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My name is Fawn and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. I am a Christian, and like to think that I am a good listener. I hope to go back to college this year and eventually earn a my masters degree in psychology. It has been a dream of mine for many years now to be in an occupation that I can help people and receive the peace that will come with knowing that I am doing something important with my life. My husband and I lived in Virginia for a year and a half and we are looking forward to getting back there after I finish my education. I love dogs, music, books, travel and photography. Most of my time is spent with my church family, my immediate family and my wonderful husband.



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right now at my school we are going through a 'war'. it is split half and half. i dont like the people on the other side but there is one girl that i like over there. i will lose my reputation as a jock if i talk 2 her. do i talk 2 her and lose my rep. or do i keep my rep. and lose my chance with her

When you graduate from highschool it will not matter if you were the most popular person in school or the biggest nerd because people outside of your highschool will not have a clue or care. You will be going off to college or work, meeting new people and creating new friendships. You will more than likely lose touch with most of your highschool friends. This happened to me and has happened to most everyone that I know. It is the natural course of life. In other words, talk to the girl. You will regret it if you dont. Best Wishes!

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Hey guys. Sherry here. My little sister (10) got like white stuff on her underwear like a few weeks ago and yeah I knew it was normal but she told me just today that she got a really small red spot on her underwear...I never got these spots before my period or anything so do you think she'll get her period soon? She's really young though so idk! thanks:) I'll rate!

Girls start their cycle at different ages so yes it is possible that she could be starting her period. Some start as early as 9 and others start as late as 18. Tell your mother or dad about this so that she/he will be prepared to talk to your sister when the time comes. Best Wishes!

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theres this friend I have.. she hates being fat.. she gains weight really quickly.. recently shes been purging.. I tell her the stuff that can happen from doing that and i want to help her stop.. shes been doing ok but she made herself throw up again on christmas and boxing day cuz her parents made her eat alot and she didn't wanna screw their xmas up for them.. I want to help her but i really dunno what I can do for her now...she doesn't listen to what I say about what could happen to her health cuz shes sticking pens down her throat and stuff.. her parents force her to eat meat and she hates meat so she wants to throw that up too.. please give me advice on what I can tell her to help her stop or what I can tell her to tell her parents to be more understanding about her being a vegeterian without letting her parents no what my friend is doing.. thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I hope that you reply to this with helpful advice.. it would be greatly appreciated.. thanks - happy holidays!

I hate to see this happen to young girls who are developing their self esteem. Society places undo pressure on women to remain thin like the models that we see on most magazine covers but that simply cannot be for most women. Your friend has a serious problem, one that really should not be hidden from her parents due to the health problems that it creates. If your friend continues purging she will do permenant damage to herself that can hurt her for the rest of her life or in extreme cases can end her life. As much as you would hate to do it you really do need to talk to her parents and let them know what is going on. They should not force her to eat anything that she is uncomfortable with. She is capable of deciding about being a vegetarian and her decision to be one should be respected. This however, does not change her problem. She needs to get into counselling for this, and a weight control program. Seeing a counselor/therapist WILL help her realize her problem, face how to deal with it and increase her self esteem. Please notify her parents for the sake of her health. This will no doubt upset her so I recommend the first two websites below for you to research her disorder at. You will be able to print information that she can read which will help her realize how serious this really is. The third website is advice about dieting for vegetarians. She should be able to get some dieting tips that she will be able to apply to her life without compromising on her decision to be a vegetarian. The best thing that you can do for her is tell her parents so that they can get her the help that she needs and deserves and be her friend during this. It can take months, years or a lifetime to beat this disease and having a strong support group behind her will make it much easier. Best wishes and I sincerely hope that your friend gets better!


http://www.bulimia.com/

http://www.mamashealth.com/bulimia.asp

http://www.vegetarian-diet.info/weight-loss-vegetarians.htm

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My friends and I love hanging out together. We usually meet up at the same place, go and get a milkshake or something then go back to someone's house. The problem is, we're getting bored of doing the same thing all the time. It's winter now and we live in England, it's freezing so we can't do anything outside. Neither of us have much money so we can't go bowling or to the cinema. Does anyone have any ideas of things we could do together? There is about 6 of us.

