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I don't know what to do.
My dad is leaving next year. My parents are divorcing. My mom doesn't even have a job so I don't even know what we're going to do. My dad is always yelling. My mom's always blaming me for everything. My dad hates me & I don't even know why. My parents are always talking about how smart my brother is & why can't I be like him. I get grounded if I don't make A's in every subject like my brother. My cousin is in the hospital. My grandfather has cancer & won't be living much longer. I can't talk to anyone but three of my close friends about anything, but I hardly see them anymore. Two of my best friends got separated from me because they changed the school districts. Another one of my best friends just got transferred to another school starting Monday. Two more of my best friends go to my school, but I never see them, so it's pointless. Another one of my best friends...my parents won't even let me hang out with. I ended up breaking off the friendship with five of my close friends last year because they started drinking & changing & all they do is spread rumors about me & gossip/talk about me now when I see them. God, I can't take all of this. How can I deal with everything that's going on?
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When I read your situation, I get the feeling of drowning, and a desperate desire to come up for air. First of all make some time for you to take a deep breath, and take things in stride. Kudos to you for not drinking, and spreading rumors, (at least that’s the impression I got) you sound like a principled person.
You get grounded for not getting As’ in every subject? Wow, you must be bright, I know parents who require that their kids just “pass” their classes.
All of the scenarios you have described are situations you have no control over or bare any fault to; parents’ divorce, your brother being Einstein, your cousin and your granddad’s both being ill, you and your friends growing apart..
I would suggest that you talk to your parents, about your feelings of being compared to your brother, but be prepared for them to disagree with you. The purpose of talking to them is to simply get things off your chest, and learn to accept things you can’t change. As for your cousin and granddad, be there for them the best you can and hope for the best. As for your friends, accept the change and keep an open mind; an open mind to make new friends.
Best of luck
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There's alot going on and alot of take in, but things happen for a reason. You need to find out who means the most to you and realize who are true to you and stay close to them no matter what because when have a good friend.. you probaly won't find another friend like that to talk to. Learn to accept your surrounding because you can't do much about your parents. They choose what's best for them and you just accept it. Spend more time with your grandfather because you never know when he won't come back. Accept the fact that God will choose when he will pass away. He will watch upon you and be in a better place. and enjoy your life like your suppose to. Don't look at everything in a negative way. For you have alot of good things in store for you in the future. Your parents have high expectations for you so you won't slack off. They know what your capable of and they don't want you to start slacking off now. They are leading you into the right direction because they won't have much control of you after you leave for college and your all by yourself trying to make good decisions for yourself. Just soak in everything and move forward. Don't look back and good luck. Hope I helped. :]
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well first you should take a deep breath and realize that everything thats happening in your life isnt your fault these things happen to a lot of people sadly and it is very tough, maybe you should try to do something active and try to take your mind off things that always helps me when im stressed, or try to pick a day were you and your friends can hang out , and go do something.
hope that helped a little..
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