina

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my friend ryan committed suicide about two weeks ago and i just can't get over it. just seeing him in that casket made me sick to my stomach and burst into tears. it's so wrong to see a 15 year old in a casket.. it's just wrong. everything reminds me of him cuz he was the coolest person in the world. plz tell me how to overcome this or help me to be at peace with his death. i miss him so much

I'm so sorry. You probably will never get over it, you'll feel better, but you'll never come to the fact of loosing one of your friends.Just remember all of the times you two shared, and how he impacted your life. Take your time feeling better at this, it probably will take time. Its ok to feel this way and to miss him, he wsa your friend, how else would you feel? Talk with a counselor, or other friends to make you feel better. Just remember there are a lot of great people out there to help you cope with this. Hope I helped.

-Brina

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I asked my best friend who I trust everything with if she thinks I'm a slut. In the past she's said no but I asked her to please be honest with me yesterday and answer me the truth. So she said yes, she also said it was very very hard for her to say. I told another friend what was said and he said that if she was a real freiend she would understand and not think i was a slut. He also said if not, there is one good thing to come out of it; I found out that she wasnt a true friend.
So what do I believe? That she did the right thing telling me truthfully that she thinks I am a slut? Or she did the wrong thing in thinking that of her best friend?
She's always been there for me but now I'm confused.
I feel like I can't tell her anything now without feeling like I'm driving her away. She said it doesnt make her like me any less though and that it's my decision.
Can anyone help me?

You asked her to tell her because you told her she was your best friend and wanted to hear the truth. And she said it was really hard for her, so you really shouldnt be this upet with her, considering you asked for it.She loves you no matter how you act/are. By a slut, do you mean sleeping around with people, or just dressing slutty and flirting with guys all the time? You should be a bit mre specific, maybe she thought you meant soething else when you asked her if you thought that...Shes your friend, and would never intentionally hurt you. Hope I helped! Happpy Summer!

-Brina

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my best friends birthday is in a few days. i dont know what to get her because i want it to be someone really special. does anyone have any ideas of something i could get or make her? thanks so much!

I suggest a best friends necklace, not one of the tacky ones with the half heart, something nice, maybe sterling silver, or a charm bracelet with charms of things that she loves, something she can keep for forever.Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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Today, I was watching Peter Pan and a few Veggie Tales movies when my friends called and asked what I was doing. They laughed when I told them I what I watching. They said Disney and Veggie Tales are for little kids. I can't help it. I like those movies. They're funny and cool, but i need advice on what should I do. Should I stop watching them? Or stick with the movies?

No one is too old to watch disney movies! Disney movies should be watched at least once every 3 days!!! They make people feel happy and young again. Tell your friends they can shove it up there butts if they have a problem with it. Watch whatever the hell you want!Hope i helped!

Happy SUmmer

-Brina

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I have this best friend. We have been together since we were in day care (before we were in school) Recently she has been really mean. She tells me to shut up constantly. I'm not the smartest person (common sense wise) and I think she gets annoyed with how dumb I am. I really can't help it. I'm not one of those girls who is really dumb because they make themselves be dumb. I don't get things but I don't say I don't get them it's just that she has known me so long she knows when I don't get things. Anywho...she bosses me around all the time. She tells me I'm dumb. She corrects everything I say. When I try to talk to her you can tell she is annoyed if I even say hi. I'm not soooo dumb all the time. I really am book smart. I have all A's and I'm sitting 4th in my class of 561. What do you think it is? How can I talk to her?

Let her know how you feel. A friend should never treat you like that. Dont be scared to let her know how you feel, this situation will only continue if it doesnt stop. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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okay so today i got a comment on myspace from this guy i went out with awhile ago... he said he missed me and he thought i should know.. then i told him 'i miss you too, but idk why you would miss me' (which is sort of something i say to him when he says he misses me because idk i just do..) i also asked how he was... ANYWAY he says back to me "uh how about because you're probably the most amazing person I've ever met.. it still stands too. and I'm alive.. how are you" this made me think he likes me again... the thing is i have a bf. i really dont want to hurt anyone.. i care for this guy but i dont want him to like me! i don't want to hurt him..... do you think he likes me? what should i do?

Yeah, it seems to me that this guy likes you. You should just let him like you. Thats what happens sometimes. People like people that are already taken a lot. If he continues to seem like he likes you a lot. Just remind him kindly that you have a boyfriend now. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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um. in like, all of my classes, i have all popular people. & yes. they exist. so please don't answer saying, "you are being a bitch. you shouldn't be so mean to your friend just cause she's not 'cool enough' for you." okay.

so, on the first day of school in sept., i walked into one of my classes & i realized. omg. it's ALL popular people. and i knew NO ONE. seriously. i was terrified. so i saw this girl. i had no idea who she was, but i said hi cause one of my other friends knows her. & she said hi. ok. big mistake.

she's been SO clingy. like seriously. everytime i see her, she is like having a spaz attack! she's like
"OMYGOSH" ALL the time. it's SO irritating! & all the popular people make fun of her. like cause she wears her hair up in a ponytail EVERYDAY. & she has the worst closet... it's not that she's ugly or she's fat or anything, but she's just really uncool. she hasn't hit puberty yet... & she doesnt like ANY guys or think ANYONE is hot! she's flat as a piece of paper, and hasn't had her period yet.

