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ive liked my bff's boyfrined named ryan (ex bf now) since before she ever knew him and i just never old her. so when she started to go out with him i started to like someone else but still kinda like him so after they broke up i thought it'd be okay to date him because she said she didnt care if i did she just didnt want to see me get hurt like i was in the past and like she was in the past but i told her i wouldnt get hurt but that didnt convince her so i said that i didnt actually like him and that i was only preteneding to go out with him even though thats not true. so now since then shes had 3 different boyfriends and says that she hates ryan, but she had called him and asked him to come swimming with her and then she asked him if he still liked her. he said he wasnt going to come swimming with her and no he didnt like her and i think she knew that was his answer anyway but i guess she was hoping for a different one...but i dont know because she keeps saying how much she hates him but then why would she ask him out? She knows hes dateing me but why would she ask?
She seems like she has a problem with it. Even though she says she hates him, he's still her ex & there's probably some feelings there. Talk to her about it. He is your boyfriend now & his feelings matter too. It would be a good idea to talk to both of them. She probably asked because there are some feelings there or she wanted to get back at you for dating an ex. Either way, she's not being a very great friend & you guys should talk things out.
-hope that helped!♥
ok so i have sports induced asthma and i have been to the allergist, she gave me an inhaler but i still have a shortness of breathe and everything even when i take it, i do swimming and i often find myself stopping about 10 times during my 2 hour practice and i dont know what to do should i just push myself or should i quit swimming. PLEASE HELP AND GIVE ME AS MUCH INFORMATION YOU KNOW OR CAN FIND ABOUT SPORTS INDUCED ASTHMA!!!i rate high
I have sports induced asthma also. The inhaler should work when you exercise. Do not push yourself. You know your limits so when you feel that you went past them, stop whatever you're doing. I usually take my inhaler before I exercise so I don't have to stop during. It's gotten better over the years because I've gotten used to it. You should go back to the doctor & talk to her about it. There's also a pill you can take every morning that helps with allergies. It's called Singular. If it is strictly sports induced asthma though, it may not help. Singular is for allergies. You shouldn't have to quit swimming though. Until you can get to your doctor, try taking one shot before & see how it goes. If you still feel short of breath, take another & try to keep going. You should never take more than 2 shots in a 4 hour period. Watch yourself though. Even though you may enjoy swimming, it would not be worth a trip to the hospital because you overdid it.
-hope that helped!♥
my friend and i have the exact same taste in guys but i don't no what to do, i mean i have confronted her about it but she doesn't know what to do either. We both like this adorable guy but who should get him?? HELP PLEASE!?!
Friendship is way more important than random guys here and there. Maybe if you're trying to find a new guy or meet guys, establish from the beginning when either of you like him. You shouldn't battle it out to see who should get him. If you truly like him, talk to her about it. If she starts getting mean/upset & says that she feels the same way, both of you drop it & look around for someone else. I would suggest that if you really do like a guy in the future, don't tell her about it right away. Let it go & see if you & him can have a decent relationship or at least friendship, then introduce them later on. Obviously it would be difficult to do this since she's your friend, but you can't mix her with guys if you have the same taste as her. If either of you get involved with this guy, one of you will end up getting hurt. Is that even worth it? If you just need to see who he likes & let him decide, you can do that but you have to be prepared if it isn't you. If you don't see her as a close enough friend, then you should go for it.
-hope that helped!♥
Every time I go to restaurants, I'm stuck getting salads, wraps, pasta with marinara, a grilled chicken dish, a shrimp dish, or a salmon dish. Is there anything else that is on most menus that I can order?
Those are all good things & good for your weight. Everyone has different food opinions. I would probably say different salads with chicken would be good or pastas. If you're planning to go to a restaurant beforehand, look up their menu online so you can really think about it. I like getting anything with chicken, so chicken & pasta or things like that are always good. You can try different burgers. At a local diner, I like getting a taco salad or mac & cheese with tomatoes. Every restaurant is different. That's why I would suggest looking up their menus so you can really sit down & look at it. I usually get appetizers as a main course. Since an appetizer is usually for 4+ people, you can get it as a main course for yourself & it will be plenty. Also, you should try asking the waitress what she would recommend or look at their specials menu. Specials are meals put together that are mostly popular in their restaurant or new for people to try.
