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Hello, i took a Morning after pill the day after i had unprotected sex which was about 3 weeks ago, well i got the normal symptons such as spotting and bleeding, however that did stop..
But i keep feeling fatigue in me, like constantly i don't feel ill or nauseous or anything its just that and sometimes i get abdominal pains. Why am i still getting these?
And how long can your period be delayed for? normally i would be getting signs that my period is going to come around this time and nothing has happened? the more i think about it the more i stress, because the person i had sex with is not my boyfriend we were seeing each other and that..
I'm thinking to do a pregnancy test tomorrow, however a lot of girls said that their period was delayed by 2 weeks or something, im really scared i don't want to be pregnant.
My fatigue comes and goes, are these symptoms normal since its been 3 weeks since i took the pill!? please im really confused.. by the way im 19.
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Those are signs of pregnancy, but I can't say for sure, no one can..except for a doctor.
Also, stress delays your period as well so don't stress out.
When I had a pregnancy scare, I had abdominal pains and always felt tired, but I ended up getting my period the day after I took the test.
So you're most likely fine and just freaking yourself out because you haven't gotten your period.
Take the test tomorrow to ease your mind.
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I am a 13 year old female and I like a guy in my grade and I feel like he likes me back. But I mostly like another guy in my grade who is dating someone. I'm scared that my minor crush is going to ask me out so should I go out with my minor crush or should I wait til my main crush becomes single again and then see if he likes me? (link)
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My advice for you would be to take your time. Figure out your feelings.
I mean if you get with the guy you only kinda like, will your crush for the other guy go away? If it doesn't, then you're just gonna be breaking some hearts. You'll be with a guy that you kinda like and then dreaming about being with someone else.
So just know who you want. I know it's hard to like more than one person, it makes everything complicated. Before he asks you out, make sure you know that you only like him.
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Tomorrow I'm going to the movies with my boyfriend and a couple of his friends. Well, they're both male.. I don't have a problem with it, but I just don't want to feel left out or something. I don't have anyone to invite, either... What should I do? (link)
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If he invited you, he probably knows that you'll have a good time and you won't be feeling left out.
I've gone to the movies or out bowling and stuff with my boyfriend and his friends, I haven't felt left out.
Plus, it's just the movies, you're just gonna be sitting there eating popcorn and watching something.
If you're still really worried, talk to your boyfriend. Let him know you're a little nervous about going because you're afraid you're going to feel left out. Hopefully then he'll assure you that you won't be.
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it's a question from my friend. she has a 'MASSIVE MASSIVE CRUSH' on a guy........she never liked any guy like this before...... he is not that handsome or exotic etc etc............... but he is very fine gentle man, who knows his moral values............ he is smart and an achiever.............. he goes to a different school and lives far away.......she met him twice and saw him thrice......... my friend approached him through his cell phone.............. and found out that he is not interest in her or any other girl 'AT ALL' he wants to focus on life ,, studies career and his public speaking talent (now that's a nerdy thought)she didn't mention her feelings to him but she still sensed the attitude........ .............. she is still stupid enough to like him the same way................. she doesn't even know the reason behind this 'true love'(that's what she calls it) herself.............. i told her to stop liking him.................. but her answer shuts my mouth, which is "I can't control my feelings" ....................... she is in big big need.......... how to stop this crush?? (is my side of the question) and how to get him?? (is her side of the question)............ your advice is badly needed. detailed answer would be appreciated. i am waiting anxiously.......
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Well it is true that she can't control her feelings, but she can control her actions and help herself move on. It will take time though. So you can't expect her to just give it all up and let him go, it's going to take a little while.
You can't make anyone like you back. If you could, then love wouldn't be very special. If he's not interested in dating, then she needs to respect his decision. He's smart to decide to wait to date and focus on his life and career. It wouldn't be right for her to try to get in the way just to try to make him feel the same way as she does.
So the way to move on is to not keep in contact with him. If they're talking, texting, messaging each other online, they should stop. At least for the time being so that she could move on. You can't stop liking someone when you're talking to them a lot.
She needs to keep herself preoccupied. She needs to find new things to try to do and focus on herself.
What you can do for her as a friend is just be there for her. It sounds like she's stubborn and doesn't want to let him go. In the end, she'll end up hurt so your job is to be a good friend and be supportive when she needs you.
