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I'll start out by telling you.. my sister and I have never got along, my parents haven't really been there for me growing up either, with saying that.. I am 18 years of age.
I met my bf "C" through my sister in January of 2010. They met in the marine core, and he came to visit her at our home for a few days, me and him didn't really speak.
She was engaged to Alex her bf, at that time, and now married to him.
So while she was engaged she cheated on Alex several times, with other guys..
Well I've been "dating" C for 8 months now, since the 1st of July.
We haven't really been on a date or everything, so call it what you want, we've been talking on the phone for these 8 months. We've had our arguements and such as normal relationships do, we've skyped plenty, sent each other pictures, videos.. etc I've stayed faithful the whole time, and so has he.
My parent's dont like him...
literally last week I found out, he and my sister madeout... back when they were friends and he came to visit her, before he even thought about talking to me.
I had a idea because my sister puts out with every guy and I've asked "C" before if anything happened between them though and he denied it.
He has lied before, about drinking. He has a drinking problem.. once he starts, he doesn't stop.
My parents know about this situation, my mom says its digusting that hes kissed my sister and wants to be with me.
"C" is 20 years old, and I have told him my most personal kept secrets that nobody else knows.. we've talked basically everyday for 8 months now.
He's supposed to come see me in two weeks from now, and stay for 3 weeks in a hotel, just so we can see each other, rather than go see his family.
I'm really just not sure what to think, should I leave him because he used to like my sister?
The way we started talking was, he called my house asking 2 talk to my sis or my mom and they weren't here, so we started talking.. and from then on, we talked everyday...
Should I leave him because of something happened between him and my sis before he even talked to me?
My sister and I are not close in any way and I cannot stand her.
Thanks to all answers and anyone who takes the time to read this.

No i don't think you should leave him because of
what happened between him and your sister i could
see if it happened while you two were together then you'd have a reason to leave him and that'd be a different story but it happened before he started talking to you he made a mistake by lieing about him drinking the good thing is his drinking problem can be fixed if he chooses to get help you can't hold the fact that he lied about drinking and he denied some things aganist him he's not perfect and made mistakes he deserves another chance to prove he'll be truthful and honest with you i don't think you should leave him because of what happened between him and your sister it's in past that's where it will stay for now focus on
the future :)

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So my mom hates me & its not joke I do my laundry clean the whole house & help her take care of my baby sister. But when I ask her if I can go out with my friends she says "NO!" & locks me in a room with no windows or doors. Only one that is locked from the outside.
How can I get her to love me or trust me?

Just because your mother isn't allowing you out with
your friend's doesn't mean she hates you or doesn't
love or trust you if your curious why she isn't
allowing you out then i think you need to sit her
down and ask her you won't know unless you speak up
and ask if you don't then you'll continue to wonder
and won't get a answer there has to be a reason
why she isn't allowing you out i don't think she'd
not allow you out without giving you a reason why i
think you should continue to do your laundry
clean the house help with your sister your mom
will appreciate you helping she won't have to do it all by herself by you lending her a hand and helping you'll be able to gain her trust and prove to her that your responsible :)

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First i'd like to start off by saying that i'm a 16 m in high school right now. The purpose of this post is that I believe I need some sort of advice or somebody to talk to. So the beginning of the end of happiness is in 2001. It was just a normal day but a roomate had to pay the rent he his wife and his son rented a room. At about 9 or 10 pm they had an arguement and it ended in him shooting my mother, her friend that was there at the time and a couple of minutes later commiting scuicide. I believe this is what has affected me so much and has turned me into the current failure I am. Right now i am a junior in high school and am very confused about life in general. I don't know if i should even try at school or even have thoughts of just ending everything but i've been hopeful and haven't took that kind of measure. I know it could and might get better but the pain of not having your mother and having her besides you helping you with problems and keeping you up when you're down. My dad is a jerk, at the time when my mom was shot he was in prison for domestic violance(hitting my mom). I alson feel ALOT of pain knowing that I have a little brother and he didn't really have any time to know his mother and will live thrus the same pain I go thru every night. It is really hard for me specially because I really don't have anibody that could help me and give me advice about life for I am not close enough to anibody right now. I feel as if I have no purpose in life and I am a complete failure. Please give me any advice that may be helpful in my situation.ANY advice will be greatly.(I was tearing up writing this post just talking and thinking of the pain of losing my mom and having no one "there"

First off let me start by saying i'm sorry for your loss loosing a parent isn't easy...