Take your favorite card or board games and go to a coffee shop in your area, drink coffee and play games. Go to local art museums, they are usually free. Tour local vineyards or other historical sites. Get a camera from one of your parents and take up photography. Check out local park happenings, usually free concerts from local artists are offered at different times throughout the year. Go to a park and play disc golf, jai-alai, basketball or football (American soccer). Find old graveyards and try your hand at grave rubbings. Get local newspapers and check out local happenings for your area. Inside activities for winter, outside for spring and summer. There are a ton of things that you can do, all free. Best Wishes!

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Has anyone here played Indiana Jones and the Emperors tomb and gotten pretty far. I'm stuck on this one level and i need help. If any one responds i'll explain where i'm stuck. Thanks!

Try this site, it should help.

(Be warned, this will contain game cheats.)

http://www.consolecheatcodes.com/playstation2/indianajonesandtheemperorstombcheats.html

You can always go to any search engine and type in the name of the game. It will pull up a long list of sites concerning that game which will include walkthroughs and advice. Best Wishes!

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i have a friend who has liked this guy for 4 months...she obsesses over him...he is friends with my group of friends and recently i have started talking to him...he is really nice and really hott...i dont want to admit it, but i like him...he told all his friends that he thinks im hot and that he wants to go out with me...i feel bad because this is making my friend pretty mad...i want to go out with him really bad, but i dont want my friend to end up getting hurt... what should i do...

This is a tricky situation. I would suggest talking to your friend about it. Tell her how you feel about him and how he feels about you. Tell her that you are attracted to him but you do not want to hurt her. If you value her friendship you will let her make the call. If she doesnt want you two together because of her feelings for him, respect her wishes and explain to the guy why you cannot go out with him. If she does give her blessing you can try going out with him but be careful that you do not flaunt the relationship in front of her. While she might be alright with the two of you dating, to see you two together, being loving and to hear about the relationship would make her uncomfortable. Above all, respect her feelings on this, however she wants it to work out. Best Wishes!

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OK I have N64 (I know really old school), but I love it. Anyway I have the game James Bond Goldeneye. I am on the 16th level which is the "control." I am an agent, which is the first level. OK so the instructions say to "destroy armored mainframe" but I have no idea even what that is nonetheless how to go about doing so. Does anyone have any idea that owns Goldeneye on Nintendo 64? Any help would be greatly appriceated.

Try one of the links listed below, they might be of some help. They include cheats for the whole game though, so be warned. Best Wishes!


http://www.supercheats.com/nintendo64/jamesbondgoldeneyequestions.htm

http://www.cheatcobra.com/goldeneye007.htm

http://www.hotcheats.com/goldeneye007gamesharkcheats.html

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My best friend Nicole has been my friend since 5th grade and were in 9th grade now. We're so close and we talk about everything together. One of our good friends who was 17 yrs old just passed away on december 5th from cancerous tumers on his brain. It was so sudden. We all got so scared after that becasue in our town, theres been alot of deaths from cancer. We didn't think it would actually effect someone so young, an ready to go off to college. The worst part about it is that his mother had already lost 2 other sons before him. So she basically just lost her 3rd son.
Sadly to say, just last week, about 2 days before Xmas, my best friend Nicole was diagnosed with cancer. The doctors said that the lumps on her neck were the beginning of Mono, but they were wrong. Her tests came back, and she now has cancer. Shes gonna be at Westchester hospital for about 4-5 weeks going through kemo and stuff. Me, and a bunch of our other friends are worried sick about her becasue its so sudden, and we dont want to lose her like we lost our other friend. I'm so sad, and I desperately need someone to make me think of positive things about her right now, becasue really all i can think of is our other friend who just died and if shes gonna end up like that. This is a very hard time for me, can anyone give me any advice on this? I just dont know how to think about something good. Thank You!
_Janine_*

Cancer is a horrific disease that unfortunately takes a lot of lives. However, this does not have to be your friends tale. She is young and if otherwise healthy she stands a good chance of beating this. I have had many deaths in my family from cancer but we have also had many survivors of it. Dont give up hope. If you want you can recommend Cancer Treatment Centers of America to her family http://www.cancercenter.com/ for possible treatment options. They are wonderful and have saved thousands of peoples lives through their research and treatments. To educate yourself on the type of cancer that she has and the treatments that she might have to undergo, try this website http://www.oncolink.upenn.edu/ . I would seriously suggest cancer support groups for you, your group of friends and this friend of yours that is suffering from cancer. You can try this link http://www.oncochat.org/ for an online support group or search your local yellow pages for a local cancer support group. It may sound cheesy but these groups can be the great big emotional hug that you will need while seeing her through this.

