I'm Victoria. I haven't been on this site in a while. If you have received advice from me before and liked it, please feel free to ask more questions.
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A father finds his son praying at night. 'God bless Mommy, Daddy, and Grandma. Ta ta Grandpa.' The father finds this odd, but doesn't think too much of it. The next morning the grandfather dies. The father remembers the night before, but doesn't say anything. That night, the son prays, 'God bless Mommy and Daddy. Ta ta, Grandma.' The father hopes that nothing happens to the grandmother. Sure enough, the next morning the grandmother dies. At this point the father gets really scared. That night, the son prays "God bless Mommy. Ta ta, Daddy". The father stays up all night long, frightened. Early in the morning he goes to the doctor to make sure everything is fine. When he comes home, his wife is waiting frantically in the driveway and yells "Honey, come quick! The milkman just dropped dead on the porch!"
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"Cowards die many times before their deaths: the valiant never taste death but once. Of all the wonders that I have yet heard, It seems to me most strange that men should fear, seeing that Death,a necessary end, will come when it will come."
-Caesar Act II line 31-37
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" So our stories have made you sad, you tell me. Yes, this I can understand...but tears are not the right response. For every painful story there is one of beauty, one to learn from...You must never forget the art of enjoyment, otherwise the pain of survival will crush you."
-Gasper, a guerilla with the Guatemalan National Revolutionary union.
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Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and he wants to have sex and I do too but there is just one problem I have a disease and I don’t know if I should tell him or not because I don’t want him too to think of me different but we are going to use protection and everything just I don’t want to tell him! And I am sooooo scared! I don’t know about what maybe about him knowing my deepest darkest secret, I don’t know! Please help me! (link)
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If you really love him, you'll tell him. You know what disease that you have, do you want your boyfriend to have it? If he gets upset or angry,and is insensitive about it, hes not the one for you. But be honest,he'll get mad if you don't tell him. Its okay to be scared, but you also need to be brave.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I was babysitting at a place over an hour away (I was spending the night there too), and I was charging my cell before I left, and I guess I forgot it was on and charging, so I had left it at home when I left (accidentaly) and it was charging until about noon the next day... maybe later, so if I estimated it would have been from 4p.m to maybe 12:30p.m, not quite 24 hours, but about 3 and a half hours less.
2 questions...
Is it bad to leave you cell on when you're charging (my cell will still charge)
And is it bad to keep it charging for so long (even if it was on accident) Thanks! (link)
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It wears your battery down alot quicker, but that was only one incident, so you shouldn't do that, I do that sometimes though, so we're both in the wrong *lol*. But just be careful.
MAd love,
Victoria
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theres this girl i dont just have a crush on ive nown her since well (for americans kindergarten)
(for uk reception) and i love her with all my heart she has a bf but i lov her so much i dont know what to do she gave me my first kiss and she has always been there for me but she met this guy i dont know what to do ive nearly told her i love her but chickened out help me please
ill rate huge
despratley needing help
sam (link)
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You need to just tell her, before she slips through your hands, don't worry about her boyfriend, you shouldn't be afraid to admit your feelings to this girl if you trust her. Just sit her down and tell her, you never know what might happen.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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ok my boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 1/2 months and on sunday im going to his house for a couple of hours... ok well we kiss all the time and i want to be able to kiss him in other places. please give me ideas of where guys like to be kissed nothing like head or anything cuz we've both said were not ready for that. thanks bunches (link)
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Try on the neck, right behind his ear, or where his neck and shoulder blade meet. Licking his ear lobe might be a good idea, too, but don't cover it in saliva. That would make things more interesting than on the lips. Have fun!
MAd love,
Victoria
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1st of i'm 16 and i'm in 10th grade and a girl...and i have some pretty awesome best girl friends...well i make-out with a few of them...i don't mind it i actually have fun doing...but i wouldn't call my self bi...i read this thing online and it says that we experment to find out what we like...well i love makeing-out with both sexes! but i've never done more with a girl...i have and talked about eating girls out with my other best friend and we have talked about doing to each other...but i could never see my self with a girl...because i just love boys...but what i am getting at is it wrong to want to do this stuff with girls...it's mainly with my best friend...it's just a experment..is it wrong to experment with her? she has ate a girl out before..i mean i'm not scared to do it and i don't feel un-comfortable caouse she is my best frined...my point...does any of this seem wrong?
((i don't want the stupid rood people to answer this...or jerks who think it's "nasty"))
love: the girl who doesn't know!! (link)
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As long as both of you guys are comfortable with the situation, but things may get weird afterward, things may not get weird afterwards, but I think its ok that you want to experiment and find out what you like. It doesn't seem wrong and like you said, you're not uncomfortable, but make sure that shes not uncomfortable either.
