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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Okay, I'm 16 & a female. I'm also bisexual & my boyfriend can't accept the fact that I'm bi. He says he wishes I liked ONLY guys & stuff like that. Then he says that he hates gays, lesbians, bisexuals & it hurts. But then my bigsissy ( well that's what I call her ) can't stand the fact that I'm bisexual either. Like when I told her, she said you spent the night over my house & we slept in the same bed together, you could've touched me. Like I mean really? I'm not attracted to every female/male I see, so that doesn't mean I'll touch them. It just hurts, plus when I hang with both of them, they high 5 each other for disliking me being bisexual. "/ what should I do?

Unfortunately, not everyone understands different orientations but there own. They are being very immature, and un supportive of you. It's not like you being bi that you have to be with a girl and boy at the same time, so try to make your boyfriend understand that. And as for your sister, you need to let her know just how you feel about her being rude about it. In all honesty, if I was in your situation i'd kick the boyfriend to the curb, but its your decision and your life. Good Luck, hope I helped.

-Brina

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

I apologize greatly for this taking so long for me to respond. I've been very busy with school. I think you should definitely discuss what you saw. Just tell him a friend happened to stumble upon it and decided to show you. If he lies about the site, then you need to tell him that if he's going to lie you're not going to deal with that. He seems to be very immature to make something like this. Hope i helped!

-Brina

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i just started juinor high and i've known this guy jake since we were babies bit because we went to diffrent schools are bond became weaker. Now that I'm back in school with him i now have a huge crush on and dont know how to aproach him. i'm only 13 but want to know what to do in the meantime.

Get a bunch of friends together and hang out at your house, including Jake. This will give you two to hang out, without it seeming like too much at this point. Then, after a few times doing this, ask him if he wants to just hang out you and him. If he doesn't then he's not worth it, if he does, then that's one step closer! But remember, you're still young, and have plenty of time to date guys in the future. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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we didn't technically have sex but he had a little bit of himself inside of me. can i get pregnant?

If he was inside of you and ejaculated inside of you, there is a high percent chance you could be pregnant. If you used a condom, the chance is lower. If you're not sure if you are or aren't definitely go take a pregnancy test as soon as possible. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months and last time we talked I cahnged it to a break because I still love him. I can't stop thinking about him and he won't answer or return my phone calls. He does work a lot...its a VERY crazy schedule. I made him a little slideshow of pictures of us...not sure if I'm going to send it to him. I was thinking of sending it to him.
What can I do? I want to talk to him and I miss him like crazy. HELP PLEASE!! :(

Just give him some time to cool off from the situation. He's probably hurt right now, but once he has some time to think about things, he will speak to you again soon. If he doesn't he's not worth your time. Don't send him the slideshow right now, it might seem a little creepy since you havent been speaking to each other. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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My boyfriend and i have been together for 10 months, and 3 weeks. hes always counting, im always counting, hes 16, turning 17, im 15 turning 16. were very much mature. we love eachoher alot, and everyone knows that, im upset.. my boyfriend went on vacation with his friends for 3 days, and came back and somwhat changed, not entirely, but he kept talking about wanting his space. so i spazzed and cried, and just seemed like he didnt care, i talked to some friends and they told me to give him his space, so i did, and now that hes back home, and im barely calling him or anything he keeps calling me and wanting to talk to me, but im turning the tables and telling him i want my space, he says i understand and stuff, but he keeps calling me, and when i shut my fone , he calls my sisters fone and sends me SMS voice mails, like, i dont know if i should be worried that he asked for his space, and when i gave it to him and want mine he keeps begging me to call him back ,and hes like :( ok i understand but then we shut and he calls again. i just dont understand what hte hell "space' means.. i beleive that if you really love someone all your time is with them.. can someone just please explain to me what is going on?

Most likely what he meant by giving him "space" was that he wanted to just chill with his friends. Sometimes people in relationships like to get away from there significant other to just not have to have the responsibility to have to call you, and talk to you while he was away. Don't punish him because of how he was acting,learn from it and continue your relationship. Every person needs some space to not have to worry about another person. Hope I helped! Good luck!

