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Cheating boyfriend!
okay so I have been dating this guy for the past three months and I recently found out he was cheating on me! He told the girl he made out with that he was single and that I was just his friend! I found this out cause i incidentally talked to the girl.I really got angry when I found out he had been lying to me all this while and I immediately broke up with him. when i confronted him about the whole thing he had to accept it but then for the first five hours after confrontation he was all like "i cant believe i could lie so well.." but after that he said sorry and kept on texting and calling me up! he wanted me back and told me he was very sorry and all and he actually spoke to some of his friends (who i know too) about the whole thing and how he really feels sorry about everything. he told some of our mutual friends to call me up too ..should i trust him again and go back to him or not????
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In my honest opinion, no, you should not go back to him.
He's raised 2 red flags for me already, and I'm only reading a paragraph on the internet. That says a lot.
1. When you confronted him, he said "I can't believe I could lie so well." First of all, he's a liar, so that sucks because now you can't believe anything he says. Second, he seems so proud about being able to pull it off. He just seemed amazed with himself, like lying so well was a good thing. Disgusting.
2. He cheated on you. I hate to go by the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing because some people really DO change, but that's obviously not the case with everyone. If he has cheated on you before, who is to say he won't do it again? Yes, there's a small chance he's learned his lesson and will keep it in his pants this time around, but I've learned you can't always trust everyone and give them the benefit of the doubt.
I don't wanna tell you to be cynical, and fear relationships and have a wall up, but before dating anyone or even becoming friends with someone, always take a second to think about it and if it's something you really want. If someone gives you a weird vibe, it's best to stay away.
All in all, sweetie, don't go back to him. He'll probably cheat on you again, and he's a lying sack of shit. If he wants to hook up with a bunch of girls, cool, but he should have the decency to be single. Don't give him the time of day. You'll find a guy who really respects and deserves you eventually. I hope this helps, and I hope you feel better. Being cheated on really hurts, and it can really mess someone up. If you need anything else, feel free to inbox me again. :)
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Don't go back to him. My opinion about cheating is:
If he does it, but then feels guilty and soon after admits it, he truly cares about you.
If he lies and never has plans to tell you, then he doesn't care and has no remorse.
You deserve a guy who can treat you right, not one who is a liar. Pleae stand up for yourself
Good luck,
-Abby
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Hey,
if I were you, I'd take into consideration here that three months isn't really that long of a time to have been with someone and already have cheating issues. Not saying that I condone cheating, but I do feel people make mistakes, but they often make them much later in the relationship. I'm scared to tell you to trust him and take him back, because if he's slipping up this early, he may not be ready for commitment yet. Give it some time. Stay friends for a while, and see where his head is really at. After a few weeks, maybe even a couple months, it'll likely be an easier decision for you.
Hope I Helped =)
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I wouldn't go back to him. What if he finds another girl he's into and says that you're just his friend and he ends up hooking up with her or something? I don't think there is any way you could fully trust him again. You could always try to, but you will always have doubts in the back of your mind wondering if he is faithful to you or not.
He might be sorry but if you didn't find out and didn't break up with him, would he have regretted it? Maybe he's just sorry that you found out.
Anyway, I think you should find someone better who won't cheat on you and won't hurt you like that. You obviously deserve better. Good luck!
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First you need to make sure that hes only cheated once. Then you got to make sure he really does like you a lot like he says he does. I dont think you should get back with him because he cheated after three months and thats a little bit of time you guys were togather and he cheated. That means he sill wants other girls, he could could still like you but its not going to pervent him from doing it again. If your feelings are stronger than your mind then i say you decide.
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Walk away with your head held high knowing that he's not remorseful, trustworthy or going to change. Nobody said doing so wouldn't hurt or be easy but you must. Also tell your friends to tell him where to go and stop manipulating them.
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I wouldn't.
Sometimes in a lengthy marriage with children and the ups and downs in life, there can be infidelity slip-ups. And people work through them because they're committed, raising children together and own property and it is actually easier to stay than to go. And of course some people still throw in the towel. It's a very serious betrayal of trust.
But this is a three-month relationship. This is the testing ground to see if someone is worth getting serious with. He's failed the test. You take someone back after cheating at three months, and I can guarantee you that you'll be dealing with even more similar nonsense at 6 months, 1 year, 2 years.
And think about this: how long would it have continued had you not caught him? You'll never know and that will likely haunt you if you stay with him. You'll know he's capable of cheating, lying convincingly and that the only way to know if he's being faithful is to check up on him or catch him. Is that any way to live?
Get out now. You don't want to fall in love with someone like this. Consider yourself lucky you discovered his true nature so early. And ask your friends not to mention him to you anymore. You need a clean break from this guy.
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No i don't think you should trust him again and go
back to him he cheated on you and even worst lied about it you don't deserve to be cheated on and lied to if he was really sorry like he claims to be he wouldn't of did what he did and would of been honest and truthful with you from the start it's his loss he lost you..you did nothing wrong he can say he's truely sorry but the thing is you don't know if that's the truth if you do get back with him he could cheat again and lie then you'll be in the same situation you are now once a cheater always a cheater that describes him you deserve someone better who is going to treat you with respect and isn't going to lie and cheat someone who will be truthful and honest with you you shouldn't go back with him like i said it's his loss he doesn't deserve a second chance :)
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People make mistakes all the time, but these kinds of mistakes should never happen. He was proud of himself of being able to hide something from you so who knows what else he's hiding, or going to hide in the future.
I believe he's calling mutual friends, and apologizing because now he feels lonely because the chick he made out with was just a makeout session to him and now she's gone but so are you.
I know you must really like him, if not love him but I would try to seperate myself from him.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
If you need anymore help, I'll be happy to support you through this.
Good luck --- there's guys who don't cheat, and every girl deserves one. (:
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