You aren't a failure you shouldn't doubt yourself or be hard on yourself yes you should try in school your mother would want you to succeed nothing less not give up or fail everyone serves a purpose in life that includes you too your young you haven't found your purpose yet but you will evenually within time your life is worth living your young and have your whole life ahead of you think of your brother if he were to loose you he'd be devastated he can't afford to loose you seeing as he already lost someone close
to him i know it's tough to be strong but you've got to try your hardest not only for yourself but for your brother seeing as you say you've got no one there try visiting a therapist they'll listen to what you've got to say you'll feel better once you get what your feeling out in the open for someone to hear never forget your mother is you and your brother's guardian angel she'll protect the both of you stay strong & god bless... :)

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so i was on my gf's facebook page, im 19 and shes 21, and she was on a seperate computer having a conversation with what she says was just an old friend. then he decided to send a picture of his dick to her and she said things like, "I'm jealous of your girlfriend" "too bad we both have signnificant others or id totally take that dick" and just other flirty things. She knew i was mad but "didnt know why" until i told her that i knew instead of being honest with me. So not only did she lie to me and her friends because she thought no one would find out, she was flirting and got a picture of another guys dick. she only admitted it when i confronted her. Now me and this girl have been dating for 4 months now and ive had many trust issues with her before so i broke up with her. i know shes sorry and i do really love her but should i be with someone i can't trust? help me!

No you shouldn't be with someone who you can't trust if she's sorry she would of been honest and truthful with you from the start and she wouldn't of flirted and did what she did it's her loss she lost you she brought you breaking up with her upon herself it's her fault the smart thing to do would of been to tell you the truth from the start when you confronted her but no she thought she could get away with lieing the things she did to you shouldn't be tolerated especially since you were in a relationship with her she wasn't truthful loyal or faithful to you..you don't need to be wasting your time on her she isn't worth it not after what she put you through you did nothing wrong it was all her she has nobody to blame but herself there's plenty of other girls out there who will treat you with respect and who will treat you like the human being that you are :)

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I am 13 years old and a girl that needs a lot of help. Today at lunch I found out my best friend likes me and he thinks I like him back. My Best Friend is the nerd if the school. He asked me out and we have been friend for 5 years. I like him as a friend but all of my other friend said to go on pity date with him. you know dance with him once at a dance then say this won't workout. I don't want to though because my other friend told me that he thinks I like him back but I don't! What should I do please help me. I want to be his friend but not his girlfriend!

I don't think you should go on a pity date with him
and you shouldn't dance with him once then tell him it won't work out especially if he's your best friend...friend's don't treat one another like that it's a bad idea i advise you not to listen to your friend's and not go through with it avoid doing it completely your situation can easily be solved by telling your best friend you like him as a friend and only that nothing more :)

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Okay i like this guy and we make out alot. i seem to turn him on just being there. But he wants to have sex and im not ready. If i tell him im not ready will that turn him off? And a blow job that seems too far. but i still want him to like me and i wanna make him feel good :)

Seeing as your not ready tell him that and be honest with him he can't force you into having sex
with him if you aren't ready he can't make you do
something your not comfortable with doing it could
possiblity turn him off i wouldn't give him a bj seeing as that could lead to you two doing other things...be honest with him and tell him you aren't ready if he can't accept the fact then find someone who can :)

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Okay, so I have this idea for asking this guy to Sadie Hawkins, but I want to know what you think.

We're both in AP Euro history and we are doing this project where we have to be countries at the peace treaty convention thing right before WWI. I'm France and he's Italy.

He's really shy and soft-spoken, and I don't really want to ask him by talking to him because there's never a time where we're talking alone, I guess.

Thought of writing a note that says, "Sadies? :)" and giving it to him, saying "France will give Italy Corsica if you say yes to this peace agreement".

What do you think? I know it sounds kind of nerdy, but that's about all we've been talking about over the past few days. lol

Thanks!

