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Boy Help: My parents don't like his parents, his parents don't like my parents... what do we do?
Well, my best friend in the entire world is a guy. He is my everything. Yes, we've dated multiple time on and off for a while but we haven't dated for 7 months and we decided just to be friends. Well, he is a gentleman. He makes me laugh, he is so nice. He sits with me o my bus like i"m the only person her ever sits with and he is plainly awesome. He was my first kiss and it's really hard just to forget about that person. Anyways, his parents are very rude towards me and he dispises his parents for being so mean to me but my parents don't like his parents and his parents don't get along with my parents so I don't want to date him but we can only really hangout on the bus and he lives right next to me. Like 100 feet away from my house. Any ideas I could see him without getting in trouble?
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Honestly, if you're under 18, they really can stop you from seeing him. It really sucks.
I mean your other option would be to sneak around and see him, but you could end up in trouble and they won't like his family even more.
You should talk to your parents. Let them know you understand that they have a problem with his parents and that you're not asking them to like them, but you want them to give their son a chance.
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Here's my (pretty lame) idea. Ask your parents if you can invite him and his parents over for lunch/afternoon tea/ dinner and say it is important to you. When they come over (make sure your friend makes them come) talk to them. Say that you feel like your families need to bond more because I) you are neighbors and II) You and *male friend * and best friends. Just let them know that it is really hurting the both of you that there is so much hatred. Hope it works, sorry if it didn't help. <3
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I don't know your ages. If you both are under legal age and not adults yet, your parents get to have a say and set the rules for anything that occurs under their roof. It may not be fair, but they are only required by law to make sure your basic needs of clothing food and housing are taken care of. THere's so law that forces them to like your friends or their parents.
If you are college age and still at home, you can make decisions for yourself and they can not dictate who you date. But if you are living under their roof, adult or not, there are still the rules of the house...the house they pay the bills on. If they say this man is not allowed to enter the house, then that rule must be obeyed.
Since both sets of parents don't like each other, I think there is something up that isn't obvious to you. Perhaps since they're neighbors, they've had occasion to have disagreeances or fights with each other and both sets of people still hold grudges. It could be also be a dislike for peopple of another culture, or religion or some other such thing.
I can see parents not liking who their child is dating but the other set of parents too? Maybe there's a lot of information you left out so we have no clue whats really going on. With what you've told me, I can only say that it looks like you're stuck just being acquiantances with him while riding the bus. If you go to same school, college, then perhaps you will see each other there. Or if you work near each other you can find time to meet for lunch.
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