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My grandma bought me a bunch of nail polish and I don't really know how to do it I was wondering if anyone has some tips?
Paint the nails, let them dry, then put on another coat. It doesn't matter how messy they are because it's easy to remove the paint from your skin. I usually just use a pair of tweezers to scrape it away once everything is dry. "Scrape" may sound like it hurts, but it doesn't at all. All you need to do is peel the extra paint away. Taking a shower once you're sure it's totally dry can help too. It really just takes practice. Don't try to do any crazy designs until you get the hang of it. You may want to start practicing with your toenails instead of your fingernails. Have a lot of nail polish remover around. The good thing is that if you really mess it up, you can wipe them clean and try again. Good luck!
I have these marks on my thighs. They're right where my private part is (Tmi, I know haha sorry). There's about 4 on my left thigh and 3 on my right. At first I thought they were stretch marks, but they're red/pink. They're not bruises or cuts, because they don't hurt. When I touch them, I just feel the mark where it's at. What is this? I'm starting to freak out a little bit. That's the only place where these marks are. Also, I'm a female if it matters.
They sound like stretch marks. I have them too. I've never been even close to overweight and I used to be really embarrassed by them. I thought they'd go away, but they haven't. I've come to terms with it over time, but what helps is that they are really far up on my legs, like yours sound like they are. This helps because the only time anybody is really going have a chance to seem them is if you're in a swimsuit. And girl, the last thing anybody's going to be looking at when you're in a swimsuit is your stretchmarks, right? :) This is a very, very common thing for women to have and nothing to be ashamed of. Stand proud in your body and if anybody ever says anything about it, tell them off! People just aren't used to seeing what a real human body looks like anymore and that's really unfortunate. Good luck.
What would you do?
My partner hid his diagnosis from me for 6 full months - actually he never told me, I found his medical report last month after becoming terribly suspicious that something was wrong, that I had been lied about something. Still don't know what to think about it and whether I want to continue the relationship or not. And while I truly do understand the fear of losing someone you love once the truth is out, I simply cannot grasp the fact that he did not insist on using condoms, this is simply beyond me. I tested negative last week but it is too early to know for sure. I don’t know what I would have done had he told me the truth at the beginning of our relationship or after a month or two, or ever, but I think what he did decide to do was the worst option possible.
He did tell me at the beginning of our relationship that he was a recovering heroin addict and my reaction, being completely out of that world, was maybe too harsh. Now he claims that this reaction kept him from telling me about HCV. In the last 20 days we've been through many discussions most of which end with his conclusion that I don't love him enough, that I don't understand what he's been through and so on. I must admit that I am quite confused about what I want and feel at the moment.
Thank you for your time.
Don't allow him to manipulate you!! Addicts are very good at manipulating people into continuing to enable their bad behavior. You were not too harsh! You can not ever fully trust or love him after what he has done. Do not allow him to create this confusion in you about what you want. You do not want a partner that would do this to you. By "do this" I am not just talking about failing to tell you important things, but also blaming you afterwards by saying that you don't love him enough. Are you kidding me? That's a completely horrible and selfish thing to say to someone that you have just betrayed. He shows absolutely no sign of remorse. If he has, it's genuine. What about what you have been through? He cannot use his past as an excuse for his present bad behavior toward you. What he has done to you cannot be forgiven. He is not a good person. You love your own perception of him, not who he actually turned out to be. He has shown a complete disregard for your health and safety. He does not deserve you and you do not deserve him. The worst thing that you can do is to remain in his life. Not only will he continue attempting to manipulate you because it has worked in the past and it's now how his relationship with you is, so you will suffer, but he will never change or get better so he will suffer as well and will not have a chance to get better. Do not spend another day with him. You cannot help him. By helping him, you are actually really hurting him as well as yourself. It is never the right thing to do to stay with someone because you feel sorry for them or because you love particular memories of them. This next part might be the hardest. You have to report him. He knew he had HCV and either intentionally or certainly recklessly participated in acts with you that could have caused you to become infected. It's very important that you do this. You have to protect other women from him. You know that he would do the same thing to someone else. Not reporting him could mean that you are partly responsible for his future crimes. Not only would this protect you, but it would help him. Yes, he could be punished for it, but if you don't do anything, he's gotten away with something else, manipulated someone else, and is not being held responsible for anything. Until he is held responsible he will continue to blame everyone else and continue down the path of becoming a very bad person. Please do this. For him, for yourself, and especially for the women that he could devastate in the future. No one should go through what you are going through. Wouldn't it feel good to know that you could have saved one other innocent woman? Good luck with everything.