She might just have to learn the hard way.
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So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months. We didn't do the normal dating thing like most people.
We immediately hit it off almost like love at first sight (which I never believed in before him). We spent almost every single day together and both went out of our way to see the other.
About month 2 I lost my virginity to him at 18.
Half way through month 3 we moved in together to a beautiful apartment in a luxury complex after saving up (we both worked full time).
We've been living together ever since and I think we're both happier then ever before.
However I lost my job a month ago after being laid off. Ever since I've been searching every day for hours and hours for a new job. Luckily my father saved up about 3k for me and so I had that to fall on.
From there things got kind of complicated for me.
When I got the $3,000 my boyfriend was too happy about it. I told him I was getting a new phone but I traded in my old phone so I got my new phone for FREE. But then he wanted a new phone too. The problem is once he got a new phone the cost added up because he chose a $300 phone, the deductible was $100 and he chose a $100 worth of accessories ($500).I paid for all of it with the savings money to make him happy.
From there he kept wanting to do things that cost money and I paid a few bills with it and less then two weeks later we're down to $1600. I still have to pay rent which is $754.
We do have his income too but I feel like now he just wants to use all of my money from my Dad and that we're going to wind up not having any left. Then again though I've always been very paranoid about my money because I didn't have much as a kid. Before I had the savings money he paid for my car payment ($315) and my car insurance ($160) as well as more than half the rent ($400 since the full rent is $754) and groceries ($150) so I feel like I don't have a right to ask him to not use my money and he still plans on paying for my car payment and whatever else I can't pay until I get a job.
We're also having problems in bed or I should say I am. When we wants to have sex it's all about him. We've been having sex for months now and it still hurts every time for me. I've yet to have an orgasm but he always gets off. I'm starting to feel like it's my problem because most of the time I don't enjoy it at all and I don't know why. We've tried different positions and that didn't really help for me. He refuses to buy lube for me because he doesn't think that's the problem.
Other than those two things he's really the sweetest and most attractive guy I've been with. He's been very patient with me not having a job even though he works 50+ hours and very considerate of everything else. He does a lot to try and make me happy (like spontaneous day trips and going out to eat to nice places).
He's always telling me he wants to marry me and calling me his "wife" and sends me sweet little messages all day long like "you're my whole world." or "I love you more than anything, I will never leave you baby (link)
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I can't say I know too much about the money situation. That's tough, and you obviously don't want to use all the money your father left for you. Explain to your boyfriend that you only want to use the money for necessities, not for going out or for "wants". Do if for the things you actually need like food and rent.
As for sex, it's selfish of him not to buy lube or even to just try it for you. You need to sit down and talk to him about that as well. Sex is a part of a relationship and if you're not happy with it, it will cause problems. Also, a lot of girls have orgasms during foreplay rather than during actual sex. So spend more time with foreplay and see if that helps.
I'm 19 and I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I still don't feel ready to get married any time soon. Everybody is different though. If some little voice in the back of your head is asking if you're too young or he's not the one, then you definitely need to wait. You don't want to jump into that when you still have doubts. Also, since you lost your job, getting engaged now wouldn't be that smart.
You guys haven't been together for very long. You're still getting to know more and more about each other. You guys jumped in really fast and skipped the whole dating stage and you're already living together.
You guys still have some serious things to work on before you guys decide to get engaged. He definitely could be the one for you, but just be careful and know what you're doing. I'd say wait awhile before thinking about getting married any time soon. If he is the one, you don't need to be in a rush.
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OK, I am talking to this guy, but he doesn't live in the same country as me. He is like 3 years older than me. He plans on moving to the US, and he is like the only person that likes me. But, should I keep my hopes up about him? No rude reply's please. (link)
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I think you should keep your options open. It's fine to like him, but there is a good chance you won't be seeing him for a long time. So don't just limit yourself to a guy who lives in a different country just because he's the only guy that likes you.
