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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Hi,my name is jennifer and I am 23 years old. My husband n I just got temp custody of his neice which is a month old we have had her now for one week. His sister had dhs called on her so we took the baby. They have only been here one time to see her for like 20 or 30 min brought her some things. They are not showin any effort to get there child back. I dont want to take the baby from them for good but they are not compilyin with what the judge said to do. They are just takin there time. We have a three year old and a one year old of our own. We love the baby so much. they had her just so mest up like tryin to feed her chettos. They feed her so much rice that now she has a hernia in her belly button from tryin to go to the bath room and not being able to. What should I do try to contiue to help them or just stop tryin???? Any adive will be apperciated

You can continue to try & help them but if they're not making any effort to get their daughter back, who knows if they ever will? My guess is that they probably won't because if they're feed a 1 month old baby cheetos, they probably don't care too much about her.

I understand you're not trying to take the baby away from them & that's not your intention, but you can either tell them to comply with the judge's orders, or you can file to become her legal guardian. If you don't want to become her legal guardian - is there someone within the family that can do that? She deserves to be with family. In this situation, you really have to do what's best for the child.

If there is a chance that you can become her legal guardians (and you're willing to), please do so. She doesn't deserve to be with her parents (because they sound like babies themselves) and she needs to be with people that will love her and take care of her.

If they're not willing to make the effort to get their baby back, they do not deserve her, and should really work on taking care of themselves before they ever decide to reproduce again. You can warn them, but you can't change them. Either adopt the baby or have someone else in the family take her in if you are unwilling or unable to.

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I'm a cheerleader so I'm always conscious of my body. My measurements are 33 inches-Breasts, 25 inches- waist, and 36 inches- hips/butt. Do guys find this attractive? I personally find myself too small chested and fat everywere else. Also I'm only 62 inches tall.

There's nothing wrong with being 5'2. I don't really think guys care too much about measurements. I think if a guy really likes you, he'll accept your body no matter how you look. :)

I wouldn't worry though. You're a cheerleader so you're always exercising & working out at your practices and games and stuff. I'm sure you're fine. Don't worry. :)

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Anybody know of some good books? I'm seventeen and a girl and I like romance books and stuff like that but I hate books about popularity and stuff like that.

I liked Twilight, but it's not for everyone, especially people who aren't into long reads.

I would definitely suggest Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson. Not quite a romance book, but it's about rape, and it's a really amazing book.

Teach Me by R.A. Nelson is sort of a romance book. The main character has an affair with a teacher. That book was so good that it's become one of my favorites.

Impulse by Ellen Hopkins has hints of romance but is about something much deeper. It's written in verse though so if you don't really like poetry too much it won't work out for you.

I suggest Breathing Underwater by Alex Flinn. Again, it's about a romance gone wrong, and I love it. You should definitely read all of her books though. She's a great author. :)

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Okay, so I get wet and horny SO easily.
Like, just from talking about sex, or getting fingerd. I'm not sexually active, soo yeah?
But I get extremly wet during health class and stuff.
and i never know what to do?
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I would just suggest that you masturbate everyday either before or after school or something.

Your hormones are just raging and there's nothing wrong with that. Just don't go off & have sex. :)

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Hey i wasnt sure where to put this question but what does BS question stand for?iv seen it written on the site soemtimes but just cnt figure it out..sorry if this is a dumb question

BS means bullshit.

Like DN said, if your question is about the question posted at the top of the page, the lady asking is lying about the whole thing (or at least her side of the story).

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At what age should a girl be able to shave her legs?

My mother started letting me shave around 10 or 11. But a girl can start whenever she wants (as long as there's hair to be shaven, obviously) because that's her choice. :)

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I've been dating this guy for a while and i really like him, but there is a downfall, he makes a lot of really perverted jokes, like my best friend will yell at him for it he'll quit for a few days and start again.... What do i do?

If they bug you, then you need to tell him that. Being in a relationship shouldn't be uncomfortable or annoying, and if that's how it is, you need to speak up. If they don't bug you, just laugh along with them. If they bug your friend that much, then she needs to either stop hanging around your boyfriend so much, or she can just ignore his jokes.

I'm sure he's not trying to be offensive. He does have freedom of speech though, so it's not her place to yell at him for it.

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Hey, I have a bank account with Bank of America and I'm able to check my savings online. I have one checking account and two savings accounts linked.. one for school adn one just a general bank account. So my quetsion is.. so I dont get the two confused by accident, is there anyway you can give the bank accounts their own title so when you sign on you'll see "School Savings" or "General Savings" or whatever it may be for.

Thanks so much.

I don't think you can at the moment. You can try calling Bank of America & ask about this. Just explain it to them & maybe they'll be able to do something for you.

For right now though, just write it down on a piece of paper that you won't lose. Write down which is school savings & which is general savings & then write down the amounts. That way you'll know which is which & won't get them confused. :)

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In two weeks I will be flying to Australia from the UK, which takes almost 24 hours. I'm not afraid of flying, I just don't particularly enjoy it so I'm not really looking forward to it. Does anyone have any tips for flying long haul? Anything related to passing the time, sleeping, eating and jet-lag would be greatly appreciated.

