Erinn_the_bamf's advice column

If a girl has never had sex or had cum anywhere near her vagina, there is no possible way to get pregnant.

It Christianity the only person to ever get pregnant without having sex was the Virgin Mary because God put Jesus in her womb.

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What are good colors to wear if you have blonde hair and fair/medium skin? What colors should be avoided?

I look like you haha.
I would aviod anything too bright. No bright oranges or bright reds.
Anything else really works. You can still wear orange and red just not bright.

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My boyfriend wants to have sex. I don't want to lose him. What should I do?

Wait for the one who will wait for you.

If he loved you he'd wait. If he pressures you leave him. Even if you "love" him. If you're not ready don't do it. If he's right for you he'll understand.

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i am giving my boyfriend a gift for our 6 month anniversary and i don't know what to get him! I know for a fact that he is giving me jewelry

i'm already baking him cookies but i also want to do something else for him

i'm 14 and i don't have a job so it cant be something expensive

-Scarpbook
-Coupons [i.e: good for one kiss, good for one backrub, ect]
-Candlelite dinner
-Concert tickets [shouldn't be too expensive depending on what concert it is]
-a teddybear [some guys like them too haha]

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I am 14 and this guy that I like is 17, we both like each other but everyone keeps telling us that it is too weired for the ages too be together what do you all thing it is only 3 years. Im going to be a freshman next year and he will be a senior. So are our ages too far apart?

It's your decision. No one can tell you what's right or wrong. Seniors do like to use freshman girls for sex, so be careful. Make sure you are 100% certain he really likes you before you go out with him.

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whats with girls and being all "oh my gosh, im so fat, i need to lose soo much weight" when they look really good? are they just fishing for compliments or really think that they are fat?

Some girls really feel this way, some just want compliments.

Personally, I've felt this way since about the 3rd grade.

Look at Hollywood today. Nicole Richie. Paris Hilton. Mischa Barton. Lindsay Lohan (even if she's a crak whore). All skinny stars. Unfortunately, some girls strive to be exactly like them. They watch TV and say to themselves "WOW I look nothing like them" and feel terrible.

On the other hand, some girls just want to be told they're skinny, yet again.

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I asked my best friend who I trust everything with if she thinks I'm a slut. In the past she's said no but I asked her to please be honest with me yesterday and answer me the truth. So she said yes, she also said it was very very hard for her to say. I told another friend what was said and he said that if she was a real freiend she would understand and not think i was a slut. He also said if not, there is one good thing to come out of it; I found out that she wasnt a true friend.
So what do I believe? That she did the right thing telling me truthfully that she thinks I am a slut? Or she did the wrong thing in thinking that of her best friend?
She's always been there for me but now I'm confused.
I feel like I can't tell her anything now without feeling like I'm driving her away. She said it doesnt make her like me any less though and that it's my decision.
Can anyone help me?

Your friend did the right thing. You wanted her to be 100% honest. She was. Furthermore, if your best friend can't tell you you're a slut, who can? Friends are there to show us when we're wrong and help us through. You can still tell her things. She accepts you for who you are. She was being a good friend.

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I am 13 years of age. I have been put in a situation where I could have sex. I really like the guy and I think he likes me. I am not sure if I should have sex with him or not. I really want to. I need advice. HELPPP!!

If you're not sure, you're not ready.

You, dear, are 13 years old. You have your entire life ahead of you. You don't want to ruin it with an unwanted pregnancy. Also, you probably aren't mentally ready to have sex. Wait. I can promise you it will be more special your first time if you do.

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well there is this guys that likes me and are going to a party. He told me he would like to be my first. I am all for it but i don't know what to do. Anal? Oral? Reg.? Hj? Bj? HELP!!!

If you don't know what "his first" means (and you don't because only one of the things you listed means you're his first) then you really shouldn't be doing it. Save it. It's worth the wait.

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how is it possible to be pregnant and not even know it? like doesnt the belly have to be big?

At first the stomach is not big. The baby develops and the stomach gradually gets bigger. It doesn't magically get big after one night.

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Wait, do people have like parties and ceremonies when you get your periods? None of my friends did that...
What do they do at these parties and why would you have one its personal.

I'd feel awkward letting people know that I got my period. As you can see things like that are extremely personal to me.

I guess some people like to celebrate with loved ones the fact that they are now women. You should be proud to be a women, but I really don't see the need for telling many people about it. When I first had my period the only person I told was my mom.

However, it is possible that the people asking these questions are from another culture where that is acceptable. If that is the case, then we just need to accept that.

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What would you do iuf you hurt someone's feelings (someone in your family) and you apologize but they don't want to forgive you?

Give them time.

That's really all you can do. If it was something big, they need to come to terms with themselves. If it was something small, they will come around eventually. Either way, pressuring them will cause them to just be annoyed with you.

If they refuse to forgive you for a long time, write a letter telling them your sorry. Then just wait it out.

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okay im sortof freaking out a bit.
my friend alex gave me a condom as a joke.
obviously im not going to use it, i'm too young.
so i hid it in my purse.
i woke up this morning to my mom looking around my room!
i think she was about to read my diary or something.
but now i'm SO scared she'll find the condom.
i didntg know what to do so i opened the condom and threw it into the road.
but now what do i do with the rapper?
wont they find it in the garbage?
aah! please help!

Throw it out in a public garbage. Hold onto it until you go out in public.
Or cut it up into little pieces and flush it down the toliet.
Next time, don't litter. It's our enviorment too.