Mad love,
Victoria
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Ok my neighbor is bi and she invited me over one time with her and another bi girl who i didnt kno was bi but then we got really really drunk and i made out with both of them and i woke up and i thought it was REALLY gross i mean ok and then i found out they werent drunk but i was and so they kept telling me i was bi and im like NO IM NOT and they keep telling me i am soo i dont believe them but am i? (link)
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They took advantage of you while you were drunk, thats for sure. You know what you are and don't let these girls tell you who you are, I don't think you are, but you were drunk, they tricked you into it, are you really going to believe them? Your sexuality is your decision, not someone elses.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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i'm 13 and i have this one guy who likes me alot i dont like him as anything other than a friend..now that he likes me i hardly speak to him because i'm afraid people will start talking about "us." i miss him a lot though because he used to be one of my best friends! hes also a really good guy but i just dont like him. i dont know what to do or how to act around him!
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I had the same thing happen to me. What I did was, I sat the guy down, and I told him the truth, but I did it in a gentle way, and I made him feel comfortable about the situation, act natural around him, explain to him that first of all, you like him as a friend, and maybe you're not ready to rush into a relationship. Pull him to the side after school, or in class.
MAd love,
Victoria
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Okay, well i need help with my room. I'm 13 by the way. Okay, so I'm not allowd to paint my walls, and I just got $6000, custommade furniture. But, the thing is, my walls look really empty...I need somthing coolin my room, im a guy. does anyone hae any ideas (link)
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Since you can't paint your walls, you can get this stuff called con-tac paper, you can just stick it up on your wall and pull it off as you please.I think it comes in different colors I'm sure you've heard this, but posters work, too. Also lamps, I'm not a big fan of open shades, or sunlight streaming into my room, but you can get very unique lamps. It also depend on what your hobbies are and what you like. So, if you're into skateboarding, have your first skateboard (which should be busted if its your first) put in a special case or something and put it on the wall. I wasn't allowed to paint my room, either, but i still made it my own, I had a disco ball in there, all these posters, my little odds and ends, but my room still looked better thanmost peoples who had painted walls. Well, good luck, and go to some of your favorite stores to get some ideas, that works for me.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I have to do a speech and presentation in English on Tuesday. I am really nervous and hate looking at people, and if I look at my friends I just laugh. However, I can't get anything higher than a B if I don't have 'audience awareness' and I have to get all A's. So does anyone have any tips on how to be less nervous or how I can have more 'audience awareness' or even how to stop myself laughing at the funny parts of my presentation?
Thanks!! (link)
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Find a focal point, you don't have to be looking at the audience, look at someones notebook, or the top of people's heads, it works, try to avoid lokking at your friends, its ok to laugh at the funny parts of your presentation, humor is what brings us all together, don't worry about it. Just don't get hys cal and you should be fine. But make sure it seems like you're looking at everyone in the room, now remember you don't have to look at them, just make it seem like you are. Also, you need to sound sure of yourself. Don't say things like "How about I read my paper". Remeber these things and then some, and you should be fine.
MAd love,
Victoria
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Is it neccesary, in Witchcraft,or Wicca, To cast a cirlce even while doing a simple spell??Please answer, i need help. (link)
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Even though I've been a Witch for 2 years, I've never casted a circle, prayer usually works for me, honestly, but depending on the spell, I would use a cirlce, if you want to do it properly. You should try these sites for more info:
-spirit online.com
-wiccan-refuge.com
-witches-brew.com
-gothic-rain.com
-themystica.com
-lunarshadows.net
-spiritsearch.com
-wiccasearch.com
-avatasearch.com
awakenedwoman.com
-thebeltanepapers.net
-sagewoman.com
-candleandcauldron.com
-whitedragon.org.uk/
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i feel like im not a sensitive person. for example, if someone got hurt, it kinda doesnt make me feel sorry for them. i really want to be nicer, i just dont know how=) (link)
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I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. Try putting yourself in someone elses shoes, it may work. Thats something that doesn't happen overnight, either, you have to work at it, and I think its awesome that you want to change, I really respect that. Start off small, like letting someone have your seat on a crowded bus, or talking to and being friends with a person that doesn't have many friends, but most of all be sincere.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Why do people make fun of white people? I mean, it's just a color....Also, people will make fun of me because I'm Jewish and it hurts because Jews fought for their freedom just like black people, so why is skin color such a big deal? (link)
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People fear what they don't understand and hate what they can't conquer. I'm black, and I often think about things like that, as well. I have an international group of friends. I have friends from Asia, Africa, America, etc...Sometimes, when people feel uncomfortable and unsure about themselves, the usually make fun of others to take the slack off, and make themselves feel better. Also, steryotypes is another issue. When I go into white surburbia, most people look at me like I'm a thug's girlfriend or something, but I'm not, I would be more like a punk's girlfriend, but anyways, people aren't always opened minded and they believe everything they've heard and learned without questioning it, so they don't think for themselves. I think its stupid for peoplr to be like that, that would be like me hating white people because of slavery, thats stupid, the family I live with is white, and they aren't "slave masters" ya' know. In all my rambling, I hope you got something out of this, and if you didn't thats ok, too. But remember this; you can't teach anyone anything, you can only make them think.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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hey i need to memorize about a page for tomorrow about casmir pulaski for my polish school speech tomorrow and i only know a paragraph. can someone give me some tips on how to memorize things easier and/or faster? thanks, i rate good. =) (link)
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Make an outline, it highlights the important thing that you want to know, and its easier to read, and it generally works. Don't try to cram all in one night either, it overloads your brain. Good Luck.
