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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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Does anybody know any cute pictures (or funny, or weird..etc) that wish people a merry christmas or Happy Holidays?! that i can comment people with. I can make one in paint but they always turn out ugly. And please not one that is too big in width [that will take up a lot of space in the comment box]

any ideas..pictures..?!PLease?!
Thanks so much!!!

Happy Holidays to all of you!

You can get them from www.toxicnet.com, www.myspacenow.com, www.myspaceglitter.com

Here's a direct link to Christmas ones... http://www.myspacenow.com/merrychristmas.shtml

Do all the misspellings and netspeak bother anyone else here?

Yes, probably everybody who does not type that way. If you have a serious quetions and you type LyKe DiSz then nobody is going to understand what you're asking, even if it is not that serious. I can understand a few mistakes, nobody is perfect, but still, people, if you want a question to be answered then make it so people can read it! Oh and if you are answering a question and you type horribly, people won't understand what you're saying and will not be able to take what could be great advice. Okay, I'm done here. Bye now!

If I have had sex recently..and I tihnk I am pregnate...and My period isnt until like 3wks..when do I need to take my 1st pregnacy test?

Depends how recently, within the last week, wait another day or so. If you just had sex like yesterday you might have to wait a week or so. I also have heard good things about the tests 1st respons and EPT. But I would wait about a week after having sex, take the test and whether it comes out positive or negative (if positive then I wouldn't doubt you are) then wait another week and take another one. If you stress too much you will delay your period so don't put to much thought on it, but yeah, a week after having sex seems like a good amount of time then take one a week after that.

As of Friday, i've been real sick. I took a nap all afternoon, and when i woke up I felt all dizzy. the only time i would feel good is when i have my head down. and right when i get up, i feel all dizzy again. then at points i kept gagging, but never threw up. and i kept burbing alot too.. until yesterday, i started having real bad diahrea, and my dizzyness and gagging has slowed down. but im still getting much headaches and stomach aches... does anyone know what is wrong with me?

my mom has just been telling me to take some medicine.. and that doesnt even work!

Apparantly I'm not the only one. Well for me it only last from 3am throughout that day and by fourth period the next day I was dizzy agian. It happens to me EVERY December but only lasts about a day. For you it sounds like the flu, I am NOT a doctor so for all I know it could be more or less serious. I suggest if you haven't already to convince your mother to take you to see a doctor. For now I suggest doing what I did though. I slept as much as I could, ya know getting up every ten seconds to either puke (yeah eww) or dry heeves (the gagging but not throwing up) I suggest after about an HOUR maybe 30 minutes minimum (I waited less and threw it back up) to have a sip of water. And I was only able to get down about half a salteen cracker without feeling the need to uhh get... "sick" haha.
Umm here, I'll give you a link to my question I got a few good answers on what you can eat/drink and stuff like that. I do suggest though SLEEP!! And use a LOT of blankets, it always helps to sweat out whatever you have. I wouldn't take any medicine for something you don't know the problem to. I mean headaches and stuff yeah it's okay to take the medicine because you know what's wrong, but sickness like this, the medicing could be worse. I learned today in biology that if you take medicine and take it in the incorrect dosage or don't take it as instructed that it could make you less immune to what is hurting you and could be worse for you. But again, I'm not a doctor, I can not tell you what is wrong, all I can do is say SEE A DOCTOR!!
Here's the link to the question I had asked,
http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=402791
I hope this helps you out!! Still my biggest suggestions are SLEEP and SEE A DOCTOR ASAP!!

Me and my boyfriend had sex 3 times today. The first with a condom, and then the second, he started off without a condom (I don't think there was any pre-mature ejaculation) but then finished that with one on. Then the last time we did have a condom. And he only pulled out the first time. I just got finished having my period Saturday. So I was wondering is there a possibility that I could possibly get pregnant?

There is ALWAYS a possibility that you can get pregnant. No matter what you do as your birth control methods. If you are going to be having sex then not only should the guy be using a condom but you should be on some kind of birth control and it also takes up to a month for it to start working to its fullest potential!! It's completely possible and I suggest you take the EPT or something, wait a day or two then take a pregnancy test. I suggest next time you definitly have him wear a condom (trojan is a good choice) plus you be on some kind of birth control. But yeah, there is ALAWYS ALWAYS ALWAYS that chance that you can get pregnant, trust me, I have a few friends who have had really BIG pregnancy scares, even a few friends who have been pregnant a few times but had miscarriages (sp?) it's not a fun thing to go through. But your question was if there was a pregnancy possiblity and my answer is yes, take a test!

Do dogs have lips? Sorry but I've always wondered that...
♥Sammm

All animals have lips (that I know of), just on some animals (humans for example) they are much easier to see.

