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the guy i like doesn't want to talk to me anymore becuse the last time i saw him i wasn't even acting like i like him{{ i was being shy}} well what should i do i mean i dont want our friendship to end i really like this guy. Should I call him or should i just wait and see if he'll unblock me?{{beucase i dont want to be one of those bugging chicks}}???

Call him... tell him u r shy... thats why u acted the way u did... im sure he'll understand & be relieved

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Well.. I'm not sure how to put this... last year before school ended.. I started liking this kid named Kevin. Well we dated.. and then decided we didnt know enough about each other to be together so we broke up. Then he said when he gets to know me better we will get back together. I've talked to Kevin ever since school ended and yesterday we hung out all day long.. and he really really likes me. and If i didnt have a boyfriend wed be together. I really like Kevin. My problem is. I have a boyfriend. And I like Kevin more then my own boyfriend. And I'm not sure how to break up with him. Without him knowing that I'm going to be with Kevin. :( Ahh man... I sound like a slut.

well u dont really sound like a slut... but like i say what goes around comes around... dont break up wit him for sum1 else... if u really dont wanna be wit him... well thats another story... break up wit him & have sum time for urself... make sure u wanna be wit this other guy... & u r ready to be in a relationship wit him before u get in one...

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okay i am on my sis computer again- > i go bac to school thusday and i really need help. I am about 5'4. I already know what i am going to wear. I am wearin dark blue jeans with no pockets in the back and a green shrirt that i got from WeT SeaL . I am getting my hair done tomoorw and i am getting it conrolled half of my head. My hair is madd curly. Ont eh frsit day of school should i wear my hair in a messy bun my hair down the curls or strightin my hair ..
please dont selate this i really need help

*I rate*
Nicky

str8ten ur hair... curly hair & a messy bun wont look as neat... if u str8ten it you'll look like u spent more time on it... which u did... you'll look neater... Literally

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Hey! I have a problem....okay..I told my best friend to tell this guy that I like him and now he is nervous to even talk to me...and now I feel the same way about him.....I'm confused! What do I do?

one of u is gonna have to break the ice... & since ur askin me this question... lol it should be u... dont worry... im sure you'll both feel a lot better when yall talk... if ur really that nervous think of sumthing funny & than share it wit him....

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My friend she has all new friends so never has time 4 me no more.well we would hang out more but we have 10 classes and we are not togather in any of them.And not only she has new friends so she never can see me also she has a b. friend ya i like here b. friend he is like a bro but i wish we could hang out more. what should i do?

the girl that needs info!
ally

ask her to go out on a Friday nite or whenever u know shes not busy... make sure its sumthing she'll enjoy that way she'll wanna go...

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i have lots of black heads on my nose..nd well i guess its like dry skin?...or maybe dry puss...nd wen the little white stuff sticks out from the skin in my nose...i pull it out wit tweazers!..nd well it leaves like wholes in my nose!..please help me!!..or if so..can u im me?!....princessmoe2o9

use a black head/ white head remover... it'll be near the tweezers in ur local drug store

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this is long but i'll give u the highest rateing just plz answer..ok i lived w/ my grandparents my
whole life untill my grandfather died and so now i'm liven w/ my aunt uncle and cousin.well i had to move in a diff house and go to a diff school where i didnt kno n e one. and this was just a few monthes ago.well my aunt and i have always had a really good relationship till i moved in here but a few things happened and she didnt trust me n e more.i have never had to do and house work in my life till i moved in here.now she exspects me to do chores every day..its really hard for me to do this and her daughter has done then her whole life and my aunt is always sayin how she does her chores and i dont and i feel really left out..u no i dont feel like part of the family.she knos this and that i fell that she treats her daughter better i tell her that all the time.she is always sayin how my cousin gets good grades and is a really good kid...i have no clue wat to say to her that will make her understand how i feel...plz help me..

awwww... first off u need to tell her that u dont wanna be compared to ne one else... tell her that shes messin up ur relationship by doin so... & you've lost a lot & ur whole atmosphere has changed... she needs to give u time to adjust... tell her that she may not find it unfair but u do... the whole her not trusting u... well im guessin ur under 18... people ur age are expected to rebel & mess up... no one is perfect... as long as u learn from ur mistakes u r ok... just cuz her daughter is sum sorta perfect goody good doesnt mean u have to be... everyone is different... she needs to accept that... & if she cant... than tuff... i knO its really hard for u... but try not to let it get to u... if u wanna ask me anything else... drop one in my inBox... or Feel free to IM me... I really hope things get better for you :)

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My friend smokes..and hes 13. Im trying to ask him to quit and i give him my point of view. Ive tried almost everything in the book..so dont say talk to him. i have.

take awai his cigs... & threaten to tell his parents... that will only work for so long tho... eventually u will have to tell his parents...