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There is this guy I like and I think he likes me too but I have doubts sometimes. He started talking to me first. He always comes around me and talks to me. He asks me lots of questions about myself like where I work or what I'm doing on the weekends etc. Sometimes we joke and tease each other. He touches me a lot like on my arms or my shoulder or my back which I heard was a sign that a guy could like you. He calls me doll all the time which I think is a compliment. Sometimes he will even come sit next to me really close and talk to me. He told when is birthday was and then on the day of I said happy birthday he got all happy and said you remembered! So I think he likes me. But he hasnt asked me out yet or for my number. I'm not sure what to do. Should I wait or is there anything I could do to show I'm interested. I dont want to do anything to scare him off or mess things up. Could you please help? (link)
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Well he's definitely showing signs that he's interested in you. Either that or he's just a really friendly guy.
He does sound like a genuinely nice guy though and seems to care about you.
I think you should start making even more of an effort to talk to him. Even a little bit more flirty. If he seems to be reciprocating and still interested, that's good. You could even make plans with friends, guys and girls, and invite him along. Maybe go bowling or something and see if he'd like to go. If he does, then he's most likely interested.
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Hi everyone. I'm thirteen, and I have been struggling with suicidal thoughts and self-harm on and off for a long time now. I really want to stop, but nothing seems to work.
I cut because it relieves stress, I like the sight of blood, and it's a way to punish myself for being stupid. I feel like it's the only thing keeping me from suicide.
Speaking of suicide, I think about that a lot. But it is only a thought now, and I haven't acted on it yet.
I have two counselors and do not like either of them. I have been trying to convince my mom to let me try something else or see a different counselor because they aren't helping. But she always says it is helping and I just don't realize it. (No, that isn't true. I don't like them and they do not help me!!)
I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to or someone to understand me. The only person who is actually helping is my girlfriend. Not my counselors or anyone else.
The other thing that concerns me is how to hide the scars . . . are there any other ways to hide them other than wearing a sweatshirt all the time? I tried using bracelets and concealer, but those don't cover them up well enough.
I guess what I'm asking is, what else can I try to stop myself from cutting and also stop thinking about suicide? And how can I cover up the scars?
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I'm glad you're actually seeking help. You should sit down and have a talk with your mom. Don't beg or cry or anything, just be simple and real and explain that you really believe they aren't helping you make any progress and you really want to try someone new.
You won't stop thinking about suicide or cutting without professional help so you need to make sure you get it.
As for trying to keep it in control for yourself in the mean time, here are some of my suggestions..
-Exercise. Any kind of exercise you enjoy. Dance, bike rides, running, go the gym, sports, anything. It releases stress better than cutting ever will and on top of that, it's good for you.
-I don't know if you're creative or like art. But it's a good way to express your feelings. Drawing, ceramics, painting, ect.
-Write in a journal. It helps to get it all out and you start feeling better rather than keeping it inside and taking it out on yourself.
-Make yourself as comfortable as possible. Maybe take a warm bath with bubbles, listen to nice music, give yourself a mani/pedi, give yourself a facial, things like that.
-Take a new hobby.
-Go out with friends.
-Keep your hands busy.
-Plan activities during your most difficult time of the day.
-When you get sad, make yourself some treats, get into bed and watch some shows.
-Remind yourself that you don't want scars.
Just remember that cutting is impulsive. You'll only be wanting to do it in short bursts of time. Also, you're in control. Remember that.
Ice cubes help as an alternative to cutting.
I don't really know any way to cover up the scars though. Possibly foundation? I'd invest in some scar remover. It helps with scars that aren't very deep.
Just make sure you talk to your mom.
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Hi guys . I am 13 and in 8th grade. Okay first off, I have a big friend problem. I have been friends with these two girls, lets just call them Alice and Nicole, roe five yrs. in 6th grade I started hanging out with these two other girls, lets call them Eva and Lauren, and it was fun. In 7 grade something happened with my older sis and I told Alice and Nicole. Nicole told one girl and she told well EVERYONE. I had a breakdown, started going to the school counsels office during lunch and hadn't touched my phone for two weeks when lauren and Eva approached me again(but this time they werent pushing for details) ( they wanted me to keep on hanging out with them but i wanted to stay away from everyone)They said if I didn't want to talk about it it's fine and we bonded. Nicole had apologized a zillion time in that two weeks, and said that some girls saw us talking in hushed voices and said they would tell her crush she liked if she did not spill. I forgave her eventually, but it was never the same. Okay also with Eva and lauren is a girl named Mary. She was new last year and we became friends. This year it seems like lauren has made friends with this mean nasty girl named Sophie. So I want to know who should I be friends with. I know this sounds like middle school drama, BUTNIT IS NOT.I was thinking about killing myself this year cause I felt so alone. Nicole and Alice don't get me anymore and I think Mary would be a good friend but I don't really know her and my parents are always off on buisness trips. Lauren just makes me jealous so that would not work and Eva would not either cause i do not think she thinks of me as a bff. I feel SOOO alone. I am dwelling up all my problems in myself. It is like no one loves you. No one understands you. I wonder if I kill myself people will finally notice me. (link)
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Ok well committing suicide won't solve your problems. Before I get into who you should be friends with, I'm gonna address your suicidal thoughts.