Be loving to your friend. Pray for her and spend lots of time with her. Dont be afraid to let her know your fears but also be kind and listen to hers. Take pictures with her, make memories that will cheer her during her hours of treatment. Basically, be her friend. For your own emotions, have faith that she will beat this. Give her some of your faith as well. Stay strong for her and for yourself. Best wishes dear, you and your friend are in my prayers.

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On New Years Eve im going to my boyfriends house. I'm a virgin but that night i think i want to lose my virginity with him. I'm 14 almost 15 i know i'm young but i'm tired of being a virgin. We've only been going out for a week today but we went out for 7 months a while back. Please don't reply if your just going to call me a hoe or yell at me because i don't need that. Would i be making the wrong choice if i do? I already know about the whole getting pregnant thing im not stupid..but other than that am i making the right choice? thanks..

I really think that you would regret it if you choose to sleep with him. You are very young and will no doubt date many many more guys before you settle down to get married. You have dated this guy before yes but something must have happened to make the relationship split the first time. How do you know that the reasons for the first break up wont come up again? There is no way for you to know that you will still be with this guy next week. Wait until you are older and able to handle the repercussions of your decision (yes you could get pregnant and being a 14 or 15 year old mother isnt a fun thing) before you do it. Remember, once you do this there is no taking it back. Dont do something that you might regret. Give yourself time to enjoy your teen years first. Best Wishes!

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Hey people....I have liked this boy let's call him Dylan for a looooonnnnggggg time and I didn't know how to get over him because our relationship that we had wasn't going anywhere. I'll explain the relationship...well we went out a few times and it didn't work too well but when we weren't going out more stuff happened between us and that is what made me attached more. Well I finally got over him :) because another guy came in to the picture let's call him Cody...but i broke up with him because it didn't really work and Dylan helped me through it so now me and him are basically best friends which I like better then what we were before. Well he is having this party at his house on New Years and I'm spending the night and so is my best friend, Dylan and her have been talking lately so she is coming. Well I think that my friend likes him and I'm scared because i'd be upset if i saw that happen. It isn't because I still like him, because I don't but it's just I don't want my 'ex lover' lol to be with my best friend. He basically told me that he likes her but he couldn't go out with her because she had sex with this one boy and he thinks it's gross because of who it is. So yeah he told me to my face that he liked me still. At the party I'm not sure if I should mess around with him or not....I wouldn't mind but i don't know what to do.I can't talk to my best friend about it because she won't understand because I don't like him and the only way she would is if i told her I liked him still and I don't...I don't know what to do!!!

First talk to your girl friend and explain that while you no longer have feelings for him you would feel uncomfortable if the two of them got together because of the past that you share with him. Since she is your best friend I am sure that she respects your feelings and will avoid anything romantic with him. If she really is your best friend she will understand where you are coming from. Second, talk to this guy and explain that you value his friendship greatly. Let him know that you do not have feelings for him in anyway other than friendship. Avoid leading him on so that you can secure your friendship with him. Otherwise it will turn into a mess which might cost you his friendship. Best Wishes!

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ok last valentines day my b/f took me to buy a puppy. i wanted the first one i saw a little pekinese puppy. i was purebred so he paid 900.00 for the dog. i've never had a dog before just cats and i didn't know what i was getting myself into. now i can't stand the dog. i can't train it to go to the bathroom outside, its super hyper, jumps on my son and tries to hump him. i can't imagine how much it would cost to fix him. i want to get rid of the dog but my b/f doesn't. we're constantly fighting about it. any suggestions on what to do?

If you are wanting to calm the situation without chancing another argument with your boyfriend I would suggest looking into getting the dog fixed at a local animal shelter/hospital. A lot of shelters will fix animals for free just to control the ever-growing pet population. If you want to just be rid of the dog, talk to your boyfriend and voice your opinion about the nature of the dog and your concerns for the dogs interactions with your son. Hyper dogs can show agression and that isnt something that you want to deal with if you cannot control the animal. After talking with your boyfriend place an ad in the paper for the dog but set up interviews with the potential buyers. If your boyfriend gets to sit down with them (you being there too of course) and talk to the people who will own the dog, he will be able to get to know the people and in essence, control the environment that the dog ends up in which should make him happier about getting rid of it. Best Wishes!

