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I'm going to try to type this without getting angry...
I`m extremely angry right now so I'm trying my hardest not to randomly start cursing but I really want to.. I have been asking my parents to let me buy a Sidekick for the last 2 years. Yes, TWO years. Over the course of these two years, I haven't asked for anything for my birthday or Christmas except one item, a Sidekick 3. So for the past 2 birthdays and Christmas's, I have gotten nothing. Now I've been doing a lot of dog walking to raise money for this because I truly want it. I have saved up about $300 and I am receiving my next paycheck soon. The bottom line is, for the past 2 years I've been getting the best grades that I could and doing as much work as I can to get money without interfering with school. I come from a very wealthy family, but they just don't believe in material things. I feel I've done everything I can to get this Sidekick 3. I wrote my parents an 8 page essay on why I should purchase the Sidekick, I've worked my butt off in school and got straight A's, I haven't gotten into any trouble and I've been earning money by walking dogs. Now, I've told my parents that I will pay for the phone by myself but that still hasn't convinced them. Last night my family and I went to the mall and we walked by T-Mobile and I went inside the store and they wouldn't come in so I didn't get to buy the phone and my parents won't drive me to T-Mobile and if I even mention the word Sidekick or T-mobile they threaten to ground me and beat me up. I haven't been whiny about this situation at all, the problem is that my parents aren't open to anything and they won't even let me talk to them about the Sidekick at all. I think the most we've ever said about the Sidekick is maybe like 100 words in 2 years. I've prepared speeches and presentations but they won't listen to them so what's the point? I've put my heart and soul into being able to get the Sidekick 3 and I feel like they are being extremely unfair by not evening TALKING about it, or even going to T-Mobile to talk to the workers about it. I've done everything I could to get this Sidekick and it gets me angry to think about how my friends get whatever they want when they sit around and do nothing, while I'm a 13 year old working to get money and writing 8 page essays and preparing speeches about the Sidekick and I still don't get it. It's been 2 years and they haven't even thought about letting me purchase it, even with MY own money. They won't even drive me to the nearest T-Mobile which is 5 minutes away from my house, and look at it with me and talk about it with the workers. My parents wouldn't even budge when I found a few cheaper ones on Ebay. Now I really need your advice in a situation like this because as you can tell I have REALLY close minded parents and I've worked my butt off to earn this Sidekick and they still won't get it. What could I POSSIBLY do that I haven't done to let them get me the Sidekick? (They know all the features and its purposes and all of the info. and prices.) Job? Done. Good grades? Done. Stay out of trouble? Done. Be nice to them? Done. Act mature and adult-ish about it? Done. I'm sorry this is so long but I really want this Sidekick and my birthday this year has already passed and I ONLY asked for the Sidekick, so I ended up with nothing for my birthday. And they KNOW I could pay for it myself, they just still won't budge. It's sooo frustrating. If you could give me advice for my situation and just help me out, I would really appreciate it. I will do almost anything for this Sidekick. =P Haha.
Thank you.
With all due respect,
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Parents are allowed to be jerks. Really, they are. They get to be total assholes sometimes and there is absolutely nothing their children can do about it.
Your parents don't sound terribly close minded to me. They sound decided. They have decided that their 13 year old is not going to have a sidekick, not that you don't deserve one, not that you haven't earned one, simply that you aren't going to get one. Deserving something doesn’t mean you get it. (Talk to the millions of starving children around the world who deserve a good meal.) Your parents probably think you are their amazing daughter who deserves the moon and more, but not a sidekick.
So they won’t listen to you? Here’s a trick: Listen to them. All your speeches are for not if you don’t address their concerns.
Frankly though, if it simply comes down to them having decided you will not get one, then you likely wont get one for a while yet. I certainly would not give my eleven year old daughter a sidekick, I don’t think I’d give my thirteen year old daughter a sidekick either no matter how much she begged or worked or how mature she was. I, like your parents, would be unmoved despite all your efforts and cling stubbornly to my belief that a sidekick would do more harm then good at this stage in my child’s life.
Do yourself a favor and find something else to obsess over. You probably are not going to win this one. If you want to make one more last ditch effort ask you parents why and then be quiet, don’t argue, just listen, even write down what they say so you know you’ve got it right, then work from that. But if they just say “Because we said no.” or something equivalent, then that is your answer and it aint going to change. Might as well accept it and move on. The wonderful thing about being a parent (or a teacher, or a boss) is you don’t always have to be right to get your way, sometimes you just get to pull rank.
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Eesh. Tell us this : did they, even if it was two years ago, ever tell you why they did not want you to have a Sidekick? Is it just the Sidekick or all cell phones? Are they worried about the contracts, the monthly fees, the idea of you hooking up with a Harley rider and getting pregnant (or getting her pregnant) at the age of 13? Are they worried about you getting spoiled and wanting televisions and DVD players and iPods and who knows what else? Do they think you're still too young to have something so expensive?
Here's what it sounds like to me as a parent. They've said no and that's it. There is no amount of talking or doing charts, graphs, or essays that's going to change their minds. They think they are justified in saying no and you can continue to obsess and fume about it or you can forget it, but they will not allow you to get a Sidekick and they don't even want to discuss it any more. You have your answer. It may not be reasonable and it may not be fair, but I'm sure your parents think they're doing the right thing.
I wish there were something you could do, but I think it's likely that you will just have to accept that you lost this one. You can get seven sidekicks if you want to the moment you turn 18 (though they may have softened up in the next 5 years). But I think for now it's time to put the issue to rest. Sorry. :(
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Strange indeed that even after all of that AND after you earned the money for yourself they refuse to let you buy it.
I'll get straight to the point though I didn't actually know what this Sidekick 3 was until I looked it up on Ebay (fact you mentioned T-mobile kind of made me realise though it must be a mobile phone - I'm with every netowrk except T-mobile so I've not heard about it). I think that everyone should have a mobile phone. More for the extra security. You never know when you may need it to call for help or call home and it's a way for your parents to always be able to reach you. It was the exact reason I had first got my mobile phone (on one-2-one, which was later changed to T-mobile). This might be something you can point out to them. It's a flashy phone but why not have security and look good with it at the same time. :]
I'm sorry it's not much but it's really all I can think of at the moment especially since you seem to have tried pretty much everything else.
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