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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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16/F

This is prob. going to sound really nasty but,
when me and my boyfriend have sex on the floor
and im laying flat down on the floor when i get up after sex my pussy makes like a farting noise and it was SO embarrassing. And I mean there is like nothing I can do to stop itt.

Any advice? (link)
Sometimes during vaginal sex — or when a woman inserts something in her vagina — air gets pushed into the vagina. When the penis or another object is removed, the air is released, and it makes a noise, which is sometimes called a "queef" or a "vaginal fart." Sometimes air is also released even if nothing is inserted into the vagina.

"Queefs" are odorless and unpreventable. Never heard of queefing? That's no surprise. It seems to be one of those things no one ever talks about, even though it's common and normal.

REF:http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2005/if-20051007p385-noise.php


I have a question, on the from of my gum on the bottom right hand side my gum is swollen and i dont know why because it wasent swollen earlier at all and now it is i have a little black spot on in the tip of my gum to and i went to get my teeth cleaned like a month ago or a couple weeks ago and i had braces on and got them off like before i got my teeth cleaned and the dentist that cleaned them said that i am at risk of getting some kind of gum disease because i hadnt gotten them cleaned sense 2006 and i didnt know it had been that long and iam scared that im going to get that gum disease it starts with a P but i cant even spell it so what do i do? I really dont want to loose my teeth and i dont have enought money for implants and i dont even know if my insurance covers implants so please help? (link)
It is due to the lack of dental and oral hygiene that swollen gums occur. The swelling of the gums is not a disease in itself, however it can be a symptom of an underlying ailment. Swelling gums can occur due to gingivitis, periodontitis, infection in the oral cavity, lack of proper nourishment, allergies, leukemia. When gums are swollen, numerous symptoms can be observed like gums recede and the teeth appear longer, gums are red and there can be an accumulation of pus, gums become painful, teeth may become loose or shaky, there is an increase of interspaces between the teeth, and in a more inflamed condition, bleeding from the gums can occur.

REF:http://www.wtlabs.com/the-many-causes-of-swollen-gums-you-should-be-aware-of/


What does it mean to have a low white blood cell count. Is it leukemia or anemia??? or can it be just a condition and not a disease?? (link)

It is a symptom & not a disease.

A low white blood cell count usually is caused by one of the following:

* Viral infections that disrupt bone marrow function
* Congenital disorders characterized by diminished bone marrow function
* Cancer or other diseases that damage bone marrow
* Autoimmune disorders that destroy white blood cells or bone marrow cells
* Overwhelming infections that use up white blood cells faster than they can be produced
* Drugs that destroy white blood cells or damage bone marrow

Specific causes of low white blood cell count include:

* Allergy, especially severe allergic reactions
* Aplastic anemia
* Chemotherapy: Drug treatment uses chemicals to kill cancer cells
* Drugs, such as antibiotics, diuretics and prednisone
* HIV/AIDS
* Histoplasmosis
* Hypersplenism, a premature destruction of blood cells by the spleen
* Hyperthyroidism (overactive thyroid)
* Infectious diseases
* Kostmann's syndrome, a congenital disorder involving low neutrophil production
* Leukemia
* Lupus
* Myelodysplastic syndromes
* Myelofibrosis
* Myelokathexis, a congenital disorder involving failure of neutrophils to enter the bloodstream
* Other autoimmune disorders
* Other congenital disorders
* Parasitic diseases
* Radiation therapy
* Rheumatoid arthritis
* Vitamin deficiencies

REF: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/low-white-blood-cell-count/MY00162


My dad said he is getting a procedure done where they make an incision around the pubic area and run something up his artery to his heart to clean it or someting. What does that mean and is it dangerous?? (link)
I don't know for sure, but sounds like a cardiac catheterization of some sort. It cleans the crud
out of the arteries.

From what I have read on it risks are rare. There are always risks with surgerys of any kind, but this is one doctors do often and so they consider it low risk.

Try not to worry so much. After he has the procedure he will feel much better & will be
less likely to have a heart attack. Thats important!


I am wondering if you cum and a guy cum's inside of you can you still get pregnant? (link)
Anytime sperm (cum) enters the vagina, and there is no birth control used, the girl can get pregnant.
Anytime.


16/f me and my girlfriend have been going out for 10 months now. i love her and she loves me, but recently i met this girl 12/f and we hung out everyday this week. i cant stop thinking about her. she hugged me the otherday and i just melted away, now i cant stop thinking about that too! my gf met her too, we met her at the same time and she thinks shes cool.i dont understand why i cant stop thinking about someone who is 4 years younger then me and im not single!! what do you think i should do??? ps im sorry but i dont wanna tell my gf... thats kinda out of the question. thankssss (link)
This may help you decide. You are 16. Age of majority in most states. You don't have to be an adult to be charged for messing with a minor child.
The law applies to both male and female, regardless of sexual preference.

