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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

i dont understand the instructions on this tip:

You put the end of the pen on the right corner of your mouth and hold it with your teeth.Then hold the other end of the pen with your right hand. But while doing it have no eye contact with him, and keep your head perked up. I have no idea why but guys think its sexy and it makes you look atractive. Go get em girls!

so basically chew on one end of the pen? is there a picture or video of this? haha

Yes. Basically you chew on a pen.
I'm sure you'd get the same reaction if you chewed on a lolly pop.

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Ok so my 2 friends and I went to this party. My one friend named Sam liked this guy a lot. he was cute and she kept on taking picturs of him. Things were going great. But Sam had to leave and so did I. The day after my other friend who was at the party named Chels went up to Sam and said that she danced with the guy. Sam got really mad and told me about it. Then Chels called me and said it was only one dance and someone told her to. I don't know who to believe because Sam sometimes makes things bigger than they really are. Then Chels said she didn'tknow Sam really liked him but it was obvious. I don't know if Chels wanted to make Sam jealous or if it just was a dance. Sam said she was going to spread a rumor saying Chels was pregnant. She is really mad. I called Tammy who was at the party to see what really happened. She said Chels didn't ask him to dance but they danced for 5 dances. Who do you think I should believe? How do I find out the real truth? Also how do I stop Sam from spreading rumors about Chels?

You ask Sam a simple question "Is this REALLY worth fighting about?"
That guy has no commitment to either of them, so why does this really matter? I know she thinks it matters oodles and gobs, but in reality it doesn't.

Inform her that spreading such rumors is called personal slander. She doesn't want to involve herself in such behavior, nor stoop to such low levels. Especially over something so petty.

Maybe they need to talk to each other about this. Why should you have to be the go-between? Why should you have to be the one to sort out their problem?

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I was crying about something & I went downstairs to talk to my mom about it. Then she started yelling at me & blaming everything on me. So, I just said, "Okay. Well, I was gonna talk to you about it, but screw that." & for some reason, she thinks that I said, "Screw you." Yeah, and now I'm grounded. I tried to tell her that wasn't what I said, but she just started yelling at me even more. How can I get her to just...calm down? I didn't even do anything.

To be quite honest, when I was a kid, if I would have said "screw it" "screw this" "screw you" or "screw" anything, I wouldn't have had a mouth left.
Why? Razhie is very right when she told you such things are disrespectful to say to your mother.
She is also very right by saying that you should discuss this tomorrow after you've both slept on it.

What you should do next time a similar situation arises:

Crying or not, just say "Ok, Mom, I'm sorry." Then walk away when she is done saying her piece.
When folks are angry like that, they tend to hear, but not listen. They tend to talk AT rather than talk TO. So arguing, getting angry, etc. gets you nowhere.

When she's chilled out, that's when you re-approach her. That is when she is apt to actually listen and talk to you.

That way may be a pain in the ass, but it sure beats the situation you now find yourself in.

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Im with this guy and we've been dating 4 a while now and hes already cheated once and i trusted him 2 not do it again n got bak with him n it turns out that 4 months later he decides 2 fuck around again. and hes bipolar so he scares me alot when he gets mad because sumtimes he takes it out on me...if you know wat i mean...and i want 2 break up with him but than i always end up going bak 2 him because im afraid of what he will do to himself or other things. because he stars freaking out. and i dont know what 2 do. because theres been so many times when i wanted 2 leave but i never can because he'll take it out on himself and i dont want anything 2 happen 2 him or 4 him 2 take it 2 far. n i dont know what 2 do.......????

You have to put your own well being and self interest first. You can't save the world.

If he goes off and does something stupid to himself, its his own fault, not yours. You can't just stay with someone out of fear they will do stupid acts. In fact, what you do is inform his parents to beware.

If you fear he will do something stupid to you, that's when you inform your own parents that they need to be looking out for you. In fact, you need to be talking to them about your current situation anyhow. It doesn't matter if you are 30 years old- your parents will want to do what they can to protect you.


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Gan you get an STD by giving a blowjob... like swallowing cum and such?
Thanks.
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Oh, also... someone told me you can get stretch marks around your mouth if you give head a lot...
Is this true?