I always buy snacks after I go through security. They're kinda pricey, but those little packs of peanuts they give you on the plane just aren't enough sometimes. So, buy a bag or 2 of crisps, or a bottle of juice or something. :)

Bring books, magazines & your iPod. If you have a nintendo DS or a PSP, that works too. You can watch movies on a PSP so I would definitely do that if you have one.

Try & sleep as much as you can. I would definitely suggest a window seat because you can lay your head against the window & put the little shade thing down. I know you didn't ask about this, but definitely keep some gum in your purse. It will help your ears to keep from popping.

As far as jet-lag goes, if you're getting to Australia late, you can just go to bed once you get there. Sleep until morning & then go about your day. :)

Have fun on your trip, and have a safe flight! :)

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I was with my ex for 11 months and we split up in march this year. We had our ups and downs to the relationship and decided to split up as we felt it just wasn't working and the romance was gone n we would be better off just friends before it ended badly. My friends and family were supportive of this as they felt that he didn't treat me right anyway. But at the time ididn't notice it and when we split up i was so happy like i felt like myself again.

It's been about 6 months since we split up and we've now started getting really close again and spending alot of time together and we've both admitted we miss each other and want to give it another shot but take it really slow. Only thing is is that my dads opinion means everything to me i'm such a daddy's girl but my dad doesn't like my ex and i'm scared to dissappoint him by telling him we're getting back together, same goes for my friends as they dn't think it's a good idea, and thats fair enough but i still really love him.

While it's something you want and are going to do differently the second time around, I don't really think it's a good idea.

He didn't treat you right, and that's that. If he can't respect or treat you how you deserve to be treated, then he doesn't deserve you. I know it's been 6 months & he seems like he may have changed, but he might not have & that's not a chance you should take.

The people around you telling you that he's bad are only looking out for you because they can see the things that you cannot, and because they love you & care for your well-being. I think if this is something you really want, they'll be a little indifferent about it at first, but in the end they'll support you. Do what you think is good for you. I'm sure they'll support you, it just may take a little while to get their approval.

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Who do you think should have been cast for bella swan in twilight? Not that i don't love kristen stewart, i just don't think shes 100% accurate for the part. I want to know who you think should have played her. Just don't say emily browning, or the panabaker sisters please.

I don't really think there's anything wrong with Kristen Stewart, and I'm a fan of her, but I think if they had to choose somebody else, I could definitely see Leighton Meester playing her.

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17/f

My parents are really being unreasonable. They refuse to approve of my boyfriend because he's not from the same group of people as us. He's puerto rican and my parents dislike him because of the reputation they carry but what upsets me the most is they are judging too quickly.. They haven't even met him in person to be making judgements. And my father refuses to allow me to go out with him anymore. This isn't the only thing they dislike about him.. He's 18 but could pass as a 20 yr old and my parents claim that if I bring him over the house there going to ask for I.d to prove his age its completely nonsense !! I just don't know what to do anymore I refuse to bring him over because I don't want them to scare him away and I don't want to tell him about this because it'll really upset him.. I don't want my parents choosing who I date or telling me who I can go out with ...

Being Puerto Rican myself, this question really jumped out at me, and I think I can help. :)

I know you're almost an adult but you're still living under their roof. While you may not think that they have the right to tell you who to date or hang out with, they do. It's completely unfair, which I realize, but you're in their house, so you need to follow their rules.

I suggest you bring him over though. Show them that he isn't such a bad guy, and that you should be with him. Like Rahzie said, if he really cares for you & you guys want to be together for a while, he'll put up with them to keep you happy.

I really hope that your parents can change their minds about Puerto Ricans. I know the types of reputations they can get, but not all of them are bad or uneducated. Trust me. :) Everything will work out. I'm sure your boyfriend will definitely change their minds & things will be different. Good luck!

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aright so me and my boyfriends one year anniversary is coming up at the end of the month and i have NO idea what to get him. i've already gotten him a picture frame for christmas and a crap load of clothes, along with a key chain for his graduation. i want it to be something really special but i'm drawing a blank with ideas. any suggestions? thank you!!!

You could try getting him jewelery that represents you two. That could get pricey though so if you don't have the money to do that, then don't.

What I suggest is a scrapbook. You guys probably take lots of pictures, right? Let's just hope I'm right for the sake of my answer. If so, make a scrapbook to show off the year you've been together. It could be like a 25 page book with 2 pages to go through each month with pictures, and quotes & stuff that really meant a lot throughout the year. At the end, write him a really heartfelt letter, and let him know exactly how you feel. :)

It might be corny, but it's coming from the heart & it's something that you took the time to make so it's way more special than jewelery or some clothing. :)

Happy anniversary!

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Ok, so my dad called me yesterday and told me he proposed to his girlfriend of a year and I think most kids would be happy but I'm not. This is his FIFTH wife. I think she's cool and all but I know he's gonna end up cheating on her and divorcing her and putting all his kids through this stuff again. What should I do? I tried talking to him about my feelings but he just got mad. Please help me!