-Brina

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Is it wrong for a 17 year old girl to have strong feelings for a 34 year old guy? I am 17 and have a friend who is 34. I love everything about him. He's polite, sweet, considerate, and has the most amazing personality I have ever seen.

Before anyone assumes that he is some weirdo, here are the facts. He has NO IDEA I love him. He never has hinted at anything more than being friends and has never pressured me into anything.

Whenever I'm around him I feel truly happy and beautiful. I have never felt this way for anyone in my entire life. (I know this sounds like a case of teenage crush, but it's beyond lust, I love him for more than physical reasons. Just talking to him mesmerizes me.)

My problem is, I feel guilty and ashamed for the way I feel. I wish I could pull a switch and make my heart not like him, but it's too hard. My question is, is it wrong for me to love him, or should I feel ashamed about it?

You can't help who you like. Continue being friends with him, and after you're 18 see what happens. Maybe have a chat with him WHEN YOU TURN 18, about what he looks for in a woman, etc. That may hint to him that you're interested. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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15 female
I dont really get dating. I get hit occasionally, and I never act on it because i think going out is basically friends with benifits. I never had a real boyfriend. I just don't get why do people want them other than the obvious.I do see people that I would surely like. but what do I say " hi I'm blah blah in you were looking really cute so I just wanted to say hi". That just sounds like a pick up line. If anyone can just explain to me what it is, it will surely help. Thanks

I used to feel the same way when I was your age, and still do sometimes. Some people like to have someone special in there life, to have fun, to be able to eventually find someone they will marry in the future. Going out with someone can be friends with benefits sometimes, but that is when you only hang out to do physical things. When you're truly with someone that you like and they like you,you two have something special together, a deeper bond than just friends with benefits. And also a tip, you don't have to have a boyfriend until you are ready, don't let your friends pressure you into getting one. Being an independent girl is a perfectly fine thing. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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17/f. So, I've known this guy since November. We were just acquaintances at first, but then we started talking more and had a really great connection, became friends, I didn't think anything more of it. Around April/May it started getting flirty, and then it was getting increasingly flirty.

I realised I liked him, and by the beginning of July we had established we liked each other as more than friends. We've got together (not as far as sex) twice since, but it's always been really loving. I can tell he's not just after sex, because he doesn't rush me or push me into anything, and both times, we spent a lot of the time just talking and laughing. I can tell he's interested in my life and my past and my family and my interests etc. I've been involved with players before and he is definitely not one.

Anyway, we don't really see each other except at parties. We text frequently but so far we've only met up at parties. Bearing in mind we have only brought our relationship our of the friend zone in the past month.

I'd like to hang out with him more, because I'd like to move the relationship forward, I really like this guy. I never have connections with people the way I do with him. I've hinted at it, and so has he, but we've never straight out said anything.

I don't know what to do, because I don't want to scare him away. What should I do to bring it forward?

You guys need some one on one time. If he's into you, then you won't scare him away. He's probably thinking the same thing you are right now but doesn't know what to do.Find a movie time for this weekend, and ask him if he wants to go, if he can't, then suggest a rented movie at your house. Hope I helped!
-Brina

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I have liked my friend for almost a year now and I think I really love him. I want to let him know how I feel but I am afraid of jeopardizing our friendship. I don't know what to do. I am 17 and he is older than me, but we don't judge each other by age. I am a girl and I am 17. Thanks in advance for advice.

I say its worth a shot. I told one of my really good guy friends that I liked him, and he didn't feel the same way, but we still are great friends. Hopefully you're guy will like you as much as you like him, and if not, will still be happy with being friends. If he doesn't and doesn't want to be friends, then he isn't a good friend! Good luck, hope I helped!

