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I feel very alone in this
Hello. Um, I have a problem with this guy who lives in my neighborhood. Everyday he harasses me sexually. I've tried telling the police, but they said without hard evidence they couldn't do anything. I'm sort of a feminist, so something like this shouldn't be a problem for me. But, I'm too afraid to tell my friends or family. I'm 16 and he's like, 25. So, I know it's illegal.
What should I do?
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Tell your parents
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get a friend to hide somewhere and tell him to meet u there, andshe can videotape it, or bring a tape recorder with you, or you can just avoid the guy at all cost
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ask other girls in the neighborhood if that guy has done/said anything to them, if so then go tell the police again and they should listen if they dont listen to you tell your parents. thats not right of that guys, its gross! x0
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Being independant is a good thing, a right thing in a lot of instances but not when your life might be at stake. This guy sounds like he is or could be turning into a stalker. You need to tell your family and friends. This situation is one that simply cannot be handled on your own. You do NOT need to be alone until this guy is dealt with. Have a friend or family member with you at all times, especially if you are in an enclosed area like your home. Also, contact a local attorney. Ask information about obtaining a restraining order against this man and any other thing that the lawyer might be able to advise you to do. I also believe that if you retain an attorney (the lawyer should be able to recommend a pro-bono attorney if money is an issue) the police will take you more seriously. Be safe.
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Well, since you are a minor, tell a local athouristy figure other than the police. Tell some one who you KNOW can do something
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The police should believe you, that's ridiculous. Just try avoiding the guy for a while, bring a friend with you wherever you go, or someone just to be a witness. Tell your friends and family right away before something bad happens. Hope I helped and good luck -Angel
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if i were you, i would get a video tape, hide it somewhere, go outside and wait. take your evidence to the police. you absolutely have to tell ur family things like this are important.
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Try to buy or borrow a camera or voice recorder so when he starts harassing you, you can record the voices or the actual harassing being done to you by him. You really do have to tell your friends or family. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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take karate and kick his ass
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Oh my god! You have to tell your parents! If you don't this guy will be thinking he is getting away with the little shit he is doing and try to do something bigger. This is a serious situation. Tell your parents he is sexually harrassing you and have them talk to the police. Has this guy ever bothered you when you were with someone else? If so, have that person vouch for you and say they've witnessed him harrassing you. Get a restraining order put on him, there has to be something that can be done. If something isn't done now the cops will regret it if god forbid something bad does happwn to you, so they have to do something to prevent it. You can't go living in fear.
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take a tape recorder with you if you think you might see him so you can record what he is saying. if that doesnt work, you could get one of those little cameras that clip to your shirt that nobody can see. that might cost a little but if you really want it to stop then it should be worth it. also i would encourage you to tell someone other than the police so they can help
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Well if the police dont believe you tell your parents. Theres not really anyone else to tell but if they dont believe you then tell the police again, maybe to tyr and get some evidence. Maybe hide a camara where he wont see it, or record the sound.
H.i.H.
and Good Luck!
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how does he do it? touching or asking tell ur mom things like that they are more personal about it let her call the cops
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set like a camera up or something , thats sexual harrassment .. tell your teachers at school or make a plan that you can catch him in the act - belive me your hard work will pay off , dont keep it a secret before it gets too serious.
hope i helped
-;- jessie xo
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well.. you deffinitaly need to tell someone.. like your parents.. and one day.. set up a video camera in ur house and when he comes over youll have proof. or.. have a close friend around the corner or sumthin n he/she'll be a witness *hope i helped!* love alwaiiz, aLi *feedback is greatly appreciated!*
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Well you need to tell someone Older than you, Mayde like a teacher or someone. And you need to tell someone FAST. cases like these can turn out into rape at the end. Also you can have the cops watch you as you go thew your day, at least that is how it is here. But if this guy is really bothering you you need to tell someone FAST!
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If you need hard evidence,find a y to get it and tell a guidence cansouler, your mom ... ANYONE YOU TRUST. Try a tape recorder and hide it then go back to the police and show the proof you may have to go to court so be prepared. Hope we helped!
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When someone touches you, and makes you feel uncomfortable, you need to tell somebody, because that's not right. You really need to tell your parents. Maybe yur friends too. If you don't like something, tell someone. You can't keep your problems to yourself.
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Well, I saw this on t.v, so it might not work in real life, but I'll tell you anyway. Okay have a friend hide in something like a closet with a small video camera, or a digital camera that works as a video camera, and get to to touch you in those ways and catch it on tape. Or if you have a camera and he wants to fool around, tell him you think it's sexy to tape it. I know since you're a feminist (or I think) that it's probably against what you stand for and you probably think it's a stupid idea. Another idea could be have a tape player on in your purse... don't turn it on until you get near him. Does he talk sexually and stuff to you or just touch. Because if he also talks that way then you can get it on tape. Or when you're walking past where ever he lives and he's outside or something have a friend somewhere within camera shot and have her take pictures or catch on tape whatever he does to you.
I know, if someone game me this advice I'd probably say thanks but never do it because it seems to complicated which it is. I say only use my advice as a last resort because like something could happen while trying it. Try talking to a really close friend, like have her sleepover one day, then walk around the neighborhood and as you walk, pass his house. Then be like oh my gosh that guy is such a freak, he like sexually harasses me and some other girls. Hopefully your friend will like notice you said and that be like oh my gosh and stuff like that. If not, then when school starts back up in January go to guidance and see what your councilor can do for you. Good luck, I'm really sorry that this pervert won't leave you alone. My friend lives right next door to a guy who was convicted of rape, and for her party we camped out in her back yard... guess who decided to visit us at like 3 in the morning? Yeah, it was really creepy. Well, good luck and happy holidays!
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go do something about it!!! tell someone!
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