Is it true that if your period is abnormal .. like it is a period that you never expect it to come and it skips a few months .. that you won't be able to have a baby when you get olderI'm 15 and I started my period at March (9 months ago) And I haven't had it since July (5 months ago) And I know there isnt anything wrong with me because my friend is the same way and her doctor said there is nothing wrong with her. And I read articles about your period not getting regular until a year after. But my question is .. Does this mean I won't be able to have kids? Because I want them and I don't want that to happen!

No, I know lots of my friends that read this, but I'm not embarassed to say that I've had the same problem. My period is so unregular I've made my mom make me appointments with my doctor about all this. The only way you can't have kids is if you NEVER get your period. No matter how irregular it is you are still fine for now. I had gotten my period for the first time last March, didn't get it again until around July 4th weekend because I had it when we drove up to NY, and then I got it again once more in like the end of September and my doctor said it was perfectly fine. I know that you're asking if you can still have kids and if my doctor told me I was perfectly fine then I would assume that meant perfectly fine. Not having your period doesn't make you infertile (I know that's not the right word but it's the only way I can think of putting it, well if it's in the correct usage) I mean not having your period does mean that, but having an irregular period doens't mean you can't have kids. Your period can be irregular from 1-4 years. I don't know the exact thing, my doctor printed something out and gave it to my mom who gave it to me. Just a bunch of medical talk saying I was fine. So yeah, you should be fine too!!

ok i never herd this word before and i wanna know wat it is i probaly know wat it is jist use another word for it dont think im a big weirdo its jist that i never this word befo and i use anotha thing for it heres the word "pre-marital sex" what the heck does that mean

P.s. I know wat sex is DUH!!!!!!!! but not "pre- Martial"

Hahaha, I'm sorry, I couldn't help laughing.
I'm not trying to make fun of you, but do you know what marital means? It's just married in another tense. And I would hope you know what pre means... before. So before married sex, when you put them together, sex before marriage. I'm sorry that I'm uhhh, I guess belittling you could be the words I'm looking for, but this wan't a hard one all you have to do is break it up. Wow, no offesne but I'm guessing you're like 13. No biggy, sorry if I come across rudely :)

Is there a website for people in high school to get help with homework?

Well for math help you can go to www.purplemath.com

I'm not sure about other subjects, usually when I need help on homework I search google or askjeeves on how to do what I'm looking to do.

Hey, did anyone dry that new Dessert by Jessica Simpson? What lip gloss flavor tastes the best?

Hah, I actually was given some for my birthday! The perfume smells great but I'm not crazy about the taste. Though I did put on some of my friends Vanilla flavored lip gloss and in my opinion it tasted good. The sprays you kind of have to let sink in for a minute or so whereas the lip gloss, put it on and then taste! yum yum haha.

For english we have to get verses from songs from other people and try to figure out what we think the song is trying to say. So could anyone who wants to send me their favorite verse from their favorite song? Or just your favorite verse from any song you like? Thanks so much. I need them by tonight.♥

It's too hard for me to just choose a verse from this song, so here it is copied directly out of my AIM profile...
Kenny Chesney- Who You'd Be Today
Sunny days seem to hurt the most. I wear the pain like a heavy coat. I feel you everywhere I go. I see your smile, I see your face, I hear you laughin' in the rain. I still can't believe you're gone. It ain't fair: you died too young, Like the story that had just begun, But death tore the pages all away. God knows how I miss you, All the hell I've been through, Just knowin' no-one could take your place. An' sometimes I wonder, Who'd you be today? Would you see the world? Would you chase your dreams? Settle down with a family, I wonder what would you name your babies? Some days the sky's so blue, I feel like I can talk to you, An' I know it might sound crazy. It ain't fair: you died too young, Like the story that had just begun, But death tore the pages all away. God knows how I miss you, All the hell I've been through, Just knowin' no-one could take your place. An' sometimes I wonder, Who you'd be today? Today, today, today. Today, today, today. Sunny days seem to hurt the most. I wear the pain like a heavy coat. The only thing that gives me hope, is I know I'll see you again someday. Some day, some day, some day...

Here's another song that I just couldn't choose a verse out of-- It's Martina McBride's Concrete Angel. As you can probably see I am a HUGE country music fan!!
She walks to school with the lunch she packed
Nobody knows what she's holdin' back
Wearin' the same dress she wore yesterday
She hides the bruises with linen and lace

The teacher wonders but she doesn't ask
It's hard to see the pain behind the mask
Bearing the burden of a secret storm
Sometimes she wishes she was never born

Through the wind and the rain
She stands hard as a stone
In a world that she can't rise above
But her dreams give her wings
And she flies to a place where she's loved
Concrete angel

Somebody cries in the middle of the night
The neighbors hear, but they turn out the lights
A fragile soul caught in the hands of fate
When morning comes it'll be too late

[Repeat Chorus]

A statue stands in a shaded place
An angel girl with an upturned face
A name is written on a polished rock
A broken heart that the world forgot

[Repeat Chorus]

Please only answer this if you're a junior or senior.

