15/f
well to start off I've never had a real true bf but like 2 in elementry school but that was stupid stuff. anyways now i'm a freshmen in high school and never havin a boyfriend is really starting to suck. and therefore no bf has resulted in never being kissed. and all my friends except for one (my bff) has been kissed, made out with a guy or done other stuff. and i don't wanna go around having sex but i just wanna kiss a guy and its really startig to make me feel like crap when i see people kiss i just think ughhh i want a kiss. but i want my first to be spcail not some random guy at a party. but i'm starting to worry that when i do get a bf and he kisses me he'll be like wtf she can't kiss? and ughh i know i should be proud that i'm not going out makeing out i have morals but i just feel soo stupid and loser-ish for never being kissed or anything and i don't know what to do.
The way I see it you should indeed be proud of the way you are and of your moral standing. If it's any concillation I didn't get my first kiss until I was 23 and it was well worth the wait because it was with my first real girlfriend.
If you are with someone special when it first happens, no matter how old you are I seriously doubt they will think anything like that about you. Personally I'd actually find it kinda sweet/cute. If someone cares about you I really doubt they would think of you as a looser either and if anyone around you thinks that way about you it's rubbish you can just ignore. :] The fact that you have high morals and don't want to be going around to random guys and such make you quite the opposite of a looser, at least in my books.
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my friend is a virgin and she told me last night that she thought she was pregnant. i really dont see how this is possible but this is how she explained it: She told me she was fingered and then im guessing she gave him a blowjob and she got stuff on her hands.. she washed her hands and then put a tampon in cause she was on her period i guess. She thinks some cum got on the tampon.
i really dont understand!! is this even possible?
Artificial insemination, the procedure used for a person to become pregnant without actual sexual intercourse, is a very delicate procedure so I think the chances of her being pregnant from what you have described is slim at best especially if she was on her perios at the time as well.
The best course of action would be to take a pregnancy test to confirm one way or the other but to be honest I would be very, very surprised if she is pregnant.
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Hey guys I really need help about this!!!Well theres this guy(who turns to be my best friend)that im MADLY in love with.But he has a gf(...)so I figured the best thing to do is to move on on and let go...but I dont know how!!!plz HELP..i really need to shut my feelings for him because it hurts to watch him being in love with some1 else while im sitting here waiting on him.so please tell me what to do so i can 4get about him.i really have to.i cant stop thinking about him and it makes me cry.i cry almost every nights...please tell me what to do but,please dont tell me to do activities because theres not much to do where I live.just tell me what I should do toward him and stuff!
im waiting for your help.
thanx in advance
Aww. :[ I know how you feel, I've gone through this all too often.
Look at it this way, by waiting around on him you might well be giving up on someone else who likes you about as much as you like him and who might even be better than him for you. You can't shut out how you feel because we don't have an off switch to be able to do that, although it would be a great addition. All you can do is try and move on knowing that at least he is happy with whoever he is with. Usually that's the only comfort I've had when I have been in the same place as you.
It will take time and it won't be easy but the sooner that you do realise that you could be waiting around for him for a very long time (even after which there's no guarantee that he will feel the same way) the easier it will be to let go and slowly move on. As I said it does take time though, there's no real shortcut when it comes to things like these. Just give yourself time to get over him and then move on and enjoy yourself. You will *find* someone, it's a big world and plenty people out there. I'm sorry that I can't really be of more help though. :[
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well, me and my boyfriend's one year will be coming up very shortly. i really need suggestions on what to get him. I've alreay made him a scrap book-so a no on that. he likes rock music, his main thing is music. no, we're not going to have sex. i'm waiting until i'm married. [he know's this] so, any suggestions on what to get him or what we could do? please answer this. i really want to make it special for the both of us.
Firstly, my kudos on you wanting to wait until your married to have sex. Takes a lot of willpower to be able to stick to that especially with how everyone seems to think having sex the younger you are is 'kool', which is a load of rubbish.
