My name is Jen, I go to school, and occasionally learn things. I love James Dean, Hanson, Sloppy Firsts and Second Helpings by Megan McCafferty, Fall Out Boy, Elton John and Billy Joel. These make me overly qualified to give advice ESPECIALLY since I spend the vast majority of my time watching and obsesing over Oprah.
I've been through some stuff, and watched even more drama on TV, so I can help with your problems, no matter what your story is Wishbone.
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i was always told that going on the pill would make your period stop completely (by freinds, not doctors) and lately i've been seeing a commercial about a pill that can reduce your period to only 3 days?? now, is it true that there is such a thing as a birth control pill that can make your period stop altogether, or is that just a myth? (link)
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there's been huge debate over whether or not it's healthy for women to not have their period at all a year. Some doctors say it is, other's say its not. However, at the moment there is no birth control pill avaliable that stops your period (although depo vera the shot, does stop some women from menstruating).
You can use a regular birth control pill to skip your period if you're going camping, or on a trip or something. Seasonle is a birth control pill that claims to only give you four periods a year. However, what they don't tell you is that for one week of every month the hormone dosage is lower so some women will spot.
Some women just have naturally short periods. And when they go on the pill, they may menstruate for less time. It all depends on strength of the pill, and what kind of period you've had before going on it. For example if you've always had a heavy 7 day flow, chances are you won't be able to reduce it to three days.
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Hi,I´m Jackie. I´m 39 years old woman, and Í´ve been training at the gym for several years, 4 or 5 times a week. I have very very strong and big cuadriceps. The rest of my body is really ok, low fat percentage and all. I shouldn´t loose weight because my face would become very angular and my legs would remain almost the same (I already tried this)
I tried aerobics classes, weight lifting with aerobic interval pauses: I got no results.
Shoud I run more, do aerobics all the time?
Several persons told me is in my genes and I can´t change it. I really hate it, I can´t buy a pair of jeans, cause if they fit my legs they are huge in my hips and waist (link)
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Have you consulted with a personal trainer? They'll probably be able to tailor your work out best to your needs. Most gyms will offer a free consultation, or at least one for fairly cheap.
I'm not an expert at weight lifting by any means, but I would think you should shy away from aerobics since most of the machines seem to focus working your leg muscles.
For now your best bet would just be to alter your jeans. It's fairly easy to have the waist taken in a bit, and generally most malls have a tailor in them. It does cost a little more. For the time being- try other styles, a wider boot cut, or maybe a straight leg jean which would emphasize your narrow hip, and lengthen the leg (and they're in style right now).
Good luck.
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Hallo!
O.K. so here's the deal. My brother takes me to school each morning in his car. Usually we would just leave at the last second, and get there in time. Now, we're leaving 30 minutes earlier to pick up his friend. I was o.k. with it, but now they're starting to smoke in the car and I get to school with my clothes smelling like smoke. Normally, I would just ask him to stop, but during last summer him and his ex-girlfriend had a baby when he was sixteen, and now I just feel bad for him a lot and I would feel guilty for asking him, because it's probably his way of dealing with the baby (Not that it's the right way.) What should I do?
P.S. not only do I need advice, I give advice,too. So if you need me..uh then yeah :) PL (link)
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buy a car air freshner, like one of those febreze auto things. I think they might have ones specifically made for cigarette smoke. It's also a subtle way to get your point across.
I would consider asking him to cut down around you though. Second hand smoke is not good for you, and being trapped in a car of it is even worse.
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I'm using that Dove Energy Glow lotion with the subtle self tanners and I'm afraid to shave or get in a pool because when I used to use the regular self-tanners, they would always wash off when I shaved my legs or got in a pool.
Does anyone know if the Dove Energy Glow behaves in the same way or does it stay tan no matter what if you keep using it?
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Dove energy will probably react the same way as other self tanners, although I think it should last for a swim
You can prevent this though. Exfoliate in the shower before you apply your self tanner. It preps your skin for the moisturizer, and sloughs of dead skin. Some self tanners also offer an exfoliate, but they tend to be more expensive. You can go for a regular body wash that states it exfoliates, how you can tell is if it has little beady sandy things (technical term of course), or even St Ives Apricot scrub. As an added bonus, it also makes shaving your legs easier, because again it gets rid of dead skin.
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Okay, does anyone have any tips on two-stepping? I'm going to a club Saturday where there will be hardxcore dancing involved. If you have any videos, or tips, or anything that would be great!