It's hard to feel alone. It's hard when your parents aren't around as much as you'd like them to be. But when you're feeling so alone that no one loves you and it drives you to the point of considering suicide, you need professional help.
I'm going to advise you to talk to a counselor or therapist. They are trained to help people with problems like you. It's their job and what they chose to do for a living. They will help you find solutions to your problems and find better ways to deal with your problems rather than thinking the only way is suicide.
As for who you should be friends with, that's completely up to you and your own judgement. This is middle school drama. Gossiping and such, it's all dumb drama. If Nicole and Alice don't get you anymore, then you guys just drifted apart and that's life. Throughout your middle school and high school years you will be making and losing lots of friends, just stay with the right ones.
Why does Lauren make you jealous? If she's just not a good person to be around and wouldn't be a good friend, then that makes sense on why you would not like to be friends with her. If it's just your own jealousy, then that's something you need to work on yourself.
I don't think it matters if Eva sees you as a BFF. If she treats you like a good friend, is supportive, respects you and all that, then why not be her friend?
Obviously don't be friends with Sophie if she's mean. If you think Mary would be a good friend then get to know her more.
Overall, just meet new people. You don't need to stick with the same people all the time. You don't need them all to be your best friends. You just need true friends and none of this middle school/high school drama.
So go seek professional help and meet new people.
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What is the fastest easiest least painful way to commit suicide? Please don't sit here and tell me not to.. just answer my question. (link)
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On this site, we're not allowed to tell you how to kill yourself. Our job is to help you live and work through your problems.
Besides that, every way you try to commit suicide will be extremely painful. I mean you're taking away life, you're going to be in pain, none of it would be easy. I mean unless you are elderly and pass away in your sleep, it's gonna hurt a lot.
So, you're not going to get your answer on this site. We're not even allowed to give that kind of advice.
The only advice I can give you is to seek professional help. There is also a suicide hotline number 1-800-273-8255 if you're in the US. If not, just look up wherever you live and you'll find it.
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Well he wears dark glasses an it's kind of creepy but I know when he's looking. He's also lied about little things, so it makes me question a lot of things in general. An with the porn, I've sent pictures, many of them, he says he's used them a couple time but still watches the porn. I also said to let's watch it together but he's never made the effort to do so. I told him it'd make me feel better about it maybe an I want HIM to make the effort of saying let's watch it together so I know he at least cares how I feel about it. (link)
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Guys are extremely visual when it comes to sex.
Girls like romance. That's why we're different and don't care for porn as much as guys do.
I think you just need to have a sit down conversation with him. Let him know how you feel without pointing fingers at him for being in the wrong.
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Hello :} im sorry if this is long. okay so there is this guy(His name is Andre, one of my guy friends knows him...) and this all started when i read a love story and i pictured what the guy and the girl in the story would look like. so i went to school the next day and i noticed the guy in my dream looked just like Andre and ever since then i see him everywhere. at my locker, in the halls, passing classes in the line for the bus, on the bus EVERYWHERE(at my school the girls and guys have to split the gym and he's on the boys side and when the guys had to share the gym with the girls in groups...i was in his group)so i notice that whenever im on the bus and im talking to my friends in the corner of my eye i can see him look my way(im not sure if he's looking at me though :/ )and when i was coming out of the change room i saw him and his friend outside of my change room(which is weird because his is on the other side of the gym closer to the door)and he was looking at me and smiling. since i didnt know if he was smiling at me or if he was smiling and looked at me i just looked away. And i went to a restaurant and got a fortune cookie and it said "a distant romance will look more promising"....ya i kind of got freaked out. and i also went to this physic(i was at niagara falls and it looked interesting....dont judge)and asked her about my love life. she said that i have feelings for someone but i will become more open about it and soon tell them out of guilt...now i dont know what to do.(i saw him twice today by the way) AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... PLEASE HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO
-Lucy
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I don't know if he likes you. I don't believe in physics and such so I don't think it has anything to do with it, in my own personal opinion. Same with someone being in your dreams.
