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Confused about 2 Guys?
Okay so I dated a guy for a year. We broke up went on a break for 5monthes. Because he wanted to go to the club and expierence stuff that he wouldnt normally be able to do with a girlfriend. Well I have been with this other guy for 2monthes an everything has been perfect like we are best friends not dating or anything. But I do think he is special because he is the first guy I can actually hangout with an he is the only person I give the chance to hangout with me since my bf of one year and I went on our BREAK. But its not like LOVE like what me an the guy of one year had. So I dont know what to do. Should I give him another chance? I kinda think that if I give him another chance than I dont him going to the club. I am 17 he is 19. So I cannot go until next year to the club. So yeah he said every once in a while he will wanna go. And thats exactly why we brokeup in the first place. So any advice?
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I think you should wait until you turn 18 to get back together with him. Let him experience club life, and you can experience other people. Then, when you turn 18, you guys can go to clubs together & possibly become closer in the relationship.
But honey, no girl likes their boyfriend going to clubs for the sake of other women dancing with him, but you've just gotta trust him. And if you can't do that, then you don't really have a relationship anyways.
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Whether or not you want to get back with him or persue something more woth this other guy you hang out with is really your call but I will say the whole idea of a break is a load of rubbish.
A 'break' to me means taking a little time away from each other but STILL being in a relationship. To this guy (and many others it appears) a break seems nothing more than a way to be able say I can't control myself when I'm out surrounded by girls so I want a *break* to be able to go do whatever I want then when I'm done I want to come back to you with a clear conscience and carry on with our relationship because technically I didn't cheat, we were on a break. What a load of rubbish!
I see no reason, if he is out doing what he wants to, that you can't do the same. If you feel you and this other guy you hang out with have made a connection then I don't think you should let anything stop you from persuing it, if that's what you want to do. I was in the exact same position as you before too (only with me my gf wasn't too young to go clubbing - she was too far from where I lived). I still went clubbing and I enjoyed myself even though I did have a gf. Obviously there was things I couldn't do (jump all over girls and such) because I had a gf but that's not something I do anyway so I wasn't missing out on anything. I don't see why you have to be on a break/single to enjoy a club unless you are going there specifically to pull girls and be able to do it without feeling bad about it.
Ultimately though it really is up to you as to what you wish to do. I will say good luck either way though. :]
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