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okay, I googled this because I was curious. Do you mean like Ciara type one-two step? Because every time I've been to a club that plays music like that, nobody breaks out into dance like that. It's more just kind of moving your hips and grinding kind of deal.
And I just kind of figured it wouldn't be line dancing two steps because nobody calls line dancing hardcore.
Sooooo this is what I came up with.
http://www.lovemusiclovedance.com/niteclub.htm - this link has an instructional video you can click to
http://www.ballroomfairbanks.org/katyasteplist.htm - and this is step by step instructions.
I hope that's what you're looking for, and if not, I'd be really curious to know what you're talking about.
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At school today, we were discussing the French Revolution in History class. The teacher was talking about how back then 97 % of French people were Catholic and they stuck firmly to tradition. We then started contrasting that to these times.
Then out of the blue he asked how many people believed in a Christian God. Not one person put their hand up. I didn't at first because I was embarassed, but then I did. I was the only one.
Later I was thinking.. I'm not sure it was right for my teacher to ask this. Is there any sets of rules on this type of thing? Like are teachers not meant to discuss issues like religion, politics, etc? I'm usually pretty closed-up about this kind of thing.
It really bothers me when I think about it, because I don't see why it was necessary. I graduate high school in a few months and was thinking of saying something to him at the end of the year. So, can someone let me know their opinion on this? Was it wrong for him to ask this?
Thanks.
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Teachers can discuss religion and politics, especially considering how relevant in today's world. I think it'd be hard to pretend they didn't exist, and your education be lacking if they avoided both topics.
I went to school in Canada so our rules are different. To be honest, I don't see what the big deal is. If you had a problem with it you could have not raised your hand. Your teacher would have sensed that he wasn't going to get any responses and stopped persuing it. I don't really think you have a case against your teacher because you haven't suffered any harassment for admitting your religious beliefs that you've mentioned. Most people probably left the class and forgot about it.
If it's really an issue you can mention that you felt uncomfortable when he asked it, but I'd do it as soon as possible because he probably didn't think it was a huge deal and it will slip his mind.
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Hi. I have a kitten (named Shadow) who's 2 months old. She used to be very fluffy, but as of late she's been losing fur. We know it's not shedding for several reasons (we don't see fur all over the place, or have it on us after holding her, etc.) We thought it might have been soap from giving her a flea bath, or maybe something else that got on her. We have five other cats, one of them as young as she, and they're all fine. They eat the same food, drink the same water, and since Shadow is still pretty young, she doesn't go anywhere out of our yard when outside. Does anyone know anything that might be causing her fur to thin, but not spread to the other cats? (link)
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Cats (and all animals for that matter) coats undergo seasonal changes throughout the year. If her hair is just generally thinner than usual, it could possibly be she is just losing hair that she grew to keep her warmer in the winter. Less hair will trap less heat. It's perfectly normal, you just might not notice it as much in your other cats if they are a different breed.
If she is losing it in patches, however, you might want to consult your vet.
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Whats the fascination girls have over 6-packs? When my gf starts talking about celebrities, athletes, or other guys that have them, she drools over them and I feel miserable about myself and left out, I mean what am I supposed to say to that? I don't know if thats her way of telling me I should have one or what. It kind of bothers me, but I don't know if telling my gf that would do any good. All her other friends think the same thing, I just don't see whats so great about it...so what is it and what do you think I should do? (link)
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they're celebrities. They are completely unattainable to us regular folk which of course makes them more interesting. Your girlfriend doesn't expect you to have them, you'd be hard pressed to find someone who thinks they are going to meet a celebrity look alike, especially since the abs they're drooling over are most likely airbrushed. Your girlfriend isn't trying to tell you anything, plus it's alot easier than having her crush on regular guys because she has no chance of leaving you for Jake Gyllenhaal.
Besides, I'm sure you have a couple celebrity crushes yourself.
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Hi i was wondering if anbody new any sites where I could meet new people && stuff.. IM 15 f ... Please help! (link)
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myspace.com
facebook.com
livejournal.com
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Well me and boyfriend have been going out for a year and 8 months, going to be 9 soon. We are like best friends and spend alot of time together, but its always at my house or at the movies. I have only been to his house twice and once was because his sister invited me, the other cause his dad did. Today me and his family were supposed to go snorkeling but the weather was bad so he didnt go and didnt call me either. Now he says that he is staying at his house with his family. I wanted him to invite me so bad!!! But he didnt. His brother has a girlfriend and she is always over there. I have talked to him before, but still he has never invited me over. I am trying to call him now and he wont pick up his phone =(. OH what do I do, and why is he like this? (link)
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it's probably nothing personal. Some people (like me) just aren't comfortable having people over at their homes. His family might drive him insane, or he just might not like having things in his room touched. It's a quirk think, not an "I hate my girlfriend thing". Or maybe he won't get a chance to be alone with you because is family is strict or intrusive.