Anyways, you never know, maybe it's a sign. But you should just talk to him. You don't want to think too into it and never make a move and just think that just because he looked at you means he likes you. Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't, but you'll find out once you start talking to him.
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I'm 14, and a girl. So last year I came on this website and I was looking at the "Recent Popular Questions" and I saw a question asking "do I have this disorder?" Me, being nosy as I am clicked on it and it said the symptoms of depersonilization disorder which I only have one( feeling like life is a dream)which is normal but I read if u think too much about it u eventually believe you have it. My grandmother and I have touched on this subject and she got me a counselor. I'm really shy so I don't want to go to a counselor but anyways, I've had this disorder on my mind for the past 10 months and I've been really worried I'm going to get it because it doesn't sound like fun to have at all. I want to live my life, not worry my life away and btw I have ocd(which really sucks) and I have gone some days without worrying about this..I'm just really scared I'm going to get it, how can I forget about tht disorder?? Help is much appreciated(: (link)
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This whole thing is in your head.
You can't get a disorder just because you think about it, that's not how it works. It's just a trick that messes with your head.
As for forgetting about it, educate yourself more on the subject. You need to learn more about it because you're going to be one of the people who believe everything you hear. You don't want that because it'll do what it's doing to you right now.
Also, seeing a counselor would be good for you. I'm sure your counselor will have some good advice for you for your situation. They're more educated in these subjects and they are there to help you.
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hey. since recently my friend and her bf got in a fight over his new kik account over fall break. then on monday he didn`t speak to her at all. on tuesday he waved at her and they talked a little about the fight but then he had to go to class. later that night he unfollowed her on instagram and he liked a few of her pics. he hasnt returned her texts though. how can she save them both please help. (link)
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It doesn't sound like he wants to fix the relationship. A relationship takes two. If only one of them is trying, the relationship obviously won't work.
He's not being mature about the situation. It's understandable for some people to want space after a fight but he should have let her know that's what he wanted. Not just straight up ignore her.
So the next time she see's him, they need to talk about what they do next. See if he's interested at all in fixing the problems and working it out. He needs to let her know if he needs time to figure things out. He can't just ignore her like that, that's not what a good boyfriend does.
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I play club volleyball and I am trying to decide if I should also play basketball. It would really help me out but I don't know if I like basketball or not? (link)
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You'll never know if you like something until you try it.
So give it a try. It's always nice to try new things. Maybe you'll end up loving it.
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So I use to date this guy we'll call him L but then he got too needy and clingy so I broke up with him and started dating this other guy named K. Now K was equally needy and clingy in his own way but for some reason I didn't mind I could take it and when he talks about sweet stuff I get all sorts of butterflies yet when L talked about the same exact stuff I would get annoyed and tell him to just stop. I don't get it why do you think that is? (link)
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There could be different reasons. I'm thinking it's either because you just like your current boyfriend more or that his clingyness and neediness is different than your ex.
Everybody has different flaws. Some people will be clingy in different areas that you might be able to handle rather than in another certain area.
For example, say your ex needed you for everything. You could find that annoying after awhile. And then maybe your current boyfriend is just over affectionate or something and you can handle that.
Some people just clash. Their personalities don't go well together no matter how much they like each other.
I also think there is a difference between needy and clingy. Clingy isn't as bad and needy but it still does raise red flags.
I see needy and someone who needs them for everything. I mean it's nice to be needed sometimes but when they need you for everything, that's when it becomes a problem. I see clingy as always wanting to be around them, touching them, snuggling, ect. Like whenever they have the chance, they'll be touching you, even if it's just holding hands or something. They like to be with the person more than normal.
Both are very annoying, but as long as he knows his boundaries and isn't that annoying, supports you, and also has a life outside of your relationship, you're good.