-hope that helped!♥
okay so my best friend moved about 3 years ago but were still THE BEST of friends maybe even closer. Normally i call her everyday after school. Then when finals came up i didn't have much time to call her, and she got pretty mad about it And now that its summer i'm always out so i call her sometimes but most of the time she doesn't answer. Then about a week ago i dropped my phone in the pool and it doesn't work and she got a new number that i don't have memorized. So i left her a message on myspace telling her what happened (cause that the only way i could get a hold of her) then today she flipped out cause she hasn't talk to me in a week. It just makes me really mad that she gets mad at me for that. It wasn't like she was picking up the phone calling me, she never does. what should i do?
Talk to her about it. You don't sound like the bad guy to me. At least not in this situation. You were being a good friend to her. You called as much as you could. It's your summer too you know. You don't always have to be talking to her & she should realize that. A lot of people would not have done that in the first place. Explain that you tried your best but you have your own busy schedule & she could try talking to you as well. You left her know what happened about your phone & that's all you could have done. Let her decide from now on. If she wants to be your friend, she'll have to stop being mad & make an effort to talk to you instead. That way you both are making an effort.
-hope that helped!♥
Where is the privacy setttings located?!
Oops, sorry. I meant Profile Settings. It's under the section that says Welcome.
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So i was curious, how much would it cost monthly for a palm treo 750 with unlimited pix, txt and flix IN and free nights and weekends??
Every area is different, so I would suggest going to Cingular, typing in your information & set up your plan step by step. You have to put in your zip code, select the phone you want, the plan you want, & then any extra details will be added. Also, you have to decide what your contract is. We would just be guessing/estimating on money. It would be much easier for you to do it through the site.
www.cingular.com
Check that out & then if you have any extra questions, you can ask another question.
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I've been with my boyfriend for quite awhile now. We have so much fun together & literally talk about anything. Recently, we both went through changes in our personal lives. I feel as if his feelings towards me have changed and that he just doesn't care. He still calls regularly & we hang out as much as possible. When I bring it up, he tells me that I'm crazy for thinking this! Am I being paranoid? If a guy suddenly doesn't love you anymore, does he come out & tell you or usually lead it on for awhile?
Talk to him about it. He shouldn't think you're crazy for thinking it. You're human & many people have doubts, especially in relationships. Explain to him that you just want to make sure he's telling you the truth & that he wants to be with you. If you still feel uncomfortable about it or that he doesn't love you the same, you may want to rethink things. You could be being paranoid, but that's common in relationships. If you trust him then just listen to him & believe that he's telling you the truth. If not, talk to him about it. He shouldn't get mad/upset reminding you once in awhile. If he does, he may be lying. All guys are different though. Some come out & tell you, some don't. Just talk to him & explain your feelings towards the situation.
-hope that helped!♥
I wear a bra size 30A and I wear it on the very first hook and it makes marks right under my breasts, does this mean that I need a bigger size bra? Or is that normal..? If I don't need a bigger size, when do I know I need a bigger size? Please and thanks for answering these questions.
You probably need a bigger size. It shouldn't be uncomfortable or make marks. Here's a website-
http://www.womens-sports.com/MCmeasuringyourbrasize.htm
After you figure out your correct size, you can go shopping. If it is the size you've been wearing, try getting a different style. Make sure you try it on before you buy it so it's comfortable. Since you have to wear bras often, you don't want them to be annoying.
-hope that helped!♥
I'm looking to buy one season of Kyle XY off of iTunes. But how much does it cost? Do they all cost the same amount?
It's $1.99 per episode & there's 10 episodes in the first season.
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What are some inexpensive salon-quality hair products that I can pick up at a CVS in order to make my hair less frizzy and more straight? For example, something to put in either after showering, or before or after using a flat iron.