MAd love,
Victoria
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I made my desicion but I dont know what to do I want to do I want to get put on the pill just to be safe but I dont want my mom to know about it I mean should I fake that I am sick and say I have to talk to the doctor privately what do I do I need help some one out there PLEASE HELP (link)
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You could go to a family planning clinic, and they'll give you birth control for free, just tell them that you're sesexually active. You also have to realise the risks involved with taking birth control. Subtly ask your mom if theres any history of blood clots or anything like that. If you go to a doctor, they have to tell your mom, but family planning clinics usually don't ask.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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I'm really confused, and surprised. I talked to my friend today, and we were talking about how I'm interested in Witchcraft, and then she said "Are you telling me you're a witch?"and I got kinda uncomfortable and Was like,"not really"cause I'm interested in it but I'm not one..yet. And then I asked what she thinks a witch is, and she rattled off all the storytale things, and I was really surprised. I'm trying to explain to her what modern "white"witches are, but I'm doing the best I can, but I dont know if thats good enough, I cnt eactly tell her to go look it up online. (link)
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Get some some books by Silver Ravenwolf, and Scott Cunningham, and try to explain it to her, I'm a witch, I know how it is, just try to sit her down and explain it to her, but I must warn you, the 2 things you should never argue about are politics and religion, it could really bring a rift into things.
Mad love,
Victoria
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I recently signed up for an online DVD rental membership. The envelope seals have been opened on the past 5 DVDs I have recived. Should I contact the rental company, or should I contact to post office, or try to catch my mailman. It's just too much of a coincidence that they have all comed opened. But I am not sure who to talk to. Is someone looking at the movies? I have a locked mailbox. (link)
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Talk to the posatl service, because more than likely, it may be the mailperson, things of that nature have happened before, call and complain, and you may get another mailperson.
MAd love,
Victoria
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i am a 21yr old female and have a huge sexual disire for sex everyday cn not find a man to satisfy me i need help... (link)
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You may be a nymphomaniac, a women who is addicted to sex. Have you tried masturbating? I guess you have, and it still doesn't work...Maybe you should try going to a psycologist, because nymphomania can turn into something very serious.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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ok heres my problemo. im really skinny -5'4 91- and i like it but for the most part i DON'T. its just fast matabolism and im pretty active and healthy but i look anorexic and everyone thinks that. i try to eat more to gain weight but ofcourse, i don't! what can i do?
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You could bulk on muscle, that would help, but don't let people force you to gain weight if you're perfectly healthy. Your metabolism is something out of your control. But my advice, just work out a little, and you should be fine.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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So I'm totally in love with this person and that person loves me too... and I want to put together a CD of music sort of saying how i've fallen for them. Any ideas on songs for the playlist? (link)
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I guess if you really like the movie Anchorman, you could put the song "Afternoon Delight" or "She Dreams in Digital"-Orgy, "Closer"-Nine Inch Nails, "Cry on Little Wing"-Jimmy Hendrix, "Ribbon in the Sky"-Stevie Wonder, "silver and Cold"-AFI. Good Luck,
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I couldn't find a catagory that this fit into specifically, but I guess it loosely fits into this one.
I get a good idea for the beginning of a story... and what happens? I get impatient and can't move-on with it.
Because of this patience problem I tend to not work-out the story in my head far in advance but to set creativity goals as I go- my farthest goal is usually just the next sentence... meaning, while a person may be walking down the street, I have no idea where they are going until I have to write that down. And that used to work so well for me. But now I can't even do that.
Back in school when I started writing, I was actually forced to do the work and if I didn't I'd fail... so to avoid the irritated tones from my teachers I could easily push-on and the creativity would flow out. I miss writing fiction as school-work.
Maybe it would be good if I join a fiction writing or creative writing class/course/work-shop. I could try. But the thing is, I was motivated in school because the work had an impact on the rest of my life. I had to get on to the next grade and eventually graduate or I'd be screwed. But workshops/clubs/courses. They're all more casual in that they won't effect the rest of my life. I won't lose anything; I won't be in the gutter. There are college courses but I'm sure they expect me to have more skill than I actually HAVE so I'm sure I'd flunk that anyway. Dropping out of high school and now having to do a distance education course set me back in my writing.
There are several aspects of this post I need advice on feel free to comment on whatever.
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First you're suppossed to brainstorm, then make an outline. I'm figuring the ideas are runing toofast through your head to put on paper, organize your thoughts, just jot down a few words and get them in order. Carry a notebook, thats what I usually do, and it works for most successful writers.
MAd love,
Victoria and Emo Kid
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