So about two days ago my friend Olivia asked me to prank text her friend Brandon. She sent me the prank message and I sent it to him. I got in trouble, she got in trouble, we apologized to Brandon. It was stupid on my end and I shouldn't have done it and I feel bad. Olivia got her phone taken away because of it but before her mom took her phone she posted a screenshot of the message on Instagram with this caption: getting my phone taken away for six weeks because me and Laura (I'm Laura by the way) decided to prank a guy who scares too easily... Idiot...." Why would she post that?! I'm so mad because now the entire school knows what we did. I feel so sad and embarrassed about it too because we really scared the boy we texted. She doesn't care though because according to her mother this isn't the first time she's persuaded a friend to do something like this. I can't text/call her about it because she doesn't have her phone. Can't go to her house either, I don't know where she lives. How do I get her to take the post down???? I'm a good girl, I usually don't do things like this and I've only gone to this school for about a months I this is sort of people's first impression of me so now anyone who saw the post will think I'm an asshole! What do I do? And after this is all over should I sot talking to Olivia???
Since you don't have any contact with Olivia and this is an urgent matter, explain the situation to Olivia's mother. This is the best way to get the post taken down. I'd wager that if her mom knew what she had posted and how it made you feel, she'd make her delete it. As to whether or not you should stop talking to Olivia, I would say that it depends on what she says when you do get a chance to talk to her. If she seems remorseful like you, then she may be a friend worth keeping. You should be able to decide for yourself based upon how she is acting afterward. I agree that it might help if you were post something of your own on Instagram apologizing for the part you played in the situation. Take full responsibility for your actions and make sure not to purposefully or unintentionally make Olivia look bad. She's done that well enough on her own and doing so would only hurt your reputation further. All you can do is be nice and apologetic and hope that people can figure out the truth on their own. Try doing something nice for Brandon that isn't intrusive and doesn't draw any attention to him. Like make him something. If you are truly sorry and he knows it, he could be a good advocate for you. It sucks that this has happened to you, but next time you'll have a better idea of what to do. Give Olivia a chance, but not much of one. Good luck!
I'm 21/f and he is 24/m
We have been together for 3 months. Well, for the first time in years, I was finally happy. I was with a man i never argued with, and someone who seemed they appreciated me. Well Sunday, July 20th- I heard from his cousin he was talking to his ex before me. I asked the ex, she confirmed. When I confronted him, he lied about it but soon confessed and said that he may have gave her reasons to think he wanted her back, blah blah blah, but that he didn't mean it and only spoke to her because he thought he was going to lose me although I gave him no reason to think so. He promised me he wouldn't talk to her, but I wasn't fooled. Three days after, things were good. He wasn't talking to her. Well Thursday was the last day i have seen him. Friday he was acting very weird. Very distant, not texting the same. Taking hours to text me back. But yet was in the phone with his ex till midnight.. Wouldn't answer his phone calls. Well he continued to act weird so i straight out said "if this isn't what you want anymore, just tell me and I'll back off. I just want you happy" and his reply was "I do want this baby. You make me happy" Today he told me I'd get to see him and about 15 minuted before i was to go get him, he said "I can't stop throwing up. I'm so sick". Something to me wasn't right. I asked his cousin and she said he didn't throw up at all and that he just left the house walking and no one knew where he went. His mom thought he was with me and wasn't. That was at 5 that evening. I texted him multiple times and he received the texts but never read them.. (We have att iPhones) well my friend texted him around 10 that night and my "bf" replied back quickly. But yet my messages were never read.
Well a friend of ours made a status about honesty and I commented taking about liars, and my "bf" liked my comment but had yet to reply to my messages. I told him I was done and couldn't do this anymore and NOTHING.
I'm just confused. Idk what happened. Everything was great until I confronted him about his ex last Sunday. And I've made sure not to do anything to push him away. I'm just more hurt trying it figure out what happened then us being done.
Any ideas?? Any tips??
He said I was everything he's ever wanted. That he was in love with me and wanted to carry a long lasting journey together. We never fought. Spent every day together which was his idea; and always laughed and affectionate. Luckily we were never sexually active with one another.
Please help!
