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he hates me
One guy that's in almost all my classes told me in 3rd period that he doesn't like me, straight up. I have no idea why he would even say that. We barely know each other, and I'm not but not bragging smart and I try to be a perfectionist but i'm not straight up, i just lay behind in like the shadows and am really quiet. He's really quiet too.
I'm sure that everyone probably hates some people for no reasons (we all admit this to ourselves) but it hurts so much that we don't even know each other at all and he just tells me that he doesn't like me. Worst of all, just straight up, face to face. And yes, he was serious.
I'm just so hurt and my esteem went down ten-folds. Is there anything i can do to make myself feel better or anything you can say that will help me feel better? i feel like the world hates me.
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Live your life for YOURSELF. Don't live up to anybody's standards but your own.
What I mean is that you shouldn't live to make everyone in the world like you, especially ignorant people like the guy who claims not to like you when you barely know him.
What does he have to dislike? He doesn't know a thing about you! His disliking you isn't even reasonable, because he has nothing to back up his negative feelings. He's expressing what I call "empty hate," and that term pretty much speaks for itself.
You can't let these feelings of "empty hate" directed toward you bring you down. Why? Who he thinks you are and who you REALLY are are different. He's just ignorant, and you can't let ignorant people effect your self-esteem.
I'm not so much concerned about him as I am about you. I assume that you're pretty young (somewhere in the early or middle teenage years), and it helps to understand this now: You can't please everybody. There are a lot of people in this world. These people have different backgrounds, have different pet peeves, believe different things, etc. Sooner or later, you and another person are going to dislike each other. The world's diversity is a beautiful thing, though it can cause some trouble at times. You just have to take the good with the bad.
I'm sure you're an awesome person. Please don't let this negative guy bring you down. =]
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask!
-Manders
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We are all social animals, as human beings we are hard wired that way; that’s why when people say things like “ I hate you” we feel moved by it. Nevertheless, it sounds you have genuinely questioned the possible reasons as to why this young man supposedly hates you, and you have not come up with a reason. Then believe in yourself, there is no reason for him to hate you and the world doesn’t hate you. So hold your head up and be proud of who you are. The next time he or someone else going through similar self esteem issues attempts to invite you into their world of misery by telling you they hate you, practice saying this;
“If there is anything I have done to offend you, I am open to talk about it with you. However if you insist on holding on to such hard feelings, that not my problem.”
Until the next time, feel free to keep your head up and ignore the toxic attitude of your classmate.
Take care
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I'm sorry but i do find that quite ammusing. I only find it ammusing becasue that happened to me once. All you have to do is just go back up to him and say hey i don't like you either, smile, and just walk away. Then after that don't look at him and don't achknolege him in the slightest way. If your teachers make you be in a group with him ask them if you can work alone or have a different group, but only do this untill he seems really angry or says he is sorry/ explains why he said it.
knock 'em dead ; ]
folle babii
Ps
don't let this guy make you feel this way. i know that i'm well liked becasue i speak my mind and i'm am one of the most pompus people you will ever meet. just remember that we are all beautiful in some way or another. and going out and getting a new "i want to make him come crawling back" outfit always cheers me up. (so do friends to help pick it out)
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Who cares if he doesn't like you he's probalby annoying himself
but,if it makes you feel better i would go up to him look him straight in the face and ask him why he doesnt like you
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Hey, why should it matter what he thinks of you? He doesn't know you, and choses to dislike you.
That's his loss, not yours.
Letting it get to you is you making it your loss, so STOP THAT.
If he doesn't like you, then his opinion shouldn't matter. It's not like he is an important figure in your life.
ygs-29/f
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