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So sats are tomorrow. Im a senior so tomorrow is a really important day for me. Im pretty much stressing out so much already. The thing is that a week ago my boyfriend and i have gotten into a huge fight. And i brought up the topic of if we should break up. So were st that stage where we arent broken up but doesnt feel like were together. I previously mentioned he sai i changed him like changed his smoking habit his cussing habit and his rebelling habit and mch more andthat now he wants to be himself. I do want him to be himself and i absolutely enforce my no smoking though and he understands this. But lately weve been not talking at all like just barely. Its so scary cause i should wory about sts right now but i also worry abput my relationhip. I asked him to meet with me the day after sats for us to talk about well our relationship and i think that how im fiving his so muh alone time andthat we barwly talk will result in us breaking up so im so damn scared. I thought that by givig him alone time hed have time to understna d himself and his feelings but i dont know because it migjt be doing the opposite and he might just think that oh we barley talk anyways and it doesnt even feel like a relationship so we should migjt as well break up because i have no more feelings for her anyways i cant evencontonie a conversation with her. Lately i dont know if he even cares abor my feeling sbecause hes been so blunt to the poit that i get hurt. I dont know maybe wa just mad at me for changing him or something like bad mood or mad idk. But i dont know what to do about how to just focus on my sats and not think about my bad relationship. And at the same time i want to have advice about what you think is going on in his mind. Please post the response about what to do with my relationship and what hes thinking tomorrow beccause education is way too imporant to me. But ratherpost the advixe on how to lower my stress level and how to calm myself sown and not worry abput my relationship and sats both at the same time. I really just need to worry about sats for now. Please. (link)
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I'll start with the SATs. You have to be prepared for things like this because sometimes tragic things will happen and then you have a test coming up. You won't always be able to skip it so you'll need to learn how to control your emotions and thoughts.
What I normally do when something is really on my mind and I can't seem to stop thinking about it is to write it all out. You get all your thoughts out of your head and onto paper.
You need to learn to put things in their proper places. Your relationship is after the test, so leave it there.
You don't want to fail something simply because of a boy. You're better than that. School is much more important.
As for your relationship, I'm really not sure what the outcome is going to be. I have no idea what's going on in his head. I don't know him at all. He treats you badly. Even when you get into a fight, he shouldn't just spout things out of his mouth that hurts you. I mean if you want to try to work it out, it's going to take effort, lots of effort between the two of you. Which means he has to be putting in a lot of effort as well.
Just don't over think this and start trying to come up with things that he could possibly be thinking of. It won't do you any good. So forget about him during your test, focus all your energy on that.
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I'm 12. My boyfriend is 16. He was my first time. Is that a form of stuatory rape? Could legal action be taken? My principal asked me if I've had my first time because I got in trouble. Could they get him in trouble? I don't want to get him in trouble.. :( HELP!! (link)
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Yeah, he definitely can be charged.
You can get in trouble just for having sex with anyone, even if the guy is your age. You're under the age of consent.
You might want to look into the legality issues before you do something next time.
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I am in high school and we are doing a swim unit. Boys and girls are both in the class. I am a very anxious and nervous person but I find myself not caring at all about being in a swimsuit in front of the class especially girls and yet I have some stretch marks? Why is this? How can this happen when I am usually anxious? I am a 15 year old boy by the way
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Well this certainly isn't a problem. Maybe you're just gaining self confidence and feeling better about yourself and more comfortable with yourself. That is my best guess.
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Hey, I am 18 years old female . I need advices on how to tell my mom to let go. My mom is over protective, crazy Dominican mom. I have tried to tell her that it is abt that time to let me experience the world on my own, but she doesn't understand she calls me all the time n doesn't let me go out w my friends, when I am in college she forces me to come home every weekend to stay at home. she doesn't even let me go outside to walk my dog on my own , I am a good person , I get A's at school dnt do drugs all I want to do is make my own mark I am going crazy she doesn't want me to have friends all all actually n I am starting to build up rage against her even tho I love her. Tried to get counseling she wouldn't come help ! (link)
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This is a hard situation to be in.
