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so called friends
Well, this may be somewhat long..
On Tuesday, my friend Megan and I have had plans for about a week to go shopping. I asked her seventh hour to call and make sure with her mom, and she said that she did and that her mom said she was grounded. I said, okay, that's fine.
Now, when the bell rings to go home from school, I see her, samantha, and heather trying to rush out before I saw them leave with her...didn't work. I was walking with my sister, and she saw it and she calls her name then asks her what happened to her and my plans, and megan just looks at her and said something better came up.
So, I was ditched for the first time and it hurt like hell.
So the next day, she comes into school so bright and cheery to me, and I just didn't talk to her at all...and I felt very bad about this all week because I didn't talk to her.
Well, after I got ditched, I went to one of my teachers and I told her and I was bawling when I told her...and she looked at me and said...now something like this with those girls happens to you every year, and you make up with them, and you apologize for nothing, and when you all make up, you put yourself in the same predicament to get hurt over and over again. Now, these girls are not your friends if they keep doing this to you and it seems as if they don't deserve your friendship because you don't deserve to be treated like that. I agreed, and even it was something what I wanted to hear, but not someting I wanted to hear. And another friend told me this too. So, right now I'm hanging out with Meredith..the girl that has always been there for me, but I never took advantage of the friendship I had with her.
And another thing that pissed me off kind of was that the fact that this girl samantha is a liar. She came to school Monday with little tiny nail marks on her neck that were barely visible and like you would give to yourself. So she tells heather and megan that her grandma chocked her so she can stay a few nights over heather's house. Now, what pissed me off was about three months ago, my parents kicked me out of my house for two weeks, and I stayed two nights in the car, and when I asked heather for a place to stay, she said she'd ask her mom and she came back the next day and she said that her mom said no..which I didn't believe, so I called and explained to her mom what was going on and she ended up saying that heather said nothing to her and that I am welcome to stay as long as I needed..and I told her not to bother because heather doesn't seem to want me over there, so Meredith saw that I was wearing the same clothes for three days in a row, and she gave me a place to stay.
And since I haven't really talked to them at all this week, on Friday a few people came up to me and said that they were talking about me saying that I'm a bitch and that I'm fat and hope the diet pills kills me. This hurt me too because first of all, I'm not on diet pills, and second, since Tuesday happened, I've not been immature and talked shit about them.
So, just after this week and all what happened, I've not said anything to them, even though it feels as if I'm guilty and I was to apologize for what I did, which I don't know what I did.
I just don't know what I did to deserve this at all. And I feel like I'm guilty about it, but I don't want to be used by them again just to get hurt again.
How do I get rid of this guilt?
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First of all dont feel bad its not your fault you did nothing wrong.Dont be friends with the others girls becasue their just trouble with a capital T.So heres what i do............... go to school and be nice to them just by like saying hi and stuff and act like theres nothing wrong because then they'll stop bugging you because they can tell thats it not affecting you at all.Try not to become friends with these girls again because they will keep on doing this to you again and again.So just hang out with the friend you got and be proud that your not in all the drama!!!
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Pandabumm :}
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I double what imxkathleenx3 said. You have absolutely nothing to say sorry about. By ditching them all you have gotten rid of people who really ain't your friends. The same thing happen to me a while back too. I trusted one of my friends so much and then later found out not only did he break that trust but he took it further by telling everyone stuff I told him in confidence (was very personal stuff) and making me look like a total asshole infront of all my friends and making himself look like an innocent angel. This pissed me off because I hate people who stoop to being so low but instead of physically lashing out I just stopped tlaking to him completely and ignored him. People like these are not friends and don't even know the meaning of what a friend is. Their people you can do without. I can't believe that you was homeless and she did nothing! The last time a friend of a friend was homeless (I didn't even know her - still don't - I can't even remember her name) I took her to get some food because she hadn't eaten in days, gave her some money for more food and put her up in a hotel for the night. It pisses me off when all your friends say they will be there for you but when you really need them they are no where in sight! It's times like those that you see who your real friends are.
Ignore what eveyone says, if they want to be immature and ignorant that's their own failing. From what I have seen you are better than they are and they don't deserve your friendship anyway. You have a good friend there in Meredith, and she in you. :]
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Hey. Well, it seems that these girls are flat out losers. And they're really fake. Don't appolagize, you did nothing. They obviously have some sort of issue with you that they don't have the guts to actually tell you. Most girls are like this, and unfortunately won't change. I know you feel guilty, but think: What did YOU do to deserve them not being real friends. And for a 'friend' to leave you on the streets when you get kicked out of your home is the most sickening thing I've heard all day. The way I see it, Fuck them. It's really their loss, not yours. Just forget about them, and stick with Merideth [sp?] becuase those other shitheads aren't worth your time. Just forget them, they're worth nothing.
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