You talk about how wonderful the things that he has said to you have been. People can say anything. You can learn the script. How many people are fooled by scammers online who tell them exactly what they want to hear? What has this guy actually done to show you that what he says is true? He's gone and betrayed you, that's what. Be careful not to resort to childish name-calling and public shaming. You're better than that. It's possible that he truly did believe the things that he said to you. A person can believe what they're saying at the time that they're saying it, but not believe it over time. The problem I have with this situation is your ages. I read your question, then went back to remind myself of how old the two of you were. You sound like you're 17. There is no way that he should be behaving like this at the age of 24. What he's doing is teenager crap. Calling him a "man" is an insult to real men when he's behaving like a boy. It's okay to have doubts, but someone his age should be able to handle it maturely and honestly. You say that your relationship has been just short of perfect up until now when really, 3 months isn't that long. The problems didn't just start, you've just been made aware of them so it wasn't really that perfect after all. It's time for you to turn the tables on him. You need to value yourself enough to be totally unaccepting of this behavior. Tell him it's over and stop talking to him. Do not participate in any social media bashing/whining/complaining about him. Then you'd be acting like you're 17 too. You're 21 years old and you're more mature than that. Keep this situation as private as possible. I'm not saying that you can't talk to your friends privately about what you're going through, but don't give him and the rest of the world a free look into what you're going through. It will cause additional drama and pain. End the relationship now and don't take it too personally. He's got issues that you have no control over and that have nothing to do with you. Even though this has been your first good relationship, it won't be your last. The good thing is that you weren't with him for a long time so it shouldn't take too long to recover. Spending one extra minute with this "man" could be one less minute that you will spend with someone who is actually right for you. Kick him to the curb like the boy he is and get out there in search of real love. You will find it! Just remember this: if you're looking for your keys, you're not going to look in the same place more than like, two times. Don't keep looking to this guy for love. It's not there. Good luck.
If you have a best friend who you can be sure you love, and is really a good person to you, and have been in a relationship with over a year, and then gets you pregnant but cheated before and during your first pregnancy, Do you think its worth and possible for that person to change and continue to try to work the relationship out as long as the male wants to?
I have been so confused, I feel like I am the only one going through this. My partner has always, always, been there for me. Always had respect for me and for my family. I always made him feel like he was the best person for me and our relationship was powerful and very bright. I gave him all the trust and benifit of the doubt a person deserves. But he abused it 100% because he was seeing someone else before I got pregnant and I found out during my pregnancy. He made everything fall apart. We were In the process of moving into a home together to make things easier when the baby gets here. He helps me financially but I have a strong grudge against him because he was with someone else who even lived close to me which I never heard about in my life. Social media is used so much now. He had many accounts to communicate with this other girl and would uninstall them from his phone every time we saw each other so he wouldn't recieve any notifications from her. And the girl was in my opinion very very naive for so long because he would only see her during the week after work (telling me he got home and slept because he was tired or went to the gym) and would only see her for maximum 3 hours. Never on weekends because he lied to her saying he worked ALL DAY, (I lived with him on weekends) so I would wake up and sleep next to him and spend all day with him. This other girl was someone on the side but he made her think he really cared about her just for the sex. But I don't know if he really did care for her and did not want to leave her. If that is so, does that mean he didn't love me?
Many things went down hill. He says he has lost all communication with her and has not tried to contact her at all. But he lied to me so much its honestly unbelievable now. He wants me and wants to have our baby together and live together and act as if none of this happened. I feel like it is selfish of him but I feel so confused and lost because I love this person but what he did was cruel. He didnt feel the need to stop, not even when we found out I was pregnant. I am due next month and I need advice but I can't ask any of my friends cause they take my side because they feel bad for me and my family also. His family might take his side so I can't ask them so much either. I think about this every night. I was my best for this person, changed a lot of my bad habits and I felt like I showed him how good life can be when your partner is your best friend. And I received it also, until I found out. The other girl told me she had no idea who I was until he started to act too suspicious. But I don't think I should believe her because she would go to his house, and when I told her to prove to me and tell me the address, she said she didn't remember the streets but that it was far. She also never had his real cell phone numbers. He ways used an app to text her, or would use snapchat, kik, or instagram. I had none of those besides a Facebook, so he blocked her from it. And I had no idea because I never felt the need to go through his things that deep.
We are all teenagers. Please don't think of me as just a little girl who needs to get over this. It feels horrible when people say that because I have been in many relationships and it doesn't mean I have slept with all those men. But I did comunicate a lot and really met people to see who would and would not be my type. Who its safe and unsafe to be around. Who is worth making an effort and who is not.. Etc. But I am not perfect. This is just very hard because a child is involved and someone I have yo spend the rest of my life knowing.
I am 19. He is 20. I hope I can revieve any type of advice. Please and thank you.
It's very important to make sure that you put his name on the birth certificate. If the relationship doesn't work out, this establishes him as the father and it's much, much easier to get things like child support later on.
