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ok i think my friend asked me a question about being anorexic and wut to do. she asked me if i knew who asked the questions and i said no and hen she stopped talking for a bit and then when she did respond she said g2g and signed off. i really want to help her and she is sooo pretty so she doesnt need to lose any weight but how should i bring up the topic?! Help ASAP cus i really would like to help her!!!!
OreoGirl

I think you should bring it up by saying "What were you saying bout anerexia?" and just go from there. And just make sure that she knows that you'll always be there for her and stuff. I hope that kinda helps if you need any more help just ask. If you get any more info. on it and still need some more help I'll be glad to help, my one friend was anderexic.

xoxo Kourtney

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Most of my friends don't like one of my friends, and there is a good reason for this. Last night, I slept over my friends house who is one of the ones who doesnt like the other friend...and she was sayin mean stuff 2 the other friend on IM, and then I got on my screen name and the one who no one likes IMs me and asks "where r u?" so i signed off quick ssayin i hadda go, but I think she might've had an idea i was right there and think i was takin part in it. I just don't wanna get in the middle of the whole thing. There are some good reasons the rest of my friends don't like her, but I don't want to stop being friends with her or any of the other ones. If she confronts me again and asks where I was and finds out I was right there, what do I say?

Tell her the truth because friends do tell friends the truth. Just tell her you didn't want to be stuck in the middle of the situation and you didn't want a big fight to happen. Just tell her the truth!

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok i'll try not too many this really long but if u wanna help me out and know the whole story than e-mail or IM...but anyways I still wanna be with my ex-b/f sooo bad!!! We've been broken up for 3 months now and the break up was pure hell!!! I went through the hardest time of my life and i'm still struggeling but gettin better..anways he has gotten a new g/f he he is so inlove with but I still care about him so much....I dunno if I still love him if I should just wait and hope that maybe 3 or 4 months from now he will realize that he made a big mistake or realize that he ain't commin back that it wasn't meant to be. I was with him for 2 years...he was my first love...I dunno wut to do....Please if you HAD experience w/this reply *Natalie* /17/

Aww hun! I'm going through the same thing!!! I know how hard that is, it hurts a lot I know. But, try writting him a letter, try talking to him. The only way is by talking to him. Just don't get involved in his and his g/f's relationship though because I'm sure you wouldn't want anyone doing that with you two. I've answered a question like this before and I told her to listen to this quote "If you love something, let it go, if it returns, it was ment to be" And 2 years is a long time to be together, there is no way he has stopped loving you. Maybe he wants you two to experience NEW things, have fun in life. But you'll never know what he is thinking until you ask him and talk to him about things. Find out everything you want to know. And if its easier to talk to him through AIM/AOL and he has that then tell him to get on. Or you can simply write him a letter or just call him up! If you're thinking of him 24/7 and you can't imagine being with anyone else besides this boy, you possibly could still be in love with him. But you can only decide if you REALLY are in love with this boy. I hope everything works out and if you need ANYTHING else just post back because I know how this feels. I'm sorry you have to go through this. GOOD LUCK HUN!!!

xoxo Kourtney =D

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well i met this guy after soccer practice and we hugn out after and we spend spring break together. he was really sweet and we ended up hooking up. on our first month. of knowing each other (i'm 14 hes 16 freshman sophmore) neways.. well after a while we ende up going out. but he was homeschooled then so we didnt see much of each other but we still did.. i broke up wtih him after a week.. but stillhad feelings'.. we both did.. and the bad thingg is that we always ende u seeying each other. and it was awkward. we hooked up a few times after we broke up. and hes' spend the night at my house afew times and we hang out a lot now. and talk on the phone. i'm so confused idk wat i should do. i've known him for like 6 motnhs now. and i think i should find someone new. but when i do.. all i can think of is him.. we both havent hooked up with anyone else except each other..sunce we've known each other.. idk .. waht todo..

Seems like you two still have feelings for each other. Since you guys still talk, try talking to him about hooking up again. Just be like you know we both haven't moved on and I always end up thinking of you, does this happen to you too. Or something like that, if you know what I mean. And just be like do you ever think about being "us" again, and be like because I sure do! Just say stuff like that. But just talk to him about it, seems like he still has feelings for you too! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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Everytime

Everytime you ignore me , my heart shatters
Everytime I see you with Her , I break inside
Everytime you treat me just like a little girl , I feel disappointed in you
You treat me like a game

I’ve sacrificed so much just to be seen worthy in your eyes
Why can’t you do the same ?

I can’t take it anymore ,
I try to break away ,
But I stay firmly bonded to you ,
You’re torturing me more and more each day

Everytime I smile you you ,
You just turn away ,
If you never loved me ,
Why did you have to play ?