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(14/f) ok well.. i have this guy friend who used to be like my best friend but we havent talked in over a month and his name is steve. hes everything i ever wanted in a guy. we used to be a couple but then i broke up with him cause i thought i liked someone else more (this was in like early july) and now i dont know.. im really starting to fall for him. and i came right out and told him i still like him. and he didnt type anything back so i just said something totally random and he responded to that. but i know he heard me because later that night i said i shouldnt have said something earlier and he was like "oh was it that you still like me? because i already knew that". i dont think he likes me anymore because when he used to like me (way back in may) he used to act like he wanted to be my friend but ever since we broke up it seems like hes just being my friend cause he feels bad for me? so i wrote him and said "if you dont wanna be friends anymore dont lead me on, just come right out and say it" but he kept saying he does and stuff but i just dont know. so im working on making our friendship all good again but i just dont know its hard when i like him so much. and i dont wanna stop liking him in case he likes me too and i dont realize it. should i just come right out and ask him if there is ever gonna be a future for us and if not i need to know because i dont wanna waste my school year being stuck on you while there could be other guys.. im just so confused. sorry this is so long but i need some help and this is the only was i could describe it! muchos gracias in advance! -- christine

well let this be a lesson 2 every1 dont dump sum1 fo sum1 else... u will regret it... but ne way... yeah str8 up tell him how u feel... & ask him how he feels about you... he might say there is a chance cuz he doesnt want u to get over him... sum guys are like that... they dont like a girl... but they enjoy the fact that sum girl likes them... & they like to brag to their friends about it... so suppose he says there is a future... u stil shouldnt be all bout him... give other guys a chance... yeah u did make a mistake in the past... but we all do... u dont need to sit around & wait fo him to be ready... but u do need to learn from ur mistake...

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Hey friend is so sensitive and it pisses me off how shoudl i tell her to toughen up

i think u should let her knO that u think shes a lil sensitive.... ( tell her nicely u dont wanna hurt her feelings ) tell her how to boost her confidence... if she gets upset over sumthing that u think is stupid... explain to her y u think its stupid...

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this may be a little long sorry.
im a 13 year old girl.
okay ive been friends with this girl since i was really little her name is rachael she and my other friend brittany were my 2 best friends rachael has always been popular and me and brittany never were. this never was really a problem till recently when she started lying to us and saying she had chores when really she was with other friends and would never call us back or talk to us we tried telling her on the internet but she would get angry and block us so one time when she did this to me and brittany we knew her password so we were gonna get on her name and unblock ourselves well we got on her name and she was on talking to all her other friends even tho she had said she couldnt talk to anyone because she had to research something for her dad this really upset us so we started talking to her popular friends and they thought we were her so we asked all these guys out and one who was her ex and she hated said yes we also said things to make her look stupid like im scared of the dark she got really upset and told us she was going to call the cops, she never did. we called trying to apologize but the no one answered then she left for vacation she jsut got back and i have been trying to apologize but she just either hangs up or blocks me. i feel really bad and i know 2 wrongs dont make a right but i dont know how to get her to listen to me and now she is telling all her friends really mean things about me and making me look bad this upsets me and then i try explaining why i did it and she just wont listen. and tells me to *screw* off. im really sorry, how can i make her listen to me and restore my firendship?
~very bad friend

it doesnt sound like yall had much of a frienship to being wit... its not really like u ruined anything... i think she was just lookin for an excuse to not have to chill wit yall... its ok tho... try to talk to her and tell her how u feel... keep in mind tho... u CANT make her listen... u CANT change the way she feels... so dont waste too much energy on her... if shes moved on from yallz frienship than u cant really do much other than move on... tru friends are there fo life... they dont let stupid fights get between them

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hey.. my friend has a boyfriend but likes his best friend and her boyfriends best friend likes her to. she doesnt know what to do... then i kind of like her boyfriend and another guy... how should i go about this situation... shes asking me if she should dump her boyfriend... should i tell her how i feel? plz answer thanx!

hoenstly i think yall should all forget about who yall like... especially if u cant seem to figure out who to choose... cuz if thats the situation than u r gonna forget about who u r with whenever sum1 new comes along... u may not think this advice is too good... but trust me... as time goes by... you'll understand what i mean

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OK im the only gurl i swear in my 9th grade class that likes cars and i sumtimes get made fun of 4 it
should i find sumthin else to be interested in or dont kare wut they say?

Trust me u r not the only gurl... never try to change urself to make others like u... try to find sum other girls that like cars... if u cant chill wit sum boiz... cars r tiight... i wish i knew more about em... but ne way... keep doin wat ur doin...