He needs to understand that he has hurt you very deeply. By wanting to act as if nothing happened, he is showing that he does not or has not come to terms with this. That's not to say that it's necessarily selfish. You have a child to think about now, not just yourself. It would be best for the child to have 2 parents who were together and not focused on or consumed by their own problems. You need to muster all of your strength to try to sort this out for the sake of your child.
Ignoring what happened and going on with your lives is not an option. He cannot be given a free pass on this. Doing so would be a way of accepting/allowing what he did and giving him no reason not to do it again. He needs to know that what he did was completely unacceptable, deplorable, and unforgivable. He needs to know that if he does it again, that's it. The two of you need to seek help immediately in the form of a relationship counselor. In order to provide a good home for your child, you will need to forgive him (even though his actions are "unforgivable"). You're not ready for forgiveness and don't have the tools that you need to even begin thinking about something like that. This is why it is crucial for you to seek help over this today. Once the baby arrives, it will be difficult to find the time or energy to deal with this problem and it cannot go un-dealt with. Good luck.
Ok um a virgin my bf cam outside my virgina can i still be pregnet ?? But he dident put it in me :(
It is very rare for a pregnancy to occur without penetration, but it can happen. Chances are that you're not pregnant, but crazier things have happened. It's definitely something to worry about. You're going to be kind of freaking out until you get your period. Hopefully it's due to come soon. Let this anxiety be a lesson to you to never again allow yourself to use your inexperience as an excuse not to act responsibly in sexual situations. This is a question that you should have asked yourself before you participated in the behavior or certainly while the behavior was happening. Put a stop to anything that does not feel right or that you're not sure about. There is too much at stake for you to be okay with acting meekly and just going with the flow. Sparing your boyfriend's feelings for a few minutes is not worth risking a pregnancy that would result in a child taking up his and your feelings/time/money/everything for [at least] 18 years. Do some research now so that next time you're ready. Until you know the answers to all of your questions, you are not ready to participate in sexual activity. Educate yourself now. My advice to you would be to refuse to participate in any sexual activity with him unless he is wearing a condom. It's just too risky otherwise especially with your and his inexperience and lack of knowledge. Good luck.
My co worker is hiv positive what exactley does that mean
This link explains both HIV and AIDS very well.
http://std.about.com/od/hivaids/f/hivdifaids.htm
Don't worry about being around your coworker. HIV cannot be spread through physical contact such as a handshake or a hug. You would need to come in contact with your coworker's blood or a significant amount of your coworker's body fluids in order to become infected. People who are HIV positive can live relatively normal lives and should not be treated any differently than anyone else. The only thing you should consider is that if you are sick, try to avoid contact with this person and take more personal responsibility to make sure that your sickness doesn't spread to others (something that you should do anyway!). Since your coworker's immune system is weakened by the virus, something like a mild cold could affect them much more severely than the average person. Just keep in mind that your coworker is not dangerous or fragile and again, should not be treated any differently.
Which do you think is weirder ? A close guy friend that cuts and files my nails and toes nails or a close guy cousin that cuts and files my finger and toe nails ? Or are they both weird ?
Yeah it is weird. Especially since they're both doing it independent of each other. Did you ask them to do it at one point or something? By definition, "weird" means that it's uncommon. I can't imagine that a large percentage of people do this sort of thing. I doubt most guys file their own nails, let alone someone else's. A lot of people don't like feet and wouldn't want to be that close to someone else's feet. It's quite an intimate thing for them to be doing for you. This is not to say that there's anything wrong with something that's weird. It's just not something that you see most people doing. If it makes you feel any better, I actually cut my husband's toenails from time to time because he does a really bad job on them himself and I don't want to look at that. I can't imagine doing it for anyone else, but your situation is not completely odd to me personally. Many people tie the word "weird" in with other words like creepy, gross, or unnatural. They shouldn't do that and you shouldn't either. Some people, rather than thinking that feet are gross, really like feet. Is that weird? Yes, but you're never alone in your weirdness and who would enjoy a world where everyone was exactly the same? Just because something is weird doesn't mean it's wrong.
Hello,
We just moved to a new ground floor apartment. There is a terrace and a hedge which attracts a lot of unwanted wildlife.
Does anyone know any proven tips to get rid of spiders? People tell me just to get used to them because they eat other insects, but I really don't like walking and being caught up in webs, or spiders the size of my fist running across the floor.
I've read citrus, mint, lavender etc oils, but does anyone have any tried and tested things? These oils can be pretty pricey so don't want to keep getting things that don't work.
I should add that the apartment itself is very clean and uncluttered.