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Okay, so there's Storywrite.com, which I'm addicted to. But anyways, I am still in the process of writing a story for one of the contests. I was going to make it around 5000 words, but I kind of underestimated how developed I was going to make my story. Now it's over 10,000 words long and it's not completely done. I mean yes, I can end it where I am right now but there are problems with that:
X-I'll have the strongest urge to write an epilogue
X-Story will feel incomplete [lose points]
X-I won't be satisfied
X-It will feel like I rushed things at the end [again, I will probably lose points]

So my questions are:
1)Would you be annoyed/pissed off to read like a 15,000 word long story if you were the judge of a writing contest? [The judge hosting the contest has no word limits]
2)Should I just submit it or make it shorter?
3)If I should make it shorter, should I make it into chapters, just shorten the whole story, make it into prologue, story, and epilogue, or what?

AHH please help me. I asked the judge what he wanted and he hasn't replied yet. The contest ends in 5 days and I'd like to have plenty of time to make adjustments...

I too am a writer, however, I'm trying to write an entire novel.

1) I wouldn't be annoyed. I'd rather read a long developed story than a short one if it had no details.
2) Keep writing. There's nothing worse than a story with no ending.

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i only have eyelner in the color black. when i wear them together, i look like an emo kid and i don't like that look! i want to find colors for eyeliner (or mascara?) that will make my VERY dark brown eyes stand out against my (black) skin.

Experiment with color. Try golds or shimmery blues and purples. Buy a few different colors and test them to see which you like the most.

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hi, im 14 just turned it im tamil and basically when you have your period you have a ceremony its really big in a hall and you wear a bra well this show off girl that i know is having hers on the 15 july i havent had mine yet she shows off about it and it will be embarassing for me to be there as she just turned 13 and i havent had mine im upset please help thanks!

Babe, be happy you don't have it. It really sucks. Sure, having a ceremony may be fun, but periods are not. You get cramps. If your period comes early you can bleed through your pants, letting everyone around you know you're having it. I don't know why someone would want to show off about their period. Be happy you don't have it yet.

If you really want it to come there are some things that slow it down, including stress and excersising a lot. So try not to be so stressed out and excersising less if you really want it.

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What jobs can my 11 year old sister or 9 year old brother get?

Not any good ones.

They could try mowing lawns or walking dogs. Possibly your sister could try babysitting, but honestly, I wouldn't trust an 11 year old with my kids.

Have them ask people around your neighborhood if they have any chores or other jobs they want your siblings to do. Other than that, they can't get a job.

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what are some good quotes or song lyrics that have to do with death/someone dying..
like

and in the end, i hope you had the time of your life

and other things of that nature..?

thanks

Good Ridance (Time of Your Life) by Green Day
http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/greenday/goodriddancetimeofyourlife.html

Cancer by My Chemical Romance
http://www.plyrics.com/lyrics/mychemicalromance/cancer.html
(This song is sad, but excellent.)

"All things end sooner or later, all that we can change is the manner of it" -Ross Mulders

"To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure." -Albus Dumbledore (from Harry Potter)

"Death ends a life, not a relationship." --Morrie Schwartz (as quoted from Tuesdays With Morrie)

For more you can search google

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So, my boyfriend has the WORST breath in the world!! Whenever we kiss i smell it and it is not pleasant! I NEED HELP NOW BEFORE I SEE HIM AGAIN! I really don't want to be mean and straight up tell him, but I would rather not continue this fear of being close to him! PLEASE HELP!!

You could polietly offer him a breath mint. If he declines just come straightfoward and say it. I don't think he'll mind too much. Yes, he will be slightly embarrassed, but now he'll brush his teeth.

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It goes like this.
This friend of mine has a five and a half long distance relatioship with some guy.
He came back 2 weeks ago. She found out he was exchanging emails (be carefull when you call me LOVE...cause you know...her!!!).
Well she decided to forgive him just cause she loves him REALLY BAD. Even though he presented a couple of lame excuses.
Unfortunatelly... his mother Hates her. She is like.."I give you 5000euros if you dump that bitch" and I am not Joking. She really said that thing.
Also...HIS friends hate her. You know how it goes...they hate seeing him NOT fucking other girls etc...so they told him that SHE has been cheating on him for 2 years.
The guy knows that a lie but chooses to believe it and starts hating her and ignoring her cause hey...its summer time..and everyone wants to be free on summer time right? Cause its mating season...
On the mean time...the girl has been crying non stop, she is not sleeping at all. She called him and he was like "Dont call me all in tears and screw up my Night Out" and hang up on her (What A Dick!!!).
So, his friends eventually OPENLY told him that they lied to him and for some reason* he decided to stay mad at her and asked her not to call him for a while.
*and by some reason, I mean that she has been running after him, crying, apologising (even though she made nothing wrong) and giving excuses (even though HE should be the one giving the excuses), and probably that makes him feel like a REAL man...like he is Wanted...he is flattered by that, you know what I mean?

What I want from you is.
This day one of them not talking.
Will he call her if she doesn t? Answer just YES or NO. Dont explain why you believe weather he calls or not.

Will he eventually realise what a dick he s been? I believe that YES he will. And that probably in the future SHE will be the one NOT wanting him back cause he proved how rotten he can be. She just cant see it now cause she is hurt and loves him.

Any advice I could give to the girl? She wont go out with her friends...she does not want to eat 5 kilos of ice cream...she does not want a girls night out...she does not want to get drunk...she just cries. She does not eat or sleep...just cry non stop. Waiting for her cellphone to ring.

No, he's not going to call her.
Once a dick, always a dick.

He may realize that he is the lowest scum of the Eartg, but he may not. Honestly though, it doesn't matter either way. Your friend needs to realize it's over, no matter what he says.

Basically, I wouldn't force any advice on your friend right now. She's depressed. Let her cry. That's just her way of dealing with gried. Eventually, she'll realize that he wasn't worth a single tear. However, until then the only thing you can do is be a supportive friend.

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