& she has no idea that she's uncool. like she knows it exists & everything, and we talk about people, but she just doesn't get that she can't come up to me SPAZZING everytime she sees me! well lately i've been trrrrying to keep my cool & not really talk to her like, 24/7 (she's in 5/8 of my classes). but still. she sees me and she comes up to me, throws her hands up, and goes, "OH MY GOSH" and i'm like oh my god why are you such a spaz.

ugh, & i have no other friends in any of my classes. SERIOUSLY! the popular people are pretty nice to me and everything, but they have their own friends & i couldn't ever ask them to be my partner. i have a few guyfriends, but again, there are four of them and they always pair up :/ so i am ALWAYS stuck with that girl!

should i just suck it up until june? should i give her a makeover? i just want to turn her into me, into what my friends are like, into what everyone else is like. everything from handwriting to AIM to dressing correctly, make-up, hair, grades, being organized, not carrying 3259923048239023098 binders around & actually being able to carry it with only your right arm... etc. but like how do i do all that without her knowing it? i've tried talking to her about it, but she's just like, "i dont care" & im like WELL I DO CAUSE YOU ARE ALWAYS ON ME LIKE WHITE ON RICE!

i'm really sorry this is so long, so just like tell me what you think if you bothered reading that whole thing... & even if you didn't, just give me some advice. lovee.

You can't change her to be like you. Tell her shes bugging you a bit, and that is that. If your saying all this rude stuff about her, just tell her how it is so that you dont have to complain any more. She's her, and if you dont like it, its not her fault and you cant change that. These "popular" kids sound like assholes, and you shouldnt want to be one of them.

-Brina

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Well today my friend found out her father has been shot and died. She isn't sure yet if it was suicide or someone else did it.

I feel like I'm not being a very good friend. Before you start calling me deadbeat friend listen to my story.

For a long time in our friendship she had told me and everyone her father had died on September 11 2001. He was working at the world trade centre. Then she came clean, she was being an attention seeker and that she had never met her father in her life.

And then today she's hysterical about her father's passing and I find out her father was actually in her life. I'm not ignoring her, or snobbing her off. She's in a very vunerable position and that is the wrong thing to do. But what is the right thing to do? Do I act like she hasn't lied to me all this time for my pity? Do I point it out? How am I supposed to comfort her when I thought she didn't have a father?

Evidently theirs a little truth issue there because of what she told you before. Just give her a hug, and apologize for her loss. Thats the easiest and nicest thing you can do for her, considering she's lied to you before. Lieing about a family members death is no joke, and its not cool to event hink it. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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My best friend is a guy. I like him as a little more than a friend...but I value our friendship far too much to make it awkward by telling him. Anyway I think he has a clue, and I think he likes me sometimes. (He's a huge flirt - it's hard to tell.)

Thing is - I called him up Friday night to come over and watch a movie. We watched the Davinci Code - a long one. We were both pretty tired, and of course we talked throughout it and weren't like, on top of eachother or anything. :-P

Anyway, during the movie in the middle somewhere, my guy friend joked, "watch us just fall asleep and not get up til morning, haha :)".
And...I was really tired and wanted to rest my eyes, so I shut them and sort of leaned on him a little, but I'm pretty sure he didn't mind, cause he was kinda close to me the whole time. Eventually I was sort of half-asleep but just enjoying the moment. A lot ...because even though I'm only 13, it seemed romantic to me ;D haha...and I'm all about wanting romance =P.

So my question is this - afterwards he didn't seem mad, but just sort of calm about it, and woke me up. But I knew I was leaning on him, I was just sort of half-sleeping. -
Did that make him feel weird? Because he's been acting a bit strange at school, like he isn't talking to me much. And as if he's annoyed with me or something.

I really hope I didn't do anything to mess things up - we've known eachother about a year but went through alot, including my father's death, and I feel so close to him. I hope he didn't mind my leaning on him.

It's just weird seeing him at school, because he doesn't seem to want to be around me. It's like I'm some annoying pest or boring person, when I'm not even doing anything...that I know of.

Any ideas why he may be acting this way?

sorry so long:( but I really want to save this friendship. Thanks sooo much if you took the time to read this. :-)

Call him up, or talk to him in school and just straight up ask him if something you did is bothering him. Thats the best thing to do. Theres many possibilitys of whats going on. He could have feelings for you, and thinks that you have feelings for him,but that your not doing anything about it. Or, he just felt it was awkward. Hope I helped! Happy SPring!

-Brina

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Ok, so I have these two best friends and we all hang out all the time. We rarely fight and theres never any drama. But lately, I have been feelin left out. Me nd my friend have been fighting cuz of our other frend. We know that she's the problem and we just think we need some alone time. But im not sure thats it. What do you think I could do?

