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God is telling me something?
like, i know this is very random and uncalled for but i cant talk to anyone without them totally freaking out and stuff? but i am getting this huge feeling/ vibe or whatever that im going to be a teenage mom. like, i keep having all these dreams and stuff. oh, by the way im 15. and i know this is weird and all but i honestly wouldnt mind having a baby. i might not be able to afford it, but i'll cross that bridge when i come to it. my parents might murder me and try to make me give it up or kill it or something but im sure i could convince them to think otherwise. "Hello? this is your GRANDCHILD!!!!" yeah, lol. told you it was random. but give me your opinions. what do you think about all this?
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Thats not God sweetheart, thats hormones.
Its called the baby bug, it means that you have developed a huge unconscious desire to have a baby (which is where the dreams come from)
"Getting a huge vibe" to me means that you have decided you want a baby and might be taking risks in regards to having one.
Don't.
Being a teen aged mom puts both you and the kid through alot of issues. The fact that you are not nearly old enough is a big issue. Most 15 year old girls would argue that they have plenty of love to give.
What you dont have, is stable support, or the ability to provide a household, or the ability to provide a suitable role model for a child.
Think about it. A child needs to have a family (more than one parent) who can provide an example for them. You need to be able to show them by example how to live so that you can eventually support yourself.
If you have a baby now, what kind of example does that set? It shows your kid that its OK not to have self control. It shows your kid that its OK to be irresponsible and to force the cost of your irresponsibility onto others (because lets face it, your parents are going to be paying for a large part of this kid's upbringing).
At 15 you have no way of preparing for this kid's future. You cant provide the money to raise and take care of a child at 15. You can't save for this kid's college. You can't pay your own bills and provide an example to your child that someday they must be ready to pay theirs.
If you have a kid now, they are going to be left with your life as an object lesson of how you CAN live. Sure, they might turn out to be more responsible than you. But you're already starting them down the opposite path, and you will be making their entire life an uphill battle.
We should seek to give our kids BETTER lives than we had, not the same, and if you have parents who can take care of you, you would be providing them a WORSE life because while you had parents who could take care of you, the same will not be true of your child.
Self control. Get on and stay on birth control until you are part of a family that can support a child in every way they need to be supported. And no, living at home with your parents does NOT constitute being part of a family that can support a child.
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I agree with Nova that this is a normal thing to dream about having babies.
Just don't act on it, alright?
Listen- I promise you that you DON'T want to be a teenage mother.
Look, I'm married and have babies. I can't go out. I don't have time for friends. I'm always broke. I don't even have time for myself anymore. Heck, I don't have a lot of spare time to even get a daily shower in. I'm currently living a pretty isolated lifestyle because I don't have time/can't afford to do anything else. My life completely revolves around my little family unit.
But you know what? I became a mother at 28 years old, so I'm perfectly content with my current life.
Why? I allowed myself to have and enjoy my young life and freedom.
Allow yourself the same, ok? You don't want to have regrets where children are involved.
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It's probably nothing. But if you do believe in getting signs and everything, then maybe you should start being more careful if you're sexually active. Use birth control and condoms unless you're 100% sure you're ready for a baby. I know a lot of teens who think they're ready, but they end up regretting getting pregnant because they can't go out and have fun as much anymore.
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Like I was telling someone awhile back who was having dreams about being pregnant. It's totally normal for folks your age. We've all done it at a time or two especially around puberty when are bodies are becoming prepared to have children. Our minds join in the process too. So, yes it's just your hormones. If you are having too much trouble with it, ask your doctor for help.
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