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I didn't even do anything..
I was crying about something & I went downstairs to talk to my mom about it. Then she started yelling at me & blaming everything on me. So, I just said, "Okay. Well, I was gonna talk to you about it, but screw that." & for some reason, she thinks that I said, "Screw you." Yeah, and now I'm grounded. I tried to tell her that wasn't what I said, but she just started yelling at me even more. How can I get her to just...calm down? I didn't even do anything.
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To be quite honest, when I was a kid, if I would have said "screw it" "screw this" "screw you" or "screw" anything, I wouldn't have had a mouth left.
Why? Razhie is very right when she told you such things are disrespectful to say to your mother.
She is also very right by saying that you should discuss this tomorrow after you've both slept on it.
What you should do next time a similar situation arises:
Crying or not, just say "Ok, Mom, I'm sorry." Then walk away when she is done saying her piece.
When folks are angry like that, they tend to hear, but not listen. They tend to talk AT rather than talk TO. So arguing, getting angry, etc. gets you nowhere.
When she's chilled out, that's when you re-approach her. That is when she is apt to actually listen and talk to you.
That way may be a pain in the ass, but it sure beats the situation you now find yourself in.
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Accept it, and deal with been grounded for at least the next 24 hours. Then try to speak to her about it.
Saying 'screw it' was still disrespectful, and frankly, the difference between 'screw it' and 'screw you', if you were speaking in a tone of voice to your mother where that could be easily misunderstood... well, you can't really hate her for mishearing in the heat of the moment. She's only human, we all do that.
Tommorrow, when things calm down, tell her this "Look mom, I'm sorry I was yelling at you, but I only said 'screw it' not 'screw you'. I know better then to say that to you."
You might still be grounded, that is just the way it is for a teen, you have to live by someone elses rules, even when they don't seem fair, but at least you will have been honest with her and she will have heard you. Just leave it for today. You can't hear eachother right now.
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