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My name is Shayna.I am 13 years old.I am from a fairly big town in Connecticut.My parents are divorced.I live with my mom and visit my dad every other weekend.I have alot of friends.I love giving advice!!
-Likes\*animals,guys,shopping,pink,the mall,clothes,my sister,movies,Ashlee+Jessica Simpson,me..lol,the phone,my celly,music
-Dislikes\*school,life,hilary duff,haylie duff,yellow,brown,msn,smart people,cartoons(except family guy and futurama),things that smell

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I have many friends that live in Belleville, Illinois. They all miss me when I am in St. Louis, Missouri. I go to Belleville with my best friends father and all of us are really close. I go there maybe 1 to 2 days every week. Maybe every other week. Should I leave my friendships behind over in Belleville? I hate missing them so much and I have went out with a couple of them. And of course I still have major feelings for a few of them. I want to forget the past and go on with the future. Hard part is that I dont know if I want all of them in my future.Can you help?

Dont totally forget about them.Its hard to have a long distance realationship w/ friends and stuff.I dont want to tell you to forget about them because i dont wanna sound like an ass or anything.But you can still talk to them just dont talk to them all the time.

-Shayna-

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ok so ive been on and off with my boyfreind for a year and a half now, and he just asked me back out a few days ago...but i still have other guys i like from wen we werent going out. And some of my old boyfreinds are coming back into my life now..not sure y..i mean i love my boyfreind right now, but i dont get to see him all the time, and i am a reallllllly bad flirt. I dont want to cheat on him, but i dont wanna turn down all these other guys...im too nice to do that. I really wanna be with my boyfreind but i feel like i'll b with him for the rest of my life, so i kinda want time away from him for now...i odnt mean to sound like a slut, cuz it wouldnt be like that, i just want to be able to hang out with other guys, but my boyfreind doesnt like that and gets really jealous, wat should i do?

If your boyfriend gets jealous when you talk/hang out w/ guys maybe its time to let go of him.The reason he gets fealous is because he doesn't trust you.You need a boyfriend that trusts you.Hope that helps you!Goodluck

-Shayna-

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I don't know why it matters to me so much, but I can't get everyone in this clique at school to like me, or even acknowledge my prescence. I have been able to make friends with a couple of people in this clique, but I guess a couple is not enough to be accepted into 'their world'. Mostly our friendship only extends to talk at school in class and in the hallway, hanging out during break, passing notes during class, and then a few phonecalls during the week. But I would love more then anything to be invited to hang out with them on the weekends and to be included more in their after school activities. How do I try to become their friend without really trying too hard?

Thank you so much, and I will rate every question highly that gives me good suggestions.

If they haven't exepted you yet they might not ever.If you want to you can keep being nice and maybe your friendship will extend further.It takes a while for people to get used to you.Hope i was helpful!

-Shayna-

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hey im just wondering, if u cut is it like wrong.. is it that big of a deal.. if its not for attention it just helps you deal with yourself then does it matter? do you need help if you do cut?

Yes,cutting is wrong and dangerous.It is a big deal.I think you should talk to a friend or a guidance conselor or somebody.But you need to tell somebody and get help.

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I'm a thirteen year old female. Recently Iv'e started eating super healthy. When I'm at home eating the food there, or eating foods with nutrition information I'm fine, but whenever I eat at someone else's house or eat out and the food served looks fattening or sugary I panic. I don't know whats in it and so on. Sometimes I make up excuses for not eating things. My friends jokingly said I was anorexic before. That didn't bother me. However, now they have started to say it seriously and my own mum said I was eating in an anorexic way. I know people suffering from anorexia have poor self image, but I think I am at a perfect weight. Please tell me if I am anorexic or not. Honestly.

You're not anorexic.If you were you wouldn't eat one thing.You do have bad eating habits.Once in a while you can eat sugary or fattening foods.It's okay once in a while just not every single day!Anyway,you aren't anorexic.Hope I helped.

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ok, so my best friend's boyfriend raped her, and i don't know what to do. i know i should tell someone, but she's being dumb, and saying it was her fault, but when you get down to the point SHE WAS RAPED. i don't want her to be mad at me, but i should tell someone right? either that, or i could kill him, but i wouldn't do that. so help????!!!!! please. thanks everyone
Sincerely,
Confused concerned friend

As hard as it seems you must tell someone.He might do this to someone else.She may hate you but your saving another girls life and self-esteem.She will thank you eventually.Talk to someone.Don't kill him!lol!!Hope i helped.

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what are the best shoes to wear when you're wearing a denim miniskirt and white knee high socks?

