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Friend`s boyfriend
hey. since recently my friend and her bf got in a fight over his new kik account over fall break. then on monday he didn`t speak to her at all. on tuesday he waved at her and they talked a little about the fight but then he had to go to class. later that night he unfollowed her on instagram and he liked a few of her pics. he hasnt returned her texts though. how can she save them both please help.
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If I was that friend of yours I wouldn't bother saving the relationship. She has tried to talk to him and if he doesn't want to talk to her than there's nothing more that she can do.
For a relationship to work two people need to want to make it work. If one person doesn't than there's no point in continuing it.
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It doesn't sound like he wants to fix the relationship. A relationship takes two. If only one of them is trying, the relationship obviously won't work.
He's not being mature about the situation. It's understandable for some people to want space after a fight but he should have let her know that's what he wanted. Not just straight up ignore her.
So the next time she see's him, they need to talk about what they do next. See if he's interested at all in fixing the problems and working it out. He needs to let her know if he needs time to figure things out. He can't just ignore her like that, that's not what a good boyfriend does.
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Maybe she can't. It depends on how serious the original fight was, how strong their relationship was, and whether both of them are interested in reconciling.
Sometimes, it can seem like a couple is totally tight and happy together, when in reality one or both of them is looking for a way out. If that's the case here - if the bf has lost interest in the relationship - then there's nothing left to "save".
If this is just a rough patch, though, then it all depends on whether they two of them can sit down and work things out together - in person, not via text. Text is a lousy way to communicate because it is sterile and emotionless. If progress is to be made, it has to be done the way people did it before the age of the smartphone: actually talking together.
There probably isn't much that you can do except be supportive of your friend. They'll need to work this out themselves, if at all.
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