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roommate who is a friend
why do ppl say not to room with a friend?
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Because you never know what someone is really like until you live with them. They could be lazy, discourteous, rude, annoying, have bad habits, etc. People are completely different to live with then when just hanging out with them.
It could completely change your friendship & your view on them. I'm not saying everyone is bad to live with because it could actually sometimes strengthen your friendship, but that's not always the case. You just need to be careful about it. That's all. Everyone is different when they become a roommate.
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I'll answer with a personal example. I'd been friends with D since 8th grade. No, that's not a nickname to protect his identity, his name was Daniel and we all called him D. He lived two blocks down and we were typically both at either house at the same time, so much that when either of us said the word "mom" we had to specify which of our mothers we were referring to. In the second semester of my freshman year of college, I decided to move out of my parents' house. They had me paying so many bills under the ruse that "you live here too, pay your fair share" that I calculated I could live in an apartment and pay the same. So why wouldn't I?
My girlfriend and I had been together long enough and had stayed at each other's places enough times we felt safe moving in together, but we needed a third party to split the rent more. We chose D. We got a 2 bedroom apartment, split the cost of everything 3 ways, divided up the chores evenly, and et cetera et cetera.
At first, everything was great. We all did our chores without having to be constantly reminded. Living in the same place as my best friend had a lot of potential for gaming nights and movie nights. We played the same online games together as well. But as time went on, he got lazier and lazier. He paid his third of the amenities, but lacked on his third of the chores. Honestly, the only real chore he had to do was wash dishes. They piled up to the ceiling before we could convince him to do them. All he wanted to do was sit in his room, play games, and smoke inside. We weren't smokers, and we didn't appreciate him doing in his room. That smell permeated the rest of the place.
When he moved out, we were ecstatic. However, we really haven't spoken since that time. That was almost four years ago. The moral is, you don't know what kind of person someone is until you live with them. I honestly never expected any problems, but he became unbearable. Everyone has a story about an asshole roommate, but it's a lot better if it's not a friend.
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Sometimes it turns out that someone you thought was a really good friend is incredibly hard to live and spend so much time with. It can end up ruining your friendship. However, obviously this isn't always the case and it can be absolutely fine and lots of fun.
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