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Mom and
This morning my mom was cranky and kept snapping at me to the point we had a a tiff. During the course of the fight she said; I know you ask questions about weight and other things on the computer, these people are not experts, I see what you do; (But she really does not see because I log out when she comes near my computer) And of course she and I went back and forth saying nasty things to one another. (But I like asking and getting advice on Advicenators and other websites like Advicenators and the advice makes me feel better.) SO MY QUESTION: If you were me (or even it happened to you) and someone criticizes the people that you get advice from online how would you handle it? I mean would you ignore, defend it or other (and tell me what the other is)
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Honestly, she's probably been thinking that for a while. During fights people tend to release things that they've bottled up.
And she's right, really. The majority of people on here are teenagers who don't know very much. I don't know of anyone on this website that's a doctor or psychologist.
I would just ignore it.
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I would listen to the concerns being voiced and hopefully, make a balanced judgment based on that, and how much help I felt I was getting from the websites. However, as an adult, like you, I would be the one to make the final decision. I would then explain that whilst I appreciated her concerns, I am mostly happy with the advice I have been given so far. I would also let her know that it is a form of coping mechanism, enabling you to deal more easily with life.
However, I do think you should keep in mind that your mother is going to know you better than we do, and she is possibly feeling a little hurt that you are making us your first port of call rather than her. Regardless of age, mothers will also want to be needed by their children, it's not something we can just turn off. Also, keep in mind that you do have a tendency to repeatedly ask the same question in a variety of ways, maybe this is at the bottom of your mothers crankiness today? She's worried about you, she's not getting any younger and she's probably feeling powerless about helping you at this stage.
I really think you need to talk calmly to her and explain to her what you have been doing and why. Then decide on a plan of action together to find you more help.
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I do agree with ammo and your mother. The people who answer your questions could be kids who don't even know what they're talking about, or kids who have been through it before but can help. Sometimes the advice is crap & doesn't help you, but it's not like that constantly.
If you want to ignore it, then do so. But, if you would like to defend it, then do that too. Defending it could start another argument though, so I would just ignore her comments. As long as you know that the advice your getting could potentionally help you, then that's all that matters.
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To a degree I do agree with your mom. You have to bare in mind with a lot of the advice given on here it's from people who are just trying to help using their own experiences. When it comes to dieting, medicine and related stuff, no-one on advice websites is qualified to give professional advice unless they are *profesionally qualified* to do so. When most people on here give advice they do so speaking from their own personal experience or from researching on the Internet (again the question then is how reliable was the source where the information was taken from). A lot of people give advicein the form of support, to make you feel better and happy with who you are - something which I personally think is a lovely thing because everyone can do with support and a lot of people on here have usually been through the same kind of thing so know what it's like to feel you're alone. It's why I usually give advice but also state (if it's something that I know I'm not qualified to diagnose or recommend a treatment for) they should see a specialist or a professional in that specific field. Everyones body will react in different ways to different things and something that works for me may not work well for someone else.
I think that is what your mom might be worried about. That you may listen to advice that you believe is professional when it's actually not and could cause you (your body) more harm than good. This is understandable from your moms perspective as well because obviously she doesn't want you hurting yourself or doing something people might be advising which will ultimately do more harm to your body than good. I don't think taking sides here is really the right option. Just explain to your mom that people have supported you when you felt down but that's as far as it goes when it comes to you taking advice. Anything more than that and you have a doctor to go to about it. She just needs to be made aware that you're careful - a concern any parent would have.
Also, why hide things from your mom, especially if all you are doing is giving advice to people. I see no reason why your mom shouldn't know you are trying to help people who are reaching out for some help or advice. It may even help your mom understand better what goes on here and how we are not experts (and from what I've seen nor pretend to be) but we do try support people who want it by using our own experiences in life, both good and bad, to show they they aren't alone. :]
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Let's see....... I would ignore it. As long as your getting quality advice that works and helps you out in your life then there is no reason to fuss about what other people say.
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