I think you should write the note it's worth a shot there's no harm in you doing so i don't think it's
nerdy i think it's cute and different plus you added
what your talking about in class which is a bonus so
he'll know exactly what your talking about go for it write the note and give it to him it's a different and creative idea hope all goes well for you & he agree's to go with you :)

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ok so this girl . . lets call her jane got in a fight with me which lasted 4 like 1 minute and gets so pissed about it that she goes around telling my friends that she wants to punch me and threw a cookie at me and says 'eeeewwww!' whenever i walk by her (i know sooo 1st grade right?!) so then she goes and tells my friends that i was talking s*** behind their back which i never did and then everyone believes her and then i went and sat down with each of my friends personally and made them realize that they know im not a backstabber and that they have know me for years now and blah blah blah and they all told me that they were sorry but then right after went and told jane what i said 2 them and she said that i was the liar and some of my friends hated me again and talked behind my back again. . . anyway, i just want to know how to deal with backstabbers and haters inthe very nicest way possible cuz i dont wanna sound mean or anything. Thanx! ^_^

I think you should confront the girl who's causing the problems and tell her she needs to stop lieing and turning your friend's aganist you she needs to stop causing problems she isn't getting anywhere by doing so expect making you and your life miserable and she's making you loose friends you don't deserve that as for your friends you should tell them since they've known you for years they should believe you over the girl Jane seeing as all the girl's doing is turning them aganist you and making them believe lies i think you should tell your friend's the truth be honest with them say you've been telling the truth the whole time and the girl's been making it seem like you aren't make a attempt to become friend's with them again and if for some reason they don't accept you or believe you and they believe the girl after you've told them the truth then move on and find other friend's they don't deserve to be in your life you don't need them in it if they choose to believe the girl over you someone who they've known for years :)

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so i have been going out with this guy for 8 months and my parents are abit uptight so i see a him a few times on weekends and last night when i spoke to him he told me something really shocking. he has been doing drugs. he told me that it's really getting to him and he really wants to stop but thats really hard to do because that's all that his friends do for fun. he doesn't wanna seek professional help because he believes that he's not that deep in could you guys please help me out i really want to help him and that's what he wants too but we want to rectify this ourselves. he's in college and he's really smart i don't wanna see him ruin his life. what do i say to him? i really appreciate your help thank you

I think you should tell him you don't want to
see him ruin his life your concerned for him and his well being and your willing to help him so he doesn't have to go through it alone say if he doesn't stop it will get to the point where he'll be deep in and it won't be easy to stop tell him you think it would be a good idea if he stopped hanging out with the friend's who do the drugs and find new one's tell him you don't want to see him struggle in college and do badly because of the drugs him being in college is a good experience and opportunity for him make him realize that if the situation doesn't get taken care of soon it will become more serious he needs to get away from the friend's completely their the reason he's doing drugs he needs to find new one's if he continues to be with them he'll continue but on the other hand if he's taken away from the situation he'll start to stray away from the drugs and start doing other things he won't be fully focused on the drugs like he is now tell him there's better things he can do and him doing drugs doesn't have to be one of them he's smarter
then that :)

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20/F, the guy is 30/M....I started dating a guy from America almost a year ago. He came here at the start of last month where we met for the first time in person. It was going great for a while, but then we started fighting and our insecurities came back and it never stopped. I was always thinking he was going to cheat on me, since he had a history of being flirtatious and whatnot. With all the fighting and paranoia, I never seemed to be in the mood to have sex with him, and when he tried and I said no he got more forceful, so I got angry and told him to get off me and another fight started.

I felt like I couldn't hang out with my friends because they didn't like him and If he couldn't come then I couldn't see them. I turned 20 on March 1, and my friends wanted to see me and do something that night so I told my boyfriend and he got angry because I stood him up for them, then later that night my friends stood me up which he thought I deserved beause then i felt the same he did when he got stood up by me. That also caused a fight. 2 nights ago we broke up, he got angry because he saw me hanging out with a guy friend(only a friend), which i denied because i knew how he'd react, but he saw me at the store with him and so he knew I was lying. The same night we broke up he kept saying all these mean things like how i'm messed up in the head and worthless, and that he was going to go see his ex girlfriend whom was in Australia too, before he went back to America. I've been calling and texting him since and he hasn't picked up..There was a few times someone would pick up, and I heard background noise but he wasn't saying anything and now he won't answer me.

