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I don't want to go to the funeral, but "it's not my decision
Yeah, my granmother just died, we're having a funeral for her on saturday, and I don't want to be there. My dad says "Its not your decision to make" does anyone have some persuasion techniques? Or have you ever heard of a way to convince someone to do something your way?
I don't want to go. What' sthe best way to say it so I get to stay??
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I'm sorry that your grandmother died, but why don't you want to go? i bet it's something you really feel strongly about not going otherwise you wouldn't. Maybe you weren't close? in this type of situation it's the parents that will make your choice, im sorry i can't be able to help, but you're stuck.
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I'm sorry, but I feel that you should go. After all she was your grandmother. She loved you so much. Think about it this way, if you had died, would you have wanted your grandmother to be there? Or would you just want her to be like, "I don't want to go and ditch it." I'm pretty sure you would hope she would come, so be there for her. If you're worried about being too sad to go and whatever, it's best to get it out of your system. Sometimes you just have to cry. Hope this helps and I'm sorry about your grandmother.
-cindy <3
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Its your Grandmother. She loved you. It should not have to be your dad's decision, because you should just go. Funerals are not pleasant, but they are apropriate. You NEED to go.
Mable
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Why exactly don't you want to go? If you don't want to go because you are afraid of getting upset, explain that to your dad. Talk to him about why you don't want to go. But seriously, get over this & fast! Just go, because if you don't, your family won't have you there for support. You will regret not going later on, trust me.
I've missed two funerals in the past, and I regret not going EVERY SINGLE DAY! And you will too.
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Suck it up and go. Act like a mature kid and be supportive for your family. Trying to get out of doing the dishes is one thing, but avoiding a family funeral is inexcusable. You can say lots of things.... like it hurts too much and you're afraid of making it worse for everyone else.... but the bottom line is that someday you will regret not helping your family.
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Say somthing like 'Dad, I miss her a lot and I wish she was still here, but this really hurts for me, and I can't go. I will still think about her, but I can't go because it will really hurt inside' and show him that you're sad.
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get real sappy and tel them that you cant be there bcause it would hurt too much to be there.
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I would say that I wasn't emotionally ready/stable to attend the funeral. if it's to go to a party or something then no, just go to it but if you honestly just don't want to go then tell him that. you might regret not going later... so try to make the most of it. <3
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You may regret not going when you are older. It is out of respect for the dead and also for the living to attend and say goodbye. Your father may need your support and having you there may mean a great deal to him. It is not nice having to go to funerals but it is a part of life. You have told him that you do not wish to attend and I assume you are too young to go against his wishes. It may upset him a great deal not to have your support. Be brave, take a deep breath and hold your head up. Yes it is upsetting and most of us never want to go anyway but we do. Best of luck.
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It really doesn't matter if you do or don't want to go. As someone else said, funerals aren't exactly fun. No one wants to go to them.
However, you need to be there to support your family. Even though you may not speak, it's important just for you all to be together because at this moment in time you're all experiencing loss for the same person, no one else knows what that feels like.
Plus your parents probably have a lot on their minds at the moment, they've lost a relative too, they don't want to worry about whether or not you want to be there. Think of them too, because at this point in time, it's not about you and your preferences at all.
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Why don't you want to go? Is there an actual reason, other then that you have something better to do? Is it that you are overcome with grief (doesn't sound like it)? This is your grandmother, not some distant family friend. It would be extremely disrespectful to not attend her furneral, it obvious why your father is making you. Noone WANTS to go to furnerals, but it's important for family. Unless she abused you into a coma in your childhood, I can't think of any acceptable reason to skip the furneral.
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Tell him honestly why you don't want to go. That is probably the best thing to do.
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