John Frieda's Frizz-Ease. It's a serum. You put it on whenever you need to. After the shower or just randomly throughout the day. You can buy it at CVS or Walmart. Basically places like that.
It comes in a small bottle that you can carry around with you.
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How do you add the facebook website on your advice column?
You add it in the website section. In the left hand column on the main page of advicenators, go to Privacy Settings & then scroll down to where it says Website URL. Put the URL you want there. You can either put facebook.com or if you want your facebook, go to your main page on facebook & copy that link. Copy whatever URL you want into the space & then scroll down & click Submit.
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soo me and my bf have only been going out for a little more than week. we've made out and yeah i like him but when we made out i just didnt feel any chemistry. does that mean i dont rlly have strong feelings for him? i dont even think i really like him that much. should i break up with him or wait and see what happens? i wanna try to go for a month but idk if i should even bother. please give me the best advice you can. thank youu guys
That would be unfair to dump him just because of making out problems. You probably don't have much chemistry because you've only been dating a week. It would be fair to give him a chance & get to know him a bit more. Hang out a bit more often & see where it goes. You'd feel really stupid if you just broke up & then you realized that you do like him. Maybe you just need to spice things up? If you really feel that you don't want to date him/don't like him, let him know right away. It would be unfair to keep him in a relationship when you're just going to dump him. Basically you just need to sort your feelings out & talk to him about it.
-hope that helped!♥
Hey im going to an amusement park soon and i really don't want to wear a bathing suit. I was thinking of just waering my bathing suit under and a t-shirt, do you think that would be okay? Also if i do that, then i wouldnt be allowed to go on any of the water rides because it is not permitted. I have very wide sides, so im not sure what to do. Any advice?
Thanks in advance
(14/f)
Try wearing a tanktop. That way you can get some sun & your bathing suit will still show. You shouldn't be too self-concious about it though. People come in all different shapes & sizes. I know that sounds corny but it's true. Maybe try getting a new bathing suit before you go. One that really fits you well. There are extremely cute one pieces nowadays that cover up your sides. If not, just wear a tanktop & shorts or something. If you really want to wear a tshirt, try it. Every amusement park is usually a bit different. Try finding out online before you go. If not, there's nothing wrong with wearing your bathing suit.
-hope that helped!♥
I know this question probaley comes up every summer but i am seriously desperate. Okay so i am a 16 year old female and i WANT alot of clothes and alot of things..but the thing is i dont have a job. I have been trying to get one since like april right wen i turned 16. I have not had any luck at all..its awful. I do have a babysitting job but he will only call me like twice this summer. I need money!! My parents just spent 1750 on my modeling career and pictures and i wont get jobs till like september (most likely) and wen i do it will go right to my bank account for college. So they wont be helping me with money. Ahh i need a way to make money..anything would be brilliant right now!! Does anyone have any ideas?? Please just tell me them..thankyou
Apply everywhere. Clothing stores, fast food places, restaurants, lifeguarding, snack stands, carnivals, offices, etc. Even though you're 15, in most places you're still eligible for a job. My friend got a job at Mickey d's at 15. Even though it doesn't sound too glamorous, it actually wasn't bad. Dollar stores are actually a good idea too. They're air conditioned. If you apply to a lot of different places, you're application will get around & someone is bound to hire you. Ask your parents to help you. Maybe they know someone who owns a shop or an office you could work at.
-hope that helped!♥
14/f
Ok so i have a pool, and its big and its really nice, and so, yano its summer, and i always swim in it and junk, but we have these neighbors, down the street, and we dont see them all of winter, they dont call us, or anything, there bdays are in the winter, and they never ever invite my brothers to them [there my brothers age] and so, then though when its summer, there mom will call, and be like the boys are gonna come down and just take a 10-20 minute dip. and were like wtf, no. ok well we dont say that, but we always lie and say we just put chemicals in or something. and they keep asking. i mean, dont get me wrong, its not like i care if people swim in my pool, but they atleasst gotta be my friends, yano? i mean, there tottaly just using us. and then there mom was like to my mom "yeah, were not even renewing our rec passes, because we figure we can just go swim in your pool, whenever we want." and my mom just looked at her. and they break all of our stuff too. like our baseketball hoop, they put a big hole in it. and whenever my brothers like call and say wanna play over ur house, they say no. we'll only play at ur house, where we can swim. so i mean yeah, there obviously using us.
