It's too soon to tell. Depression lasts longer than a few days. It's weeks and weeks. It goes beyond wanting to cry and being tired.

It really sounds like you're just sad, and no wonder! Your friend went behind your back and made decisions for you, and you're upset about that. I'd be upset too. I spent my fair share of my teens crying over boys :)

Get some sleep, take a little time to recuperate. Go get a pedicure with your besties, or have a sleepover. Anything to make yourself feel better and happier! Try to fall back into your regular life again.

If you notice that your mood doesn't lift after a few weeks, you should contact a doctor and see if you can get a referral to a psychiatrist for evaluation.

If you start to have suicidal thoughts, call a suicide hotline or go to the emergency room immediately.

Breasts do their own thing. They grow when and if they feel like it. At this point, they might not grow any further until you have children, unless you gain weight. It all depends on the rate that you mature at.

That said, I have a few friends who are lopsided. Many women are. It's really not a big deal, though. As far as guys are concerned, breasts are breasts, no matter whether they match or not.

If you're concerned about looking funny, you can get great bra inserts and just wear one. Look for ones made of silicone, because they feel just like the real thing.

There's a difference between him trying to control you and him trying to halt a self-destructive behaviour.

Bad things can happen to people who get too drunk. They can get raped. They can get arrested. They can get hurt. They can die from alcohol poisoning. What is worse; passing up a couple of drinks, or partying all night, making out with some guy and having to confess to your boyfriend the next day? You can't say it won't happen, because the possibility is always there.

Your boyfriend doesn't want to have to worry about these things, and really, he shouldn't have to. He's got big things on his mind right now, and a girlfriend who puts herself in risky situations is a really big concern to him.

My first instinct is to tell you that you should stop flat-out. I think that everyone feels like alcohol is necessary for teenage fun, but it really isn't. I didn't drink (other than a glass of wine at family dinners) until I was 18 and in university, and the drinking age where I live is 19. My friends and I had great parties with no fuel other than crazy amounts of sugar. However, I guess depending on your friends it might not be an option to maintain your social life and cut out partying.

Maybe instead of a "he wants, I want" situation, you should work together to come up with a common solution, a set of boundaries for you to stay within. Some examples:

- you won't have more than 2 drinks per night
- you won't get drunk
- you'll call him whenever you're partying
- you won't get in a car with a drunk person behind the wheel
- you will always have at least one friend looking after you

That sort of thing. Then he can rest a little easier, and you don't have to give up your social life. Thing is, you do have to abide by those rules once you get them sorted out. No betraying his trust!

You need to have a talk with him about boundaries.

It's one thing to be smacked during consensual sex. It's another to be smacked during a conversation. He needs to know that he can only hit you when you have asked him to, because that's the only time when you enjoy it. I really don't see where his reasoning came from. There was no sexual context for what happened.

Be firm, and set consequences. For instance, my fiance knows that if he lays a hand on me, I'm out the door with the cops on speed dial.

Chances are that he's not abusive. He's probably just a confused boy with no sense of timing.

If you've been eating little and not eating enough to gain weight, it's because your body has adjusted your metabolism to live on what you're eating. Normally, you'd need about 1500 calories a day to live. If you feed it 500, then eventually your metabolism will adjust to it and 500 will be the new amount you need to live. That's why you stop losing weight. If you're not eating very much, then exercising more will not help you get over the plateau!

This is going to sound totally counter-intuitive, so bear with me. Eat more for a day. Eat 1500 calories, or 2000.

Why? Because this resets your metabolism. It goes, "Okay, so I'm not starving anymore" and begins to live on that larger amount again.

I'm on a very low calorie diet right now, and this is what I have to do. I graph my weight loss, and you can see the decrease in speed before I have a splurge day. Once I do, I begin to drop weight again. It works :)

This happens to everyone, I think.

Hit up a store with a really good makeup counter where they do things like makeovers. Tell them what's going on, and they can show you the right product, the right colour and the right technique to fix it. They can even demonstrate on you right there to show you how it will look.

Unfortunately, you need to be a registered user in order to report abuse. The link is in the bottom left hand toolbar under "Miscellaneous".

I did check out the question to see if I should report it on your behalf or not, and I don't believe that the advice was offensive enough to warrant reporting. You have asked this question several times in the past and been given good advice. When you ask questions over and over again, people get impatient because it blocks the flow of other questions. Yes, she was a little snippy, but it is understandable.

Good luck :)

What do you do?

First, you look inside your own head. Find your own weaknesses. Find out why you feel the need to hurt someone else so deeply. Find out what makes you so insecure that you need to make someone else's life miserable.

Then you go to see a counselor, or you talk to your mom, write in your journal or talk to a really good friend. Try and work it out. Someone's been mean to you in the past and you want to get back at them? Think about what's changed since then, and how you'd only be stooping to their level and lower if you were to retaliate. Think of better ways to deal with the feelings you're having. Feel satisfied with yourself for being the bigger person and not allowing petty differences to turn you into someone else.

I'm going to share a little something about my grade school days, for your entertainment and consideration.

