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How to break it too them
I was with my ex for 11 months and we split up in march this year. We had our ups and downs to the relationship and decided to split up as we felt it just wasn't working and the romance was gone n we would be better off just friends before it ended badly. My friends and family were supportive of this as they felt that he didn't treat me right anyway. But at the time ididn't notice it and when we split up i was so happy like i felt like myself again.
It's been about 6 months since we split up and we've now started getting really close again and spending alot of time together and we've both admitted we miss each other and want to give it another shot but take it really slow. Only thing is is that my dads opinion means everything to me i'm such a daddy's girl but my dad doesn't like my ex and i'm scared to dissappoint him by telling him we're getting back together, same goes for my friends as they dn't think it's a good idea, and thats fair enough but i still really love him.
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Well I wouldn't want to back track. Sometimes it dont work out the second time rarely it do. I wouldn't rekindle anything with him especially if he didn't treat you right in the first place. Save your Dad and friends the dissapointment and move on and trust me you'll be sorry if you stay and happy if you move on maybe not now but down the line...
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While it's something you want and are going to do differently the second time around, I don't really think it's a good idea.
He didn't treat you right, and that's that. If he can't respect or treat you how you deserve to be treated, then he doesn't deserve you. I know it's been 6 months & he seems like he may have changed, but he might not have & that's not a chance you should take.
The people around you telling you that he's bad are only looking out for you because they can see the things that you cannot, and because they love you & care for your well-being. I think if this is something you really want, they'll be a little indifferent about it at first, but in the end they'll support you. Do what you think is good for you. I'm sure they'll support you, it just may take a little while to get their approval.
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Honestly you need to do what feels right to you. I know their opinion matters to you but if they love you than they will stand behind you no matter what decision you make. Trust me I went through the same thing. My dad hated my boyfriend and I was a daddy's girl but I loved my boyfriend. My dad wasn't happy about it but he eventually got over it and were still as close as ever. Your dad just wants the best for you, he may be upset with you but only because he is worried and once he realizes your happy he will be fine with it. As for your friends, if they are true they will always have your back.
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if you're in love, that should matter most. tell your dad that you're sorry that he doesn't like him, but you can't help who you fall in love with! if there really isn't a good reason for your friends and family to dislike him, they're being too judgemental.
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i know this sounds corny but i think you should follow your heart.. if in your heart you belive that this time its really gonna work and hes for sure the one then go for it.. its good to be a daddys girl but your dad should never have the last opinion on you who you can date or not, thats all you. but if you think that you love him now and you will decide to be friends later i dont think you should disapoint him. i know you cant see the future but you know him well and you also know your self. you know eachothers problems and what has happened in the past. and my point is that if your going to disapoint your dad let it be for a good reason :) good luck.. and remember to smilee :) :)
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