I do know a handful of parents who are still overprotective with their children even when they're adults. Your mom doesn't know her place. It's really hard for adult parents to adjust their role in your life, especially moms.
I think the best advice I can give you is to sit down and talk to her. Tell her that you are an adult attending college. You have friends, you want to hang out with them.
You can't really "make" her stop. You can't really make anyone stop doing anything unless it was illegal or something. So the most you can do is reason with her.
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Well, my best friend in the entire world is a guy. He is my everything. Yes, we've dated multiple time on and off for a while but we haven't dated for 7 months and we decided just to be friends. Well, he is a gentleman. He makes me laugh, he is so nice. He sits with me o my bus like i"m the only person her ever sits with and he is plainly awesome. He was my first kiss and it's really hard just to forget about that person. Anyways, his parents are very rude towards me and he dispises his parents for being so mean to me but my parents don't like his parents and his parents don't get along with my parents so I don't want to date him but we can only really hangout on the bus and he lives right next to me. Like 100 feet away from my house. Any ideas I could see him without getting in trouble? (link)
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Honestly, if you're under 18, they really can stop you from seeing him. It really sucks.
I mean your other option would be to sneak around and see him, but you could end up in trouble and they won't like his family even more.
You should talk to your parents. Let them know you understand that they have a problem with his parents and that you're not asking them to like them, but you want them to give their son a chance.
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This is my 16 year old sisters problem, and I need to give her some advice. All advice appreciated!
A week or so ago, my sister ended her 2 year relationship with her first boyfriend. They were both very sad about the breakup, but it was a case of "love him" not "in love with him" any way, ever since he has been texting her a lot, more than friends would. She doesn't want to get back together with him, but that's what he is suggesting. He's acting like they are still together, but they are just friends now.
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I actually had a similar situation when I was in high school.
The thing is, when you go through a break up, it's best to cut contact especially when you both need to move on.
They're not ready to be friends. I mean being friends also comes with being ok with they decide to date someone else. Maybe your sister might be ok with him dating someone else, but he sure won't be ok if she would.
So the best advice would be for them to stop talking. She doesn't have to be mean about it or anything, she just needs to tell him it's over and she needs to move on and so does he. If he starts begging or something, make it clear, then don't reply to him.
If she keeps talking to him, it's probably giving him the wrong idea. Like giving him hope that there still might be a chance. He's not accepting that it's over.
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i am 17 years old,and i am a girl.I am pahtetic cause i cannot do anthing right.There is nothing i want in this world except to die.I love my family but i just cant live in this world anymore...Please can someone help me. (link)
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You're not the only person who feels like this. There are many people who go through this and put themselves down.
You need to learn to work harder rather than keep putting yourself down and calling yourself pathetic.
Whatever problem you're having, it can be fixed. If it can't, then you'll learn to deal with it better rather than being upset about it.
Lots of people fail at things. But what makes them stronger and end up doing great things is that they didn't give up.
You love your family. You know it would hurt them if you died.
You need professional help. They will help you with your problems and they will help you learn to deal with them better.
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heyy...
i just have a couple of hours to meet my boyfriend..the thing is that i like him so much,i finally met someone like him,he's amazing ..so every time we have sex,it's like a routine,known positions all the time,its getting boring not just for him,for me too ..so i need something new,something creative and wild :3 something that's gonna blew his mind away... plzz help (link)
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Try to look into new positions, new places, things like that.
You can bring some other things into the bedroom. Sex toys are used in relationships as foreplay.
Spend some time doing lots of foreplay.
Also, guys are extremely visual. So give him a show.
You could also do the normal things in the bedroom, but just slow it down. It definitely gives you more bonding time.
Just google, and you'll find lots of new things to try.
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How do I know if he likes me? What would I say? How do I talk to him alone and sound smart if I do? Why is it so complicated? (link)
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It's only complicated if you make it complicated. You're just over thinking it.