Thanks a lot, :)
I had ants coming in really badly in an old apartment. There was no way to seal everything off because the house was so old and the landlord refused to do anything or allow us to do anything. We ended up using Sevin dust (got it from Lowe's). It's a really potent insecticide so you need to be careful with it, but it really works. We sprinkled it in areas outside of the house where we thought the ants were coming in and it took care of most of the problem for very little money. Good luck!
so I need advice about my boyfriend. He's 21m and I'm 19f. We both have been dating for two years. I love him and like who he is but I have a problem. I don't really think he takes me seriously when I told him to wait on have sex. He's nice and acts like he'll wait but when all of a sudden something seems sexual in the conversation he make it into one not intended to be one and says he was joking about it. He knows that I still get embarrassed about sexual stuff he says to me. Another thing he gets confused about things easily. He irritates me but I keep it to myself because I have no friends sometimes and he proves he's there for me. I feel like I always have to guide him because he doesn't have any idea on how to do many things, I like being there to help him but he has to have mind of his own right?. I feel bad talking like that about him he's nice but his actions speak louder. I need any advice I can get thanks!
Go back and look at all of the questions that you've asked on this site before. Do you see a pattern? It can be powerful to see all of the words that you've written over the course of several years all at once. It seems like you've been trying to talk yourself out of being with this guy for a long time. Sex has always been an issue with him. Not knowing what you're feeling or if you're really invested in the relationship has been an issue for a long time too. He is not the guy for you. It has never felt right and it never will. You're not compatible. It seems like you're just staying with him because you'd rather be with him than not and because he's "nice". This isn't good for you and it isn't good for him either. It's time to break up with him. The longer you stay with him, the longer you will be away from the guy who is actually right for you. It's going to be a hard thing to do because you've held on for no reason for so long. You can do this. Gather your courage and finally do the right thing.
Lately, I have been having a gut feeling that my husband may be big curious or even gay. In the very beginning of our relationship (been married almost three years together almost 4yrs.) He admitted that when he was younger a friend and him were playing around and the friend ended up giving him a Blow***. I asked him then if he was gay or if he would do it again. He said no. Keep that in mind. A few months back my husband his friend and I started going to the gym. My husband is a man who is in and out of the shower, 7 minutes top! Every time the two went in there they would take ATLEAST 30 mins. I take long showers I would take one myself in the girls room and would still have to wait. I have asked my husband and he said he would just wait for him. Now his friend on the other hand, let's just say if you met him you would think he had sugar in his tank. I live in a small country town and my female friend said her husband had sex with a man before. People in this town including his family say he may be gay or curious as well. For a week now my husband and I are not talking, because I feel like I am being lied too when I ask him if he is gay or bisexual. I can work with bisexual, I just want to know so we can both have safe sex. He still says NO. I don't want to think that I am over thinking everything but I don't want to end up like my husbands mother, lied to and turn out that my husband is bisexual or gay. IDC what he is, I just want to know. I have told him how I felt and how its okay to like other men. I just don't know anymore. I won't let my husband touch me nor look at me because I feel like I am being lied too. I even talked to his friend and asked in a mature matter. I was not disrespectful nor did I just pop the question are you gay? Or what's going on with my husband and you. I explained my reasons first then asked. His friend says he's not gay.
Take a minute and breathe. Think about this: what if he is completely 100% straight? Think of it from his perspective. He can only tell you so many times before becoming frustrated. If he really isn't gay, you are completely destroying your marriage out of fear, which is coming from what happened to your in-laws. What if he hasn't done anything wrong and it's all you? You have to consider this as a possibility. Flip the switch for a second. Imagine your husband accused you of cheating on him and you hadn't, but nothing you could say would make him believe you. You fought over it every day and your relationship began to deteriorate. What would you do? Would you start to think that he'd never give up on getting you to "admit" something that you never did? When you say "I just want to know" to him, it really means that the only thing that he can do to help the situation is tell you that he is gay whether that's the truth or not. That's what you want to hear (even though it isn't what you want to be true). That might not make sense, but think about it. What can he do to make you believe him if he really is straight? Would you believe him or have you already decided?
Here's what you need to do. Look for concrete evidence. Talk to your husband's friend that he goes to the gym with. It is very possible that you're right, but at this moment, you're rampaging like a madwoman with no reason to do so. If you can't find any evidence, you have to believe him when he says he's straight. If you can't believe him, you need to speak to a counselor to help you resolve your issues. What happened with your in-laws is very much affecting how you are relating to your husband and it shouldn't. He is not his father and your relationship is not their relationship. You need to follow your gut and not completely drop this because you could be right, but start going about it in a more constructive and less anxiety-filled way. Trade in your fear for self-reflection, realism, and logic. Good luck.