You could be just friends I suppose, but in that case you wouldn't worry about telling your girlfriend. :)


why do guys always ask girls to send them pictures of them? and what kind of pictures do they want?? (link)
Most likely if they have never seen what you look like, they are just curious. If they want any other kind of pictures say no. There are 2 or 3 kids in the news now being charged with child porn for sending nude or close to it pics via cell phones.


This is more a question for the ladies, but men are perfectly welcome to answer it too.

I'm a guy (obviously) and I've had long hair since I was about 17 or so (I'm 23 now). From a personal standpoint I like having long hair but I'm beginning to wonder if people see something different than what I really am when they look at me. This is especially true of the women I've dated. I seem to attract the type of women who are the complete opposite of me. Myself I'm fairly deep into the conservative side of things, I'm religious, etc... But my exes, who were attracted to guys with long hair, were almost my complete opposites on many views which eventually resulted in break-ups. I've been called a "hippie" and a few other things when I'm actually a very conservative soul.

So I guess my questions are... Do some women (possibly the ones that I would like to be with) take guys with long hair seriously? What is your first impression about the personality of a long haired guy? Do we all seem like flippant elf-boys on first glance?

I'm looking for honest opinions, not what you "THINK you'd think" but rather what you really do think if that makes any sense. And if you find this topic funny, feel free to laugh, as I am laughing right now when writing it. Also, sorry if this is in the wrong category, but I couldn't think of a better one, even the relationship category. (link)
I don't judge a guy because his hair is long.
However, I am 50 and from an era when most guys
had long hair.

Short hair has been the norm for a while now. Can't say that I think all guys with short hair are nerdy brainiacs either!

If you don't seem to be attracting the type of girl you want, try cutting your hair. Better yet, I have a plan for you. I can't take credit for the idea, its something my son-in-law does.

If your hair is long enough, I think it has to be 10 inches long, Yes, I just checked for you. Have it cut at a salon for locks of love.
http://www.locksoflove.org/
http://www.locksoflove.org/donate.html

This will let you have short hair for a while, you grow it out again to donate so its long for a while. Somewhere along the way you will hopefully find the girl of your dreams! Plus you help someone who needs a wig. Win win situation!

Good luck! :)


Can you own a business with only 2 years of college experience? (link)
You can own a business with absolutely no college
experience. If a bank or business loan place thinks you have an idea and a plan, they will loan you the money. :)

Some college classes on the subject wouldn't hurt though. They can be very helpful.


Are they legit? Is anybody or does anybody know a mystery shopper? Any websites that are legit? Any info. welcomed! (link)
This site has reliable links. I'm signed up on several. I was disappointed that they pay very little. Most not worth wasting the gas! But I hold out hope. :)

http://www.volition.com/mysteryUSA1.html


What does 'Let's Bone' mean? I assume it means let's f*ck? haha, i hear it in this one song all the time and i'm not entirely sure. (link)
You are right. Thats what it means.


We have been dating for 7 months, we are true and strong. We don't fight about stupid little things, we don't do drugs or drink or party like a normal teenager. We truly want to grow old together. We talk every chance we get, we never grow annoyed of each other, and we never get sick of hanging out. We have a promise to never break up and truly try and solve the problem. But since I'm a teenager, I feel immature, but I'm not. And I can sense that people think we wont last (adults).
Is it possible that we will one day be married, and have a happy ever after? (link)
Well it is always possible! To be honest it isn't real likely, but it does happen. Just enjoy your time together and see what happens. Don't worry about it, okay? :)


So I have veen talking to this guy and we are pretty much together but havent made if official. Well he up in disappeard for a week he finally called sayin he worked a lot the past week and that he found out he might be a daddy. The girl is like a month in a half pregnant which was before me and him so I am not gonna judge him for it. But this girl is only like 17 still in high school she told him she would get an abortion but he said if its his he dont want her to. She thinks that because shes pregnant and its supposed to be his they are gonna be together but he wants to be with me. He idea is for her to have it then try and get full custody because she doesnt really want it unless shes with him. How should I take this? (link)
Oh boy, that's really not a good spot to be in.
You know, I know its a new relationship and all that. I know you probably really like this guy too.
But I'm going to have to advise you to back off for a while.

He may be very sincere about wanting to be with you, but you know what? If he really wants a baby that bad, he is going to want to spend time with her while she is pregnant. It is an emotional time, even for guys. And in all honesty, he needs to be there to support her.

Nothing may happen between them, but since your relationship is so new, it will be very difficult for you to trust him, I think.

So my advice will be to maybe hold off a dating relationship until you see how this plays out.


I'm writing thriller and my characters have to break into a medical records room to steal their records before they get into the wrong hands.

The problem is I don't know a thing about how hospitals operate. I was wondering if anyone could explain to me how emergency room records are filed, and how one would go about acquiring them. And some of the difficulties they would have.