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ok im 13 and in 8th grade and I found out a guy likes me I figured it out on my own but even my friends say they can tell too im scared hes going to ask me out 1 because I don't like him that way and 2 cuz like last week me and my friend made a deal thr next guy who asks us out we have to say yes and cant break up with them until a week has passed then on facebook my best guy friend who is also friends with the guy had messaged me asking me would I ever go out with him and I said why then he said just asking then I said idk then we stopped chatting so should I forget about the deal or should I go along with the deal ? (link)
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No, don't go along with the deal.
Relationships shouldn't be a game at all. Playing with peoples feelings like that is wrong. You're just going to end up hurting him and that's really mean.
So don't go along with the deal. If he asks you out, just tell him you only see him as a friend or something. Just don't date someone you don't like. It's not right to play with someones feelings like that.
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14/F. OK, So I have liked this guy for a few weeks now, (we are in Marching band together, he in band, I in Color Guard)and my friends (who are in band with us, so they have seen us around each other A LOT) have been telling me they think he likes me back, and that we seem to be In love. I'm slowly starting to believe he likes me back. So we had a competition yesterday(We didn't get to ride together on the bus) then guard had to separate from band to do warm ups. Then we performed and had to go back to the buses and change into a polo and jeans. I did that, and I was kind of upset cause I missed a family member who passes away a few years ago. He saw me cry and kept looking at me, out of concern (two of my friends where comforting me at dinner away from the group) my friend (who was one of the friends comforting me, 'K')said he seemed concerned more than a friend normally would. We all went to the stands to watch other groups, he sat next to me. My friend (another guy band freshman 'J') wanted to braid my hair but I said maybe later (I then put my hair in pigtails) 'J' kept touching my hair in a teasing way, causing me to squeak/giggle, and then I felt my crush do the same to me a few times and played it off like he didn't do it. He and I were sitting VERY close together, (so we could hear each other over the band, and some other reason maybe? idk) and we were laughing and talking and sharing music. I got the feeling he really enjoyed my company. Then I had to get up and run with someone to the bathroom before awards (we have a strict buddy-system policy) and when I got back 'J' was in my spot, knowing it would piss me off. I tried getting him out of my spot and my crush started to help me, then he told me to quickly get in the spot on the other side of him. I did. Then again we where sitting very close. It got cold, (he did this to one of our friends, so I asked him in an ok way)and asked him if I could have a hug. He did so right away. I don't remember if this happened before or after that hug but 'K' told me that when he put his jacket on, he did the cliché, "yawn" arm thing, and almost put his arm around me, but chickened out or something. I don't remember why he did this, but he hugged me with his right arm, and started rubbing circles on my back and then out his arm back to his side. I leaned on him a few times. Right before awards he was kind of leaning into my space, and his fingers tapped on my knees softly. When we go ton the bus he was sitting with one of my friends in the band (a senior, 'E') and I was texting 'E' and randomly my crush asks me during texts saying "Exactly, so who do you have a crush on but are to afraid to ask out?" and I find out he forced it out of a friend. But he doesn't know it's him (Thankfully!) and started pestering me about it, my friend 'K' who was sitting in front of him started scolding him for pestering me. Later she told me: I asked him why he wanted to know so badly and he said "Cause I li-" but cut himself off. Also that at practices he's usually really focused as talking to everyone, but when guard comes down to the field (including me) he becomes awkward and less focused and stares at me, and that he stares at me all the time. and he likes when I squeak high-pitched (I do that when I'm scared)and has tickled me, squeezed my waist etc.(all appropriate. also I've started noticing he stares, and band members have come up to me an asked if I like him because we both seem to like each other) Does he like me?! and when we got back to our school he was kind of teasing/possibly-flirting with me. Does it sound like he likes me?! are what my friend's say true? Does it sound like he likes me? (btw both of us are freshman) Please help, and should I try to, do something about it, my friend gave me to the middle of winter season to do something about it, or she'll take matters into her own hands. (Keep in mind he is not a very touchy person.) (link)
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It sounds like he likes you or is at least interested in you. I mean unless he's just a really friendly guy.
If your friend asked him if he liked you and said just as a friend it could be that he's too shy to admit it, he only sees you as a friend, or he just doesn't want to become more than friends with you even if he does have feelings for you.
So I think you should make a move. Or if you're brave enough, just ask him if he likes you. You can say that your friends have been bringing it up to you and you were wondering if it's true. If he says no, or only as a friend, then just accept it.