There really isn't anything you can do. I understand that you're just expressing concern, but you can't shoot down something that hasn't happened yet (regardless of previous marriages). This one could be different, and it's not your place to tell your own father otherwise.

The only thing you need to do is be happy for them. Wish them luck, give them your love & send them on their merry way (or marry* if you wanna be cute about it, hahaha). It's good to express feelings or thoughts on something, but your dad doesn't really need the negativity.

I'm sorry it's affecting you the way that it is, but just grin & bear it. Besides, if your dad is really how you say he is, that marriage will be over before you know it. ;)

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i'm 19 years old, female. my cousin is 17.

me and him are really close. we hang out all the time and just always have a good time together. the dumb thing is that people think that we are dating! uhm hellooo? he is my COUSIN. people keep telling me, "you need to stop hanging out with him, people are starting to think you two are dating" and tonight my uncle was like youre not dating him are you? and i started laughing because how rediculous is that? and he was like see you cant even look at me and say youre not! i was like honestly, do you think i would ever ever EVER do that? its not like we flirt with each other, thats disgusting. we're just always together. whats so wrong with that? apparently there is something....

I'm very close with the majority of my cousins, so I understand what it's like to be best friends with them or maybe even like siblings. However, I've never been in a situation where people took our closeness as being more than just family.

I think you're fine. There's nothing wrong with being close with your family. You're just tight knit & that's definitely okay. Just keep telling people you're not dating, and that's it's more of a bond you'd have with a brother or a sister. That's honestly all it is. :)

Nothing's wrong with hanging out a lot and being close. You're definitely okay. Don't listen to the them, okay? :) You're good.

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why do ppl say not to room with a friend?

Because you never know what someone is really like until you live with them. They could be lazy, discourteous, rude, annoying, have bad habits, etc. People are completely different to live with then when just hanging out with them.

It could completely change your friendship & your view on them. I'm not saying everyone is bad to live with because it could actually sometimes strengthen your friendship, but that's not always the case. You just need to be careful about it. That's all. Everyone is different when they become a roommate.

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if you really hate cleaning your room like i do whats the fastest and more fun way to do it?

I usually put music on & start with my clothes. I sort what's dirty, and what's clean & put them where they belong. Then I focus on garbage & then I move onto things that are out of place.

It goes pretty quickly if I'm listening to something I enjoy. Sometimes I get caught up in the song though and stop cleaning. ;)

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does anyone know a good tattoo website?? i already kinda know what i want but i need some more ideas thanks =]]

I don't know of any websites, but if you Google tattoos, I'm sure lots will come up.

If you have a LiveJournal, there's a community called "ihearttattoos" that I'm a member of. It's pretty awesome. You can ask for pictures, post your own of your tattoos & get to see lots of artwork. :)

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Okay i'm 14, and i'm horney like all the time..
i like this guy, but he's a little older then me?
i really want to have sex with him, but i'm scared of all the things that could happen, i've been finger and it's okay, but tomarrow i'm supose to have sex???? what should i do?

You should NOT have sex. You're 14. If you're horny, masturbate. Having sex can lead to lots of negative things and that's why only adults should have sex. You are not an adult so keep it in your pants until you're old enough.

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I have been thinking, and I want to know if Im the only one, anyway its just sickening to me the generation we are in. What happened to the nice old fashioned guys, and clean tv. Has anyone seen music videos lately? On mtv? I feel disgusted. Im 17 and I most certaintally don't want my future kids to grow up this way. I just heard a song the other day that said "cream on the inside, clean on the outside" are you kidding me?! And what is up with the under aged drinking? I know so many people that just feel like its okay to just drink their brains out and get completely wasted, and just "do it" at such young ages and with whoever they want. I realize not everyone is like this, I most definately am not, but it just makes me sad and I feel like almost nobody cares, and some people think its okay. :-(

It disgusts me too, but not to the point where I'm controlling & overbearing about it. I do share my opinion if something annoys me, but if I'm not like the people out there that are living their life in a negative way, then I sleep better.

I think just knowing that I'm not the type of person to have a huge party with a bunch of teenagers & put it all over Facebook, or the type to listen to music about gangs, and date rape makes me feel good. If other people want to do that, it's not my decision. My approval for them to live their life is not needed, and the same goes for me. I don't need anyone to approve of how I live. Nobody will ever like everything about someone or something.

I agree that the world has definitely changed, but I think it's because people have become (for the most part) more open minded and less nosy. I do feel bad for children that are born into this era because kids these days are more disrespectful & selfish than ever, but it's the parenting, and as long as their parents don't leave them to be raised by the media they should be okay. Kids will act how raised. If hardly raised, they will act like disrespectful, selfish, arrogant hooligans. If raised properly, they will be polite, courteous & kind.

I just think that if you're proud of who you are, what others do should not concern you. You're not like them & they're not like you. Live your life. Do not associate yourself people that you find irresponsible or negative. Don't watch channels that have programming that you disagree with. It's pretty simple.

It makes me sad too, but there's not much anyone can do about the way people live. People will continue to do what they want & that is out of our control. Just worry about yourself & live the way you want to.

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