I'm 16 and yes I do cut and I don't need a lecture. I'm trying to stop but I have an overwhelming amount of mental disorders. With that out of the way, I have to go to y cottage in 2.5 weeks and it's just me, my mom, younger brother, and aunt. No one except my best friend knows about my cutting and burning. I have a few faint scars from cutting on my arms and thighs and I want them to remove themselves because I have to wear a bathing suit at the cottage most of the time. And I have some very prominent burn scars on the wrist. There are 2 very pinky/red ones and one of them has gone white/ beige. I want the brighter ones to go white or beige so it isn't as noticeable. Does anyone know any remedies I can make at home tha works? I cannot just go out and buy special creams an it need I be fast acting, thanks
Scars don't go away. That's the problem. You probably didn't really think about the embarrassing long-term consequences of what they're doing and if you did, you didn't understand how awful it would really be. You'll stop cutting soon, but many many years from now you'll still have those scars. You'll still have to deal with people questioning them years and years beyond when you could justify having even done it in the first place. Just like you can't make your boobs bigger, you can't get rid of scars. Let this hard truth be what it takes for you to stop. Since you're only 16, your skin is still young and the scars have a chance of fading. Keep cutting and burning for much longer and that won't be the case anymore. Stay out of the sun because getting a tan will make the scars more obvious. Could you pretend that you have your period and not wear a bathing suit as much or put shorts over it because you're feeling uncomfortable? The only thing that you can really do to reduce the appearance of the scars is makeup. Experiment with it over the next 2 weeks and you should be able to find something that makes them less apparent. There are actually makeups specifically made for covering scars and tattoos. I'm not sure how easy it would be for you to get a bunch of makeup unnoticed, but that's really your only option. Unfortunately, there's very little that you can do about this. The next time you go to harm yourself, think about how permanent what you're doing really is. The pain of dealing with the scars all the time is going to be much worse over time than whatever you're dealing with now. Good luck!
I have been with my boyfriend for close to 3 years now. When we first got together we both heavily discussed not wanting to get married. He has a child from a previous relationship (they never married) she is 4 now and I think of her as my own daughter. With a child involved being serious or not being together are really the only 2 outcomes of a relationship. Well we moved in together after 1 year and we are very happy. I love him and we are still sexually active and emotionally involved, we don't fight very often and his little girl just puts the bow on top of it all. Well, recently we decided with his former girlfriend that it would be best to get custody legally set. During the meeting he kept referring to me as his fiancé. Not sure if he did it because it sounds good legally or what. lately we have discussed buying a home after the lease goes up on our apartment. He said he is ready to sign a mortgage with me, we talk about building a green house and how we would paint his daughter's room. It seems so serious and I feel like at least for me how I felt 3 years ago when we first started dating has changed and I am starting to think he is the one. I am nervous to bring it up to him though, what if he still does feel that way? I don't want to feel the sting of being rejected by the man I have built a life with. I'm not sure how to bring it up without sounding like i am asking. How should I approach him? What should I say?
Dragonflymagic is right. You should never enter into agreements like a mortgage with someone without the benefit of marriage. This is because if the two of you split up and you're married, divorce court can settle everything. If the two of you split up and you're not married, you can't go to divorce court and things can get very complicated. People like to think of marriage as a big huge scary commitment and it is on one side. On the other side, though, it gives you legal rights and protections that you are really going to want to have unless you keep all of your finances completely separate and never have children. I think it would be perfectly reasonable to bring this up since he called you his fiancé. There's your easy opening. Because he did this you can bring it up in sort of a joking way. Ask him if he called you that because it sounded better than girlfriend or did you swallow the ring last week when you went out to eat and he was too embarrassed to tell you? Clearly that didn't happen, but telling a joke is a way to break the ice. You MUST discuss the ramifications of purchasing or building a home together without being married. It's not like you have to have an extravagant wedding. You can go to the courthouse and make it official. No matter what he says to you DO NOT sign a mortgage with him if you're not married. It can turn into a complete nightmare and all you need to do to protect both of you is get a piece of paper saying you're married. It doesn't have to change your relationship or anything. Since he seems to be very serious about getting a house, you need to get serious about this. It's going to be hard to bring it up, but the conversation needs to happen before you get swept into a situation that turns out badly and all you had to do from the start was just say something. Do not just go along with the flow because it's the easier thing to do than opening your mouth and asking him where he wants your relationship to go. If you can't talk to him, you shouldn't be with him. Force yourself to bring it