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sensitivity
i feel like im not a sensitive person. for example, if someone got hurt, it kinda doesnt make me feel sorry for them. i really want to be nicer, i just dont know how=)
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Be yourself. Your not a nice person, So what? There are enough nice people and people who pretend to be nice in the world. Don't be fake, just be yourself. People will respect you more if you're honest.
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if you want to be nicer, then think before you act. eventually it will become second nature.
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I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. Try putting yourself in someone elses shoes, it may work. Thats something that doesn't happen overnight, either, you have to work at it, and I think its awesome that you want to change, I really respect that. Start off small, like letting someone have your seat on a crowded bus, or talking to and being friends with a person that doesn't have many friends, but most of all be sincere.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Since you put this under the spirituality heading, I am going to give you a spiritual answer.
It can be frustrating when you see someone hurting and you know there is really nothing you can do about it. So people have a tendency to brush it off, which over time causes the sensitivity toward people to be lost. Your desire to be sensitive toward others is commendable, but just being nicer can come across fake if you don't really care in your heart. The answer is love them, pray for them and ask God to show you what they need. They may need nothing more than to be put in God's hands. The bible says love conquers all. However, the only way to sincerely love them, is to see them through God's eyes. The only way to see them through God's eyes is to know God. To know God, one needs to read His Word. Get yourself a Bible and read about how God loves. Then you will be able to love too.
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start caring about other people and see if it helps
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you dont have to be nicer, just dont make mean comments. if you dont say any thing theyll never know you dont care. hope i helped
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If you want to be nicer or try to feel sorry for someone that has gotten hurt or whatever, put yourself and their position and then you will know how they feel and you will feel sorry for people. You are just a person who doesn't get hurt easily and that you don't feel anything for people who are hurt because you are strong and that's good. The next time something happens to someone that you should make you feel sorry for them, imagine if you were them and this will help you be nicer and care for people's feelings and such. Don't worry, this will all change, just in a matter of time.
-Karen
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Everyone has a differnt breaking point. Maybe it takes something major or personal to you for a more personal side of you to come out. When someone trips and falls and get a little bruise or something, it's not your obligation to get al teary for them. Or even if they broke their arm, i mean yeah some people would have a little sympathy but it's find if you dont cry over it. No matter how much you know it or not, you'll always be there for you friends and family caring, and being concerned if something bad happened so don't worry about how you feel over little things. it's normal.
You're perfectly fine the way you are, x0x Jrody|♥
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If you got hurt how would you feel.Pretend like your in there shoes.Pretend like your them.Wouldn't you like someone to comfort you and have someone feel sorry for you.When you see someone get hurt or something be them try to feel what there feeling.If you would want someone to comfort you then wouldn't it be the same for other people too.Try it.It might work.
-:-Shayna-:-
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It's not that your not nice, being sensitivity doesn't mean you have to be nice or not. It means that not a lot of things can make you cry/hurt you. In some ways, that is great because it shows your a strong person. But in other ways, its not so great because you really need to cry and let everything out once in a while. Maybe you could try putting yourself in others shoes that have been hurt. How would you feel if you were them? Really try to make yourself feel what the other person is feeling.
♥ Krissy
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