As for knowing if he likes you, you won't ever know for sure until he tells you. Other than that, you'd just be guessing.
I don't know why you'd need to sound smart. You only have to be yourself. You don't want him liking someone you're not. You probably are smart and sound smart anyways. Just don't act ditzy.
If you want to tell him, that's up to you.
I'd suggest first hanging out with him with a group of friends. Like go bowling or something like that and invite him along. If that goes well, then get to know him some more.
If you feel confident, let him know that you like him.
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She's such a mystery !!!! i'm 17 and she's 15 ,we're having sex (sometimes unprotected sex) but i'm quite sure she's not pregnant , i'm absolutely sure...
anyways she pukes everyday!! if not puking, it's a headache! if it's not a headache it's a puke, and so on and so forth...
so pleaseeeeeeee if you can discover what the HELL is wrong with her you would be the smartest human being and my savior!
oh by the way (PS) , she had gastric in her stomach but that was treated and healed...
THANK YOU MY SAVIOR whoever finds out...
Hugs and High Fives to all answers
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None of us are doctors but I don't think this is "after sex effects", unless she is pregnant.
So either way, there is something extremely wrong with her. She's sick from something so she needs to see a doctor. It could just be the flu, but it also could be something serious. So make sure she sees a doctor.
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So my boyfriend has lost interested in me and i dont know what to do. Like he says our conversations are so repetitive and seems like our relationship hasnt been progressing but rather getting worse... And i dont know how to like revive his interest in me. Sometimes i try a lot to be all happy and talkative but he texts me back with short answers leading me to keep on asking random questions to keep the converaation going. What do i do to regain his interest in me?! D: help! We're on the verge of breaking up right now too partly because of this reason. I know some might tell me that its best to break up since he should be the one giving effort if he cares but idk i just want to stay with him so please give me advixe mostly about how to keep him rather than tell me to leave him. (link)
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I honestly don't think it's you. He's the one not trying. You can't make him want you.
So he told you that the conversations are repetitive, so you decided to change that. Now that you are changing, he's still not putting any effort into it.
I think you have done what you were supposed to do. But he's not doing his part, and that's the problem.
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Hi. I need some advide. ive been with my partner for 3 years but things have started getting bad as he saw on my phone i have been talking to my childs father. he sais he cant trust me and that we may have to brake up. i need to no if it is wrong to be friendly with my daughters father as there is nothing sexual involved? is he right to be so angry with me and treat me like i have cheated on him. or is he just being paranoid. would really appreciate your advice. thankyou (link)
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Your childs father is always going to be a part of your life. He needs to accept that.
I always say that an ex doesn't need to be a friend unless there is a child involved.
I don't think that you guys need to talk all the time or talk every day, but you guys need to be on good terms.
So you guys need to talk this out on what is and what is not acceptable in the relationship.
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My boyfriend and I have lived together now for about 6 months. We have been together for 4 years. I feel like has changed so much since we got together. He doesn't like the same things anymore, his attitude is different, it's like he's a different person. We can't hold a conversation now because he doesn't care about anything i do anymore, it seems.
He just did this thing where he searched through my facebook messages and found a conversation with an ex, about a year old. This conversation was my ex trying to get back together with me and me saying "i have a boyfriend, its not going to work". And my boyfriend freaked out. He wouldn't talk to me for like 8 hours. I always tell him that if there's something bothering him to please please talk to me. And he just sat in bed for 8 hours and wouldn't look at me, or talk to me or anything. I was about to leave all together because i thought he hated me. and finally at the last second he said something. He won't talk to me about stuff, for some reason he can't communicate when there's a problem. And communication is a huge relationship factor for me. He always says "ill start talking to you when there's a problem" but then he just never does. And I almost walked out because of it!
Last night he was telling me about how he's sooo unhappy because i annoy him. He said that the reason he's unhappy is becaue I leave my tooth floss out sometimes, i drank milk that he bought, i use the tv to watch what I want when i come home from work, and when we're driving together, i comment on his driving. Which to me are very miniscule things, not things to be depressed about. Plus, he has never mentioned them to me before. If he had said something, I wouldnt keep doing it, im not that kind of person.