Next time he suggests you two do something, like him come over to your house, say something like "no my mum's not feeling well, mind if we hang out at your place" or even "I'm sick of my house, let's go to yours" he'll either explain or get the point.
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These is for all you girls :) How would you like to be aproched to,loke if a guy wants to hit on you on the street what would youlike him to say? (link)
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I'm with some of the other girls. There needs to be a context to you starting a conversation with a random girl. Examples, walking up to a girl in the street "I like your pants" not cool, but say you're standing in line at the grocery store and she's buying cookies or whatever it's totally acceptable to say "oh I love those, do you know they now have them chocolate covered" because that way she can slough it off as just a stranger making conversation and it won't be too akward if she's not into it.
It's eaiser to approach a girl at an activity that way you already know what she's kind of into, even if it's just riding the bus or something. Make eye contact, and smile, look friendly but not Summer of Samish. Or if you have a dog, take him for frequent walks. Most girls are suckers for animals.
Your best bet is to be funny or clever, and even if you make small talk with people other than just girls, people in the bank line, your cashier whatever, it gives you practice for being sociable, meeting new people and makes you look friendly. Plus you can try out some good lines on the older women around- my Gramma used to love being flirted with :p Hey, and maybe that way a girl will take notice of you and your charming personality and approach you first.
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I went out with this guy last Monday. We had a great time. We texted a couple times Friday .. then I saw him Saturday at work. He asked when I had off next and I told Tuesday. Now it's Thursday and he hasn't responded to the two texts I sent him. Is this just his way of saying he's not interested anymore? (link)
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did he have Tuesday off as well?
He could be legitimately busy, but I'd leave it alone for now. Don't go out of your way to call him or text him, let him come to you. If you send anymore it's going to seem kind of needy. If he really wants to see you and has an excuse for not returning your texts, he'll tell you. If not, his loss.
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I have an iPod Mini, and it's battery recently died. How do I purchase another one, and what is their price range? I know I need to order them from Apple, but that is all I know.
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if you are still within the one year warranty apple will replace the battery without charge. If you aren't it might be a good idea to extend your warranty, I'm not entirely sure of the cost, but it covers any service you might require on it.
Everything else you can find on the apple website, it's one of the most helpful ones I've found out there.
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yeah as i was saying how can i loose weight in my face???? it's really importand so plleeaase help me!
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you can't really choose where you lose weight. You'd have to lose weight in general, and then it just comes off wherever it feels like. Some people have naturally round faces, and others have naturally thin ones. Aside from double chins, you don't have much control over face shape without resorting to surgery.
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Yeah, my granmother just died, we're having a funeral for her on saturday, and I don't want to be there. My dad says "Its not your decision to make" does anyone have some persuasion techniques? Or have you ever heard of a way to convince someone to do something your way?
I don't want to go. What' sthe best way to say it so I get to stay?? (link)
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It really doesn't matter if you do or don't want to go. As someone else said, funerals aren't exactly fun. No one wants to go to them.
However, you need to be there to support your family. Even though you may not speak, it's important just for you all to be together because at this moment in time you're all experiencing loss for the same person, no one else knows what that feels like.
Plus your parents probably have a lot on their minds at the moment, they've lost a relative too, they don't want to worry about whether or not you want to be there. Think of them too, because at this point in time, it's not about you and your preferences at all.
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How can I fall asleep?
Lately I'm having nightmares and I can't sleep if it's past 11.. because I just.. stay awake for some reason.
And when i try to sleep.. i have sleep paralysis...so sometimes i refuse to sleep because i hate going through that.
i dont know what to do.
i'm only getting 3-4 hours of sleep every night. (link)
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you really should go to your doctor if you're suffering sleep paralysis. He'll either give you pills for it, depending on how open you are to them, or he can recommend some more natural sleeping aids.
If you can't get to the doctor for awhile, try creating a routine before you go to bed. Read, do things in the same order, get into bed at the same time every night and up at the same time. Sleep paralysis has some links to stress, so maybe it would help if you wrote in journal and got all your worries out before you got into bed and worried about them.
