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Why was I so mean to my boyfriend?
So I use to date this guy we'll call him L but then he got too needy and clingy so I broke up with him and started dating this other guy named K. Now K was equally needy and clingy in his own way but for some reason I didn't mind I could take it and when he talks about sweet stuff I get all sorts of butterflies yet when L talked about the same exact stuff I would get annoyed and tell him to just stop. I don't get it why do you think that is?
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Welp, because you probably didn't have the type of feelings you have for L that you had for K. You weren't being mean to L on purpose, you just probably didn't have strong feelings enough for him to overlook those little pet peeves because when you care for someone a lot you do tend to overlook those annoying little things.
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The answer is really simple. You're in love with this guy. But this time it's not just some crush or teenage love, it is true love. Nothing more that I can say but congratulations and good luck!!!
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There could be different reasons. I'm thinking it's either because you just like your current boyfriend more or that his clingyness and neediness is different than your ex.
Everybody has different flaws. Some people will be clingy in different areas that you might be able to handle rather than in another certain area.
For example, say your ex needed you for everything. You could find that annoying after awhile. And then maybe your current boyfriend is just over affectionate or something and you can handle that.
Some people just clash. Their personalities don't go well together no matter how much they like each other.
I also think there is a difference between needy and clingy. Clingy isn't as bad and needy but it still does raise red flags.
I see needy and someone who needs them for everything. I mean it's nice to be needed sometimes but when they need you for everything, that's when it becomes a problem. I see clingy as always wanting to be around them, touching them, snuggling, ect. Like whenever they have the chance, they'll be touching you, even if it's just holding hands or something. They like to be with the person more than normal.
Both are very annoying, but as long as he knows his boundaries and isn't that annoying, supports you, and also has a life outside of your relationship, you're good.
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Aww love triangle ;) A'rent they just the worst?
I think the reason that you don't mind K being clingy is because you like him more than you liked L.These two share the same flaw yet you can only handle one of them because they are both different from each other. K probably has a character trait that you like but that L did not have when you were dating. Whether it's who is sweeter or who has the better personality. Either way, your feelings are probably stronger for K than they were for L. ;);)
XOXOXO
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