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Okay so I am the same person that asked about calling one of my old staff members from a mental institution at home. I decided to send her a christmas card and i called her at work tonight to find out if she got it and she said yes. I asked her if she minded me mailing it to her house and she said no. So i was wondering if i shouldnt call her at home tomorrow and find out if there is some way i can see her because she only lives like a mile away. I have walked past her house several times and i know that she took an oath that stated that if she saw a patient outside of the hospital the only way she could talk to them would be if they approached her. so if i was thinking that maybe i should have her go outside and maybe "bump into her". Do you think I should do this, I mean I really really really miss her and she is such a big influence in my life right now and she is the only reason that I have not killed myself! She has made me realize that I can be a great person if I try and work hard at it? What should I do?

I rate!!!

I would call her up and ask her if she would mind getting together at a time that is convenient for both of you for a cup of coffee or a bite to eat. I would make it a neutral place for the first get together because, like being on a first date, public places seem to lessen the tension a bit and encourage more of a conversation rather than being at her home where she will have to answer the door, answer the phone or clean up before you arrive. Let her be the one to invite you to her home or if the right moment in the conversation pops up, ask her if she would mind getting together with you again. I am sure that if you are open, honest and relaxed everything should work out fine. Best Wishes!

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Help Im in a longwood school district where 57% ofthe students are white 38% are black and the rest are others. I do not mind this at all but my mother is very judgemental, preduduce and rasict. I happen to be white and so is she and at this point i doubt she trusts me at all and i dont kno why she always views my instant messages and always seems to think im doing something wrong..often gets iffy when shes around black people and is straight up disrespectful to me and others around her about this particular topic....Ive tried to tell her how horrible that is but she DOES NOT listen....WHAT DO I DO?!??!?
PS she is 40 and i am 13 my father is 46 my sister is 16 and i think its because black people tried to kick her ass in her school but i can sorta understand why now alothough my dad has no problem nor my sister

Racism angers me greatly. There simply is no excuse for it. However, racism is ignorance and the only way to change ignorance is to educate. In a situation like you have, with the racist person being your mother, the education that you can offer her is the way that you conduct your life. Show her that you can love and trust people of all nationalities/cultures/colors through your interactions with others. Hate is something that is learned and it takes a while to "unlearn" it. Be the example of just behavior to her and perhaps, through the love of your example she will see the error of her ways. Best Wishes!

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ok i have these white dots on my nails. there in any random spot, anywhere on my nail. does anyone else have these or know what they are?? thanks

Usually white dots or streaks on your nails is a sign of a calcium deficiency. It could be something else of course but if you want to test the waters increase your calcium intake and see what happens. Best Wishes!

P.S. I'm not a doctor so if you have any concern about increasing your calcium intake consult one before doing so.

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On new year's eve, I have to go to my grandparents for 3 days. I really don't want to go because they live a long way away from us and all my friends. The only way I will be able to keep in touch with my friends is through text message because they don't let me use their phone and I can't afford to call on mine. They don't even have a computer so their's no msn either. I know it's only three days but I am going to be so bored, what can I do to stay in touch with my friends apart from texting? There isn't any point writing letters because it's only three days.

The way that I see it is you have 2 options. One, go to a local library and use their computers to communicate with your friends via MSN. Two, ask if you can stay home. If neither of those options work, explain your situation to your grandparents and tell them that you would appreciate their letting you use their phone to communicate with your friends. Im sure that they can remember what it was like for them when they were your age if they are reminded by you. Best Wishes!

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what are some good ways to get a guy to like you? i need some real good ways. what do guys like about the girls they like. How can i get guys to like me? i rate really high! PLEASE HELP!

The most important tip that I can give you is simply be yourself. Share your interests and be interested in getting to know him. Be open if his opinions are different than yours. Share secrets and listen to his. All good relationships start with a friendship. Let the guy know that you can be his friend as well as his girlfriend. Best wishes!

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I just dont know I am 13/f and all my friends had had there first kiss. bUt I havent how old where yall out there and I think I mess up when I kiss the guy when its my first I mean I kiss my friends on the ckeck and all the guys to but thats just as friends I just dont know plz help

I was 14 when I had my first kiss and it was so unromantic that I wished for a long time that it had never happened. See, I rushed it. Let the right moment happen with the right guy. When the moment is right, the mood is right and the attraction is right you will know. If unrushed and relaxed, it will be perfect. Best wishes!

