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rape mistake
ok, so my best friend's boyfriend raped her, and i don't know what to do. i know i should tell someone, but she's being dumb, and saying it was her fault, but when you get down to the point SHE WAS RAPED. i don't want her to be mad at me, but i should tell someone right? either that, or i could kill him, but i wouldn't do that. so help????!!!!! please. thanks everyone
Sincerely,
Confused concerned friend
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i was done the same way and noone knows but i friends i know what she is going through if she said dont tell then i wouldnt it will ruin ur friendship
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dear confused concerned friend,
my advice to you, is that you should tell someone that you can trust!! not telling anybody is not good! you should tell someone right away, before things start to get worse! your friend might be mad at you for a while, but deep down inside she will probably be releaved that someone knows and can help her...hope i helped, and dont be afraid to ask me anytime!!
-roxy2005
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First of all, you definitly need to explain to her that it wasn't her fault at all but his. Second you should tell someone like a parent or guidance councelor, just someone who could help your friend with this. Also tell your friend that when ever she is around her boyfriend to not be alone with him just in case he gets any ideas again. Well thats all that i would know to do. I hope this helped you!
--Laura--
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Tell someone,she'll thank you in the end.
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Tell her you care about her and if she won't tell someone you will. I know it may seem hard to tell someone because she doesn't want you to, but if she gets the help she needs she will thank you.
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First, tell a counselor and see what they think you should do. They'll prolly help more then i can. Hope i helped! ♥
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you should tell someone b/c you never know if it is going to happen again. she may be mad at you for a while but it could help her
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you should tell a parent or maybe try to talk to a school counselor if you are close with one?..but you should tell someone what happened,she may not want you to, but its the right thing to do!
-J*Lyn
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Ok, so you dont have to KILL the guy. Just, you know, verbally kill him. Go up to his face and go, "You little rat! I cant believe you did that to my best friend! Now shes thinking its all your fault, but it was YOURS! Ohmigod you little son of a B*tch!!!" and maybe your friend and you can go to the counselor's office and talk it over. I mean, the counselor is the best way to go. She'll understand. And make sure that none of your other friends go out with that jerk off. I hope I helped.
xOo Nikki xO
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oh you reeely need to tell someone about that. that is horrible if your friend doesnt know wutsz rong with wut happened then you need to talk some sense into her. definately talk to someone about it. keep me updated hope i helped =)
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you should defently tell a parent . Raping is wrong! and she should avoid him and defently breakup with him.
~crissy
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wow you really need to tell someone, if i were you i'd tell a cop, her parents, or yours but if so u should just kill him lol j/k keep it clean and legal whatever action you do
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tell some one
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wOw. if someone did that to MY b.f., i would kill him. you know what you have to do, and you dont have to ask anyone from advicenators for it. you have to tell someone. what if he rapes her again? or worse? what if next time, he beats her up or something? what if next time, it's someone else's best friend getting hurt by this...pig just because you didn't stop him? there's no way she can get mad at you, because even she knows she has to tell someone, but she's probably scared.i mean, put yourself in HER shoes.you would be scared to tell someone and would say that you don't want anyone to tell, but you know you would want SOMEONE to stop him. ok, i don't know either you or your friend, but i care enough about both of you to tell you that you have to tell someone before that idiot does this again.help her.
make the right choice.
~MaRi~
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Like alot of people have already told you, you really need to tell someone. She might not see it now, but she will thank you for it later. He could end up doing something worse and you and I both know we do not want that to happen. So I suggest you go right now before something worse happens.
x0x-Sarah
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I would definatly tell someone! Even if your friend does get mad at you now... she'll appreciate it later.
Plz Tell somoene!
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All the advice posted below tells you that, even if she'll be mad at you, tell someone. So DO THAT. But before anything, go to the school counselor, because as this is a student rape, they have most power over it. Beside, the school counselor can listen to you in private, and get the whole problem over quietly, without causing any riffles throughout the whole student body. Trust me, go to the school counselors first, and they'l be ablt to contact the police later if nessary. Becasue if you call the police first, they can't do much, and telling she/his/your parents will only cause panic and rash actions to be done towards the boy that could be dragged up in court as defence towards the rape scene.
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Hey,
i think you should definetly tell, most people who get raped think it was their fault, but if they didnt want to, its not, if you dont tell ne1, he could do this to sum1 else, i think your friend will get over it if you tell, just try and comfort her, and if she wont tell, i think you should
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Dear Confused concerned friend,
you really need to tell someone how raped her and y he raped her! because that is not right. he should have mot raped at all so just tell someone. if you have a question for me leave it in my inbox on here thanks
your friend,
skatingmonkey500
PS. if you write me please dont put you name thanks! just to help you out later
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If she was literally raped then YES you should tell someone... even if she gets mad at you know she'll definatly thank you for it in the long run.
so tell someone, like an adult or even the police.
good luck!
nat*
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you HAVE to tell someone. your friend might be mad at you, but she'll see in the future that you were just trying to help. would you rather have your friend mad at you, or be responisble for her going into depression or something b/c you didnt tell anyone. you have to weigh the two sides with their consequenses. which choice do you think is right?
*KaysEe
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Wow, I'm really sorry about your friend.
First of all, you need to explain to your friend that rape is forced sex, and if her boyfriend forced her to have sex with him, then it wasn't her fault at all. You also need to tell her that you're there for her no matter what!
But, no matter what she says, you definitely need to tell someone! RIGHT NOW! It wasn't her fault, it's her boyfriends, and he should be severely punished for it. So, just tell someone!
-Hope I helped!-
*...bUtTeRfLiEs...*
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you should ask her opinion if you want anyone else to know.Tell her you are tryng to help her out and that we she should press charges. She should tell someone and make her own decision.
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TELL SOMEONE!!! i dont care if sh gets mad she has to do it!!! you have to do it!! its for her own good! some internal daage could have happend to her and she wouldnt even know it! she'll thank you in the long run...
-ashley
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Deffinitly tell someone to get her help! That's the best possible thing you can do as a friend right now. It's hard for some people.. things that tramatizinq. So no matter how much she hates you for it, she'll take you later.
Do whats right, x0x Jordy|♥
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As hard as it seems you must tell someone.He might do this to someone else.She may hate you but your saving another girls life and self-esteem.She will thank you eventually.Talk to someone.Don't kill him!lol!!Hope i helped.
-:-Shayna-:-
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omg tell the police! its a serious crime! of course you should tell! rape is the kind of thing that screws up a persons life. go tell sumbody now!!
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Yes, you should tell someone. Even though she doesn't want tell someone, this guy shouldn't get away with what he did. She will be mad at you at first but she will thank you in the end when this guy gets in trouble to what he did to her. You really need to talk to someone and tell them about this. It's the right thing to do, even if your friend doesn't think that.
-Karen
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OMG DO YOU STILL NO WHERE THE GUY IS TAkE HER TO THE POLICE AND TELL, and if she doesnt want to go go by urself bc tht can screw up the rest of her
life
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