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a guys likes me but i dont like him
ok im 13 and in 8th grade and I found out a guy likes me I figured it out on my own but even my friends say they can tell too im scared hes going to ask me out 1 because I don't like him that way and 2 cuz like last week me and my friend made a deal thr next guy who asks us out we have to say yes and cant break up with them until a week has passed then on facebook my best guy friend who is also friends with the guy had messaged me asking me would I ever go out with him and I said why then he said just asking then I said idk then we stopped chatting so should I forget about the deal or should I go along with the deal ?
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Forget about the deal girl. Don't ever say yes if you don't fancy them, it's pointless. Just tell this guy that likes you the truth.
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I think you should forget about the deal. This is someone else's feelings you're talking about, your friends should not make you do anything you don't want to do. How would feel if you asked someone out they said yes and then broke up with you after a week because his friends bet him to. Sound horrible right?Trust me, forgetting about the bet is in everyone's best intrest
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No, don't go along with the deal.
Relationships shouldn't be a game at all. Playing with peoples feelings like that is wrong. You're just going to end up hurting him and that's really mean.
So don't go along with the deal. If he asks you out, just tell him you only see him as a friend or something. Just don't date someone you don't like. It's not right to play with someones feelings like that.
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When it comes to relationships dear, the best rule of action is to never play games with it. Someone always gets burned, or very hurt in the process.
I don't know who came up with the If he says yes, then you might want to ask if he'd also like to start hanging out with you, not just at school but away from school, times you can get to know each other without distractions of other friends around.idea first, I am guessing its your girlfriend. If your male friend is also asking if you'd go out with this other guy, either the two of them are trying to play matchmaker and trick you into going out with the guy...or the guy is genuinely interested in you. In that case, answering idk was the wrong answer to give and encourages the other guy. If you'd told your male freind that you aren't interested in the other guy as bf/gf, then you wouldn't have to worry about being asked out because the message of your non interest would have been passed on.
So to keep this clear, you don't stick with any deals made. When the guy does ask you out, you simply say I don't feel interested in you that way, like bf/gf. Thats the same reasons adult women give if not accepting a date. Its a perfectly normal reason because many nice people are just not going to be attracted to each other because of lack of chemistry,, that spark between you where you end up attracted. It's something no one has control over. If its not there, no one can make it happen. So thats a safe answer.
One last thing: Whats the difference between saying no to him at the beginning. Or seeing him for a week and then dumping him and telling him its because you made a deal with your friend to date the 1st guy who asks, whether you are attracted to him or not. And if you dont tell him that, the story will come out through your friends, and either way he will be hurt. Best is to say No up front so all he is dealing with is rejection, and not dishonesty as well.
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