1. Mixing of body fluids is a risk for STDs. Use condoms. You can get flavored condoms for oral activity.
You're worth protecting yourself, don'cha think?

2. And I highly doubt it. If that were the case, I'm sure you'd notice women out there with stretch marks on their faces.

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so one of my good guy friends likes me, he asked me out last month but i said i didnt want a relationship right now because of my ex boyfriend [that had recently ended] not to mention my guy friends best friend tried to use me. but weve been "dating" i guess, we just dont have the title. last night we went to my cousins birthday party. and he basically ditched me most of the time. i was sick, almost passed out so i really didnt do much besides lay on the couch. but he pretty much stared a hole through my cousin's friend, slapped my cousins butt as a joke right in front of me, and had some other girl crawlin all over him wrestlin around. then everyone left to go ride go carts and he was going to go with them and just leave my sick self there after he found out i wasnt going. even my aunt couldnt believe it because she saw him doing most of this. most of his friends are girls, so hes always givin hugs and has girls comin up to him constantly. ok, so hes the flirty type. thats cool, i can be that way too. but im also the jealous type, and i thought that since me and him are like we are, he would chill some with that kind of stuff. hes so sweet to me and tells everyone im the only one he wants, but what the heck? especially after last night. i just dont know if i could handle being in an "official" relationship with someone like that, and i doubt hed change if we were together because obviously thats his personality. but hes a good, fun guy and otherwise the type i could be with. ARG! any ideas?? 17/f & 18/m

I don't know. That's a toss up.
Seems kinda like a jerk to be doing all this with other girls if he likes you as he says he does.

Then again, he isn't committed to you, so why should he have to abstain from such behavior?

All I can tell you is that if it were me, also being the jealous type, I would avoid him like the plague.
But that's me.

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ok so i have totally pin straight hair and it drives me crazy!! I really want to learn how to make it wavy kinda like miley cyrus. I have tried alot of things but my hair doesnt ever seem to hold the wave or curl. thanks : )

My hair is hard to curl, too. I use that Wash 'n Curl shampoo. Now, you still have to curl your hair as usual, but it does help keep the curl from weighing out.
It works for me, so its worth a shot, anyhow.

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ok, so i like this kid a lot. i've known him now for about 6 months. he is one of my best friend's brother and is 3 years older than i am. i really like him alot, but i am never good with talking to guys like that. I can be a friend but when it comes to liking someone i can't even talk to them in person. he is a senior this year so he'll be going to college next year.. i just don't know what to do.. if anyone can help, thank you so much. sorry about not being able to explain everything too well.

When it comes to talking to him, try to talk to him like talking to a friend. That's the best way to get things going.

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How do you get mascara off the skin? I am always making mistakes in the morning when I am doing my makeup and it always takes forever to get mascara off... is there any easy way to do this?

Mild soap on a wet Q-tip is what I use. Avoid waterproof mascara, because it is harder to get off.

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My boyfriend wanted me to cross stitch a "Dark Chao" but I'm not sure which picture to use. Is there different kinds? He said he wanted me to make him swimming because he thinks it looks cute.

I remember he had a background that had something like this on it, those colors.. http://chao.hippotank.com/sa2/images/evolution/chaos/devil.jpg

But I'm just not really sure if he wants that one...

He mentioned this months ago and I can't ask him because I want it to be a surprise for Valentines Day.

I promise, you are going to put the thought and effort into cross stitching a picture, and he will love it.
If that's the picture you are thinking to do, he will think it's great. If he doesn't, then he isn't a very appreciative person.

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Ok ... this is probably going to sound really insecure of me... but I just need some adivce. What do you do when your best friend is like so much prettier and cooler than you are? My friend is very popular, pretty, smart, every guy likes her, she gets everything she wants...I just hate that I am jealous of her because shes my best friend, but whenver I'm with her... people don't talk to me... they talk to her... guys never pay any attention to me, unless they are asking about her. She is an awesome friend... but a lot of the time she is distracted with other things... because so many people like her. I just want to know how I should deal witht his situation. Thank you for your time!

Just let it go. It isn't worth fretting over and being all hurt. She can't help it that she gets all the attention- that's just how it goes sometimes.

