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Do you think he still wants to have sex with me? What is he thinking now?
This guy has been asking me for sex since Sophomore year. He's been asking me stuff like sex, and stuff related to that I see him a lot bc I'm a lacrosse manager and i became one in 10th grade and he plays. He asked me and I was like watch the game bc he was talking to me and this was during our junior year. And he was like is that a no. I didn't say anything. He asked me again and he was like are u in the middle like yes and no and i nodded my head. Also he snap chatted me after and was like i know you want to have sex with me, he's serious. I snap chatted him saying "ok ill admit it, I want too. happpppy?" and he didn't snap chat back. And then we planned on hooking up after one game but I sorta faked because we were going to his car or mine and Im very unsure about myself he's been bugging me since 10th grade. He showed interest too in 9th grade like its weird!
But all of that is over! We never did anything and he has a gf. So our summer started this year, he contacts me in the very beginning of summer and it was just a awkward but he still wanted to do stuff with me.
We are rising seniors now, do you think he's still trying to get my pants, once lacrosse season starts again or maybe during the school year? I want him so bad..
I snap chatted him saying "I guess.. you'll never f*ck me" and he didn't snap chat back, but he always views my stories all the time. What is he thinking now?? Maybe bc its summer? Please answer my question right here!
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It's nice to feel wanted. It's nice to know that someone wants you. It's easy to want someone back. What's very different than all of this is actually hooking up with someone. Take this for what it is: flirting and hormones. It is not, nor should it be, anything else. This guy seems like an idiot. It's nice to feel wanted, but what's nicer is someone that wants you because they like you not just because they think you're attractive. If you ever did have an experience with this guy it wouldn't be good. He's not interested in your needs and he was probably all talk back then. He has a girlfriend now and has matured. You need to mature too. Wanting to have sex with someone because they talked abut sex with you isn't mature. All you're going to do is get him in trouble with his girlfriend by sending him these messages. He's not going to want anything to do with you once you ruin his life. Seriously though, if this guy wants you, others do too. If he was so bold to say what he said, there are a lot of other guys interested in you. You're probably really attractive to guys. He can't be the only guy looking at you and being like "damn". He was just the only one that was immature enough to talk to you about it in the way that he did. Let your experience with him be a confidence builder. There are tons of guys that want you. I'm sure he still does, but it's not going to happen and it shouldn't. Find someone that you actually like personality-wise, get to know him, start dating, and have sex with him! It'll be so much better than this creeper. As good as it made you feel to hear it, he's a creeper. Non-creeps want you too. They're just not going to be creepy and let you know about it so directly. Forget about this guy. You can do way better. Good luck!
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There is no 'maybe' or 'indecision' to having sex. Either a person has found someone they are attracted to visually and want them only only that grounds, but then it is really only lust...which is fulfilling ones bodys sexual urges. Not saying its wrong, as long as both are agreed thats all they are expecting.
However if having sex, which is a very personal thing and most females are strongly tied to anything they like by their emotions, then its most likely they will be expecting the sex act to bring about strong feelings of love in both partners for each other. The sex act can be just sex or it can be an outpouring of the committed love two people have for each other, where they show each other how much they desire and love each other...there is a chemistry, and usually the other is their best friend too and this is called Making Love..it's not just sex cus the person looks physically attractive and you are just flattered that someone feels that way about you. I am 55 and still have men that want me for sex regardless if they are 18 0r 80 and I dont not engage in sex with a man just because I am flattered they see me that way. I am married, but I have no desire to even fool around outside the marriage because once i tasted what that strong bond spiritual forces and other that I feel when we are togehter, whether making love or not, anything else would pale in comparison.
So ask yourself what you are really wanting here, just to experience sex, or to experience making love.
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Why would you want to have sex with someone who's not in a relationship with you?
Sex is something intimate. It's something to be shared with someone who cares about you. Not someone who just wants some because why not. It shouldn't be like that. And now he has a girlfriend, so you're obviously not going anywhere with this guy.
I suggest you find someone else. Waiting for the right time isn't that hard once you realize how personal and intimate of an act sex really is.
Best of luck.
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