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well me and my parents got in the BIGGEST fight ever and i walked off and went to my boyfriends house...adn im 5months pregnat adn he said he would suport me and all that shit..well when i went there i didnt tell him and when i got there he was with a nother girl...i felt really bad...and i had no where to go so i went to my friends Marissas shes trying to help me out alot but i tinhk im putting alot of presure on her tho..and i fell bad adn i dont no what to do i dont want to tel lher that i feel liek tell her that...cause she might be liek yea you are and kick me out and i dont think i want to have this baby from that dude...so im tihnking about an abortion but if so then my firnd would get mad saying you made me go all throw that shit!!! i really dont no what to do and i havent heard from my parents for liek a month and i dont wnat to stay with her..what shall i do?
hel me!!
p.s im 17

As much as you may not want to, you really should contact your parents. They will be able to help shelter you financially and emotionally and that is not something that your friend will be able to do. Your parents may be mad at you but you are still their child, they love you (always will) and will love their grandchild. I do not agree with abortion so I cannot advise you to get one. I think that no matter what has happened with you and this baby's dad, this child is still yours and was created from the love that was there for that moment that you two made it. Dont take out your frustration and anger on that child. I have a friend whose mother considered aborting her. Her mother was raped and she ended up pregnant with her (we will call her Missy). At the last moment Missy's mother decided to keep her and what a blessing she turned out to be to her mother, her family and all of her friends. Now Missy has 3 children of her own and is living a wonderful life. You and your child have a chance at a future. Call your parents, tell them that you want to put the past differences aside for the sake of your child. Im sure that they will work with you and help you prepare yourself for your future as a single mother (though Im sure you wont be single long) as well as helping you raise your child. God Bless and good luck!

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Hello. Um, I have a problem with this guy who lives in my neighborhood. Everyday he harasses me sexually. I've tried telling the police, but they said without hard evidence they couldn't do anything. I'm sort of a feminist, so something like this shouldn't be a problem for me. But, I'm too afraid to tell my friends or family. I'm 16 and he's like, 25. So, I know it's illegal.
What should I do?

Being independant is a good thing, a right thing in a lot of instances but not when your life might be at stake. This guy sounds like he is or could be turning into a stalker. You need to tell your family and friends. This situation is one that simply cannot be handled on your own. You do NOT need to be alone until this guy is dealt with. Have a friend or family member with you at all times, especially if you are in an enclosed area like your home. Also, contact a local attorney. Ask information about obtaining a restraining order against this man and any other thing that the lawyer might be able to advise you to do. I also believe that if you retain an attorney (the lawyer should be able to recommend a pro-bono attorney if money is an issue) the police will take you more seriously. Be safe.

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I have been having this problem for quite sometime. I am a cutter. And i can't really stop. I have been going to counseling and I had been taken off antidepressants. My mood hasnt gotten any better, it feels alittle worse. Parents are no help, my dad thinks that I am doing this for attention and he yelled and screamed at me saying that I am faking everything and its just a waste of money to keep the counseling going. So now, I am not in that anymore. I feel terrible, worse possibly. And my freind who I have known since the second grade is going through problems, she is cutting herself and trying to kill herself. I have been trying to give her advice but, how do I give advice to someone who is doing the same things as me? I need some major help and someone to talk to.

First, for your friend as much as you would hate to do it you need to notify her parents immediately. Also, tell her this : Suicide is a permenant solution to a temporary problem. You cannot help your friend until you first help yourself.

When I was a little girl I was in a bad car accident and the complications from the injuries that I suffered in that wreck haunted me for years and many times I thought about cutting myself or hurting myself in other ways. Sometimes you feel as though you have to get the pain out someway and you can think of no other way to do it. It can be an act of defiance or an act of revenge against yourself for not living up to the expectations that others have set of you and for you. Whatever the cause, there should be nothing in this world that would make you hurt yourself. You, no matter what you may think, are a beautiful, important, impressive person who deserves all that life has to offer. You have to begin to value yourself over the value that you place on the pain in your life or on your problems. YOU are important. YOU are valuable. YOU deserve to be happy. What you are doing to yourself will not help you feel that way. It will not help you lessen the pain. It will not help your relationship with your dad or with anyone else. I suggest speaking to a counselor as soon as possible if you have one through a school that you can talk to. You need help and guidance to get yourself through this. I know that you are a strong person because you knew that you needed help enough to ask for it here. Try to talk to a school counselor about this and tell them that your dad made you stop the therapy that you were going to. They should be able to help you get into counselling with or without your dads help. If you would like to talk to me please find me on Yahoo anytime. My Yahoo ID is dearheart790. I would love to help you in anyway that I can.

Dont throw your life away. Get help. Stay strong. Love yourself. Believe that you can beat this. I have complete faith that you can.

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