There's a kid named Alex who used to sit alone. A couple of years ago I invited him to sit with our group. The middle of this year, he started sitting with our group in the halls (he had left). I tolerated him, until he started with his anti Christian BS. Now I don't know what to do.
I tried staring at him. He pulled my hair (I was sitting on the carpet because we eat in the halls during lunch. He was standing behind me.) and I flipped him over my shoulder. I pushed him on his stomach but accidentally caused his forehead to bang his head against the carpet.

Imagine this kid. He's a skinny, mid heighted bookworm. I felt bad about his head and apologized. He drives me insane though. He has THE NERDIEST voice ever and dresses like he's totally out of it. At least he's stopped wearing short shorts.

How can I nicely make him go away?

Well try your harderst to say it nicely, for me when I want to tell somebody to just leave me alone I get a huge attitude with them. I don't mean for it to happen, but when I just want them to bug off, well, it comes out that way!
Anyway, tell him nicely that you are Christian (or whatever religion you are) and that you don't appreciate him saying things like that.

I was and still am in the situation you are in. There is this one girl who I once felt bad for because she seemed like a loner so I talked to her, just once or twice. Now I see her EVERYDAY. She knows where my locker is, she knows where I stand in the mornings, where I go before 1st period, where I sit during basketball games, ect. It's just insane. I was once at my locker and I turned around, there she was, right in my face. I just wanted to be like BACK OF BIOTCH! It's just soooo annoying!!! So eventually when that happened once again I told her to please just leave me alone for a day because I needed my own space. She backed away for the day which was a Friday, the following Monday, THERE SHE WAS! I plan on talking to her again, but that's all you can do. Tell the person that you were trying to be nice that day but now they are too clingy and just too much for you and that you need a day or so to yourself. Also that you are religious, or even if you are not religious tell him that you don't care to hear about his antichrist crap. I mean I'm sure you might be able to control your attitude if you have one like I do. It's so hard for me to control my attitude, but I'm sure if I can do it, ANYONE can haha.
I hope I helped you a little. Sorry for going off on myself, sometime I feel like examples help, I don't know why, I just do! :)

when people say word what are they replacing ? what does it mean ? yes I know im kind of slow when it comes to these. I'll rate

It usually means yes, or I agree.

Dude, want to go to the movies today? Word. (yeah sure)

Man, that guy was HOT! Word (heck yeah he was)

You can say word to lots of things, but yeah, do those two examples help you any. You find out the way they mean it by the question or statement before hand.

What are some ways to calm down and relax? School is making me CRAZY. I'm extremely stressed out and I just feel like giving up. HELP PleaSE.

Well in one of my classes we got a worksheet that said 101 ways to cope with stress, I typed it up a while ago and posted it in my xanga, so I looked it up for you today and I copied it, so now I'll paste it here....

101 ways to cope with stress!!
. *Get up 15 minutes earlier* Prepare for the morning the night before* Aviod tight fitting clothes* Avoid relying on chemical aids* Set appointments ahead* Don't rely on your memory... write it down* Practice preventative maintenance* Make duplicate keys* Say no more often* Set priorities in your life* Avoid negative people* Use time wisely* Simplify meal times*Always make copies of important papers* Anticipate your needs* Repair anything that doesn't seem to work properly* Ask for help with jobs you dislike* Break large tasks into bite size portions* Look at problems as challenges* Look at challenges differently* Unclutter your life* Smile* Be prepaired for rain* Tickle a baby* Pet a friendly dog/cat* Don't know all the answers* Look for the silver lining* Say something nice to someone* Teach a kid to fly a kite* Walk in the rain* Schedule play time in everyday* Take a bubble bath* Be aware of the desicions you make* Belive in yourself* Stop saying negative things to yourself* Visualize yourself winning* Develop your sense of humor* Stop thinking tomorrow will be a better day* Have goals for yourself* Dance a jig* Say hello to a stranger* Ask a friend for a hug* Look up at the stars* Practice breathing slowly* Learn to whistle a tune* Read a poem* Listen to a symphony* Watch a ballet* Read a story curled up in bed* Do a brand new thing* Stop a bad habit* Buy yourself a flower* Take stock of your achievements* Find support from others* Ask someone to be your "vent-partner"* Do it today* Work at being cheerful and optomistic* Put safety first* Do everything in moderation* Pay attention to your appearance* Strive for excellence NOT perfection* Strecth your limits a little each day* Look at a work of art* Hum a jingle* Maintain your wieght* Plant a tree* Feed a bird* Practice grace under pressure* Stand up and stretch* Always have a plan "B"* Learn a doodle* Memorize a joke* Be responsible for your feelings* Learn to meet your own needs* Become a better listener* Know your limitations and let others know them too* Tell someone to have a good day in pig latin* Throw a paper airplane* Excercise everyday* Learn the words to a new song* Get to work early* Clean out one closet* Play patty-cake with a toddler* Go on a picnic* Take a different route to work* Leave work early (with permission)* Put an air freshener in your car* Watch a movie and eat some popcorn* Write a note to a far away friend* Go to a ball game and scream* Cook a meal and eat it by candlelight* Recognize the importance of unconditional love* Remember that stress is an attitude* Keep a journal* Practice a monster smile* Remember you always have options* Have a support network of people, place and things* Quit trying to "fix" other people* Get enough sleep* Talk less and listen more* Freely praise other people* P.S. Relax, take each day at a time.... you have the rest of your like to live.