And furthermore, its my apartment, i pay full rent and bills, he buys food occasionally when his parents give him money. He won't even go apply for food stamps even though we can barely survive on my income. I own the tv and im only home from work for like 3 hours before i go to bed so he has all day to watch tv. And he just learned how to drive my car, it's a stick. So i do comment on his driving, but only when im trying to help him or if he's doing something wrong. When he moved in, we agreed that I would go to work while he looks for a job and he will take care of the apartment (cleaning) in the meantime. Which he does hardly at all. when he "cleans" he just loads the dishwasher. which is great. But then I get home from a long day at work and I have to sweep, vaccum, wipe the counters down, take out the trash, clean the cats' literboxes. And I ask him to do more but he just doesnt.
Lastly, i have always been supportive and encourage him. He doesnt have a job and he gets depressed when he gets turned down for one. And every time, I say "dont worry, you'll get one eventually, stay positive" things like that. I am extremely supportive and wouldnt ever say anything to hurt him. He says that he is depressed, he lacks confidence, he doesnt know how to interact with people anymore, he can't sleep. And I support him through all of it, but I can only sit there and watch someone be unhappy and NOT try to change it for so long. Im the kind of person that if im unhappy, i find out whats making me unhappy and change it. He would rather just wallow in his misery and be a victim. Im so tired of being a mom saying "there there, it will be alright".
Maybe im being a little harsh, i want him to be happy. But equally important, I want to be happy. It's hard to sit here and watch someone you love become a totally different person.
Im just stuck and not sure what i should do :( (link)
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In my opinion, I just think you guys are too different.
He's getting annoyed over small things that are ok to be annoyed with, but he needs to move on from it to be able to be in a happy relationship with you.
It's good that you're supportive, but if he's not trying to change his situation, maybe you need to move on and be happy.
If you continue on with this relationship and he ends up finding a job and all that, would you be able to handle it if it happened again in the future? Possibly when you're married?
Right now I'm going to tell you to think about you and what you need. If he can't communicate with you, that is a huge problem. It's a bad relationship when there is no communication about what's going on.
You can't change his situation. You can't make his depression go away. This kind of thing takes a tole on friendships and relationships, it's hard for you. He needs to change this himself.
So if you're unhappy, and he's unhappy, maybe you guys need a break.
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So I've been "talking" to this guys for nearly a month now. He is the closest thing that I've had to a kinda sorta relationship. I am a 18 year old female in college. I've never dated, nor do I necessarily want to. Nearly a week ago he was over my dorm touching me, squeezing my ass, and we made out for a while. Then he started to left up my shirt and I said "WOAH" and he stopped. then for like the next hour he was playing the smack my ass game. Though a couple days later I asked him "are we like talking now? ". He tells me he's not looking for a girl friend, and ever since then he's been really awkward. I don't know what expression he got from me thinking that I WANTED HIM FOR A BOYFRIEND, but I digress. Basically how do I tell him I don't want to be his girlfriend but I would like to DO STUFF haha with him? (link)
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I think since you never made your intentions clear, he just assumed you were looking for a relationship.
So just straight up tell him that you don't want a relationship, you just really want to mess around.
It's better to be straightforward rather than beat around the bush.
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I want to die
So tel me , some painless option how i can die (link)
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On this site, we're not allowed to tell you ways to die.
Obviously, there is no painless way to die except when you're old and you pass in your sleep. But other than that, you're taking away your life, it's going to be painful.
Anyways, you need professional help. There are so many people who feel the same way you do, but have made it out alive.
They will help you find ways to deal with your problems. So go seek help.
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hii so my mom is allways yelling at me. And I think she is to over protective I can't go to my best friend for a weekend because she have brothers. I told her before that I won't play around like that because im not that sort of person. I try to talk to her but then she is just yelling again.... please help!! (link)
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I actually know some girls who weren't allowed to stay at friends houses who had brothers.