You also need to realize that beauty isn't only physical, and popularity isn't really what it's all cracked up to be. Especially when a person is most likely popular due to superficial reasons.

Yah, all the guys don't pay attention to you, but I promise the right guys will. The right guys as being those who see through just a pretty face.

I don't mean anything as being an offense towards your friend- I mean everything by don't feel like she's better than you, because you obviously must, at least to a degree.

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how much would this tatto cost?

http://img179.imageshack.us/my.php?image=cobrasnakess0.jpg

it would be 3/4 of the size it appears. thanks

It depends on where you go. Around here, you'd probably pay at least $70.

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ok well im absolutly in love with my boyfriend lets call him robert and im also in love with my best friend lets call her laura, and they both love me but the problem is they hate each other and robert don tlike to hang with me if im with her and vise versa and im afriad that theyre gona force me to choose between him or her and i just cant do it cuz i love em both and cant live without either of em and im just regretting 2morrow cuz their most likely gonna talk to me about this and i dont know what to do. any help?

Well, you need to straight up tell them that it is unfair to you and selfish of them to be acting this way.

Out of respect for YOU, they need to at least make an attempt to get along and agree to disagree.

To be quite honest, if they expect for you to choose between them, then you should choose neither of them. The fact of the matter is, you may love them, but if they really loved you in return they wouldn't be putting you in this position.

You need to tell them as much.

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At school we all read this same book and our assignment is writing a monologue. now the way that the teacher described it to us made no sense what so ever and I forgot to ask about it before I left class! She didn't even tell us about the structure or anythign so i'm really conufsed. All I know is that it's like in 1st person?

Can you hlep me or give me some examples with maybe using characters from stories that i might know like in fairy tails? Thanks

What you basically need to do is write a skit. You are the only character in this skit.
Think of a story line that involves one person (you) and write lines about what this person is saying or thinking. Of course, you need actions to go along with it.

For example, say you are walking along the road, picking up trash people throw out on the ground. You bend and pretend to pick things up and put them into a bag, all the while saying something like, "I can't believe some people. Look at this! Pop bottles, beer cans, grocery sacks everywhere! Good grief! Here's an old diaper! When will people learn..."

Something on that order.

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I am a 17-year old girl about to go to college. I absolutely love my family. However, recently my dad has been acting harshly towards my mom, but not in an abusive way- he doesn't specify where he's going when he's going out, for example, and expects her to take it. They've been married 26 years, but he doesn't show her a lot of affection -and she has complained to me about it. Now I have proof that he is having an affair. The only problem is is that this proof is his text messages - things I shouldn't be looking at. I couldn't help myself, and I know it was wrong. However, now that I know should I do and/or say something? I am absolutely heartbroken and shocked, but more than that is the fact that my mom doesn't deserve this. Is there anything I can do? Please help me.

I don't think you should say anything. It isn't your place, nor do you really want to make it your place. Its something she needs to either find out from him or on her own.

Its between them to work this out. It isn't fair for you to feel you have to be a marriage councilor, because that isn't your place- your place is being the kid.

I'm sure you understand that by reading his text messages, you were invading his privacy. This situation you find yourself in now is exactly the reason why you don't want to be doing such things.
Now you are hurt and confused.

Listen- She doesn't deserve him cheating and treating her like crap. She CHOSES to deal with it. If and when she gets tired of it, she will chose to do something different.

What you can do is be that supportive shoulder for her. There's nothing wrong with that at all. Just don't feel put in the position to try to sort out or point out their marital problems. That isn't fair to you.

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My parents 35th anniversary party is this weekend and I am assigned with the job of getting pictures. I know a drug store/pharmacy place can make a collage for you and blow up pictures and stuff. I just can't remember which one. If anyone knows, please tell me. Also, if anyone has some good ideas, please share.

Something I think would be cool is to make a photo video of different times of their life together. Wedding, children, family gatherings, vacations, etc.
You can make it yourself on the computer with digital pictures and scanned pictures and burn to a DVD.
Not only would that be something you can give to them as a gift from you (something that takes a lot of work and thought, which makes it even more special) but you can set it up to play on a TV for everyone at the party to watch.