Hope this helps and gives you some good stess relievers!!

Alot of people smoke weed. Even my boyfriend used to but i made him quit. Even my parents do. For some reason i dont like weed. Ive never really tried it. But knowing my parents do it makes me think bad about them. It makes me think why do they do it but they are supposed to set a good example. Most of my friends do it too. I guess im just a good girl. But my boyfriend tries to convince me that theres nothing wrong with it. And i never agree and i dont think its right. Its a drug and im ashamed of everyone that does it. I dont know why though. Is there somthing wrong with me? anything will help! but please dont leave me rude comments.

Love-KMR

Oh my gosh, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. You should be proud that you don't, stand up for what you believe in and don't back down, espcecially when it comes to breaking the law vs. following it. I've had friends that had the same opinion as you then that very night they state they'll never smoke they do smoke, they fall in love with it, become totally addicted, get caught with it, and get expelled from school. Do you want that to happen?!

I've had really good friends that have been killed by drugs, from over dosing, from having drugs slipped in their drinks, from driving after getting stoned, all sorts of things. It's not something your friends want to go through, having a good friend pass away really kills you emotionally!!!!

So I am proud that you are able to back down, peer pressure is a really hard thing to back away from, I think it's cool that you don't smoke. I have SO many friends that do drugs and I LOVE hanging around them because they're awesome people when they're not stoned and stuff, but would I ever do drugs? No! It's not my thing, plus my parents would kill me and I've had WAAAY too terrible experiences.

When you grow up and look back on this moment you'll be proud that you didn't follow the crowd and that you chose to stick with your gut and not do drugs. Don't let people pressure you into these things. I've experienced peer pressure, it's EXTREMELY hard to back away from it, I've gotten caught in it a few times, it's AWESOME if you can stick up for what you believe in, I'm proud and I'm sure others are too!

I want to walk into my babysitting job with the kds running up to me saying yay _____ here! How any tips? I'll rate you high for trying

Don't be too strict, but don't be too loose. When you are there, play with them, don't just sit there and watch movies or television. Do puzzles, play board games, and no matter how much you hate the particular board game, PLAY IT! If they want to play hide and seek then say yes, BUT set some boundaries. Stuff like that. Be friends with the kids, don't be their parents, they already have some of those. Have fun, if they have a fenced in yard then let them play outside, watch them of course, but let them have some fun. You are there to make sure no harm comes to them when their parents aren't home and if they do get hurt then you are there to make sure everything is okay in the end. So play, have fun, it's another chance for you to be a kid, and doesn't every teenager just want to go back to those days again?!

How can you stunt your growth? Please no smart comments or answers, I just want to kno.

coffee
ciggs (Though I do not think you should resort to this)
if you have arthritis of the back you will shrink

and umm, that's all I can think of at the moment.

can someone tell me how can i change my myspace password? thanks i will rate for all who try..

Well I've done it a few times, so let me just sign into myspace first to figure it out...

Go to your regular myspace home page and near Hello YOUR NAME, and your display picture it will say account settings, click that. The second option down is change password. Click that, enter your old password, and then what you want to change it to. But remember, you need at least one number and it can't be anything close to your display name.

does anybody know how to put spaces in their about me to space it out?

< BR > without the spaces
< p > without the spaces, or...

When you are typing just hit shift then enter, and it will automatically do it for you (at least it does it for me on certain sites)

In what solutions can osmosis occur out of these 3:

Salt Water
Grape Juice
Water

Ahhh it is soooo crazy, I usually am so unable to answer these biology questions but I've already finished osmosis. I know for a FACT regular water, I'm not positive about salt water (I missed the lesson and I only got a few of the notes from my friend Kenny) but I think salt water could be a solution.

If only one of those 3 is the answer then choose water, if not then yeah probably salt water too.

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