up and you'll know what to say. The words will come. The hardest part is finding the courage to start the conversation. Once it's over, you'll be kicking yourself for how easy it was and wondering why you were so afraid of just talking. Seriously though, do not enter into a mortgage with him unless you're married. Stand firm on that. Don't pressure him into getting married if he doesn't want to, but don't put yourself in a vulnerable position. It's not like you have to be married to get a house. You just have to be married if both of you are on the mortgage. One person's name could be on the mortgage and you could come up with an arrangement that you can agree with if you split. As long as you put everything in writing and sign it, you should be okay. Be very careful not to say anything that will make it seem like you are pressuring him into getting married and you'll be fine. Say something like this toward the beginning of the conversation: "I am not and would never pressure you into getting married because that's not me. I just want to talk about our relationship and where it's going since we're beginning to talk about making serious financial commitments. I want to make sure that both of us are protected no matter what happens. If we get a mortgage together and then split up, it would be a disaster. If we get married first, we'd actually be much more protected from harm. Such a big financial commitment could cause big legal problems for us and I don't want either of us to get hurt. Getting married would protect us from more harm than staying unmarried would if we were serious enough to get a mortgage together. That's what legal marriage is for. To protect people. Why wouldn't we want that protection? We can still get a house and both of us can contribute, but I wouldn't be comfortable with both of our names on the mortgage unless we were married. It probably sounds like I'm pressuring you into getting married, but I promise I'm not. I just don't want to make any mistakes." Good luck!
http://homeguides.sfgate.com/buy-house-jointly-not-married-49893.html
http://www.bankrate.com/brm/news/real-estate/unwed-buying1.asp
15/f and I have a few questions about having pubic hair. I don't have wax available to me so I do shave it but that area gets really irritated and forms bumps of red and is really rough unlike the skin on my legs or underarms when they are shaved. Also, in which direction is it better to shave the pubic region? Sorry this is awkward
To add to the advice you've already gotten, hair conditioner makes a really great shaving cream and let it grow in a bit before trying to shave again.
http://www.wikihow.com/Shave-Your-Bikini-Area-Completely
This guy has been asking me for sex since Sophomore year. He's been asking me stuff like sex, and stuff related to that I see him a lot bc I'm a lacrosse manager and i became one in 10th grade and he plays. He asked me and I was like watch the game bc he was talking to me and this was during our junior year. And he was like is that a no. I didn't say anything. He asked me again and he was like are u in the middle like yes and no and i nodded my head. Also he snap chatted me after and was like i know you want to have sex with me, he's serious. I snap chatted him saying "ok ill admit it, I want too. happpppy?" and he didn't snap chat back. And then we planned on hooking up after one game but I sorta faked because we were going to his car or mine and Im very unsure about myself he's been bugging me since 10th grade. He showed interest too in 9th grade like its weird!
But all of that is over! We never did anything and he has a gf. So our summer started this year, he contacts me in the very beginning of summer and it was just a awkward but he still wanted to do stuff with me.
We are rising seniors now, do you think he's still trying to get my pants, once lacrosse season starts again or maybe during the school year? I want him so bad..
I snap chatted him saying "I guess.. you'll never f*ck me" and he didn't snap chat back, but he always views my stories all the time. What is he thinking now?? Maybe bc its summer? Please answer my question right here!
It's nice to feel wanted. It's nice to know that someone wants you. It's easy to want someone back. What's very different than all of this is actually hooking up with someone. Take this for what it is: flirting and hormones. It is not, nor should it be, anything else. This guy seems like an idiot. It's nice to feel wanted, but what's nicer is someone that wants you because they like you not just because they think you're attractive. If you ever did have an experience with this guy it wouldn't be good. He's not interested in your needs and he was probably all talk back then. He has a girlfriend now and has matured. You need to mature too. Wanting to have sex with someone because they talked abut sex with you isn't mature. All you're going to do is get him in trouble with his girlfriend by sending him these messages. He's not going to want anything to do with you once you ruin his life. Seriously though, if this guy wants you, others do too. If he was so bold to say what he said, there are a lot of other guys interested in you. You're probably really attractive to guys. He can't be the only guy looking at you and being like "damn". He was just the only one that was immature enough to talk to you about it in the way that he did. Let your experience with him be a confidence builder. There are tons of guys that want you. I'm sure he still does, but it's not going to happen and it shouldn't. Find someone that you actually like personality-wise, get to know him, start dating, and have sex with him! It'll be so much better than this creeper. As good as it made you feel to hear it, he's a creeper. Non-creeps want you too. They're just not going to be creepy and let you know about it so directly. Forget about this guy. You can do way better. Good luck!