I know we're done for good, but I miss him and it's driving me crazy that he won't return my calls or texts. I get so upset just thinking what he and his ex girlfriend could be doing together, because I know what he's like and he moves on quick but I can't help it, i need to hear from him and it doesn't matter what I say, he won't say anything back at all. I don't know what to do. I need to let him go but I can't, we've been together for almost a year, we had so much planned for being together and I love him so much. I feel so hopeless..

I think you should keep yourself busy and find things to do if you sit around then you'll have time to reflect on what happened and you'll become more upset but if your busy you'll be thinking about other things and won't have time to reflect on the situation i realize you two were together for almost a year but you can't make something work that isn't meant to be and sadly your situation wasn't meant to be but that doesn't mean all hope is lost there's plenty of other boys out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve you don't deserve to be told your worthless your lieing or your messed up in the head him telling you that shouldn't be tolerated if he won't return your calls and texts then he isn't worth your time you shouldn't have to wait and wonder if he's going to return your calls or texts he isn't worth it not after what he put you through and what he said to you :)

Happy belated birthday!!

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okay um well i had a bf named zac an we have been dating for 3 years an well like everything was going great til he got to clingy n like kept fallowing me everywhere n i kinda started liking some other guy but i still like love him and for some reason he broke up with me . till then we kinda still talk its been 2mouths and i miss him and he misses me n he told me he needs me and loves me n like he does drugs n crap so like i want him to stop doing it n he said he will do anything to get back with me,.. but i kinda told him i still need some space n he said he was going to wait for me n ah i dont know what to do if i should go back out with him

I think you should go back out with him he seems
sincere with what he told you he wouldn't of said it
if it weren't true and he wouldn't of said it for the sake of saying it if you do get back together
with him he could prove to you that he will stop
doing drugs and stay true to his word not go aganist it he deserves a second chance he made mistakes by getting clingy and following you everywhere but that was in the past you can't hold that aganist him he's willing to change for you and wait for you i think you should give him another chance he derseves one and get back together with
him seeing as you still love him and he's willing to
wait for you until you make a decision :)

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i liek this guy but he is 16 and i am 13 and when we made out he told his friends ((their my friends too))and now they make fun of us and i like him a lot and he likes me im sure but i thnk he is restrained from goign out wiht me because he is embarrassed from our friends what should i do?

Your age is just a number nothing more if you like
him alot then go out with him don't allow your friends to stop you from going out with him and doing something you want to if them making fun of you is bothering you tell them and speak up they won't know unless you tell them say you'd like it if they stopped making fun of you otherwise if you don't speak up and don't say something they'll continue to do it stand up for yourself and the boy you should never allow anyone to make fun of you and that includes them if you don't feel comfortable confronting them yourself have the boy do it if you truely like him alot like you claim then go out with him because if you don't then you might end up regretting your decision and wishing you went out with him from the start :)

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I believe there was an issue i wrote about this last year.
Im 15/f, hes 16/m, the 'other chic' is 16/f. My best friend's name is lance. His ex (and soon to be girlfriend) name is Rebeeca. Anyway, lance is going to ask her out again in 2 days (March 3 2011). I don't exactly like this girl but i thought 'whatever' right? As long as i don't lose my friend. So i recently hear that Becca is threatening to hit me as well as threratened to kill me. This was told to another close friend of mine who imediately told me. I dont want to bring lance into any of this, nor do anything hasty.
She is always giving me skank looks and makes it obvious that she doesnt want me around-anywhere for that matter What am i supposed to do?

Even though you don't want to bring Lance into it
i think your going to have to tell him what she said even though it wasn't directed towards him he has a right to know her threatening to hit and kill you isn't something to be taken lightly or as a joke it's serious and isn't right don't ignore the threats tell your parents or whoever you feel comfortable with she threatened you..you can't pretend like she didn't say it or it never happened because if she does try and do something and he finds out you didn't tell him he could turn to you and say why didn't you tell me? If you truely don't like her then tell Lance you don't think it's a good idea he dates her and you feel uncomfortable with him doing so speak up her threatening you shouldn't be tolerated especially if you haven't done anything to her and you did nothing wrong tell Lance how you feel and stay clear of Rebecca you don't want to create more problems for yourself :)

Kaye2918 She shouldn't ignore the threats it's serious and not something to be taken lightly or as a joke don't assume or doubt the girl Rebecca won't do something because you don't know if that's true