-Brina

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17/f
at my school there was this really pretty girl that i guess you could say i had a gradeschool crush on, but i'd never go out with her. maybe like kiss her at a party if i was drunk or something but not like have a full on relationship. i don't think of girls that way, i'm totally straight. anyways, i haven't seen her for months, let alone, thought about her, and a few nights ago i had a dream that she and i had sex. like full on sex. clothes off, kissing, etc, without going into too much detail.

why the hell would i have a dream like that when i'd never do that with her, or any other girl?

It's totally normal to have dreams about the same sex. As long as your being true to yourself, don't worry about a thing. You're straight right? So don't worry about it!
-Brina

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I'm starting to get a feeling that my boyfriend is losing interest. Its temporary long distance relationship (LDR), we'll see each other again in September.

What do I do? I love him and I don't want it to be over.

In the beginning of the summer we used to text everyday, and then it turned into one word answers on his part, but he'd still text me back right away. Now, if I text him, I'll get a reply late at night with a one word answer.

Things changed about two weeks ago. A week ago we got into a minor disagreement where he lost his temper a little bit, but I apologized the next day and he said I'm good. Since then he won't text me back til the end of the day. I texted him twice first, and he texted me once first.

How much time should I give him before I mention whats going on in our relationship? And I'm not texting him first for a while, unless he texts me first (oh the rules of texting, lol), just to give him some time to himself.

Any advice will be much appreciated

19/f

Hmm, maybe try and calling him instead of texting. That way, you don't have to wait sooo long for a text, and be down about it. If you speak on the phone, he won't say just one word and hang up. When you do talk to him, talk about something fun you both did together, so that he thinks of the great times you two have had together. Hope I helped! Good Luck!

-Brina

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Okay lets say you knew this girl was fourteen dating a sixteen year old boy, if you found out that she (she's now fifteen) let him finger her, gave him a hj and a bj, would you judge her?? they dated for seven months. I think you can see that I'm the girl... haha

I don't judge people at all, unless what they do/did effects me personally. So no, I would not judge you at all for doing this. Personally I didn't do things like that when I was your age, but, everyone is different. Just remember to use protection, you can still get a STD from oral sex. Hope I helped! Stay safe!

-Brina

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my boyfriend and i had sex with a condom...but when we were done he cummed into the condom and then pulled out. the condom slipped off and it got stuck to me. when he pulled the condom off none of the sperm was in the condom...
could i become pregnant?...where could the sperm have gone?

You could get pregnant with anything that has to do with sexual intercourse. I can't really tell you were the sperm went, but, most likely it just stayed in the condom. Deffinitly get a pregnancy test just in case. The best way to not get pregnant is to stay abstinent.
-Brina

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So i really like this girl and she likes me. and i dont want to rush things but i feel like just talking on the phone isnt enough its been since summer we have talked i think its time to start takin more steps but i dont want to rush anything whats an awesome way to ask her out?

You should deffinitly get a group of friends together, including her, and ask them all to go to your house for movies. Its a relaxed way to hang out with her, wihtout it being awkward. Then, later during the night, ask her if she wants to go to the movie sometime. If she likes you, she shouldnt say no. Good Luck.
-Brina

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ok im a guy i really like this gurl and i told her everything and ive even told out friends, ok o today after school i walk up to where we usually meet and this random girl that i dont talk to comes up and says STAY AWAY FROM HER,and the reason she said that is because her bestfriend likes the same girl im going for. so ok long story short,i want this girl and this girl doesnt want me to talk to her at all ever what do i do ? BETTER FROM A GIRLS POV

Deffinitly talk to this chick. You dont know if that girl that yelled at you was telling the truth or not. If she was, then, this chick isnt right for you, shes pretty immature if you ask me, sending someone to tell you to stay away, how lame is that? Dont worry about it if she doesnt like you, theirs plenty of other chicks out their for you to meet. Hope i helped! Good Luck!