As for a present, if he likes rock music you could try find out who his fave band is and get him a t-shirt of his rock band or something similar? Maybe even find out is one of the bands he likes will be playing at some point soon and get tickets for you both to go to the concert (providing he wouldn't have done that already). Also you'll need ot make sure whichever t-shirt you get him he doesn't have it already, hehe. Ebay might be a good place to look up new clothing for his band/s he likes or you could try a search in google for 'alternative online stores' and see which have a top he might like from there. Doesn't even have to be a top. Most of these stores have a lot of rock/alternative stuff so there might be something else there you feel he might like that you can get him. I think together with the scrap book, he'll love it. :]
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so for myspace
i was wondering if theres a code
to put like words righ aligned in the about me
liek < center > < /center > centers the words
i was wondering if like
< right > < /right > would do the same to make the words right aligned
so is there a code to do this?
Try the following code:
Your Txt Will Be On The Right
Your Txt Will Be On The Left
Just remember that when you want to change the right align back to the left you will need to add the tag above to do so. The tag will only close the paragraph, not revert to the default alignment (to the left). You will only need the tags above to align to the left and right. For centering just use:
Your Txt Will Be Centered
Hope that helps. :]
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im 15 never been kissed, everyone i know has gone farther. My firends don't seem to like me that much anymore. My family bothers me and my life is just plain boring. I know this is probably pointless but does anyone have advice on how i can change my life, make it suck a little less?
Go out and make new friends or just make new friends at school and such and eventually hang out with them. Go out with friends and do stuff as a group, that's always fun. :] As for the kissing part - who cares if everyone else has gone further and you haven't. It doesn't make them more kool (even tho they may be under the false impression that it probably does). There's nothing wrong with that so don't let it phase you or anything like that. You've plenty of time to be kissed and such there's no need or point in trying to rush into it. Most people who do end up rushing into it just to be like their friends (who think they are kool because of things like that) usually just end up having it hanging over their heads as a regret anyway.
I've just always found that when I feel things are betting boring to do new things and explore. It's probably why I never stick to the same project for too long because I get bored easily and move on to different things, hehe.
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This is the thing, my bestfriend just got dumped by this kid lets call him Bob . Bob and I went out last year for a long time , but we ended up breaking up beacuse of my bestfriend ... she really liked him and left me outof everything . So basicly we broke up and bob went out with my best friend !! So anyway .. a month after bob dumped my best friend he wanted to go on a date with me. I asked my bestifrned if it was okay and she was lik yeahh of course. I just got home from my dad and she found out we ksised and now my bestfriend hates me. am i the bad guy ?
Hmm, although your friend is being a little weird by first giving you permission and THEN getting mad at you afterwards (why say it's ok if she was going to act this way? Doesn't make you the bad one) I must point out that no-one put a gun to Bobs head saying he has to break up with you for your best friend. A month after being with her he's coming crawling back to you which is fair enough since that's a guy thing (they always come crawling back after the realise what they lost) the question is how sure are you he won't just do the same thing again when someone else comes along?
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well i always get advice from my friends because i cut, and the thing is i think there sick of dealing with my problems and they mostly all ditched me. long story. anyways, i was wondering if this works, well everyone always says when your about to cut or when you need a distraction that you just talk to someone online that you dont know with similiar problems because they cant use it against you and stuff.
so my question is does that work?
and is anyone on here a cutter?
I'm not a cutter but I have had many friends who are and I almost came to being one I guess. :/
I'll explain:
I had a friend years back who used to cut a lot and I could never understand why she would do it. I would nag at her constantly when she was wanting to do it (or when she had done it) about not doing it and how she should be able to stop herself etc, etc, etc. About a month later I had a really bad breakup with my gf. Then other things pilled up on top and things just got bad to worse and I was getting extremely stressed out. I wanted to scream because I felt I was in a lot of pain on the inside but I couldn't let it out. One night I picked up a knife and came very close to cutting myself. For some reason I felt if i cut myself maybe the pain would make me scream. Maybe the pain I'd feel from being cut would help me forget the pain I felt deep inside which I couldn't ease or rub better or make go away. Eventually I put the knife down and I didn't do it and the next day I told my friend who used to cut I was sorry for all the times I was shouting at her to stop when I should have been supportive and trying to help her stop by talking to her.