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Okay, here's the problem. There is this girl named Jordan, & she was in my homeroom (7th grade) & so... like we started becoming good friends. She came over & my mom didnt really like her & so she said tht i shouldn't get to attached to her. Well, i did. So we went back & forth being friends & enemies. I got jealous the first time b/c she had her bf in our homeroom & mine was in the other pod (on the other side of the school) so i didnt ever see him. We had a pep rally at school & her & her bf were holding hands & i was jealous b/c i couldnt hold my bfs hand. & i called her bad names over txt. So after a while, we became friends again, but a WEEK l8r, i found out from one of my most HONEST FRIENDS EVER, tht Jordan hated my guts & called me a bitch. So i went off on her & i was like if you hate me guts so much then fine i wont b your friend. & she lied to me & said tht she didnt do tht & this boy had proof tht she did tht. He told me she did.

So, my question: do i need to become her friend again, b nice to her but not get so attached? OR do i just need to not be her friend & find new ones... BETTER ONES!
Thanks.

You shouldn't become her friend again she lied to
you and called you something she shouldn't have she
said it behind your back none the less and didn't tell you directly which she should have done from the start real friends don't lie and call one another names behind their backs you deserve
better friends one's who will treat you with respect and won't do what she did it was her loss she lost you as a friend she chose to say what she did and it resulted in her loosing a friend find other friends and move on from her :)

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I really love my boyfriend but hes changing on me too much and its really taking a toll on our relationship.He recently stopped smoking (which is a good thing) but at the same time he decided to go on a raw vegan diet.Im happy for him changing his diet but he gets out of hand. Hes always judging me telling me I should eat that certain way.That people that are raw vegan are so much better.When I try to tell him to let me eat how I want he just calls me ignorant and says its not your fault its the food you eat.I told him its not right too think hes better than everyone else but he seems to think hes perfect ever since he chose that lifestyle I don't know if I want to be with him sometimes I love him I just wish he wouldn't act like he was right all the time. I thought about trying the diet just to stop the fighting but I cant't right now because im pregnant. Im also scared he will act like this towards our child. There is too much change going on right now what should I do? How can I make things better? I've talked to him but he just always wants to be right.

I think you should tell your boyfriend he's changing and it's taking a toll on your relationship make him aware of that and his mistakes seeing as he probably doesn't realize it on his own because of his actions your relationship is suffering he shouldn't try and force his lifestyle on you just because his lifestyle is good for him doesn't mean that it will be good for you he can't control you and tell you what you can and can't eat your capable of deciding that on your own tell him that if he doesn't change his actions and behavior your relationship with him will continue to suffer make him realize that he isn't perfect nobody is and he isn't right all the time even if
he thinks he is nobody can be right all the time it's impossible :)

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okay so I have been dating this guy for the past three months and I recently found out he was cheating on me! He told the girl he made out with that he was single and that I was just his friend! I found this out cause i incidentally talked to the girl.I really got angry when I found out he had been lying to me all this while and I immediately broke up with him. when i confronted him about the whole thing he had to accept it but then for the first five hours after confrontation he was all like "i cant believe i could lie so well.." but after that he said sorry and kept on texting and calling me up! he wanted me back and told me he was very sorry and all and he actually spoke to some of his friends (who i know too) about the whole thing and how he really feels sorry about everything. he told some of our mutual friends to call me up too ..should i trust him again and go back to him or not????

No i don't think you should trust him again and go
back to him he cheated on you and even worst lied about it you don't deserve to be cheated on and lied to if he was really sorry like he claims to be he wouldn't of did what he did and would of been honest and truthful with you from the start it's his loss he lost you..you did nothing wrong he can say he's truely sorry but the thing is you don't know if that's the truth if you do get back with him he could cheat again and lie then you'll be in the same situation you are now once a cheater always a cheater that describes him you deserve someone better who is going to treat you with respect and isn't going to lie and cheat someone who will be truthful and honest with you you shouldn't go back with him like i said it's his loss he doesn't deserve a second chance :)

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my parents used to make me clean the entire house as my "chore" for living at home, all through high school. My sisters are apprx 12 years younger than me, and because my mom is perpetually sick and my dad is perpetually working, i have always been the one to take care of them. Recently i moved out, and over the last few months the house has absolutely gone to hell. the carpet is literally covered in clothes, food, and my sister's toys. my dad has left some plumbing projects undone which has resulted in mold. to make a long story short, they no longer care if the house is clean or not.

