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it's my life!
My parents are always in my business and my little sister too!! it doesn't help that my door doesn't have a lock. My mom always peers over my shoulder to look what i'm typing on facebook or AIM. It's so annoying. I have to close out all my windows when i hear someone walking in the hallway.
my sister goes in my room and looks in my journal. I read ONE entry in her journal and now she trys to find mine all the time. I try to find places to hide it, but i'm not very good at that sort of thing. Right now she can't find it, it's just i don't want her to be reading into my personal life, but i want to be able to express myself through my journal without having to censor it.
any ideas how to keep my sister away from my journal, and my mom to stop peering over my shoulder. Maybe some computer tricks to quickly minimize pages without having the name at the bottom?
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Continue to hide your journal and take this as a valuable lesson: Your little sister looks up to you and will copy things you do. You reading her journal once told her that was an okay thing to do.
If you haven't already, apologize to her profusely, and explain that what you did was very wrong and that neither of you should behave that way anymore.
As for your mother: I'm afraid I think she's got every right to do that. If I had teenagers, I would keep the computer in a public room, like the kitchen or family room where I could monitor their internet behavior, just like my mother did. The internet is a dangerous place and your mother is checking in on you just the way she would want to know the details if you spending the night somewhere else. It's totally rational and 'fair'. It's just a pain in the ass as well.
Again, your best bet would be to talk to your mother about this and ASK HER why she is worried and what she is worried about. Sharing her concerns and addressing them beforehand might make her feel more confident in your ability to behave responsibly online. And try not to just wail things like “I deserve privacy!” or “You have to trust me!”. People living in their parents home do not deserve privacy, it’s a privilege, and she doesn’t ‘have to’ trust you, you have to earn her trust and privilege. As unfair as that might seem to you, it is in fact completely fair, and part of good parenting.
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well, dont blame your mom...
i mean shes just wants to be protective and thats normal...
here are somethings i found thats helps
- when you are looking on the comp screen, have a serious look on your face so it looks like you are doing hw
-occasionaly go to her when you take breaks, if say you walk randomly down stairs, she might not feel the need to come check on you
-some thing as above, only ask her a question about something, maybe hw...she will feel happy and needed
but i too have sisters and i know how sometimes you want to be left alone...the things you do interests her because she is just so curious
here are some ideas on where you can hide your journal
-under the matress
-in your school things
-buy another journal that has nothing in it (say that you bought another one but dont have the time to write in it anymore, write random entries that will bore her and will satisfy her)
well good luck with your situation...
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As for your mom, you may not see it now, but you are lucky to have a mom who cares enough about what you are doing online to be looking over your shoulder. I'd wager she's not doing it to invade your privacy, but to do her part in making sure you are safe online. So try to look at the bright side of that.
Realistically, unless you are doing something you shouldn't be doing, you shouldn't have anything to hide from your mom.
I know, I know. You don't see it that way now, but you will someday when you have your own kids to look out for.
As for your sister, she has no business reading your journal. Have you mentioned to your mom about how your sister is doing this to you? I'm not sure exactly what an online journal is, but I assume it is basically the same as a hand written one. Journals should always be a private thing filled with your private thoughts, meant for your eyes only.
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