Talking does help. I think many people who don't cut just don't realise sometimes exactly what it is that drives people to want to cut - it can be a very hard thing to explain. It took me to almost breaking point (to when I almost did it) for me to realise what my friend/s must have felt like or have been going through at the time. A distraction is always a big help. Being out with friends, going out doing different things all works really well. The only time I would feel really down and stressed out was when I was alone at night when I had no distracitons around me. Funny enough that was the first time I had needed my friends to help me and was the one time no one was ever there. It's true that you only know who your real friends are when you need them the most.
Talk about your problems if you can with someone, even if you have to go to a professional about it (you can talk to them in complete confidence without worry) or just with someone who will be willing to listen. Do things to keep yourself busy so you're not distracted into wanting to cut. Read a good book, design a personal web site about yourself, stay at a friends place, go away on a holiday with friends to get away from it all... all will help. :]
Good luck and I hope I was able to be of some help.
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My friend hasnt admitted that shes a lesbian OR bi but me and my other friend are always freaked out because she gets really touchy feely & says she wants to have sex with us and were so hot/sexy/cute. I do this jokingly with my friends too but to a point...She actually seems serious about it. She'll say "Its so cute when you wear your hair down" and she wont say "LOL." Im not a homophobe, Im just not a lesbian. Im 100% straight, straight, straight! And I dont know WHAT to do..I cant just stop being her friend - shes nice but she gets so weird.
Also, I have kind of confronted her about it. When she does it Im just like "Ok, are you a lesbian or something..." And shes like "noo!!"
Hi.
Best thing to do here is to just be honest and ask her to stop saying things like that to you because they make you feel uncomfortable. :]
From the comment you made about the 'LOL' I am guessing you talk to her over some kind of IM program too. When she does say something like that then that might be the best time to ask her nicely to stop because it makes you feel uncomfortable when she does that. It should hopefully solve the problem and that way you don't have to stop being friends with her.
Some people are just laways touchy feely I guess (seen it before) and it doesn't really mean anything at all. Same with the joking around about being gay/bi I do that with my mates all the time (and vice-versa). I think one of my mates girlfriends was very taken aback when all three of us were sitting around a table and started joking around about it - she actually looked like she was a bit shocked, hehe. We all know though it's all a joke and such so we don't take it seriously but it's just how some poeple are sometimes. All that said though it might be that she actually is gay/bi but feels she can't say (which might be understandable too). Either way though I think best thing is to just ask her to stop talking to you in that way because it makes you feel uncomfortable. :]
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Hi i'm 16 years old female and me and my boyfriend have had sex before, but afterwards like a few hours I started getting a stomach ache and I slept for a while then ate some food and then later I threw up. I just wanted to know if that sometimes is normal??
And yes we used a condom and he didn't eject anything because I got off before he did. And now a few days later I still some stomach aches and diaria,but no throwing up. There also is the stomach flu going around my house so is taht a possible answer??
I've never known anyone to experience anything quite like this before after sex (there obviously is the aches and pains though) and I think sometimes, soem girls can feel sick afterwards. The way you have described though it seems a little awkward.
It may just be the stomach flu but I can't say for certain at all so I would suggest you take up a visit with your family doctor as soon as you can to be certain as to what it might be, just to be on the safe side.
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Okay so I dated a guy for a year. We broke up went on a break for 5monthes. Because he wanted to go to the club and expierence stuff that he wouldnt normally be able to do with a girlfriend. Well I have been with this other guy for 2monthes an everything has been perfect like we are best friends not dating or anything. But I do think he is special because he is the first guy I can actually hangout with an he is the only person I give the chance to hangout with me since my bf of one year and I went on our BREAK. But its not like LOVE like what me an the guy of one year had. So I dont know what to do. Should I give him another chance? I kinda think that if I give him another chance than I dont him going to the club. I am 17 he is 19. So I cannot go until next year to the club. So yeah he said every once in a while he will wanna go. And thats exactly why we brokeup in the first place. So any advice?
Whether or not you want to get back with him or persue something more woth this other guy you hang out with is really your call but I will say the whole idea of a break is a load of rubbish.
A 'break' to me means taking a little time away from each other but STILL being in a relationship. To this guy (and many others it appears) a break seems nothing more than a way to be able say I can't control myself when I'm out surrounded by girls so I want a *break* to be able to go do whatever I want then when I'm done I want to come back to you with a clear conscience and carry on with our relationship because technically I didn't cheat, we were on a break. What a load of rubbish!