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ive ben with this boy for exactly 16 months tomorrow. but we have a scewed up relationship and we've ben in and out of trouble with him and at the moment we;re not even aloud to talk.. ive seen him twice in the past week but I've ben to worried about his mom finding out and putting a restraining order on me to have fun. and now i think im starting to like my bestfriend. me and my bestfriend have a really good relationship and hes the truest friend i have. i dont know what to do? (sorry its so long)

well they say u should stay awai from people that get u into trouble... but its never nice to break up wit sum1 for sum1 else... what goes around comes around... & im pretty sure u arent gonna be too happy when it comes around to u... so yeah if u dont wanna be wit him dont... have sum time to urself... & make sure u really like this other guy & r ready to be in a relationship wit him before u get in one... dont break too many hearts... cuz im sure you'd feel terrible of urs got broken

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Ok me and my friend were at the school watching my boyfriend practice for football and after-ward they get changed so me and my friend were outside waiting for him and at my school its like a long path way and half way is the high school and then all the way down is the middle school and then theres like little tower things on the side and me and my friend were sitting against them and my friend is a lot bigger then me so I wouldn't be that notice-able..so my boyfriend walks by and I didn't notice it was him and my friend was like hey its your boyfriend ( no names used ) and he was walking with his friend and he doesn't like my friend so she was like hey its .... and he doesn't even look over at us he just like throws his hand behind him like waving and walks away...so I was like about to cry cause I thought he was gonna break-up with me and so after we was up there me and my friend go and walk up and I see him in his car and he waves to me like all friendly and stuff...so then we met our other friends and I tell them what happened and there all like talking about breaking-up with him or like telling him off and so I call him and I was like are you mad at me and hes like like all in a happy voice and I was like then why did you walk past me and ignor me and hes like what? when? and I was like when my friend said hey to you and hes like you were with her? and then he had to go so I told my friends and their like hes lying and I dunno who to belive!? please help! sorry its so long!! I'll rate you high just for reading it all!

- c o n f u e s s e d -

well maybe he didnt see you... or maybe he pretended not to see u cuz hes tryin to act all tiight or sumthing... sometimes people do that... usually cuz they are confused about what they want... whatever it is.. talk to him about it... tell him how it makes u feel... see how he reacts... if hes a good bf overall... dont let this get to u... but if hes not... well than u probably shouldnt be wit him... dont ever cry over a guy... there r plenty of fish in the sea...

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What have been some of the highlights of your freshmen, sophomore, and junior years of high school? I hafta write an article for the school paper on fun stuff coming up this year and i only have a couple of ideas for each level, definatly not enough for a big article :o/ And everyone i ask can't really come up with anything .. and its due on the 10th and i really cant come up with much. So do you have anything that stands out .. not smthn specific to your school but just like, things that were special during the year for your certain grade level (*so far i have:
freshmen: new school & ppl, 1st homecoming
sophomores: not being the littlest, drivers ed/behind the wheel
juniors: class rings, drive to school, prom)

thanks soooo so much!! =)
xOxO Jeanette
(Jeeeanettesays)

these are the things that happened to me so far in HS....

September 11th...
Serial Sniper...
Cicadas...

i know ur lookin for stuff that happens to an average person... & this stuff isnt so much like that... but u can probably do it like that... the events that have happened over the years... sumthing like that...

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Ok. For about one year I have randomly been getting itchey and getting red all over my body. I never knew why it happened, but it just completly goes away after a couple minutes.
About two weeks ago, I figured out that it happened whenever I got warm or angry, irritated, etc...
So I tryed going into my basement (the coldest place in my house) and laying on the cement. It goes away, but it comes back when I get warm or irritated again. I don't know what to do.

Go see a doctor... in the meantime chill in the basement

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nun of mi friendz r cheeleaders and i wanna b 1. idk if i should try out wut if they make fun of me or say its not like hott n stuff. wut do i do?? nd plz dont say dont care wut they think. my friendz r very open nd honest.

Do u really care about what they think... enuff to not try sumthing that u wanna do... if u dont do it... when u look baQ ur gonna be disappointed for not tryin sumthing cuz of what other people thought...

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alright well whenever i get upset i feel the need to cause myself pain. sometimes i do and sometimes i just cry. and i used to cut but i dont anymore and im never going to again so that will not be a way of hurting myself...but i want to know if there's anyway to control these feelings. i really dont want to end up hurting myself badly. but i get upset do easily...i dont know im just so confused.

You need to talk to sum1 about it... tell ur parents... they should take u to a specialist... cuz it sounds like u hold everything in... & when it comes out u wanna hurt urself... when sumthing or sum1 bothers u talk about it... think about why it bothers u so much & explain it to others...

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ok i really like this one guy but hes popular and im not exactly the most popular kid in school! but i really like him! wut could i do to make him notice me?

Go introduce urself to him... if u wanna be subtle about it... "accidently" bump into him... give him friendly smiles... if u look open & approachable people will approach u...

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