HOW DO WE FIX THIS? what do we say? we dont want to be rude.
You don't want to be rude? Don't you think they are being rude? You could keep coming up with excuses but it could get old fast. I mean, your mom could say "yeah we have to clean it" or "were busy" stuff like that. I guess it would be a bit much to say "no we don't like you using it" but it will probably eventually come down to that. It is very obvious that they are using you. Your mom should have a talk with their mom. Maybe bring all of this up & how she feels used because they don't let you guys come over but they can come over whenever. That way it will be an adult conversation & things can be settled.
-hope that helped!♥
I'm always miserable when I'm away from my boyfriend. Even when I'm out with friends I don't have a good time because I'm not with him. He works almost 12 hours a day 5 days a week and I see him on his days off, on breaks, and before he goes to work.
How can I stop feeling so depressed and miserable when I'm not with him?
This is a lot of people's problems. Why? Everyone loves spending time with their bf/gf. Unfortunately, your boyfriend needs to work for money. Why not getting a job yourself? If you get to pick your hours, you can pick the same hours & then still hang out when you guys are both off. That way it will take your mind off it. Your friends should definitely be able to cheer you up a bit. Ask them to take you out while he's busy. Maybe you want to find a hobby. Try exercising. Exercise gives you endorphins which make you happier. It's also extremely good for you. Start going swimming, playing a sport, etc. If not, you'll have to deal with it on your own. Try talking to him about it. Don't make it seem like you're upset with him though. Just explain that it depresses you & if he has any ideas/opinions about what you guys can do.
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Every time me and my freinds go on IM we fight coincidentaly. Like today my friend (d) lied to us and me and (I) both got mad so she did stuff i regret. like she swore at her and crap and called her stupid and i laughed. I truly regret it but my freind doesnt. What do I do?
Talk to her about it. Explain how you feel & what you & your friend got mad about. If you really are all friends, you'll get over it. If not, maybe you should start talking to other people. Try working it out though. Its just an argument.
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my girlfriend and i ha ve been going out for almost 9 months now and the school year has just ended. i spent most of my time with her during the school year and now summers here and her friends want time in to.
i dont have a problem with her friends or if she hangs out with them but im not used to sharing her so whenever im not with her i get depressed and sad. do you think she might want to break up with me if i continue act like this??
All girls are different. However, most girls do not like clingy boyfriends. There's nothing wrong with you both having some seperation throughout the summer. If she's going out with her friends, why not go out with yours?? Maybe you guys should plan days where you guys can spend time together & the rest plan with your family & friends. Try not getting depressed & sad. It would be a good idea to talk to her about it.
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How can I set myself apart as a singer? People such as Amy Winehouse and Regina Spektor have a distinct style. How would I go about developing my own... What could I possibly do that has not been done?
If you want to set yourself apart from singers, you shouldn't ask people how you could do that. Why? Because then you aren't setting yourself apart from others. You would be following the ideas of random people. Look at Amy Winehouse & Regina Spektor. Their voices are unique & their style of music isn't that bubblegum pop that a lot of singers are performing nowadays. What makes them so popular is sticking to what they love doing. They didn't have to change for any record company. They stuck with the style they liked & went with it. Fans love them for their originality & being comfortable in their own skin. Unfortunately, not many artists do this nowadays. They know money is important so they rather follow what companys tell them to do to become successful. Not saying this is completely negative. Everyone is just trying to make money. Amy Winehouse & Regina Spektor just decided to try it their own way & were very successful. Their style in fashion also is what sets them aside from the basic musicians. Developing your own style would be following what you want to do, not what anyone else wants you to do.
-hope that helped!♥