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well im in a sucky place
well me and my parents got in the BIGGEST fight ever and i walked off and went to my boyfriends house...adn im 5months pregnat adn he said he would suport me and all that shit..well when i went there i didnt tell him and when i got there he was with a nother girl...i felt really bad...and i had no where to go so i went to my friends Marissas shes trying to help me out alot but i tinhk im putting alot of presure on her tho..and i fell bad adn i dont no what to do i dont want to tel lher that i feel liek tell her that...cause she might be liek yea you are and kick me out and i dont think i want to have this baby from that dude...so im tihnking about an abortion but if so then my firnd would get mad saying you made me go all throw that shit!!! i really dont no what to do and i havent heard from my parents for liek a month and i dont wnat to stay with her..what shall i do?
hel me!!
p.s im 17
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Firs of all, you do not sound like a seventeen year old girl, because you do not know how to write correctly. Second of all, you should tell your boyfriend or whatever it is that you want him to be. He helped you make that baby, so he should help you support it. I do not understand clearly, did you say that he doesn't know and when you went to tell him, he was with another girl or that he knows? It is bad that you didn't tell him right away. AND YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM!! That is just crazy to do. So you haven't talked to your parents for five months? That is no good. You need to talk to you parents. FAST! Because they can help. I am sure whatever it is that you fought about was stupid anyway. Go tell your parents and DO NOT, I repeat, !!*DO NOT*!! have an abortion!!! Do you want to be a murderer? If you do then do it. Do you understand that a baby at five months old have hair and they are humans not objects you can easily get rid of! [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
That is a baby at five months. Can you really kill a person like that? Go to Google and type in "dead babies" or "abortion" and you will see what they do to babies. It is sad and disgusting. You should be ashamed of yourself for wanting to kill somebody is cannot even defend themselves. Hope my advice helps you. :)
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well it is a little late for an abortion sweety
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maybe i'm partial to this because i'm adopted, but dont have an abortion. if you really dont think you can handle having a child, give it up for adoption. i can imagine how hard that would be going through 9 months pregnancy and then the birth, but if you could give that baby a good life with someone else, you would be an even better person than i'm sure you already are.
be happy that your friend is there for you, and let her know how glad you are to have a friend like that.
i hope everything turns out alright for you.
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well he has to pay you child support so money shouldnt be too big of a problem. id still suggest trying to work it out with your paretns if at al possible, but they still ahve to take care of you until your 18
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first of all, contact your parents. don't get the abortion. It's too late anyways. You can't get an abortion after 3 monthes, it's too dangerous. Your friend sounds very supportive, and your ex is a jerk. i think you should talk to your parents, they can help you out.
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Well my frind is young and my cousin was young when having a baby. I would just call your boyfriend and talk to him about it. I mean my cousin i think isnt with her boyfriend but he still helps. He sold his escalada for the baby. So just let him know. Dont do abortion put it up for adoption. Every baby made deserves a life-trix
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First type better ok. you have horrible spelling you transpose letters and apart from elipses you don't use punctuation. beyond that get an abortion. Time is running out. You need to do it. It may be hard but take solace in the fact that the fetus does not think or feel yet.
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I think you should tell you parents and maybe they would be supportive because you are going to be giving birth to the child. If you have the child and give it up for adoption, you could live your life knowing that you didnt damage a life of a child and know it has a good family. hope i helped SwEeTiE
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As much as you may not want to, you really should contact your parents. They will be able to help shelter you financially and emotionally and that is not something that your friend will be able to do. Your parents may be mad at you but you are still their child, they love you (always will) and will love their grandchild. I do not agree with abortion so I cannot advise you to get one. I think that no matter what has happened with you and this baby's dad, this child is still yours and was created from the love that was there for that moment that you two made it. Dont take out your frustration and anger on that child. I have a friend whose mother considered aborting her. Her mother was raped and she ended up pregnant with her (we will call her Missy). At the last moment Missy's mother decided to keep her and what a blessing she turned out to be to her mother, her family and all of her friends. Now Missy has 3 children of her own and is living a wonderful life. You and your child have a chance at a future. Call your parents, tell them that you want to put the past differences aside for the sake of your child. Im sure that they will work with you and help you prepare yourself for your future as a single mother (though Im sure you wont be single long) as well as helping you raise your child. God Bless and good luck!