I see no reason, if he is out doing what he wants to, that you can't do the same. If you feel you and this other guy you hang out with have made a connection then I don't think you should let anything stop you from persuing it, if that's what you want to do. I was in the exact same position as you before too (only with me my gf wasn't too young to go clubbing - she was too far from where I lived). I still went clubbing and I enjoyed myself even though I did have a gf. Obviously there was things I couldn't do (jump all over girls and such) because I had a gf but that's not something I do anyway so I wasn't missing out on anything. I don't see why you have to be on a break/single to enjoy a club unless you are going there specifically to pull girls and be able to do it without feeling bad about it.
Ultimately though it really is up to you as to what you wish to do. I will say good luck either way though. :]
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This morning my mom was cranky and kept snapping at me to the point we had a a tiff. During the course of the fight she said; I know you ask questions about weight and other things on the computer, these people are not experts, I see what you do; (But she really does not see because I log out when she comes near my computer) And of course she and I went back and forth saying nasty things to one another. (But I like asking and getting advice on Advicenators and other websites like Advicenators and the advice makes me feel better.) SO MY QUESTION: If you were me (or even it happened to you) and someone criticizes the people that you get advice from online how would you handle it? I mean would you ignore, defend it or other (and tell me what the other is)
To a degree I do agree with your mom. You have to bare in mind with a lot of the advice given on here it's from people who are just trying to help using their own experiences. When it comes to dieting, medicine and related stuff, no-one on advice websites is qualified to give professional advice unless they are *profesionally qualified* to do so. When most people on here give advice they do so speaking from their own personal experience or from researching on the Internet (again the question then is how reliable was the source where the information was taken from). A lot of people give advicein the form of support, to make you feel better and happy with who you are - something which I personally think is a lovely thing because everyone can do with support and a lot of people on here have usually been through the same kind of thing so know what it's like to feel you're alone. It's why I usually give advice but also state (if it's something that I know I'm not qualified to diagnose or recommend a treatment for) they should see a specialist or a professional in that specific field. Everyones body will react in different ways to different things and something that works for me may not work well for someone else.
I think that is what your mom might be worried about. That you may listen to advice that you believe is professional when it's actually not and could cause you (your body) more harm than good. This is understandable from your moms perspective as well because obviously she doesn't want you hurting yourself or doing something people might be advising which will ultimately do more harm to your body than good. I don't think taking sides here is really the right option. Just explain to your mom that people have supported you when you felt down but that's as far as it goes when it comes to you taking advice. Anything more than that and you have a doctor to go to about it. She just needs to be made aware that you're careful - a concern any parent would have.
Also, why hide things from your mom, especially if all you are doing is giving advice to people. I see no reason why your mom shouldn't know you are trying to help people who are reaching out for some help or advice. It may even help your mom understand better what goes on here and how we are not experts (and from what I've seen nor pretend to be) but we do try support people who want it by using our own experiences in life, both good and bad, to show they they aren't alone. :]
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I"m sorry to bother you but I just am really freaking out. Cuase yeah it's like dancing and e verything but what if I'm a bad dancer how do i know. and when can I french him agian? cause the only time I really see him is at school? last night was different cuase we where at the dance! But I have no idea what I am doing!
thank you sooooooooooo much
love,
Manders!
Hi Manders.
Hoestly, don't worry about it. When it happens again just let it happen and go with the flow. I had realised no matter how much people had told me what to do and what not to do none of it made any difference at the time because you start concentrating on what's going on as opposed to what everyone had told you that you should and shouldn't do. Even just a second before she kissed me (she knew I had been very nervous coz I hadn't kissed anyone before) she just whispered to me to relax and just go along with it. So I did. It was the best advice I had gotten. It did take a lil while for me to get in tune with the rhythm but once you do it becomes very easy - to the point that you never even think about it but just do it.
Try not to panic or worry about it at all because that will all just make you tense and worry and kissing is best done relaxed. :] I have to point out that I've never known anyone to be a bad kisser, just different kissers. SO you should try not to worry about you being bad especially since I doubt your boyfriend will really care since he knows you've not done it before.