I have noticed since moving out that my sisters (4 and 6) are always ill. they go through pneumonia, colds, flu viruses more than any other kids i have seen, and i know it's because my family is living in their own filth. whenever my dad sits them down to eat, he brushes all the food crumbs (and objects) onto the floor to make room. he uses bath towels as pot holders.

Because i was hurt that it only mattered to them when they could force me to keep the house, i stopped coming home every weekend to clean up for them (even when my mom said she was going to pay me) but started once again when i went into the bathroom and stepped into a used baby wipe. (my dad won't allow us to flush them, we have to throw them in the trash, which was overflowing)

I think my parents might be hoarders as well. you cannot walk through the garage, even though we have cleaned it out 4 or 5 times; my dad refuses to get rid of anything. only recently could we even walk around downstairs.

the house being in constant disarray has resulted in my parents being on edge and also, constantly sick. i usually wake up to screaming. I can't talk to my parents about anything without being treated like i am younger than my sisters, then i am reprimanded for trying to correct them.

now here is the problem. I am going to move to another state soon, and i am afraid to leave my sisters in this environment; there is no way i could take them with me, i can barely support myself. if i mention anything about how to keep organzied, i get yelled at, and treated like i am too stupid to understand them. it's getting frustrating, and i don't know how long i can stand coming home and seeing everything BEYOND dirty. how do i tell my parents that i am worried about this environment, and that i want things to change? my mom is too sick to really help, and my dad has started habits that are actually making it harder to keep things clean (like putting trash in the sink when the can is full, then putting and industrial sized can in the living room because he doesn't want to walk 5 feet.) it looks awful and it's harming their health. furthermore, i am tired of being responsible for essentially, 4 children. i don't want my sisters to have the same emotional problems that i did from being seen as a cleaning tool... and i have no idea how to talk to my parents about it.

please, please help.

Tell your parents by living the way they are it's
unhealthy not only for them but for your sisters also it's unsanitary and because of it your sisters are getting sick and their health is being jeopardized by them leaving the house the way it is your parents are putting your sisters at risk of being taken away by child protective services and having them get involved the environment their living in isn't healthy tell them your worried and want things to change so when you do move you won't have any reason to worry you need to make your parents realize how serious the situation is and that it isn't something to be taken lightly or as a joke if you are truely worried about your sisters health and well being then i think you should contact child protective services so your sisters will be taken out of the environment seeing as you don't seem to be getting through to your parents it's clear you can't handle the situation alone and you need help and there's nothing wrong with that at this point you've got to do what's best for your sister's nobody deserves to live in flith and that includes your sisters their no different everyone deserves a clean home to live in including them :)

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Well here is some info about our situation. I am 17 f from Canada, he is 17 m from Usa. We met on the site omegle and ever since have been talking everyday for almost 13 months. We have never met in person. we only see eachother on skype from cam and voice. We have been planning for him to come up and meet me this summer. But...we are still waiting to see if his parents are going to allow him to or not. But there is also an issue of us getting jobs in the summer as well as him gettin the money to come here. Passport and wat not he has 2 get, but hes parents havent said if he is allowed to or not yet. so 4 or 5 months we are thinking a bout meeting. Dunno if its gonna happen though, weve been waiting for an answer for 13 months pretty much. I love him. He loves me. I know we are 17, but we are capable of love and it is my decision if i love some one or not. so please dont say i dont know wat love is. Yes everything is over the computer...you can still fall in love.

Well...i was talking to my cousin lastnit at a hockey game, and she was really talking to me about my whole long distance thing. ALot of wat she said made sense, and i have actually thought about them for months now. the idea that say he couldnt make it to come see me...what do we do then? still sit on the computer everyday and hope hell come next year? I love him so much, but my cousin said that ill regret not dating and doing stuff because im waiting for him. which is true, i feel that way. We both think that no one is going to come our way and that we are the ones for eachother. My cousin also said how his gonna be in college for 4 years...in that 4 years how many times is he gonna see me? which i tihnk is going to be very low not to metion its going to be harder because well only b able to see eachother for like 2 wks then he goes bk. There is alot more things on my mind, but i cant put them into words.