I think that heels are best.Probably spikes.They should be black.It's super sexy :-)Hope I helped!!!

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I'v always had low self esteem and latley i'v been feeling a little better about myself. I always wish how i had a bf or someone who cares about me like that but i never ask guys anything cuz im to shy. I'm kinda the type of girl who mostly has guy friends but not the really hott popular ones because im to shy to talk to them. I'd just like to have someone there for me thats more then a friend but i never think that anyone will like me. I hate having low self esteem and i try to do things to help it but nothing ever works. is there a way to make me feel better about myself besides a "make over" cuz im not tha girly and its juss not my thing, and is there a way to maybe get noticed more?

It's hard to be confident when you shy.Sometimes you just have to face your fears.Your fear is being embarrassed.You don't want to say something stupid or do something stupid.You have confidence but it's bottled up inside you and you don't want to let it out.But sometimes you have to pop the cap on the bottle.Go up to one of the popular peoples and before you do breath.You can change yourself a little bit by adding a little makeup,change your style,and your hairstyle.It's also good to talk to them if they drop a pen or something.If they don't,take one of yours and ask them if it's theirs.That's a way to strike up a convo!

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i feel like im not a sensitive person. for example, if someone got hurt, it kinda doesnt make me feel sorry for them. i really want to be nicer, i just dont know how=)

If you got hurt how would you feel.Pretend like your in there shoes.Pretend like your them.Wouldn't you like someone to comfort you and have someone feel sorry for you.When you see someone get hurt or something be them try to feel what there feeling.If you would want someone to comfort you then wouldn't it be the same for other people too.Try it.It might work.

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My friend is soo depressed, that everytime I'm with her, she brings me down too. And I try to cheer her up, but she just gives me one of those fake smiles. It is breaking up our friendship now, and I don't want that to happen. What do I do to help her?!

I think you should talk to her.Depression is horrible.It can lead to dangerous things.She could be on pills and instead of helping her they could be ruining her.You should probably ask her.Also she might need to get pills for her depression.You might even need to have a talk with her parents and her.Sometimes that helps.Good luck!

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me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months this guy jake all of the sudden starts liking me and all of my friends are telling me to break up with my boyfriend and go out with jake because jake seems way nicer and that he would treat me better. they say this because my boyfriend is kind of scared to make the first move and its fine im not in no big hurry but jake n i were talking and he said that my boyfriend doesnt give me what i want and he was talking about .. you know.. well c i dont know if jake only likes me for that or because of my personality and stuff and he said i was awesome n nice ? help

Who do you love.Don't break up with your boyfriend if you love him.If you don't love your boyfriend break up with him.Also, if your boyfriend treats you bad then get rid of him.But don't leave someone just because your friends say so.Do what your heart thinks.

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I wasn't completley sure what category this goes under, so I took a guess. My dad always tells me not to pop/crack my knuckles. And he always yells at me when I do. Is there a certain reason why you shouldn't? I heard you can get arthritis from it, I heard that your fingers will get bigger, and I've also heard that nothing will happen. So like why shouldn't I be cracking my knuckles? Can it really do that much damage?

I'm pretty sure you can get arthritis from it.I'm not so sure about your knuckles getting bigger.You should stop cracking your knuckles.Its hard to stop things that your used to.I pick my fingernails like all the time and my mom and dad always yell at me too.If i have the urge to do it i sometimes doodle or something it helps me sometimes.But you should stop because arthritis sucks!My mom has it and it turns your knuckles like red and circle like.So it might be better to stop.
xoxo*Shayna*xoxo

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ok well heres the deal..i REALLY like this guy and hes sooo sweet! he told me i was hott and hes always talking to me and leading me on..and if he askes me out..i would have my first boyfriend ever. thing is, one of my best friends supposedly "loves" him and she doesnt even know him and they never talk..unlike me i have talked to him lots of times. and now my best freind and him are starting to talk like online, but he ignores her a lot so he can talk to me..and shes making it seem like a competition and always rubbing things in my face whenever they have sumthing in common. another thing it, she knows that he likes me, but she doesnt know that i like him...its really confusing. if she found out she would be soo upset..she even said "if u ever liked him i would hate u" and i dont know what to do cuz shes had tons of boyfriends and i really want this guy to be my first bf. pleas help..ill rate everyone.

Do you want a friend that would hate you over something so stupid?She doesnt want you to have a boyfriend.She wants you to be lonely.If you really like him you should go for it.And if your friend hates you for it oh well.You now know who your real friends are.Don't let her keep you from having a life and a boyfriend.Have fun.She isn't a friend if she will hate you over something like that.

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