Well me and boyfriend have been going out for a year and 8 months, going to be 9 soon. We are like best friends and spend alot of time together, but its always at my house or at the movies. I have only been to his house twice and once was because his sister invited me, the other cause his dad did. Today me and his family were supposed to go snorkeling but the weather was bad so he didnt go and didnt call me either. Now he says that he is staying at his house with his family. I wanted him to invite me so bad!!! But he didnt. His brother has a girlfriend and she is always over there. I have talked to him before, but still he has never invited me over. I am trying to call him now and he wont pick up his phone =(. OH what do I do, and why is he like this?
Notso answered Sunday June 11 2006, 7:03 pm: it's probably nothing personal. Some people (like me) just aren't comfortable having people over at their homes. His family might drive him insane, or he just might not like having things in his room touched. It's a quirk think, not an "I hate my girlfriend thing". Or maybe he won't get a chance to be alone with you because is family is strict or intrusive.
Next time he suggests you two do something, like him come over to your house, say something like "no my mum's not feeling well, mind if we hang out at your place" or even "I'm sick of my house, let's go to yours" he'll either explain or get the point. [ Notso's advice column | Ask Notso A Question ]
Imperialistic answered Sunday June 11 2006, 6:01 pm: I agree with Kelly Elizabeth, he's probably too shy to have you over. But on the flip side, there -might- be something more serious going on.
Talk to him about it and be upfront. You've been going out for almost 2 years, it's about time you started becoming familiar with his family. Just say you need to ask him something and then tell him that if something is bothering him in the sense that he doesn't feel comfortable bringing you home, you would like to know why and tell him that you want to go over and don't understand why it's such a problem. [ Imperialistic's advice column | Ask Imperialistic A Question ]
KELLY_ELIZABETH answered Sunday June 11 2006, 4:48 pm: its probably nothing. he is probably just scared that his family will crack a stupid joke or bring out the baby pictures or something. most likely hes embarressed of his family. and maybe how they act. his brother prolly isnt embarressed, thats why his girlfriend is always over. its really nothing to be worried about, atleast i dont think. also, maybe hes scared you guys wont have anything to do. but my best bet is that hes embarressed. you cant really do much, maybe try having more family outings though. like your family and his go out to dinner or something. make sure he knows you feel comfortabel with his family without you actually telling him it. good luck with everything, and if you need any more help - you can always leave one in my inbox.
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