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So we used to have like lots of eye contact and then recently, I feel that our eye contact has lessened and he's purposely avoiding eye contact but I also haven't really been seeing him around. Today, I went to my other acquaintance who was sitting at a table and when I went there, everyone around looked at me and after a while, because I was talking to her about matters then no one looked and he kind of looked to the left and did not look at the group at all. He did not look back at all the whole time I was there and he only looked back to the group when I left :( Does he still feel attracted to me? (link)
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When someone looks at you a lot, it normally means they are attracted to you or curious about you.
If this is the only thing that he does, then the attraction probably is not strong enough for him to make a move. Or he's just simply curious.
You didn't give enough detail as to if you talk to him, if he's a friend or if you just never talk to him and you just look at him.
You might want to try talking to him.
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I've been with my boyfriend for 2 YEARS, he cannot get over my sexual past. I've lied and kept things from him to avoid hurting him and making him feel worse, but it just made everything worse. Now he doesn't trust me. Whenever I tell him something he always questions it. He asks me if I'm telling him the truth. I'm not going to lie to him or keep anything from him anymore because I see that it just hurts him worse than the truth could. I know that lying is wrong and it's bad, but I didn't have malicious intentions. I feel horrible that I've made him lose his trust for me. I'm trying quite hard to gain it back. But anyways, everyday he drills me with questions about my past. It's starting to really upset me. It hurts to talk about my past because I'm so very ashamed of what I did and I'm very regretful, but I talk about it for him. It's starting to upset me because that's all we really talk about lately. We aren't the same couple we used to be and I miss that. Now we fight and argue and I don't want to lose him. I can't. I love him so much and I know that he loves me too. I could never break up with him, he's too special in my heart to do that. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't want him to feel upset, extremely sad, angry, jealous, hurt, and inferior anymore. He's the absolute best of them all, that's a fact. So how can I or we fix his problems? ACTUALLY, I had a relation with a guy who used to tortured me a lot mentally and physically and i loosed my virginity with him,he forced me to do that, its just 1 time. then i broke the relationship. after a year i met with my current boyfriend in online.afer somedays he proposed me and i agreed. but i lied to him about my some information ,and my past ,that i don't had my relation in my past and i am virgin. because i afraid to lose him,because he is a nice guy and also very conservative.all was good i revealed other wrong info about my life and he okey with that, but i don't tell him about my past.2 month ago ,he noticed my facebook accout and saw some open wall conversation with my ex boyfriend. but this total conversation was more than 3years earlier when i am in my past relation. so after seeing this my current boyfriend call a guy(my ex's friend) and know all the details and also some wrong details. he told that i had a abortion but it is a big lie!!! but my boyfriend can't trust me anymore. i try to regain his trust but he always doubt me. and that guy some time called him and tell nonsense things about me. but this is not true.i love my boyfriend very much.and he think that i used him , and he feel he gets dirty to do sex with me. we'hv do it 2times.and called me sl*t. i feel terrible with all this matter, and feel very guilty.SOME time he wants to break the relation but i don't want to do that . PLEASE suggest me. I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND AND WANT TO MARRY HIM. I AM TOTALLY LOYAL WITH HIM. he can't accept my past. his problem is not that i lied him but his actual problem is i am not a virgin, he want a virgin girl to marry. (link)
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So you lied and made a few mistakes, he can't keep holding it against you.
I don't understand why he would want to marry a virgin if he's already had sex with you. That defeats the whole purpose of marrying a virgin anyways. Even if you didn't have sex with your ex boyfriend, you still would not be a virgin because you had sex with your current boyfriend.
You keep saying he can't accept your past. I know you love him. But he doesn't know how to treat a woman. He doesn't have respect for you and you were forced into sex before. None of that was your fault and he's blaming you for something you couldn't stop. It's wrong. He is wrong. You should never ever be with a man who calls you names, especially a slut. He's becoming verbally abusive towards you and you need to leave him.
Could you actually see yourself marrying him? You're seeing his true side right now. Would you be able to live with how he is treating you for the rest of your life? You'll be miserable. You'll be very unhappy.
You should no longer have to feel guilty or ashamed. He won't stop fighting with you. He calls you names and does not treat you right. Leave him and find someone else who deserves your love.
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