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I haven't hung out with my friend one on one in a really really long time. she finally says one day dude we haven't hung out in a really long time i miss you! it's like she finds time for everyone else but me.

i want to hang out with her, but should i even give her a chance considering she's been blowing me off so much? i'm not a high matinence friend it just seems like she never has time for me and always uses me when she's bored or other people are busy.

HELP!

I'd give her another chance to make things right. Not on her terms at her convenience, though- at yours. Pick a day that you feel would be best to do something together, invite her to join you in some sort of activity, and if she blows you off that time, THEN wash your hands of the whole mess.

A person who is only a friend when it is convenient for them is not a friend to begin with.

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My parents are always in my business and my little sister too!! it doesn't help that my door doesn't have a lock. My mom always peers over my shoulder to look what i'm typing on facebook or AIM. It's so annoying. I have to close out all my windows when i hear someone walking in the hallway.
my sister goes in my room and looks in my journal. I read ONE entry in her journal and now she trys to find mine all the time. I try to find places to hide it, but i'm not very good at that sort of thing. Right now she can't find it, it's just i don't want her to be reading into my personal life, but i want to be able to express myself through my journal without having to censor it.

any ideas how to keep my sister away from my journal, and my mom to stop peering over my shoulder. Maybe some computer tricks to quickly minimize pages without having the name at the bottom?

As for your mom, you may not see it now, but you are lucky to have a mom who cares enough about what you are doing online to be looking over your shoulder. I'd wager she's not doing it to invade your privacy, but to do her part in making sure you are safe online. So try to look at the bright side of that.
Realistically, unless you are doing something you shouldn't be doing, you shouldn't have anything to hide from your mom.
I know, I know. You don't see it that way now, but you will someday when you have your own kids to look out for.

As for your sister, she has no business reading your journal. Have you mentioned to your mom about how your sister is doing this to you? I'm not sure exactly what an online journal is, but I assume it is basically the same as a hand written one. Journals should always be a private thing filled with your private thoughts, meant for your eyes only.

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One guy that's in almost all my classes told me in 3rd period that he doesn't like me, straight up. I have no idea why he would even say that. We barely know each other, and I'm not but not bragging smart and I try to be a perfectionist but i'm not straight up, i just lay behind in like the shadows and am really quiet. He's really quiet too.

I'm sure that everyone probably hates some people for no reasons (we all admit this to ourselves) but it hurts so much that we don't even know each other at all and he just tells me that he doesn't like me. Worst of all, just straight up, face to face. And yes, he was serious.

I'm just so hurt and my esteem went down ten-folds. Is there anything i can do to make myself feel better or anything you can say that will help me feel better? i feel like the world hates me.

Hey, why should it matter what he thinks of you? He doesn't know you, and choses to dislike you.
That's his loss, not yours.
Letting it get to you is you making it your loss, so STOP THAT.
If he doesn't like you, then his opinion shouldn't matter. It's not like he is an important figure in your life.

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like, i know this is very random and uncalled for but i cant talk to anyone without them totally freaking out and stuff? but i am getting this huge feeling/ vibe or whatever that im going to be a teenage mom. like, i keep having all these dreams and stuff. oh, by the way im 15. and i know this is weird and all but i honestly wouldnt mind having a baby. i might not be able to afford it, but i'll cross that bridge when i come to it. my parents might murder me and try to make me give it up or kill it or something but im sure i could convince them to think otherwise. "Hello? this is your GRANDCHILD!!!!" yeah, lol. told you it was random. but give me your opinions. what do you think about all this?

I agree with Nova that this is a normal thing to dream about having babies.
Just don't act on it, alright?
Listen- I promise you that you DON'T want to be a teenage mother.

Look, I'm married and have babies. I can't go out. I don't have time for friends. I'm always broke. I don't even have time for myself anymore. Heck, I don't have a lot of spare time to even get a daily shower in. I'm currently living a pretty isolated lifestyle because I don't have time/can't afford to do anything else. My life completely revolves around my little family unit.

But you know what? I became a mother at 28 years old, so I'm perfectly content with my current life.
Why? I allowed myself to have and enjoy my young life and freedom.

Allow yourself the same, ok? You don't want to have regrets where children are involved.

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