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this is long, and kinda sad, but please help me!
My best friend Nicole has been my friend since 5th grade and were in 9th grade now. We're so close and we talk about everything together. One of our good friends who was 17 yrs old just passed away on december 5th from cancerous tumers on his brain. It was so sudden. We all got so scared after that becasue in our town, theres been alot of deaths from cancer. We didn't think it would actually effect someone so young, an ready to go off to college. The worst part about it is that his mother had already lost 2 other sons before him. So she basically just lost her 3rd son.
Sadly to say, just last week, about 2 days before Xmas, my best friend Nicole was diagnosed with cancer. The doctors said that the lumps on her neck were the beginning of Mono, but they were wrong. Her tests came back, and she now has cancer. Shes gonna be at Westchester hospital for about 4-5 weeks going through kemo and stuff. Me, and a bunch of our other friends are worried sick about her becasue its so sudden, and we dont want to lose her like we lost our other friend. I'm so sad, and I desperately need someone to make me think of positive things about her right now, becasue really all i can think of is our other friend who just died and if shes gonna end up like that. This is a very hard time for me, can anyone give me any advice on this? I just dont know how to think about something good. Thank You!
_Janine_*
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I'm praying for you sweetie =). There's really nothing you can do,Nicole is in God's hands.
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Hey Hunny,first of all i have to say i'm SO sorry but remember he is in a better place now!And your friend Nicole just think of it this way she will be fine! Talk to someone tell someone close how you feel!Get all that negitave stuff out of your system! Trust me everything will be alright. I don't think God would do that!God Bless you and your friends! Hope i helped xoxo nicole
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first off you need to find out if the problem with cancer in your town can affect you because you need to look out for number one. talk to a friend, family member, or someone you trust about what's going on with your life. you need to get your negative feelings out otherwise they might get bottled up inside you and you might do some ting really bad like cut yourself or even attempt suicide. just remember eventhough your friend isn't there in body she'll always be there in spirit. hope i helped.
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Cancer is a horrific disease that unfortunately takes a lot of lives. However, this does not have to be your friends tale. She is young and if otherwise healthy she stands a good chance of beating this. I have had many deaths in my family from cancer but we have also had many survivors of it. Dont give up hope. If you want you can recommend Cancer Treatment Centers of America to her family [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) for possible treatment options. They are wonderful and have saved thousands of peoples lives through their research and treatments. To educate yourself on the type of cancer that she has and the treatments that she might have to undergo, try this website [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) . I would seriously suggest cancer support groups for you, your group of friends and this friend of yours that is suffering from cancer. You can try this link [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) for an online support group or search your local yellow pages for a local cancer support group. It may sound cheesy but these groups can be the great big emotional hug that you will need while seeing her through this.
Be loving to your friend. Pray for her and spend lots of time with her. Dont be afraid to let her know your fears but also be kind and listen to hers. Take pictures with her, make memories that will cheer her during her hours of treatment. Basically, be her friend. For your own emotions, have faith that she will beat this. Give her some of your faith as well. Stay strong for her and for yourself. Best wishes dear, you and your friend are in my prayers.
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ok i lost my grandma from brest cancer so i understand heres somthin you can do spend all the time you can with her if you have alot of pictures of her make a scrapbook af yall together and give it to her but honestly its the little things that count i promise itll get easier trust me i kno
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I think that maybe you and all of Nicole's friends should go to group therapy, or teen counseling or sumthing. I'm not trying to be funny here. I seriously think that all of you talking about your feelings with a professional can help everybody through this. You can talk about your fears with her cancer treatment while reminicsing all of the fun times you had together. I think it will help all of you to know that there are other people out there who feel the same way you do. You don't have to go through this by yourself. Try to be there for Nicole the best you can and maybe talk to an adult about starting a fundraiser in her name, and the name of your friend that recently passed away. I think keeping your mind occupied with doing sumthing to help Nicole and other people with her condition and those similar to it can help you work through your fears and restore some lost hope. Good Luck n God Bless ~*K@-C*~
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Just try not to think about the bad things, visit her as often as possible and spend as much time as you can with her, maybe it would help to pray for her and donate to help the cure for cancer, and who knows, they have been working on the cure for a while, so maybe they will find one in time for your friend.
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Visit her as often as possible and it may help you if you donate to the live strong cancer fund. I did and it made me feel better. And dont worry im sure your friend will be fine :D. See there curing the problem fast and quick so it wont turn out bad and im so sorry about your other friend. Best of luck. <3 American Girl
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there are lots of cures for cancer coming (my mom helps to make medicines). you shouldn't worry. and dont do anything to hurt yourself. most of the time cancer can be detected in bumps early, which can be treated. also, you can write down you feelings in a dairy to get them off your chest.i hope i helped. p.s. if you have any other conserns leave a message in my inbox on this site. i'd be glad to help orjust talk.:)
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I dont know if your religous or not. But I am, and I'll be happy to pray for your friend and get other people (from my church and stuff) to pray for her too! You need to stay positive for her, if she knows your all sad she feels that their is no hope.Be strong for her, and she'll stay strong! I know I didnt help a lot but I'm sorry and I hope your friend does ok!
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oh my God im so sorry! You need to help her now more than ever. She needs your support. Bring her flowers and stay with her a lot. Have a lot of people visit her and send her cards. "Live everyday like its your last one" a quote from a song that i think pertains to this situation. you need to help her make the best of this. i really hope i helped you! and good luck! love alwaiiz, aLi *feedback is greatly appreciated!*
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