What i am asking is...should we still talk to eachother, but we can still date other people, as long as they know about the whole situation? should we try and do this because our love is so strong for eachother...in the mean while we have no clue how we are gonna be in person because its completly differnt? Should we end it and only b friends, but the thought of that makes me sick...cause we are so simular, he makes me so happy, he makes me laugh, he cares for me so much and does so much for me and hes always here for me. Iv never had a bf before...never kissed or had any physical contact with a guy ever. There is a guy i have been talkint to that wanted to hang out sometime...but id want my first date with Jake (the guy frm usa i talk to), my first kiss with him etc cause it means so much to the both of us, i just dont wanna do that for just anyone one.

There is alot on my mind at this point, it is extremely hard to do this, i cry at points because i just want to feel him or know how he smells or kisses ect. We are young, we do understand the positive and negative parts of this realtionship.

I just dont want us to regret dating within that 4 years or missing out on potential experenices. I dont want us to waste our lives on the computer when we could b in a real relationship with that physical intimacy. but we are perfect for eachother just no in the perfect situation. I cant see myself being with another guy besides him cause he has everything i want and need.

What do you think? Are you in the same situation?
what do you think we should do? Sorry for this being really long...i just have alot on my mind lol.

Ps. He is going to college next year...where there will me tons of new people and girls...so i think in ways us talking to eachother but we can still date is a good way...but he doesnt like it. he doesnt want to loose me. He was on verge of tears lastnit cause he doesnt want me to be with another guy. this is really hard decision...i just need some adive? thank you so much for your time and effort, i really appreciate it! thank you

I'm in a long distance relationship too i think you
two should continue to talk if you feel so strongly about him and you truely can't see yourself with another boy that isn't him if you end it then you
could end up regretting it and you might not be able
to find another boy that has everything you want and
need like he does seeing as every boy is different
i think you should give it a shot there's no harm in
you continuing to talk to him so your relationship progresses in the end the only thing that truely matters is that your happy you've got to do what you think is right i don't think you should date
other people i think you two belong together it's
clear that you both can't live without one another
if your happy with the relationship and him then
continue it why ruin a good thing? :)

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I just graduated high school and i lost ll my "friends." now all the friends i have live 4000 miles away. i feel alone alot and it puts me in depressions. What should i do.

My advice for you is to meet new friends you could
think about getting a job or see if there's kids in
your neighborhood you could hangout with you could
volunteer at places like a hospital or other places where there's volunteer positions or even go to college those are some suggestions as far as you being depressed is concerned i think you should talk to someone about how your feeling either visit a therapist your doctor or talk to your parents whoever you feel most comfortable with keeping everything to yourself isn't a good thing to do you'll feel better once you get everything out in the open for someone to hear you'll feel as if it's all been lifted off your shoulders so to speak once you speak to someone about how your feeling :)

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thats all my boyfriend does were about to have a kid he cusses yells and plays it all night and all day i tell him to stop cussing and he says im not or he'll tell me to shut the fuck up and mind your own business. i can't stand it! he has no job he has no license he does not even go look for one. it makes me so mad he is playing it right now and ever other word is god dam, fuck you, you fucking pussy, you fucking bitch, oh and fuck off. He cant just keep his mouth shout im 20 and he's 19 our baby is due in june 8th then i'll be 21 and he will be 20. please help me
sincerely,
I HATE BLACK OPS

I realize you've got a child on the way but i think you need to break up with him you don't deserve to be told shut the fuck up or mind your business and whatever elese he tells you that shouldn't be tolerated it isn't right you deserve to be treated with respect which he isn't giving you he's got to want to find a job or get a license you or anyone elese can't make him he's got do it on his own i could see if he was attempting but he isn't that isn't acceptable especially since you've got a child on the way he needs to support you step up and be a man and father which he isn't doing i have a feeling once the baby arrives he'll continue playing the video games and it will only get worst he won't change his behavior and help with taking care of the baby you'll be left to do all that and it needs to be both of you helping not one person i don't think trying to talk to him is going to work he has to want to change nobody can force him to do
so i think you should break up with him before the baby arrives at this point you need to do what's right for both you and the baby :)


I'm not sure if you've seen the show 16 and Pregnant but a girl named Megan went through
what your going through her boyfriend also played videogames and of course she was pregnant here's the link if you'd like to watch the episode


http://www.mtv.com/shows/16_and_pregnant/season_2/episode.jhtml?episodeID=173724

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