Did you ever consider what I thought
Can’t you tell you just threw my heart away
What do you have to say for yourself
Because it’s your fault

I can’t take it anymore ,
I try to break away ,
But I stay firmly bonded to you ,
You’re torturing me more and more each day


WOW!!! That poem is really good!! I love reading poems. And sadly I can relate to that poem!!! I'm sure many people can relate to that because hearts are broken everyday it seems huh?! So keep up the good work!! I really liked it!

xoxo Kourtney =D

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Does anybody have any good ideas for cool clothes you can make yourself?

You can always look in magazines and get ideas there. Like go to old navy or something and buy like those tank tops. And you can always put stuff on them or on the top of the tank top cut it off and put ribbon on there. Just try new stuff. Go to different websites, look in magazines, stuff like that!!! For jeans, you can get a old pair, and make holes in them, cuz thats really in now. Hope I helped! Have fun!!!

xoxo Kourtney

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what should i do to flirt with a guy? :-/ im so bad at this kind of stuff any tips?

Laugh a lot and just keep starring at him, playful hit, you know that kind of stuff!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i am addicted to the computer. what do i do??

You can always just go out and have fun and just get on the computer when you really need something, like to look something up. You can always have a set time of when you are going to be on the computer and when you're going to get off. But, you can always just go out with your friends and hang out with them, get out of the house more! Hope that helped! GOOD LUCK!

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay. So there's this guy at my college, we've known each other for a few years already from high school. A few weeks back, we had a bit of a disagreement that wound up with us not talking to each other for a full week. The thing was, I wasn't even really mad at him initially, until he split from our one class together before I could say a word to him. Now, We've been friends for a few years and we get along really well, but tears were shed over this madness. I don't remember having such hurt feelings since... well, that's another long story. But it was a long time ago. Anyhow, another guy friend of mine and I had a two week period of not talking to each other, and it didn't bother me. Yes, we had a bit of a disagreement, but his ceased attention didn't affect me at all.

My question is, what does this mean about my feelings for the first guy? I know NOTHING about relationships. Please help!

Well it may seem like you may have feelings for the first guy, but I wouldn't really know because only you can decide if you have feelings for him. But if you dont have feelings for him, maybe it was because the fight hurt you more than the second guy. And that may of been why you were crying because you were more hurt by this fight then the second guy. If you still need to talk about it for me to understand this more, just post back!!!

xoxo Kourtney

***You gave me a 2 and told me why. I'm sorry I know I realized the date after I posted my answer. I'm really sorry about that.***

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me and my bf were talking last night and he kept saying i hate my brother i wish aron was my bro (thats his cousin) and he kept saying it and saying it and like i hate him i wish he wasnt my brother and i said im glad your bro is your bro and he said why do you always stick up for him? and i said cuz.. i have my reasons and he said he hated his bro more and more and kept going on and i got really mad b-cuz i love my brother and my brother is dead so out of that i said at least your bro didnt fricken die... was saying that totally wrong? i mean he kept going on and on and i wanted my point across and i've never told him it b4 but now he knows and after i said that it was a loooooong silence but then we hung up and he called back and said... i love you... and then we got off the phone with that

Hey. No I dont think that was the wrong thing to say because it'll make him think twice about saying that he hates his brother. Because what would he do without his brother.. although they may not get along, he loves him. Because what happens if that happened to his brother. So it makes him think about it. Don't worry about it though!!!
*And sorry about your brother =(

xoxo Kourtney

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hey!..im 16 female..i got a note that i wrote to my ex bf and i dont know if i should send it or not...it also feels like im stalkin him..if im wonder what hes doing or something..is that stalkin him or what?

Aww no your not stalkin him! Don't worry!! You just want to know if he's okay, just say I want to be friends and wanted to keep in touch and wanted to know what you've been up to. Or whatever. I think you should send it!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well i know that i should just leave him alone but let me tell u the story first..well me and this guy named Jared dated and he told me he loved me but we broke up because there was a misunderstanding and now he had been with this girl for three months and i now see that i am in love with him and he wants me to stay out of there relationship!!!What do i do?!?!?!?