My parents brought a dog home last night and it's so annoying! It keeps fighting with the other dog and has peed on the floor three times. Despite this, I'm the only one ticked off as everyone is like "aw look how cute the wittle puppy is". He was barking at three in the morning last night, and not just a little bit, a full-on frickin' chain of YIP YIP YIP. He knocked over my Chromebook and my mom got mad at me even though I put the charger up on the chair where I thought he wouldn't get it....I hate this dog and wish we would've gotten a kitten instead. Kittens are cute. I wish I could love or at least tolerate it though....what do I do? Just suffer until he's trained?
Puppies aren't for everyone, but there are some things that you can do to make things better. The reason why the puppy was making noise at night was probably because it was the first time away from his mother. This is very common and shouldn't last for more than 2 or 3 days so just hang in there. Knowing that there's a puppy in the house that can knock things over, just be careful about where you put things. If it's peeing on the floor that much, your family is not taking care of it properly. It should be let out every half hour or so and someone needs to be watching it constantly. Consider crate training. Do it yourself if you have to. It may be worth it if you can train the dog more quickly. Crate training is also a nice way to keep the dog out of trouble. If that's not an option, maybe baby gates? Put them up so the dog can't go certain places in the house? Good luck! You won't hate the dog forever. After awhile it won't act much like a puppy anymore. Honestly a kitten probably would have caused just as much trouble too. Rather than suffer until it's trained, train it yourself. There's tons of info online about how to do it. It can actually be fun and rewarding. If you're not willing to do that, then don't complain and just tough it out.
http://www.humanesociety.org/animals/dogs/tips/crate_training.html
http://www.inch.com/~dogs/cratetraining.html
Because I can insert a tampon but it always feels a little odd. Not necessarily uncomfortable, but I can tell it's there. I'm just wondering if I'm still doing it correctly or if I need to push it in farther.
As long as it doesn't hurt you're fine. It is true that some people can't feel them, but certainly not everyone. It can also depend on the brand a bit so try a few different kinds. Good luck and don't worry about this stuff!!
My boyfriend and I are middle school sweethearts and we have finally decided to try and start a family. For 9 months we have practically been having sex every day maybe 3 days tops inbetween we wouldn't. I have weird periods where i skip every other month,so it's hard to schedule anything. I'm still not pregnant, i don't know what I'm doing wrong. Seeing a negative on every test i take is heart breaking. Please set me up with some useful advice. My boyfriend and I are ready to have one of our own, it's just not happening.
I think that what she's saying is that they've been together since middle school. "Middle school sweethearts" like "high school sweethearts", meaning that they've been together since they were young, not that they are young now. If you're at least 20 years old, continue reading. If not, are you crazy? Wait!
Lots of people have trouble getting pregnant. It's not uncommon at all. The best thing that you can do is schedule an appointment with a doctor especially since you have an irregular cycle. It's possible that all you need is a fertility drug. It's also possible that one of you is infertile. A doctor can help you with everything. Good luck!
This link contains way more information than you need, but is informative.
http://www.webmd.com/infertility-and-reproduction/ss/slideshow-which-treatment-is-for-you
I'm quite embarrassed to say that I am a 33 year old female virgin and have never masturbated. I don't think there is something wrong with me, it's just an opportunity to have sex never happened. But now I am constantly thinking of sex, getting sexual urges sometimes for days on end etc. I am even thinking of getting a vibrator just to please the urges. I am quite scared to do it, since it will be my first experience but I am also quite excited at what I might feel. Is there something wrong with me or my sexual urges? Will it calm the urges a bit if I masturbate? I am quite shy about this subject as sex and masturbate is not a common subject in my family / friends circle. I am quite a sorry Suzi / sad case and feel like I am doing something so out of character by ordering a vibrator. Any advice? Should I masturbate?
You shouldn't be embarrassed! If you're thinking about trying masturbation, why not go for it? It's very different from an experience with another person so don't think of it as losing your first experience. That will be just as special and different when it does happen whether you've tried masturbation or not. As for calming urges, it may or it may not depending on the person. You can only really find out once you try it. Since you're shy about this, it might be a good idea to try without a vibrator first. This might not make sense, but you shouldn't try using a power drill before you know how to use a screwdriver. Start small and easy just using your hands. Get comfortable with that and work your way up to the vibrator. Once you've had a little experience, buying a vibrator might not be so scary and you might even have a better idea of what you want. It seems like you really want to try and just needed a little reassurance. Go for it and good luck! :)