As for when you can kiss him again, I really have no idea but I'm sure you both will be able to work something out. ;]
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I`m extremely angry right now so I'm trying my hardest not to randomly start cursing but I really want to.. I have been asking my parents to let me buy a Sidekick for the last 2 years. Yes, TWO years. Over the course of these two years, I haven't asked for anything for my birthday or Christmas except one item, a Sidekick 3. So for the past 2 birthdays and Christmas's, I have gotten nothing. Now I've been doing a lot of dog walking to raise money for this because I truly want it. I have saved up about $300 and I am receiving my next paycheck soon. The bottom line is, for the past 2 years I've been getting the best grades that I could and doing as much work as I can to get money without interfering with school. I come from a very wealthy family, but they just don't believe in material things. I feel I've done everything I can to get this Sidekick 3. I wrote my parents an 8 page essay on why I should purchase the Sidekick, I've worked my butt off in school and got straight A's, I haven't gotten into any trouble and I've been earning money by walking dogs. Now, I've told my parents that I will pay for the phone by myself but that still hasn't convinced them. Last night my family and I went to the mall and we walked by T-Mobile and I went inside the store and they wouldn't come in so I didn't get to buy the phone and my parents won't drive me to T-Mobile and if I even mention the word Sidekick or T-mobile they threaten to ground me and beat me up. I haven't been whiny about this situation at all, the problem is that my parents aren't open to anything and they won't even let me talk to them about the Sidekick at all. I think the most we've ever said about the Sidekick is maybe like 100 words in 2 years. I've prepared speeches and presentations but they won't listen to them so what's the point? I've put my heart and soul into being able to get the Sidekick 3 and I feel like they are being extremely unfair by not evening TALKING about it, or even going to T-Mobile to talk to the workers about it. I've done everything I could to get this Sidekick and it gets me angry to think about how my friends get whatever they want when they sit around and do nothing, while I'm a 13 year old working to get money and writing 8 page essays and preparing speeches about the Sidekick and I still don't get it. It's been 2 years and they haven't even thought about letting me purchase it, even with MY own money. They won't even drive me to the nearest T-Mobile which is 5 minutes away from my house, and look at it with me and talk about it with the workers. My parents wouldn't even budge when I found a few cheaper ones on Ebay. Now I really need your advice in a situation like this because as you can tell I have REALLY close minded parents and I've worked my butt off to earn this Sidekick and they still won't get it. What could I POSSIBLY do that I haven't done to let them get me the Sidekick? (They know all the features and its purposes and all of the info. and prices.) Job? Done. Good grades? Done. Stay out of trouble? Done. Be nice to them? Done. Act mature and adult-ish about it? Done. I'm sorry this is so long but I really want this Sidekick and my birthday this year has already passed and I ONLY asked for the Sidekick, so I ended up with nothing for my birthday. And they KNOW I could pay for it myself, they just still won't budge. It's sooo frustrating. If you could give me advice for my situation and just help me out, I would really appreciate it. I will do almost anything for this Sidekick. =P Haha.
Thank you.
With all due respect,
- An Advicenators User
Strange indeed that even after all of that AND after you earned the money for yourself they refuse to let you buy it.
I'll get straight to the point though I didn't actually know what this Sidekick 3 was until I looked it up on Ebay (fact you mentioned T-mobile kind of made me realise though it must be a mobile phone - I'm with every netowrk except T-mobile so I've not heard about it). I think that everyone should have a mobile phone. More for the extra security. You never know when you may need it to call for help or call home and it's a way for your parents to always be able to reach you. It was the exact reason I had first got my mobile phone (on one-2-one, which was later changed to T-mobile). This might be something you can point out to them. It's a flashy phone but why not have security and look good with it at the same time. :]
I'm sorry it's not much but it's really all I can think of at the moment especially since you seem to have tried pretty much everything else.
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to convert youtube videos to mp4 and put them on your ipod because it seems to good to be tru
Technically it is a breach of copyright but I think the only time anyone will really care is if you started broadcasting it or started selling illegal copies (making a profit from it). Since a majority are home made video clips I doubt anyone will really bother with the legal process of pressing charges jus because you converted and pt it on your ipod.