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Hey hunny,I'm so sorry about this! You need to talk to your parents again! Your baby is 5 months old and you are 17 you can't do this on your own! You need your parents help! Hope I helped God Bless xox NiCoLe
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GEt back talking to your parents, thats the first thing you need to to, the baby is already 5 months into it, so thats bad, but i dont know about the whole abortion thing, thats not my like topic here.. so do whatever you feel is right andim sory that all this is happening to you at 17 that is horrible. I hope things get better for you but this is not really something i can help you with!
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i dont beleive in abortion why not jus have the baby and adopt??...
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u need to chill about the man let him be and show him you can make it on your own meanwhile you try to save money so you can get a place to live an get back at me.ok?
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Call your parents. If they won't look for you, you go to them. Look you are pregnant. Your babies dad is a jerk, and the last thing you need is to be feeling guilty that your putting pressure on your friend. You don't need all this stress its no good for the baby. Basically all you have is your parents. So what if you look like the smaller person. Go back home. You NEED your family right now. And as for your boy friend, there is no apologizing for being with another girl especially while you are pregnant. Imagine had you not caught him, then he would have came to see you like he never cheated, slept with you and wiped off that other hoes germs on you and your unborn child. Trifiling ass dude. Sue his ass for child support, that's the only place he needs to be in your life. Oh yeah, and I don't think its legal and I know its definitely not medically safe to get an abortion after 3 months. So yeah, go home, clear things up with your family. Keep the baby and kick that loser ass babydad to the curb but remember to clean out his pockets 1st. Good luck!
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talk to your parents, because once you enter the third trimester, you can't have an abortion, and i believe that's coming up soon. your boyfriend is scum, you don't want him in your life anyway. but, tell him that you're pregnant. he deserves to know that he fathered a child... whether or not he's allowed to be in its life. seriously though, you need to talk to your parents. they love you, no matter what you all say to one another, and you're going to need a lot more help than your friend's going to be able to offer if you decide to keep this baby.
in short, go home, you really need to.
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First of all, go to school, learn to speak. Second of all, the reason you're in a "sucky place" is probably because u live in scumville where no one knows how to speak/ use condoms/ choose good boyfriends. Think about that. That is assuming you can think.
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first of all no abortion that poor baby had nothin to do with it he didnt make you have sex secondly talk to her ask how you can help and not feel like theres pressure on her
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confront yer boyfriend , confront yer parents , confront yer friend ! tell them everthing thats going on .. xo
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WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING WITH A BABY IN THE FIRST PLACE! You need to put it up for adoption when it becomes born. You have no way to support the baby. You're bf obviously doesn't give a shit. So you've got to forget his sorry ass. Then put the baby up for adoption when it is born.
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you have to confront your boyfriend. tell him that you saw that he was with another girl and now you're pregnant with his kid. if he doesnt support you... dont ever talk to him again and warn other girls. and you should get marissa a lil sumthin like a gift basket for helping you threw all this... what i wud do is to go back home and spill out everything to your parents... if you dont ike that idea... jus stay with marissa and maybe have her talk to ur boyfriend *hope i helped!* love alwaiiz, aLi *feedback is greatly appreciated!*
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Well you need to tell the bf that he needs to get his lazy butt up and help with the baby. He can have this other girl but he needs to help you with the baby. Tell him to take him/her on weekends for something. Also maybe tell your friend what a great job she is doing helping you. And if the bf doesn't wont to help take it to court and at least make him pay child suport or something.
~ always looking to help Made4Monkees
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what the hell! u didnt speak english! it took me like 20 minutes to figure that out. i say go back to your parents house. they should always be there for you.
peace
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omgah thats gotta suck hun...
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