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Me and my boyfriend
We have been dating for 7 months, we are true and strong. We don't fight about stupid little things, we don't do drugs or drink or party like a normal teenager. We truly want to grow old together. We talk every chance we get, we never grow annoyed of each other, and we never get sick of hanging out. We have a promise to never break up and truly try and solve the problem. But since I'm a teenager, I feel immature, but I'm not. And I can sense that people think we wont last (adults).
Is it possible that we will one day be married, and have a happy ever after?
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of course there is a chance, if you guys truly love each other it will because true love lasts a life time!
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There is a big possiblity you could and there is a big possibiltity that you couldnt. It just depends. In high school peple change and find out who they really are, and you may change too. Then if you guys plan on going to college your probably not going to the same one. And other people will try to mess up your relationship. Your just going to have to deal with this.
So there are a lot of things against you here, but if you guys are truly in love and seriously mean what you say then you will find out in the end.
Its hard to tell now a lot of different things can happen. It sounds like you guys are really good though! So good luck and i hope you guys make it! =]
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Possible, and as long as you both fight equally for the relationship, its rather likely.
You have the right mindset. Hopefully you two think alike.
The most important realization in a relationship is that you both have to want it, work for it, and when necessary fight for it.
If you haven't had problems, you will. Trust me. I've known people to spend as much as 2 years in the "honeymoon phase". You can't KNOW you will last until you start pissing each other off. Its not until you do get each other's skin that you learn if you can deal with it, and if you still want to.
But if you keep your eyes on the goal, and slog your way through, its very possible.
Theres one other thing I'll warn you about. You both sound like good kids. That won't last forever. Everyone goes through "the party phase", and for a relationship that can be disruptive especially if you go through it at different times. Even if you put it off until your 40s, that just means mid life crises are that much more severe.
You will both change ALOT in the coming years. Its possible that you might grow apart, grow in ways that make you incompatible. Be prepared for that, and be honest with each other about problems. If you want it enough, theres usually some middle ground that can be found, or someone can learn to let something go.
Oh. Theres a last one. Sorry its long, I just get new ideas and keep going. Anyway, letting go.
This is a biggie. If you can learn to let things go, you can bridge just about any gap. My girlfriend and I have a few things that cause very regular tension between us. In some ways, we've had to learn to let things go, because of something about one of us that we can't figure out, or don't want to change. Sometimes, we can change ourselves to stop or start doing something the other needs us to do, other times, sometimes we change ourselves to be OK with something the other person does, or doesn't do, sometimes we meet in the middle somewhere.
If you and he learn to let things go, truly just accept it as reality and not let it bother you, you've got something truly and ridiculously strong. To love someone enough to accept a defect and have that defect be alright, because you love them, is a truly powerful bond.
You are immature, but you won't be forever and you've got a head start over most kids your age. If you truly want this, make sure he knows. Make sure you share how much you want it with each other, and make sure you let each other know when someone needs that flame fanned a bit.
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It IS possible that you two will one day married to each other, but have a happy-ever-after right after that? Well, I am sorry to say but . . . there's no nice way to put this . . . I'm sorry to say but that's just not going to happen just like that.
I don't say that you two will break up; no one could say that, to begin with. But we need to realize that real life's "happy-ever-after" is, oftentimes (again, oftentimes), not going to happen unless you are over 70 years old.
Oftentimes? Yes, only "oftentimes." Because exceptions exist, though very rare. Let's see if you are "potentially" within the exception:
--To love is to trust, and to trust is to doubt. Absolute trust doesn't exist, because that would be APATHY. Trust that your other half will be loyal to you, will not betray you; but Doubt about the person's wellness, realize that there are times when we say we're fine but in truth we are not. "Trust and Doubt" shortens the distance between the two of you and tightens your red string of love. You two must not be angry when the other person doubt you.
Do you and him trust each other? Do you two have doubt for each other? Do you feel angry when the other person doubt you?
--"Assume" is "Ass-u-me." When you "assume," you make an "ass out of you and me." Never assume anything about the other person. When in doubt, directly ask the person. Still doubt? Keep asking. Realize that "assumption" can lead to destruction.
Do you assume a lot? Does he assume something about you?
--"Sorry" is a very powerful word. When in fight, step back, swallow your anger, and just say "I'm sorry" in a WARM voice. This is call "Ad Misericordiam." You ignore the current argument, question, or situation, and appeal to the person's sympathy. Realize that in a relationship, it doesn't matter who wins in a fight, because, after all, if you two end up break up, you both just have lost. Besides, we usually don't think very clearly when angered, and may say things that we regret. Calm down, and discuss this later. If it's the other person's fault, he/she will realize it soon enough.
Does one of you have the will to step down in an argument and temporary be the one at fault? (NOTE: if the other person still not stop after ad misericordiam and begin to physically hurts you, then you are into some abusive relationship, get out of it ASAP [as soon as possible]).
--If you are aiming for a marriage, then which one is more important to each of you? Family or Work? Is religion important for you? Discuss it.
--Last but not least, do you and your other-important-half respect each other's parents? It doesn't matter if the parents are being mean, just respect them nevertheless, after all, you are going with their child, not them.
So, how was it? Do you think you are within the exception? Do you think you have what it takes to enjoy a happy-ever-after at the age of 30?
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It's a very small chance but yes. Sometimes that small chance is means more than that big number going against it. Don't worry what other people think. You guys a in love just be with each other and block everyone else out.
Good Luck!
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awww...that is so cute!! :) lol
k anyways, yeah I think you guys will definatly work out! You seem like the perfect couple!
And yeah, happily ever afters do happen.. :)
I wish the best of luck to both of you!!! :D <3
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Well it is always possible! To be honest it isn't real likely, but it does happen. Just enjoy your time together and see what happens. Don't worry about it, okay? :)
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