Any knowledge you have on the subject would be greatly appreciated. Thanks (link)
In the ER I worked in, any medical records needed by emergency room physicians were hand delivered or
returned by medical records personnel.

There are cameras and security people all over hospitals. It would be hard to get medical records.


13/female
Ok look yea I masterbate and stuff but is it safe/ok to do it before you get your first period? And also would it be ok if I had sex before I get my first period???!!???
Thanx!!
XOXO (link)
You can masturbate all you want. It is in no way harmful for you to do so.

I would not advise you to have sex at such a young age. Since you don't know when you might start your period, you could be ovulating and never even no it.
Pregnancy is a very likely outcome.

Please wait until you are mature enough to handle the emotional affects of having sex. You probably think you are old enough, but until you (and your partner) are responsible enough to handle the possibility of parenthood, on your own. without help from parents, I don't advise an active sex life. :)


I'm 17 and I've had sex for the first time about two months ago and I didn't bleed at all, one of my friends told me it might be because my "cherry" wasn't popped. Is this normal, even though it really hurt? Since then I've had sex two more times and still no bleeding, but it still hurts a lot upon penetration, is my boyfriend doing something wrong? Or should i not worry? (link)
It is possible your hymen was already broken the first time you had sex. Its not at all uncommon.
It could have broken for any variety of reasons years ago even. Nothing for you to worry about.
Blood and pain the first time isn't mandatory, LOL.
You are just fine. :)


This might be graphic, but what are some really good sex positions for girls? haha (link)
Well we don't give info on how to have sex on here.
I can give you a link though.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/sp_index.shtml


what is an orgasim (link)
Definition of Orgasm

Orgasm: The climax of coitus, consisting of a series of involuntary muscle contractions in the anus, lower pelvic muscles, and sexual organs, accompanied by a sudden release of endorphins providing a feeling of euphoria.

In the male, orgasm involves rapid rhythmic contractions of the prostate, urethra and the muscles at the base of the penis, resulting in the ejaculation of semen through the urethral opening of the penis. The process takes 3 to 10 seconds. It is possible to ejaculate without reaching orgasm, and to have an orgasm without ejaculation. After an orgasm, males have a refractory period occurs during which another orgasm cannot occur.

In the female, orgasm is preceded by moistening of the vaginal walls and enlargement of the clitoris. The clitoris moves inward under the clitoral hood. The vagina decreases in size by about a third. There are rhythmic contractions of the uterus, vagina and pelvic muscles. After orgasm, the clitoris emerges from under the clitoral hood and returns to normal size. Women do not have a refractory period during which they cannot have another orgasm.

The word orgasm comes from the Greek orgainein meaning to swell, as to swell with lust.

REF:http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=11783


okay well , i took 2 First Response at home pregnancy tests which both came out positive but i took a docotor urine test that came out negative. i took the home tests on thursday and i went to the doctor yeasterday and today i would be 3 weeks 2 days along...
My question is AM I PREGNANT ?!
I need to know !
I'm going crazy !
HELP ?! (link)
A doctors test is going to be the most reliable pregnancy test there is. However, false negatives
on urine tests can happen anywhere, especially if taken real early in a pregnancy.

If you want to ease your mind about it, and who wouldn't! Contact your doctor and request a blood
test instead of a urine test. Explain the false positives you had and your concern that the urine test given may have been wrong.

Keep in mind too that if you leave your home pregnancy test too long before checking it, this can also cause a false positive. Eventually, the urine will soak through the test, exposing the chemical strip that indicates pregnancy.


ok in the last msg i did i think i was ot clar enogh ......
ok how do i say this .....
ok i got it .....
im in the midle of an affair.....
i dnt no how to prepare for when HIS WIFE FINDS OUT ABOUT US.....
i mean shes not the loveing type.....
or at least the quite one....
there is trutfuly no love there....
hes just there for the baby ,,,,
in other words....
what they trully sy to each other ALL THE TIME is I HATE YOU ..... GET THE F**K AWAY FROM ME B***H ..........so i dnt know how to deal with it when her 200pound self comes to me about it.... i mean i know i have to own up to it ..... but then wahat ?
can some one just help ?
(link)
If this man loved you and cared for you he would have left his wife and made you his one and only. Since he hasn't it is fair to say he isn't going to leave his wife for you and he is just feeding your ego with BS. Oh, and getting some free sex on the side for himself. It is not in his best interests to tell you he loves his wife and has no intention of leaving her. What woman in her right mind would get involved with a married man if they all did that?

That being said, it is in YOUR best interest that his wife does not find out. Angry wives have been known to hurt people when their lives are being messed with. I for one do not blame them at all.
Your best bet to be safe is to end his affair and
steer clear of his wife. Very few people will sympathize with you. My advise when you see her 200 pound self coming to you is to run and leave town ASAP.




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