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I've noticed that everytime I run,jog or walk in the morning when there is a chilly breeze, my legs get really itchy to the point that I can't stand it. I go home and I scratch till my legs are raw and red. I put water on it and it helps but not alot. Is there any thing I can do to prevent this? What is it? and is there any medication I can take to help the itching? Also, does that happen to a lot of people or is this just me? Thanks! I really appreciate it. (link)
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it's dry skin. Moisturize on a regular basis. I've found Johnson and Johnson's soft lotion works really well especially because I have sensitive skin. However anything will really do.
If you still have the problem after using moisturizer bought from the store talk to your doctor. It might be a bit more serious like something like eczema; they'll be able to give you a stronger cream.
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my mom has MS (multiple sclerosis) and she can still walk but not for a long period of time, and she can't really be active that much but she is still normal besides not being able to walk for a long time and definitely not run. is she going to die? i just thought for a while that its just a little disease that if you take your shots for it (wich she does) it will be alright. but then i looked up "multiple sclerosis" on advicenators and it said this girl's mom died from it. will she die? is this going to get worse? dont sugarcoat it please (link)
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YG gave a really good site.
Here's someting important to know about MS though
"MS is not a fatal disease for the vast majority of people with MS. Most people who have MS can expect to live a normal or near normal life span, thanks to improvements in the treatment of symptoms and in other therapies for people with MS."
Some people with MS manage to stay walking long after their diagnosis. I have a friend with MS who was diagnosed years ago, and only relies on a wheelchair once in awhile. She most frequently complains of pains and tremors. While I'm not sure the exact details of her illness, I do know she has two kids in their late teens, early twenties who she has been there for every step of the way despite everything. However it may be differently with your mom, she may have to rely on a wheelchair. It's not easy to predict at the first diagnosis.
Unfortunately however there is no cure, but the MS society is doing great things.
Please talk about this with your family though, they're equally as scared as you are, and you're mom will need you to be supportive.
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I have a formerly long lost sister, who I've met recently, and we've trusted each other rather quickly. She is a very private person, while I'm very open with my life. We've had dilemmas about a similar topic in the past, and this is our second time at this topic. Now she doesn't trust me with her personal business anymore, because I tell my husband about things that effect me about my life, which happens to also include her (like our arguments and such). She wants me to be a loyal and respectful sister, but how can I do that while being a loyal wife at the same time? Now my sister is acting differently with me and doesn't tell me about things about her personal life anymore. I feel like in order for me to help her as a sister, I feel to believe that she confides in me. I don't know. My sister is letting her past experiences (with not being able to trust others) change her into a more private person, and I think that's getting in the way of our relationship. I respect her current mentality, but I can't accept the way that her current mentality came to be (since I do know alot about her past experiences). I don't know. Am I wrong for not consenting her first to ask her if it's okay to tell my husband about things that effect me, which happens to include the both of us as sisters? (even though, she did tell me prior to, that if it involves me, then it's okay to tell, but she says that whatever she said is "in the past", and she recently changed her mind about what she told me back then). So yeah, I understand why she is the way that she is, but she doesn't seem to understand me. I know that every situation is not just simply black or white, but can have many gray areas (and this situation does have some grays). But with that aside, Who's right in this situation? Me or her? (link)
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I have to say I see your sister's point of view. I'm a fairly private person, and really only one person in my life gets to know absolutely everything, and that would be my best friend. I'd be crushed if she told her boyfriend stuff I told her. While I do know they talk, and she's mentioned me and some of my problems (which at times can be good, when it comes to guy issues) she has gone out of her way to reassure me that my friendship with her while different from that of with her boyfriend, is important to her.
Basically, I'd apologize to your sister, and explain how close you and your husband are, and that sometimes, like everyone else you need an ear to complain to, or another opinion. Explain to her that you won't do it again, you'd really like to build your relationship especially since it's just beginning, even if it is a white lie. If there is absolutely no chance of your husband spilling the beans, I'd say it's okay to go ahead and share. But if you can manage leave out some details.
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what would be a good age to start shaving your legs? i don't know what age my child should do it. i forgot when i started. and if the hair is pretty noticable would 10, 11, or 12 be good? i need ranges.
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I don't think there is a solid age for when a girl should start shaving.
That said, your daughter will let you know in some way. She'll either ask, depending on your relationship, or do it on her own. Or you might just notice she's embarrassed to wear shorts, or talk about how her friends have started already.
Try and get to her before she tries on her own though, my mum would only let me use Nair, so I decided to shave on my own- mind you with the hair, so I ended up taking a huge chunk out of my leg, and still have a fairly dark scar.
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