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my best friend
Ok ... this is probably going to sound really insecure of me... but I just need some adivce. What do you do when your best friend is like so much prettier and cooler than you are? My friend is very popular, pretty, smart, every guy likes her, she gets everything she wants...I just hate that I am jealous of her because shes my best friend, but whenver I'm with her... people don't talk to me... they talk to her... guys never pay any attention to me, unless they are asking about her. She is an awesome friend... but a lot of the time she is distracted with other things... because so many people like her. I just want to know how I should deal witht his situation. Thank you for your time!
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Ive been in this situation myself.Quite recently actually.But believe it or not there are some guys who dont want to date the preppy popular one.There are guys who just like normal plain jane girls.Whenever your around her just try to think that and also it helps if you try to make some new friends.Maybe not hang out with her as much until you can be a little more self confident.Ive been in the same situation for about the past few years Ive actually tried drifting away from that friend and having a different best friend and she is now just one of my friends.We still hang out and stuff but since ive had my own chance to get out and talk to people I don't feel bad at all when I go places with her. I'm sure the same thing still happens but i just think that if they r willing to talk to her just because shes the pretty one then they arent looking for whats on the inside and thats the kinda of guy that you want.
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last year half of my friends were the populars that were all cheerleaders, smart, pretty, all had boyfriends blah.blah.blah... then this year i started talking with my popular friends, friends and now i am popular and fit in fine. i'm not the most beautiful, or smartest, and dont have a bf quite yet but i am expecting one soon =p hope this helps a little bit. TWO BIG TIPS: # 1 WHEN TALKING TO MORE POPULAR PEOPLE, DONT TREAT THEM LIKE THEY ARE A MOVIE STAR AND ARE ALL BETTER THEN YOU...TRUST ME NOW THT IM POPULAR I FIND IT VERY ANNOYING WHEN PEOPLE DO THAT!!!
#2 DONT CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU. I USED TO THINK ABOUT EVERY LITTLE THING I DID. I NEVER SEEMED TO GET VERY FAR... JUST HAVE FUN WITH IT AND DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU SO MUCH (dont do anything stupid, or be careless. just dont care AS MUCH)
HOPE THIS HELPS =)
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Just let it go. It isn't worth fretting over and being all hurt. She can't help it that she gets all the attention- that's just how it goes sometimes.
You also need to realize that beauty isn't only physical, and popularity isn't really what it's all cracked up to be. Especially when a person is most likely popular due to superficial reasons.
Yah, all the guys don't pay attention to you, but I promise the right guys will. The right guys as being those who see through just a pretty face.
I don't mean anything as being an offense towards your friend- I mean everything by don't feel like she's better than you, because you obviously must, at least to a degree.
ygs-29/f
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