Aha, thetrio thing. I had this problem with 2 of my best friends. Thisis what stinks about having a trio of friends, when you do something with the other, you need to invite the other. But, if you dont want to you dont have to is the thing. If youneed alone time, then takeit. Your not forced to hang out with her all the time. Let her know that you'dliketo spend alone time with each of them. ANd she'll get the hint. Hope I helped.

-Brina

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so the problem is that I AM A GIRL and i hate other girls. i can't stand them. i think their so weird and discusting. and i am a girl myself. and i only have guy friends. and i only like guys.
seriously i think guys are the only normal creatures in this world. and it makes me so angry hearing girls talking about girl stuff. it's just SO anoying. and when they scream cause they are so excited over something. it always makes me pissed. and seriously i am obsessed with guys. i dress like a guy , i act like a guy a lot , and i only have guy friends , and i am so crazy about guys haha
and i don't get myself.
is this behavior normal? or am i a weird person?

Its totally fine. I'm like that, in some ways. You hate pansy girls, most people do. Your not a weird person at all. You just like the more laid back type of attitude, and most guys have that. Theres more types of girls out there, your probably just used to the ones in your school and stuff. Your a "Tom boy" as they call it, which is fine.Dont stop being you. Hope i Helped!


-Brina

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okay, so ive liked the same guy for about two years now, and he knows, and of course all my friends know..
but recently my friend and her b/f broke up ((she broke up with him)) and now it seems she might like the same guy i like! all she ever does is flirt with him, and i dont know.. it wierd.. i just dont know and im afraid to ask her.. what should i do?

Well, you can ask her, dont be afraid, but do it in a funny way. Like nudge her and say, so, you've got the hotts for so and so? If she says no, then she probably doesnt, but if theres a look on her face like she does, then she does, but its not a big deal. Just remind her again that you like him a lot. Shes probably just flirting with guys a lot because shes not on a fish hook anymore. Dont sweat it, if she does like him, stand out more so he notices you and might ask you out. GOOD luck. Hope i Helped


-Brina

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Okay, well i have this freind, Jane, and she is the nosiest thing. She'll look aat my grades, eavesdrop on me and my freinds conversation and ask personal questions. it's like shes a stalker.
But shes realy nice, but annoying
what should i do?
-jan

If you she asks you something personal, or something you feel that she doesnt need to know. Just say jokingly, jeez jane, are you writing a book? Or, say, why jane, thats quite a personal questions. If she keeps bugging you about it, just look er in the eye and say, seriously stop. Yeah, shes nice, but a pain in the ass, not a good combo. So, if shes eavesdropping jus tbe like, excuse me, did you need something. Hope I helped.Goodluck.

-brina

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ok so ive liked this kid named Randy ever since the 7thgrade and he never knew it b.c he was a grade higher then me now iam a 9th grader and he's in my french class. we grew a big friend ship like OMG u have no i dea how great the friendship was. yeh so then my friends told him that i liked him and then we became even more closer. but now i have a bf and he's everything i ever wanted but ever since he found out about my bf we've been fighting lateley. and i think i still may like Randy. so give my advice he's killing me.

Hmm, this situation sucks, because you can really only choose one guy. These feelings you have for Randy seem really strong, but the problem is you have a boyfriend. If you think that you and Randy should try being together, then I say go for it. But, don't expect your boyfriend to still be their if it doesn't. Randy is probably just upset that you have a boyfriend, because he thought you two were on your way to something more then your friendship. So, I say follow your heart. Your current boyfriends heart might be hurt inthe process though. But, whatevers best for you. Good Luck, hope I Hhelped!

-Brina

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im not moving far, just down the street.
Im still going to the same school and all
but the thing is, the boy i love lives in my neighborhood.
And that kinda makes it easier for us to hangout
and now he has a girlfriends so now its even more in doubt.
Im gonna miss him alot , i mean ill still see him at school but things will be kinda different.
I wanna know if hes gonna miss me at all, what should I do to find out.. without asking him ??

Well, the best way to find out is asking him in a joking way. Just nudge him with your elbow jokingly and say "So, you gunna miss me when I move down the street?" He'll probably say yes, and if he does, let him know you still want to hang out with him still. Thats the best way I think. GOod Luck, Hope I helped!


-Brina

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I am a fourteen year old with a problem. A few months ago I decided not to play water polo at my high school I attend. The reason why is that the coaches were asking me to tell jokes at the conditioning practices before the season. If I did not tell a joke, the other kids at the practice had to swim more laps. I refused to tell the jokes, and the kids were kind of angry at me. I felt humiliated.

I played water polo for many years and then made the decision I did not want to play. Then the coaches called my parents and told them that they could not understand my decision.

My family is a big water polo family and I still feel that they are angry at me for not playing. I cannot take it any longer. Can anyone offer me any advice? Was I wrong for quitting?

No, you weren't wrong, but this could have went better, then you quitting something you like. You don't have to do anything that you don't want to, such as doing what the coach wanted you to do, considering its totally not even about the sport. Tell your parents that you felt pressured to do something you didnt want to. I would have sat the coaches down, and told them why i didnt want to do that. Hope I helped. Good Luck. Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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