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ok well I'm 13 and I had never really french kissed anyone before last night. I was completely honest with my boyfriend and told him that I wanted to so we frenched. he knew I had no idea what I was doing and I still don't! He said that was pretty good for my first time! But I don't know what I am doing! what the heck and I soposed to do with my tongue? please help!!!
There's no real 'way' as such to do it to be honest because everyone is different. I have french kissed plenty of times to be able to say everyone had their own way of doing things.
The best way to think about french kissing is dancing (with tongues). Everyone has their own way of dancing so when two people dance together it takes time to catch on to the way they move and to the rhythm. French kissing is exactly the same. Don't be afraid to experiment when you french kiss or be daring and try something new because there is no real right or wrong way to do it, just move with the rhythm.
Good luck on your next french kiss, let me know how it goes. :]
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Well, this may be somewhat long..
On Tuesday, my friend Megan and I have had plans for about a week to go shopping. I asked her seventh hour to call and make sure with her mom, and she said that she did and that her mom said she was grounded. I said, okay, that's fine.
Now, when the bell rings to go home from school, I see her, samantha, and heather trying to rush out before I saw them leave with her...didn't work. I was walking with my sister, and she saw it and she calls her name then asks her what happened to her and my plans, and megan just looks at her and said something better came up.
So, I was ditched for the first time and it hurt like hell.
So the next day, she comes into school so bright and cheery to me, and I just didn't talk to her at all...and I felt very bad about this all week because I didn't talk to her.
Well, after I got ditched, I went to one of my teachers and I told her and I was bawling when I told her...and she looked at me and said...now something like this with those girls happens to you every year, and you make up with them, and you apologize for nothing, and when you all make up, you put yourself in the same predicament to get hurt over and over again. Now, these girls are not your friends if they keep doing this to you and it seems as if they don't deserve your friendship because you don't deserve to be treated like that. I agreed, and even it was something what I wanted to hear, but not someting I wanted to hear. And another friend told me this too. So, right now I'm hanging out with Meredith..the girl that has always been there for me, but I never took advantage of the friendship I had with her.
And another thing that pissed me off kind of was that the fact that this girl samantha is a liar. She came to school Monday with little tiny nail marks on her neck that were barely visible and like you would give to yourself. So she tells heather and megan that her grandma chocked her so she can stay a few nights over heather's house. Now, what pissed me off was about three months ago, my parents kicked me out of my house for two weeks, and I stayed two nights in the car, and when I asked heather for a place to stay, she said she'd ask her mom and she came back the next day and she said that her mom said no..which I didn't believe, so I called and explained to her mom what was going on and she ended up saying that heather said nothing to her and that I am welcome to stay as long as I needed..and I told her not to bother because heather doesn't seem to want me over there, so Meredith saw that I was wearing the same clothes for three days in a row, and she gave me a place to stay.
And since I haven't really talked to them at all this week, on Friday a few people came up to me and said that they were talking about me saying that I'm a bitch and that I'm fat and hope the diet pills kills me. This hurt me too because first of all, I'm not on diet pills, and second, since Tuesday happened, I've not been immature and talked shit about them.
So, just after this week and all what happened, I've not said anything to them, even though it feels as if I'm guilty and I was to apologize for what I did, which I don't know what I did.
I just don't know what I did to deserve this at all. And I feel like I'm guilty about it, but I don't want to be used by them again just to get hurt again.
How do I get rid of this guilt?
I double what imxkathleenx3 said. You have absolutely nothing to say sorry about. By ditching them all you have gotten rid of people who really ain't your friends. The same thing happen to me a while back too. I trusted one of my friends so much and then later found out not only did he break that trust but he took it further by telling everyone stuff I told him in confidence (was very personal stuff) and making me look like a total asshole infront of all my friends and making himself look like an innocent angel. This pissed me off because I hate people who stoop to being so low but instead of physically lashing out I just stopped tlaking to him completely and ignored him. People like these are not friends and don't even know the meaning of what a friend is. Their people you can do without. I can't believe that you was homeless and she did nothing! The last time a friend of a friend was homeless (I didn't even know her - still don't - I can't even remember her name) I took her to get some food because she hadn't eaten in days, gave her some money for more food and put her up in a hotel for the night. It pisses me off when all your friends say they will be there for you but when you really need them they are no where in sight! It's times like those that you see who your real friends are.