In Grade 5, I was a chubby kid, but not that fat. I wore glasses, had a bad haircut and loved to read, hated sports because I was uncoordinated. I had a weird laugh and trouble controlling my temper. I was a prime bullying target. I was placed in a full-time enrichment class, so everyone in the class was really, really smart. Like, genius level. I'd dealt with bullies before, but knowing that they were dumber than I was helped. When their only abuse is "You're stupid", it's easy to blow it off.

These kids were something different from anything I'd ever dealt with before. They could get into your head, find your weaknesses and exploit them like nothing else. I was given the nickname "Obese Chipmunk" by the boys in the class because I was chubby and laughed weird. They found ways to work it into school assignments (presentations in front of the class, etc), they harassed me on the bus. I ended up with an eating disorder which I still have to this day. I was miserable. By the time I was 11 years old, I was having suicidal thoughts and hoarding food in my room.

Fortunately, I got out of that class after Grade 6. I had few brushes with bullies after that point, but I still bear the scars from it.

Do I hate the people who did this to me? No! In fact, I had some of them as Facebook friends. I have seen them in public places and smiled and reminisced about old times. I'm able to let things go now, because all that it does if you don't is eat you from the inside. What good does it do to blame everyone else for my misfortunes? None, because I can't turn the tables if someone else holds all the cards.

You need to learn to forgive and forget. Forgive the person who did this to you. Remember that everyone makes mistakes. They may not see the error of their ways now, but later in life it will come back to haunt them, one way or another. They may be upset at how awful they were. They may have to deal with people shunning them because they never grew out of their attitude. Look with pity on a person who plays mind games, but don't become them.

Don't have sex with any of them. In fact, don't have sex at all until you've got your mind sorted out.

Your ex is your ex. You're not dating him, so he doesn't have access to you anymore as anything more than an acquaintance. He can't be possessive, because he gave you up (or you gave him up). You are not any man's possession, and certainly not his. Your friends are right to be upset with you; if you put yourself in this position, it's a sure path to heartbreak and misery, and they're going to have to be there with you despite their warnings. Your ex can't handle you saying no to him? Good riddance to bad rubbish, I say. He's not worth the air that he breathes if he treats you like that.

Don't have sex with the two guys. They're 'expecting' to have sex with you? You can't say no? I'll do it for you, right here, right now. No. No no, no no no no no NO. They're not dating you. They clearly don't respect you. They think you're an object, and you allowing them to believe that makes you into one. They're looking for an easy thing, and they're finding it in you.

Remember that you're a human being. You deserve to be loved, respected and treated well. If a man wants to have sex with you, he should be putting in some effort, not just "Hey let's have sex". He should care about you. You're not there to take care of mens' sexual urges. That's what their hands are for.

You feel that if you say no, then you are less desirable as a person. In fact, it's the opposite. If you say yes to everyone, then you end up being thought of as the doormat, the girl with low self esteem, the one who is too dumb to say no. If you try to please everyone, then you end up pleasing nobody. Please yourself!

I would suggest that you seek counselling to deal with the whole 'no' issue. If you're in high school or college, your guidance counselor can help you. You need to learn to view yourself as a valuable human being who deserves an input when it comes to life decisions. They can really help with that, and find the reasons behind what you do.

You can be sure because engineers have put tons of time into designing a structure that doesn't have weak points. If the tunnel were to collapse, it would cost millions in damage, not to mention putting the lives of animals and people at risk.

Glass can be very strong. Don't worry!

To be honest, I'm not sure, not being a personal friend of his. I did a little looking into it.

They have a producer in common, and they do come from the same time period, so it is possible. The only other reference I came across was from Uncyclopedia, which really isn't a good source of information ;)

They're not about to delete the entire site because one person doesn't think it's fit for the entire population of the earth to view. Whether the content is appropriate or not, they have a right to maintain it, so long as no laws are being broken.

Your best bet is to pretend it doesn't exist. It's not like anyone forces you to visit it!

I'm not going to give you hints on how to hide your imperfections.

I will tell you this:

I am only 22 years old, but I have a network of stretch marks like a map of the New York subway system. I have a giant scar from where I hurt myself figure skating as a child. I'm at least 100 lbs overweight. My chest is large, but it's certainly not perky and never will be. I also get breakouts in odd places. All told, I'm an incredibly imperfect human being.

I also have a wonderful fiance who loves to see me naked, in spite of all this and many more flaws.

A man who loves you will love you not just in spite of, but because of your imperfections. He probably loves each and every scar on your body, because it's a little part of what makes you physically you.

If you were a little older, I'd suggest having your boyfriend take a couple of black-and-white naked pictures of you. It did wonders for me. Maybe you could try in your bathing suit? It helps to see yourself in someone else's eyes.

I can guarantee that if you were to be naked in front of him with the lights on, he won't be thinking "EEW SHE HAS A PIMPLE!". He'll be thinking about how lucky he is to be with such a beautiful woman. You'll see it in his eyes.