Hey. I know how that feels!!! And its really hard I know! But you know that saying "If you love something, let it go, if it returns it was ment to be." Just go by that. But let him know you want to be friends. Because friends can always turn into dating...right?! But don't do the wrong thing by getting in there relationship because you wouldn't want a girl to do that with you two would you? But, just be his friend, follow that saying I told you, be patient, and stay positive! Good luck. Post back if you need anything else!!

xoxo Kourtney =)

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OkaY there is this boy I like. And we go out, lets say his name is Chris. Well we were talking one night and he told me that he luved me and he wasnt kidding. And I told my friend I wasnt like I didnt believe it I mean if A boy just tells you that its really wierd. So yeah I told him I luved him back. But I dnt even know if he does. He told me he does and even e-mailed me saying that he luvved me and that he wasnt lyin. i really like him but im tottally not sur what to do and i like him alot. but i never really thought about luvin anyone until it was tru and how am i supposed to know its tru. i think i luv him but im not 100% sure and i told him that back so obviously he thinks i feel the same exact way. well please can someone tell me if you think he is playing with me. i mean he i liked him in the beginning of 8th grade but then he said that he couldnt go wit me cuz he aint want a girlfriend then all of a sudded we do go out and he is like all i luv u and he said he started likin me on the last day of school whitch was about a month and half ago..so its been a while and we have only been going out for..4dayz?!

Please help me!

only 4 days huh? WOW that boy moves fast. If you don't feel comfortable saying that right now, tell him that you're not ready to say that yet. And tell him when its the right time and he really does love you, to tell you then and you'll do the same! But if you're not sure that you love him, then that isn't love. You can't really explain what love is, you just have to actually be in love to understand it. You never think twice if you love someone or not... you just know!

xoxo Kourtney =)

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i went out with this guy fro 8 months, we broke up durning the school year and i still like him. now my friend likes him. well shes so annoying and she brags about what they to me. Even though he doesnt like her at all and thinks shes annoying. I duno how to make it stop, shes really getting on my nerves and i already tried to talk to her about, it didnt work. HELP!

Try to talk to her one more time and just be like you know I really don't care what you guys do or talk about, I'm glad you guys are friends. Or maybe your friend knows that annoys you and just wants you to be jealous so she'll talk about it non stop. So pretend like you really dont care and maybe eventually she'll stop. Or you could always try talking to your ex boyfriend about it to and he could talk to your friend or whatever. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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Please tell me what you think: What is better, the truth that brings a tear? Or a lie that brings a smile?

hmm...

I think the truth because the truth can always bring a tear to your eye if its something good. You wouldn't want to be lied to because what happens when you do find the truth out? So you mine as well tell the truth from the start...right? But that is a tough one!

xoxo Kourtney

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me and my brother are always arguing and i hate it. he always calls me names and im older wot can i do

LOL. Me and my sister fight ALL the time. But difference is... she's older than me. You can either:
1.) Talk to him about it.
2.) Ignore him.
3.) Walk away.

xoxo Kourtney

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confused gurl,

next year me and my bestest friend are splitin up i am so scared that we will forget about each other i dont want that 2 happen.

HELP- =(

Even though you guys are spliting up, you guys are Best Friends! So just keep in touch, write her e-mails, talk to her on AIM/AOL, go to movies, talk on the phone, have sleep overs. Do what you guys always did before you guys got split up! Hope I helped!

xoxo Kourtney

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im gonna be a freshman next year and im really afraid im not gonna fit in. see i have plenty of friends now but i worked pretty hard to get and keep them. im... different to say the least and a lot of people dont get me and now it feels like i have to start all over again to find friends. and frankly, im not sure how. im kinda anti-social in a way... i dont like people on a whole lol cause they're stupid... but i do like meeting new people and i would really like to make some new friends

Hey. High school, they're are so many different people there. You are bound to meet someone you will relate to. Trust me, you meet TONS of new people. Everyone will talk to you. But, just try to be outgoing and talk to people. I mean you dont have to be really talkitive, but when you're in class, talk to the people next to you. Do that in every class, then you'll meet tons of new people!!

xoxo Kourtney =)

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i am gettin braces and i heard u heard em do they hurt

I have braces. But when you get them on, they don't hurt and you're all happy saying "haha they dont hurt" lol don't do that cuz about 2 hours later they start to hurt! So right when you get home from getting your braces on, take some tylenol. They will hurt for about I want to say a week or two. Just eat soft things, like mashed potatos, ramon noodles, soup, etc.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok im a girland today i just found out that my really close cousin thats a guy is bi and i found out today and now i dont kno how to act around him...i mean i feel weird knowin that hes bi and yea...so wut should i do? how do i react to this?

Just react to him as if you dont know that. He's a normal guy just likes both girls and boys. I'm sure it was already hard enough as it was for him to come out that he was BI, so it would just hurt him if people were weird around him, you know? So just pretend as if he's just the guy you knew before he was BI and act as if you didn't know at all!

xoxo Kourtney

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