Ignore what eveyone says, if they want to be immature and ignorant that's their own failing. From what I have seen you are better than they are and they don't deserve your friendship anyway. You have a good friend there in Meredith, and she in you. :]
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I'm a stranger to myself. I don't know why I do the things I do. I don't know who I am. I don't know who I want to be. I don't know what I like. And I don't know when I'm pretending to like something. I really don't know anything about myself. I change from week to week. Last week I hated rock and emo , had big earings, curly hair and hip-hop clothes. This week I'm all about emo, dark clothes, lots of eye-liner. Everyone's calling me a poser and a fake. And I guess I am. That's ok, I don't care what they think. I just want to find the real me, but how? How do I know when I'm pretending and when it's actually THE REAL me?
I'm almost 18, shouldn't I know by know?
Hi.
Not necessarily actually - I'm older than you and I still have no idea what direction in life I am going or what it is I want to do. :] In a way I'm too laid back for my own good (or so I'm told). One day I'll dress in all black in pants with chains all over it and a top with a bit red pentagram on it (oh how my mom hates those pants, hehe) and the day after I'll be dressed like a chav (trackies, cap etc).
Maybe you are just confused or don't know what direction you want to go in which is a hard thing to decide these days with all the pressure on teens. The only way you'll discover who you really are though is to look deep inside yourself. You dress different from one week to the next - I see nothing wrong with that at all. See which you like best or which you feel most comfortable in. The one you like the best is probably you. If you like them all then by all means feel free to dowhat I do and change from one to the next. I'm not for labels and any of that crap. I wear what I want to wear and what makes me comfortable so it changes day to day. Like you, I don't care what anyone thinks or anyone calls me.
My childhood and teen years were a mess. A lot of things teens do growing up I never got to do and only started doing after I left college/uni. It was after all of that I started to discover myself and what I like and all the possibilities. I don't really know when it will be you or when you are pretending - that's a part I can't really advise on. Maybe having a professional to talk to might help? Or at least give you an idea on how you can really discover your true self? I'm sorry I can't really be of more help on this but I think the best bet might be to talk to a professional who can help you a lot more into seeing who you really are on the inside and bringing that real you out.
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I have been married for 8 years & for certain reasons have fallen out of love with my husband. Sometimes I even hate him. This is been going on for a while now. He knows I don't love him anymore & I want a divorce. The problem is he is threatening suicide & begging & pleading with me to stay & claims he can't live without me! This is driving me even more crazy. How can I make a clean break like this? How do I go about getting out when he is acting this way? Any words of advice would be a big help. Thanks.
All I can really say is if you really honestly do want to take a clean break from this relationship and get a divorce you need to go ahead and do it. By saying he will kill himself etc, etc, etc he is doing nothing but keeping you trapped in a place where you don't want to be. It will just make getting out a lot harder. This is just something he will need to come to terms with and, more importantly, deal with. If you fear he might be at risk of harming himself because of your decision then letting the relevant services know would be a good idea (I'm not sure exactly who that would be but I would think it's the emergency services or even the local police station as they may even have someone go out every so often to check up on him). If it turns out he is serious about his threat of self harm he will be forced to seek professional help to deal with things.
It may sound cold hearted but don't let him hold you back or trap you especially if you know deep down this is what you want. If you do you will be unhappy knowing you are with a person you don't want to be with at a plce you don't want to be.
I'm sorry that I can't really be of more help with this.
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But still my downloads from Bitlord are slow.
Anything more I should do?
Right Now I am downloading three files @ 19kbs, 12kbs and 10kbs...is this a normal speed?
Depends on where you are from. If you are in the UK then this is to be expected especially with how many ISP's in the UK are starting to cap download speeds for broadband (I know they have done for 8MB connections but am not sure about others).
Remember though that with Bittorrent, your download speed is relative to your upload speed. If you are uploading 3 files your max upload speed will have to be split 3 ways therefore your max downloading speed will also be split 3 ways. If you want to try to speed them up a little I suggest downloading only 1 file at a time. Leave it a while and the speeds should pick up a lot more. Again, this depends on the connection you're on as well (I'm on a 2.2MB connection and get 20-35k/ps download speed and 25k/bs max upload speeds after I leave the downloads going for a while.
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