She probably trusts you, just not them.
I had some friends who I wasn't allowed to stay the night at their houses because their parents weren't ok with it because they had brothers. You'd be surprised how this isn't uncommon.
Anyways, the only thing you can do is talk to her. You can't make her change her mind. It's hard to reason with someone who just yells, but she is your mother and you can't exactly make her listen.
You could try writing her a note and explain your feelings and maybe have her talk to your friends parents.
She's just being a mom. Even when you think she's being unfair, you're going to have to respect her wishes.
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Can anyone please confirm that cutting works on relieving the pain?
How do you start, what's the easiest way?
Would it be better for me to just die?
How would i hide it?
I'm feeling really bad, and this is the only thing stopping me from suicide... i don't know what to do.
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You need professional help. None of us are even allowed to tell you how to hurt yourself or that you should die. It's our job to help you live.
Cutting or suicide won't solve your problems.
You're not the only one who feels like this. So you're not alone. You need to seek professional help. They will help you find better ways to deal with your problems rather than cutting or thinking suicide will solve your problems.
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Me n my husband had sex I took his sperm in my mouth will I be pregnant (link)
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No.
You can't get pregnant through your mouth, only your vagina.
You need to educate yourself more about sex.
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This is following up to my earlier question. The only reason i am suicidal is that i'm still hung up over my cousin's suicide a year ago. My whole family has moved on, this is where Hanna comes in, she's the only one that knows about it, and since my family made me bottle it all in for most of the year, she came in and knew something was wrong and listens to me. But now i'm in love with her for it, and she thinks i need professional help. If i'm not to go after her, i don't think i can handle being around her, she kind of took the role of my entire family. Is being les for her the problem here... how do i change? everyone just thinks it's plain wrong, it's just making me feel more down, making me want to leave here more. (link)
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You don't have to stop being you. That's the last thing in the world.
It's completely understandable that you fell for her. She was there for you, she cares about you. The people who are telling you that you are wrong for it, they're the ones that are wrong. They don't understand and you don't deserve to feel bad about it.
People grieve differently. You took your cousins death terribly and haven't been able to grieve and move on.
So I really think professional help will help you. There are professionals who specialize in exactly what you are going through.
If you need time away from her during this, do it. You will be able to confide in your therapist and won't have to keep it bottled up.
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I'm a girl, 17, set on suicide when i'm 19 (or 24, still haven't decided, and now there's this girl in my life, who i think i love, who i would consider living for, but i'm scared that going after her would just make me feel more suicidal. I never knew i was Les, and most people go against it, but Demi Lovato made me accept and mostly find who i am, and Hanna has made me feel wanted, loved and hates that i am suicidal. Hanna's the one i am in love with because she's the only one who's showed me love in a long time. I just need to know whether i should go on with my original plan, or stay and tell her how i feel, would it help me?
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Ok I'm gonna address two different things.
Firstly, your suicidal thoughts and plans. Obviously, many people go through this. You're not alone. You need to talk to someone about this. Like a counselor or therapist. I have no idea why you want to commit suicide. I don't know if it's simply because you are unhappy with life in general or if there is something specific going on. But, there are ways to get through whatever is going on and if it's a problem that can't be solved, you'll learn how to deal with problems that come into your life.
Secondly, you should not get into a relationship when you have things like this going on.
I recently gave advice to one girl who talked about how her boyfriend was her only reason to live. It's a terrible way to live.
You want to live for yourself, not for someone else. People come and go and if something went wrong with the two of you, you'd end up throwing in the towel and ultimately, she'll feel like she's the one to blame.
Also, she's knows that you're suicidal. You don't want her to get with you just for that reason. She might feel too afraid to break your heart and would be with you for the wrong reasons.
So the best thing to do is get help. She sounds like a great friend. I'm sure she'll support you along the way. Once you get better, maybe then you can pursue her. It's a nice thing to keep in mind.
Even if things just didn't work out between you guys, you might meet someone new. So keep that in mind.
Just please, go seek help and everything will gradually get better.
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