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Family & Boyfriend Problem, please read
I'll start out by telling you.. my sister and I have never got along, my parents haven't really been there for me growing up either, with saying that.. I am 18 years of age.
I met my bf "C" through my sister in January of 2010. They met in the marine core, and he came to visit her at our home for a few days, me and him didn't really speak.
She was engaged to Alex her bf, at that time, and now married to him.
So while she was engaged she cheated on Alex several times, with other guys..
Well I've been "dating" C for 8 months now, since the 1st of July.
We haven't really been on a date or everything, so call it what you want, we've been talking on the phone for these 8 months. We've had our arguements and such as normal relationships do, we've skyped plenty, sent each other pictures, videos.. etc I've stayed faithful the whole time, and so has he.
My parent's dont like him...
literally last week I found out, he and my sister madeout... back when they were friends and he came to visit her, before he even thought about talking to me.
I had a idea because my sister puts out with every guy and I've asked "C" before if anything happened between them though and he denied it.
He has lied before, about drinking. He has a drinking problem.. once he starts, he doesn't stop.
My parents know about this situation, my mom says its digusting that hes kissed my sister and wants to be with me.
"C" is 20 years old, and I have told him my most personal kept secrets that nobody else knows.. we've talked basically everyday for 8 months now.
He's supposed to come see me in two weeks from now, and stay for 3 weeks in a hotel, just so we can see each other, rather than go see his family.
I'm really just not sure what to think, should I leave him because he used to like my sister?
The way we started talking was, he called my house asking 2 talk to my sis or my mom and they weren't here, so we started talking.. and from then on, we talked everyday...
Should I leave him because of something happened between him and my sis before he even talked to me?
My sister and I are not close in any way and I cannot stand her.
Thanks to all answers and anyone who takes the time to read this.
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I think you shouldn't break up with him just because he used to like your sister before you guys started dating. He didn't know about you till then.. And anyway you sister is married now( so it's not like he can go and be with her anymore) And why would he want to be with her also? If he has been talking to you for the past eight months and is coming too see you and not going to visit his family.. He definately must be liking you a lot..
And maybe he didn't want to tell you the truth because he was scared about what you would think of him? I feel you should meet him and spend some time with him.
As far is your mom is concerned, it is natural for her to hate him. Any mom would dislike a guy who tries to make out with one of her daughters and then goes out with the other. It is, but natural. I think she is just concerned.
I feel this guy deserves a chance.Try him out and try to forget about the past.
Hope I hepled!
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It's not as simple as 'leaving him cause he kissed your sister'...
There are good ideas, and there are bad ideas. Most of the time we kinda know which is which.
Dating a guy long-distance, with a drinking problem, who didn't bother to tell you he'd kissed your sister (for eight months!) is starting to look like a bad idea.
It doesn't matter if your sister is a total bitch - this guy is pretty iffy in his own right. I think - and I could be wrong - but I think you have a little alarm bell going off in the back of your head telling you that maybe being with this guy isn't the best idea.
In my opinion, you should pay attention that feeling.
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No i don't think you should leave him because of
what happened between him and your sister i could
see if it happened while you two were together then you'd have a reason to leave him and that'd be a different story but it happened before he started talking to you he made a mistake by lieing about him drinking the good thing is his drinking problem can be fixed if he chooses to get help you can't hold the fact that he lied about drinking and he denied some things aganist him he's not perfect and made mistakes he deserves another chance to prove he'll be truthful and honest with you i don't think you should leave him because of what happened between him and your sister it's in past that's where it will stay for now focus on
the future :)
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