You can't do that, at least not legally. It violates free speech laws, which we can't really do just because someone has taken offense. Have you been on the rest of the internet? Trolling and trash talk make up about 90% of internet activity. Just don't go on the site. You don't have to read the content; that's the beauty of the internet. Most websites have a disclaimer posted saying that they are not responsible for comments by users.

However, if someone has done something like posting your real personal information, photographs and the like, or if they're doing something illegal (i.e. drug sales, child pornography, etc) you can contact your local police station. Many police departments have an internet crimes division, or links to one in a larger city.

It all depends on the library, whether they hire people for pay or not. One library near me had enough student volunteers so that they didn't need to hire people. The one I worked at wasn't near a high school, and it was huge, so they needed people to do paid shelving and sorting.

One option is to get into volunteering, and that can get you into a paid position.

Your sister made the decision to have a child she can't afford to maintain, not you. You have done more than you could ever have been expected to just in taking on her daughter at all. You certainly shouldn't have been driving an hour in order to provide free babysitting services. That's your gas, your money spent in maintaining the car.

Your sister needs to understand that you babysitting is not a right, it's a huge favour. She's not entitled to your assistance. You didn't become a SAHM so you could take care of someone else's family. You became a SAHM to take care of your own family, your own child. Let her know that you have other commitments to your family despite your child going to school, and that you can't take on more responsibility. If she raises a stink, remind her that you are by no means responsible for her child.

This is a layered issue.

First, you need to stop letting the pup control you! She should be eating out of a bowl, not your hand (except for treats). She should be sleeping on her own, quietly. Don't let her tell you what she's going to do!

She needs to learn a command to stop barking. With my dog, we used the word "NOISE!" which we would say loudly back at him when he started barking. Eventually, he learned that he can't just make noise for the heck of it. If you let her bark until she stops, that's fine, but to let her bark for an hour then go and pick her up tells her that it's a) fine to bark when she wants something and b) that it will work every time, so keep barking! Whatever you do, don't give in, because it really confuses the puppy.

Your pup will learn to be alone eventually. She will probably look to the older dog for companionship and leadership. Just don't let her own you, and you'll be fine :)

I don't have my ears gauged, but I did want to when I was around your age. My parents wouldn't allow me to do it.

Sure, it's your body, and technically your choice. However, as your parents, they can choose to withdraw certain privileges until you choose to remove the tapers. Things like being allowed to hang out with friends, or having a cell phone or computer access. That's how my parents countered my "my body, my choice" argument. This can continue past the age of 18, should you choose to live at home past that point, so being an adult has nothing to do with it.

Why should they not want you to do it? Because it's permanent past a certain point. You actually need to get corrective surgery to close up the gaping hole in your ear, which you might not want past the age of say, 25. It's expensive and it's painful to get corrected, and your ears are really ugly once you take out the gauges.

I wanted to gauge my ears, and my parents said no. I was a mature A student with a part time job, volunteer work and athletic involvement. I thought I knew it all, and I didn't understand why my parents would be so stubborn. A few years later and I'm thanking them for it, because it would have been a decision I'd be regretting now. I'm 22, just getting to a point where I'll be applying for professional jobs. I don't want to be thinking about dress code issues.

There are a ton of ways to make your teens memorable. Try taking up photography, sketching, writing, or heck, get a few extra piercings! Altering your body permanently is a big decision, and not one you want to make in your early teens, mature or otherwise.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but genital herpes symptoms can appear as soon as 2-12 days after exposure. I recommend that you head to a doctor ASAP to find out if you are infected, and refrain from having sex with anyone until you find out. If you are positive, make sure that you tell any partners that you have had since that one so that they can get tested as well.

Source:

http://www.health.state.ny.us/diseases/communicable/herpes/fact_sheet.htm

It's one thing when you're with a guy for a while, then he joins the military. You've already got a base for a relationship, and that gives you a certain degree of commitment.

With a relationship like the one you're talking about, it requires diving into a lot of commitment right away. It means a lot of trust and a lot of time and effort, right off the bat.

If you haven't been together for very long, he may be uncomfortable with the idea of you putting so much of yourself into such a new relationship. That level of commitment on your end means that he feels a need to reciprocate.

Your best bet would be to back down a little bit and gauge where things are. Communicate through e-mails or letters. Develop your relationship a little before diving head first into a serious one. It will help him to feel more comfortable, and you to feel less neglected.

Relationships with military guys are always difficult. That you're willing to wait for him and to put your life on hold should speak volumes to him. Stick it out, but from a bit more of a distance, and see where it ends up.

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In my last 8 years with Advicenators, I've gone from honours student to failing out of university (and getting back on top again!), from single to married, from tenant to homeowner.

Until lately, I have been struggling with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and OCD, which had basically ruined my life and taken just about everything from me. I'm thankful every day for every experience I've had because of this ordeal, because it's helped to make me who I am today. Things like that really make you appreciate what you do have. Now that I'm back in work and school and starting to become myself again, I couldn't be happier. I credit Advicenators with saving my life back when I was a teenager, which is a big part of why I'm still here.

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