-Brina

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i just broke up with a guy that i was going out with for almost 3 years and this is actually the 3rd time that i break up with him but than the 2 times he started crying and i felt bad and i got with him but my parents dont like him and i think that is enough reason why i shouldnt be with him but than wen i broke up with him today he called me back and he started crying and telling me i'm being selfish i mean i belive im not i hate myself for putting him through this and he dose not understand that i need to be alone right now? Am i being selfish we are not young people we are adults help me

Your not being selfish. Your expanding your horizon. Let him know that your not feeling the same feelings toward him as you used to, and that he needs to respect your decision. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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Okay so i was in a really serious relationship and we were in love and the whole 9 yards. but then we just broke up and the day after i was a complete mess, and i didn't shower and went to school, hair up, in sweats, no makeup, looking like i just got high because my eyes were so wore out from crying. ((Completely not me, i'm always dolled up looking like a girly girl))

For guys-- If you were the guy in this situation, would you rather see your ex. like that for a while showing you that you've made her miserable? Or would you rather see her looking better than ever showing her what you've lost? What would hurt you the most? or make you the most jealous?

For girls--What do you think? Should I go on looking amazing or keep looking like crap until i pull myself together? ((read guys question))

I don't know what to do in general either, do i try and make him jealous? Do i just keep living a happy life and show him that i'm doing great without him? or miserable without him? Idk.

HELP!

Continue to look GORGEOUS! Show him what he's missing. Why show him that your so upset about him? You broke up, evidently theirs no point in looking like crap. Unless, he broke up with you, then you can be upset as much as you want. Don't try to make him jealous, its immature, let it be, just let him do what he needs to do, and you do what you ahve to do. Live your life the way you want it, not how you think you should show him how your life is. Live it for you. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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my friend is gay. and i love him.
and everyone wants me to tell him i like him
but i cant. because hes gay, but im the only one
in the entire world that knows
WAT DO I DO?!

So, you know that he's gay, but no one else does, and people know that you like him, but because he's gay you don't want to tell him. Hmmmm. I say, if you'd like him to know your feelings, say it to him jokingly. Just be like "You know, it really bites that you gay because I liked you." Simple, and to the point. Evidently, because he's gay, it wouldnt work out, but its ok to like him. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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I'm in love, and the guy is a jerk and doesn't like me back.

Why he's a jerk? Because he's cooler than me, and he feels that and that's why he rarely talks to me. BUT he will stare deep into my eyes, ask me for massages (but he never gives me any, but I never ask) make small talk (sometimes) cuddle with me (rarely, at a swim meet, and there has to be other girls present, and he doesn't like any of them). But sometimes if I go to swim in his lane, even if there's people present, he'll go to another land. Once we were having a fun day at swim practice and he was doing dives in the deep section and he was alone. When I came over there he went away. Sometimes he answers my questions warmly, sometimes he's cold.

I am really truly in love with him, and I just don't know what to do or what to think. I have tried dating other guys, but they just don't live up to him. I feel grossed out if I imagine myself kissing anyone but him.

I can't tell him how I feel because he gets scared off easily. A couple girls told them that they liked him and he doesn't talk to them anymore. I have no idea what to do. I love that he is a jerk, by the way, I would never change that about him. Also, he is not a player (he only had one girlfriend, although he does have quite a few lady friends.) and he is not really a flirtsy guy.

I don't know how to interpret his actions. He smiles at me sometimes, but sometimes he acts like he hates me. =( Can somebody help me out? Do you think he likes me? He teases me.. in a friendly way. I guess the best way to describe his actions towards me is that he treats me like a little sister. But not quite.

If I talk to him too much he gets scared away. I'm sorry this was so long, but I've loved him for four years now. It started out as a crush, but in the past two years grew into something way more.

Please don't tell me to just ask him how he feels or tell him how I feel. It will be so akward, and we see each other nine times a week. Not to mention it will probably freak him out.

Help!! =/

Tell him its really getting lame, the way he's treating you, one minute he's asking nice and flirty towards you and the next he's not. Say all that to him and he'll get the jist of it. You don't want to like a guy who only likes you back on his own time and when he wants right? Thats what it seems like hes doing. Telling him how you feel isnt bad. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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